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We learn from our past, they say. I've been through an abusive relationship. That often blurs the lines that define my space even today.

To know this helps me not to repeat my past mistakes but the lesson has come with a price.

I have anxiety almost everyday during conversations with friends when simple questions like “where are you right now?”, “did you end up meeting that old friend on the weekend?” end up worrying me.

yes, even though they didn't say beforehand I know that they are controlling my life why, because they always want to be followed, they didn't only guide but they say what they wanted to happen and your a good daughter and a son. then you will never say No to them because you love them. That's how unfair  LIFE is.

I think you need to seek therapy for this but if you don't have the money to see a psychiatrist, Group therapy is also a wonderful idea, sharing your problems with the group will help you to get over it .

Nope. I have never felt anything like that. I am enjoying my life like I want, and no one is controlling me. Whatever the consequences I am facing are a direct result of my own actions and therefore I don't have any regret. Sometimes I take advice from my friends and relatives. But that doesn't mean that they are controlling me. I am the sole person who is controlling my life.

     Well, I think I am lucky to not experience that abusive relationship even if I have a multiple failed relationship I can still enjoying my own life. People around me can advise me what to do, what is wrong for me, and what is right for me to do but still the decisions is in ourselves and no one can control us.

Agree its our parents and for me not just them its my God aswell but He do not control the way we pick our path it is we who will let walk through the path we pick. Why its because God give us our own mind and not to forget our parents who will guide me and you as we grow.

Not at times, but often feel that his life is controlled by others. When you work for salaries, that is inevitable. You are subject to strict regulations where you work. Only with bitcoin you will not be controlled but will be mastered and become rich.

I try as much as i can to control my own life that i dont leave to anyone to decide for me because i want the consequences of my own action be blamed on me, me alone and nobody else so i control my own life. People might have some influence on me at some point like my parents, siblings, boss, colleagues and the guy who i bust into conservation with at the soccer stadium but they dont control me.

I never experienced it. my principle, this is my life, this is my nature, this is my body. cuman me who knows where I want to go. indeed many in this world are controlled by others, but first seen the intent and purpose of the person. whether for good or evil. life is difficult, but first look at the meaning of the person who controls us.like a boss controlling you in a company, surely it's for a better job, and for the betterment of the company. but if someone else controls you by passing the limit, then you should leave. remember this is your life, you who have to decide it is not someone else who determines you. indeed the reality is difficult, but all must be full of struggle

yes i felt someone was controlling my life.My family tried to check me before college.My boss tried to check on me after I got into the job.my wife tried to control me when I got married.Everyone is trying to control the other person.İt is important that we do not accept this.

Sometimes I feel my mom wants to control my life and I always revolt. She doesn't seem to understand that I'm not a child anymore so we end up having a lot of misunderstanding. I think all of us should learn that no one is on earth for us to always do our biddings. Life and love should be by freewill not compulsion.

No . Because no one is allowed to control anybody's life . It's her/his life .

Yes, first when i didnt realize that she already controlling me becausw i love him, i do all things she want and avoid the things she didnt want but when i finally realize that its too hard living this way, i choose to leave.

It seems to me that many parents do not understand that children are already adults and should independently manage their lives, because I also have the same situation.

No. I tend to br quite sensitive to thing like that and before it even goes to that point, i do something about it. When you're in a relationship, for it to be healthy, we shouldn't be afraid to talk about these things to our partner. Talk to them about how you feel and vice versa

Yes I already feel it and I still feel it now a days. Specially in my work, every time my boss ask me to do something even if it is not part of my job responsibility. I do not have a choice because he is my boss. Every time he do it I feel that he controls me and all of us in work.

Yes, it's my bad habits, negative thinking, fear, feeling down, these are the people have controlled my life, but now I left these guys out of my life.

I never feel that way. I always feel that I am the one who taking control of my own life. I do not want anyone or anything control my life, except God. I used to work and hate my boss just like you. Hahaha, back then my boss was so cruel to me. She always look at me and monitor my job all the time. Even though I already done all my job, she always find a way to give me more job even though that is not my job desk.

So basically, we have the same position and situtation. But I think that just the way it is to an employed people. So I decided to resign and focus on my online job, and Bitcoin. Not all company is like that, of course. There are company that will be fun and you will be happy to work with.

yes i felt and its really good for life cause freedom makes people more responsible if you have someone who has capacity to control you that good for future ...

Yes, I experienced that before when I have a girlfriend She wanted to control my life, where I need to follow all what she want to me to do.
But after a months of doing that to me, I'll ended it because I realized that we have our owned free will decision. And she nothing to do with me, neither God gave that free will to each everyone of us.

Always. I think that it might come as a gorm of a parent. Or a higher authority that would be interfering woth your life's decisions. But O think to some extent they control us because we let them and its paramount that we know when to take the steering wheel from them.

Sometimes control is really useful for a person to learn to be more responsible. Although it still depends on the nature of the person, some simply do not notice when they are controlled.

Yes i understand these sometimes when you ve been a really bad situation and you ve been abused really bad in that relationship you end up getting frightened even by human contact

Controlling useful for limiting what we do out there so its goods its important 

I hate when I'm controlled. Even if very close people do it. It makes me angry and I become a secretive person. No one has the right to interfere in a person's private life. And it does not matter for what purposes

I did had that thought really strong after I watched the Matrix! It really got to me and I literally had to go look outside my window to actually see if someone was out there watching me. But really, spiritually, God is watching us and has control over our lives too. So, it is good to have that consciousness that God is watching me but not overruling that there might be others watching with a contrary motive.

Yes many times. At home and at work. My aubt always controlling me,dictating me what to do. I cant even have my own decision and own action she is always controlling me. . While ar work I always feel that I'm a robot controlled by my boss. Do that do this call that call this report that report this etc. Feel so exhausted already

Yes,  I feel like I have been controlled by someone ot something . I feel like I was brainwashed.  I don't even know what I really wanted. Social media and religion seems to control my life like whatever I feel was right was dependent to what I hear and read from social media television  and churches.

I have never felt anything like that. I am enjoying my life like I want, and no one is controlling me.
I think that such people should be treated seriously and that no one has the right to be so obsessed with someone.

Yes.  The social media was now controlling my life.  My needs were controlling me. I don't know whether I'm doing what i want or i am just doing things because i need to.  That not everything i do were those things that brings me happiness.  It was hard but i can't have a life without being controlled by my needs

I think there's no one controlling my life. Even if we're in a relationship, we don't need to depend ourselves on the person right beside us because this is our life and no one can control but you. This is my life so I'm the only on eto manage it. Maybe yes our family made a decision for us but not always. We're matured enough to think and decide for our self. We couldn't give our life to the person who control us. From the start we owe our life so we end up controlling ourself and not controlling by others.

yes, I have. I can solve my problem. I share the problems to someone who want to hear me and surely believable. If I were in that position, I can not be alone, I should find friends. I think it needs for you to find a friends who are believable and want to hear your problems. You could not fix your problems unless you share it to one else.

Yes, I experienced it once in my life. I felt that someone is controlling my life since I gave him the permission. I didn't notice that that person isn't giving me any freedom to do what I am supposed to do. That was my worse relationship so far.

Fortunately not for me. Though i can imagine how traumatic this can be for some. If it's not doing you any good, get away from it or don't be afraid to ask for help.

I had experienced being abused and having no control over My own personal life. And this happened to Me when I was still a kid. I have never grown up as a person who has free will, I only have to follow what My parents desired and have no rights to complain. I was so traumatized that even today, I don't like to be questioned anything about what I should and should not do.

Everyday I have such a feeling... duty taxes and restrictions from government... crowds opinion try to influence on me, when I wear my favorite yellow socks, for example

I never had that kind of experience. As an adult it is our right to make our own choices.A partner doesn't have a right to be a hindrance onbthe things that you want to do.She/he can tell you if you are doibg things the wrong way or it ehat you were doing can lead to trouble.That is the only a partner can sto byou but at the end of the day all the decisions will be yours and you dob't need to explain yourself all the time.

Yes have my husband always told i cant do that i cant wear that i need to choose who is my friend....like what happened to me and my best friend i trust my best friend to manage my business but she cheat me so my husband so angry the he told i need to cut my communication to my best friend or ekse he will leave me... So no more argue i need to follow my husband...

Oh yes. Government is constantly controlling my life. I want to break free, but I cannot! As for people around me I never let them doing it!

YES, have you been in a situation where you cant do anything but to rely your life to your relatives? because you have no money or anything ?
been there and its not good , all my movements are with their eyes on me. i cant do the thing i wanna do, if  i need to make something i need to tell it to them first and need to be approve. so sad!

sometimes my boyfriend i felk like hes controlling me because whenever we go he choose what he likes to wear me but i think it just that he protected on me.

Maybe because they expected you to become someone they wished to be, maybe they thought you would be like they thought you are,that's why they keep on asking you that..it's ok don't be alarm and don't bothered too much of what they say or expect just be yourself and if you think you're doin ok and good in your own then be happy don't let them define what you are and who you are..you are what you are because you're unique and you have a purpose which they know not.

Try seeing a therapist or Doctor for you to address the issue. Maybe you are in a traumatic suffering or in a depression and that's alarming. I know what you've been through isn't that easy to overcome but you have to help yourself and seek out assistance to other people so that you will go back to normal.

Yes, I felt it too bad and too hard to be controlled by someone, during early years of our life our parents ought to control us, they discipline us in the way they know ought to be and what they know is right. at certain time and its difficult and we don't want it.. but when they control us when we are old enough that is something...it's either there is something wrong in them or in us. in view of these let's look on the brighter side of life and so not become even more miserable than we think we are..just count it as a challenge for you to overcome and blessing to look forward to.

I have a same feeling when i have a relationship before, i feel like my neck is tying with a rope, i cant freely move because there's always saying to me, dont do that,dont do this. Everything you do you will always ask your partner first if he dont want, you need too do what he was saying. Ahmm it feels like grrr. i cant do anything what i want. So the relationship end up NOTHING and goes to break up.

I felt it too, and its really not a happy experience because you can't do what you want to do, you cant go anywhere you want to go, and seem you cant do anything right to them. They always blame you, observe you and nag you, whenever you did something wrong.

Yes. My trials and needs and responsibilities controls my life. I fail to enjoy my days because i have to work just to fulfil all our needs. it is a hindrance in my happiness.

i never had a feeling that someone is controlling my life,at my age i can do want i want with the supervision of my parents but that does'nt mean that they controlling me what i wanted to do.

I had a feeling that mass media and social media were controlling my life. So I stopped watching tv and don't use social networks anymore. And started using my own brains.

Russian isn't allowed here mate, it's an english session.

Actually i do, i feel really weird . Specially in gambling, sometime the score is really close to the handicap and it makes me lose everything. :(

I grew up with my mom and she was always controling me.. Even now when I live with my husband.. But what can I do? It's my mom.

No ! I don't have abusive relationshop  ! Even if I have that abusive relationship, I will cut that relationship because I do not need to maintain that relationship.

you have to distance yourself from your mother for yourself and your future so that it doesn't harm your life, and you could learn and enjoy yourself this life as you see fit...it's wrong education in my opinion, after which people grow up with a bunch complexes and can't be happy themselves and make others happy

I agree with this one bub. You really need to see someone if it really does affect your relationships or in your everyday life. My advise? Anchor yourself. Of you ever feel these kinds of anxiety, tell yourself that you're in control. That whatever decision you have is your own and not any one else's. Talking it out is actually be good for you too. Have some one to confide in and talk it out

Me, i don't let anyone control my life. Because it is my life and noone have the right control it for their own benefit. If someone control you, it is like bullying. Seek for help if someone wants to control you.

It is only those who are unwilling to take responsibility for their own actions who claim that there is an external force or person that is controlling their lives and even when someone is controlling your life, you have to break free from that control.

Anxiety is a bad one to fight with. 90% of the reason it's because you are surrounded by dickheads. Do not stick with whoever makes you uncomfortable, and seek for professional help because it's the best way to get out of it, don't feel ashamed.

yes, I always feel that someone controls my life, not someone but God.
I feel that every step of my life is governed by the will of God, sometimes what I desire does not always match my expectations but it is better than my desire, and it is the will of God, He controls my life very well, and I am very grateful for all His gifts.

I feel you bro, i remember that time like you dont own your own life you can't do what you want. Cant drink alcohol, hang out with friends, buy what you want and what you need. Feels like your a prisoner at your own life, time always limited. You just spend your time sitting at the couch waiting for the sun to go down etc. Etc. So sad bro!

Often times when things are not going ones way it does feel like something else is controlling it. But what you're talking about seems to be mental due to a past relationship. Snap out of it, think of it logically.

Most of the time. I think it's expected if you are still living with your parents. I got used to it a little.

Not at times but often feel because in life there is high authority who control the stages of human existence. Life is in phase ,when someone can our life we too control others life ;for example our government controlled the existence of our country meanwhile we too controlled others one way or the order.

Ever since the world begun. hahaha. Seriously, ever since i grew up. When i was kid, i can literally understand why they have to interfere with my life. But until now, I'm 25, I still depends of what they will tell me what to do with my life. I cannot make any decisions on my own because they will say  whatever they want especially if they dont like what I did. It sucks so much. :(

Never had, never experienced. Only God Controls my life even sometimes I disobeyed God's command, dealings and plans for me.

The sentiment is little said. We are constantly controlled by the technologies we use. Whether it's phone, computer or even TV, the idea is that we're constantly being monitored and controlled

We are so desperately seeking endorsement that we live unhappy, stripped down lives,
 denying our own individuality and not doing what we really want because we are experiencing what others think.

Yes i experience that too but its not that a boyfriend or a friend controls me but my father. He is so much creepy in times that he get drunk. I am so nervous when he get drunk because he always get anger with me and with my grandma. But now he change and im happy for him :) .

Yes, before when I was in high school, my friends told me that I am so dumb and not listening to them that they've already see my ex having an affair with someone else and I don't believe in them instead I believe him because I am too deaf of loving him BEFORE. Luckily that I've already broke to him and it was already I think 10 years ago, I met someone who really love me the way I am and protecting me to those who hurts me.  ;)

Media controls our mentality using the method of agenda-setting

Sometimes, the emotional manipulation is complex enough that the person who is being controlled actually believes that they themselves are the villain, or that they are extremely lucky that their controlling partner "puts up" with them.

Parents always give the best to their children but sometimes excessive attention is not good for us. :-X :-X

Yes, I feel it once in my past relationship.
Where in there's always a limitation for every things I do, that I can't do that/this or I can't go with him/them.

I felt it like a couple of times now. Whenever I asked opinions from the others about a certain problem I am facing. I am the kind of person who would love to ask others about something. If I am unsure about things I usually ask other's opinion on what to do or how to do this or did I decide right on something. But I am quite sure that all the opinions I hear are all up to me to follow. But, sometimes, others would tell that if I don't follow what they say, they would blame me and whenever I feel that way, it seems like they somehow are controlling me. I always felt that feeling even with my parents. Of course they are "parents" and in our country it is not easy to be away from them like, you have to tell them where you are or who are you with especially if you are a girl. It seems like they have to know anything about your day. Well, all of us somehow experience that, like there'll be no part of your life that you won't experience it even for just a little of course with different situations. And I think it is always up to us weather we let them control us or we won't.

Taking control of your life requires working through multiple challenges, including your own perceptions, building self-confidence as well as taking an action.

Think about the person you want to be and what character traits, ways of thinking, behavior patterns, and life you would have as that person.

I think not, but sometimes had the feeling that what is happening now, has happened before. A sense of that I already had lived under this moment. :-\

not really. Because a person's social taste is different, when they are worried they are a bit of a hassle to make sure we're okay, and that's not controlling us. , I just feel annoyed if there are unnecessary new regulations, controlling in activities.

There is nothing that controls me as I am the only controller of my life.

For me nothing controls my life even I feel I'm alone😊 because I know God Is my driver in my life💓

The technology and the gadgets are controlling my life and I’m addicted to it.

I have been in control of everything in my life. Parents always force me to do what they want. I am really very sad and depressed my life. I do not live for my own life, my dreams are tightened by my parents.
But I got up and did what I liked. I did not follow the path my parents set for me, I lived and performed my passion.

A lot of times I think that my boss is the one controlling my life and it upsets me.

I never feel that someone controlling me.i can only control myself.my parents never control me.they are happy for what i am doing.and im going through in my life.i am the controller of myself not others

My life is controlled by my mother and I sometimes hate it too much.

Yes, i believe that someone is controlling my life and i let Him control my life wholeheartedly. I believe God puts a hand on my life and we should let Him. That is the relationship God wants us to have with Him. A relationship where we trust Him completely, especially when we are given free will to choose. I know in my heart that if i choose Him and surrender my life and let my decisions revolve around Him then i know my life will be better for me and my family and my future families.

maybe it's for your good. no parents want to mislead their child. sometimes you think right but in their eyes wrong. you just need to give them understanding and talk with them, so they will understand what you want in your life.

I don't have someone that is controlling my life but it is rather my past than a person. With what happened in my past, it kind of pre-determined where I will be going in the future. But I know that I don't have to let it control my future. It's just that the consequences are inevitable.

Getting rid of technology addiction is in your hands. The technology and the gadgets are not talented enough to controll your life alone. You must have given permission them to controll your life. You should receive professional help.

The internet and the phones are the ones controlling my life.

I think my mother controls my life and she has been doing it. But I love it.

Unfortunately my mother also has too much control over my life. The worst is that I am indoctrinated to always try to please her. I've moved 7 hours away, but get depressed the moment I've spoken with her. I am never good enough.

Yes, a lot of times, I think my boss is the one controlling my life.

I wish she would control my life a little more. I mean, she controls my life somewhat. And, she lets me control her life somewhat. How long will it take her to decide to allow me to be together with her in great detail, so that we control each others' freedom... and even slavery? Or is it my doing that limits her from being in control of my life more?

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Oh yes, that happens a lot of times and I feel I have no control on myself.

My mom and sister are my sole life controller, even i drink water i had to give reason to that sissy witch -_-

The technology is the one controlling my life these days.

My life is controlled by two things, one FOOD, and second FOOTBALL. they are my everything

It wasn't a feeling. The person was actually controlling my life, and my life was like hell. I didn't have the freedom to do the things I wanted to do, I was even afraid to make friends. But thanks to my stars, that individual left my life for good.

No, if you do think you should see the doctor because it’s paranoia

Yes I been experienced that but not in a relationship but with one of my aunt. She doesn't want me to experience the thing that she didn't experience during her past life. He treated me more than a woman cause I am not allowed to come outside more done the time that she set. Even my study, relationship, and to my family. I experienced also verbal abuse aside from controlling my freedom. It's a kind of a thorn at my neck that when ever you have little attempt to remove such thing will become more harder for me to free.

My 2 years old controls my life like no one else could ever had.

My wife! I think that answers it all and also explains well the reason. :P

The new shows that come out every time controls my life completely.

That's because there is a difference in loving someone and trusting someone. You learn these kind of things during 'certain' relationships. So when you are in one like that, you cannot trust the other and you will feel like being controlled by that person. It is best to get rid of that person as fast as you can, you will feel a breath of freedom come over you.

I know the feeling. There years ago I was in your place.i was acting the way other expected me too. Than I snapped and realized that I have many so called friends. That didn't even remember I was there with them a day. On that day ago I decided I would be the person I was and was prepared too lose all friends, but it never came to that. I became happyer and was more rememberable. I started to go to the gym and that affected my confidence positively.

I've never been to any abusive or possessive relationship and I'm glad that I haven't experienced. Though it is sad to know that there are people that has to deal with it.

I experience that feeling already,I can't do what I want.All I am doing is wrong for them and they like that I will do what they said and it hurts so much that feeling.That is the cause why people revenge sometimes.

Yea i always feel so that my wife is controlling my life all the time anywhere and everywhere i go. :(

At a point in time you are controlled by people around you. While you are small you parents control you. When you enter into big society you are controlled by senior citizens. Even when you get married you are controlled by your spouse

Nope. i am the ruler of my own life no one can ever ever control me anytime

No, I don’t think anyone can control my life since I am a very strong.

My father is a control freak and he controls my life even after I turned 26.

I guess my mother has controlled my life for a very long time but now she doesn’t.

There is no one controlling my life and I don’t see it happening also for some reason.

I guess, the mobile phones are the one controlling everyone’s life.

I must say I am also quite allergic to anyone trying to control my life and manipulate me into doing things I don't want. But unlike you I don't get anxiety  when this occasionally happens, I just get angry and I react.

Nah. No one controls my life as I am a control freak and I control everyone.

Actually all the committed guy's life is controlled by someone else but not the life of any single guy is such :)

Yes, a lot of times. I think my brother for some reason controls my life.

actually, i've one
it was several years ago when i was driving home and was accidentally stopped by a police / they tried to arrest me. i do not do anything! guys! any thing
that moment i realized that we are all controlled by the government and the police forces, no way we are free

I know that the followers of the guidestone attempted it. they are vicious. death to them all, and their offsprings.

The question is not something to control your feeling but a question that will leads you to a bigger realization in life. Many people are very busy of doing anything, and sometimes love to do a nonsense things and they don't no the purpose or the very reason why they are doon that. And that specific question is fit for such person to awake him/her from sleeping. This question is a help to set someone free from unconsciousness.

This is pure rubbish. Our fate is on our own hands... Actually, there is nothing called "fate"... Your future well-being depends on your deeds.. and you will face the consequences of your actions, irrespective of the fact whether they are good or bad. So I disagree with the argument that someone controls our life. Our life is under our control.

i experienced that someone controlling me in my past,i cant do anything i want it feels like im a prison and a martyr one.my delconfidence before was gone.but when i realized all and feel pity to my self i stand with my own and become strong,now noone can control me i will fight for my right.

I have experienced this several times.It is like you are in a prison where someone is just controlling you like a child .It is so boring that sometimes you feel like crying. It is very uncomfortable experience. But this normally happens when someone has helped you before and the person want you to provide some service to them by so doing the person try to control your life.

It feels like you are in prison when someone controlling  your life,it is like a puppet you can move if they want you ro move,but its normal when you still a teen ager in prior of your parents,

I had this unpleasant feeling since I was a child. Parents at home are controlling your life. Teachers at school are controlling your activity. Control attempts was almost everywhere. Even on the street more mature and stronger kids try to control you in some aggressive way. So I'm glad that I became an adult and much more free. So you need to be strong and smart to not allow other people to control your life.

Everyone of us had undergo of being controlled by somebody specially when we are a child because a child need a parental guidance. But when adolescent come and you are mature enough to stand in your own feet then I'm pretty sure that you will not allow that somebody will control yourself.

All of us have ghost haunting us from the past --- and that includes the feeling that someone is controlling your life. Personally, I have already felt that someone's taking the ride of my own. They have been crossing beyond the lines to the point that thry are dictating what you should do and what you should not. Where to go and where to not. And whom you are going to be ang whom you are going to be not. And I believe that the ones controlling our lives is the society. Well, technically, we are controlled by the government because that is the nature of the institution, to maintain social control. However, the great factor in control is what we think the society thinks of us. We are always conforming to what is traditional and we are bounded by fear to do something what we really want. We are doing things for the sake of what the society dictates us to do.

On the surface it looks like I am controlling my life, but there are a lot of layers to that.

After you become an adult, you can for all practical purposes, do what you want to do, go where you want to go, and there is usually a great exhilaration about this.  But probably 75% of one's so called destiny will be determined by back ground, family, education, society,  culture, and most of all, one's beliefs at a deep level.

I was the black sheep of my family so I like to believe I broke away from so many limiting beliefs my family had.  I got out as soon as possible, 17, and went to college, had a career and traveled the world. And I did have a much different life than my family.
But...As they say, "No matter where you go, there you are."

How controlled am I by my beliefs, which in turn get projected on to other people,? So it may seem sometimes,  that other people do have control over my life and the quality of my life.  For example bosses, relationships, friends, etc.  What we truly believe at a core level seems to follow us around and mysteriously create our day to day world.

And then, one day, just out of fun, you might think...who is controlling the government and who is controlling the world?  And how does that relate to our beliefs?

We are definitely controlled by many things, which sometimes may be people we know, or society in general. But our biggest opportunity to change our world comes from  our own thoughts and beliefs.  Traveling helps a lot, and seeing how other cultures, live, think and view things,  is the best education in the world. I like realizing that this life is much more fluid than we think it is. It can go in any direction we want, if we put our mind to it.

Thanks for this great topic.

Unlike most people I feel it's a privilege that can be presented to someone you love but not at the expense of feeling exploited,controlled or bogged down. There is general trend in human behaviour initially they long for proximity, then as relationship grows they start carving for space as they think they are being controlled by the other person in their mind. Few people may like to ask their loved ones for all the choices they choose it may be just part of their habit of sharing. However to see as oneself as a victim or to label the one who helps you in choosing what migh be good or bad as control freak is absurd. When we allow someone to do control us we could either trust them for life or accept that we are incapable of deciding for ourselves or it's our own choice. It's who we choose, it's who we decide.

I do. Even though not purposely controlling me but by simply allowing the person to be in my life creates boundaries in my life. Even with out the person knowing it, the result being him in my life is causing me to be limited, bound and that is only coming from my own thought and not really from the person. 

Luckily I don't have the feeling that someone is controlling my life. I know a lot of people who are controlled by their past, sad and fearful memories from their past. But even if I had some hard moments in my life (and I know that everyone had hard times), God helped me overcome them and continue living a new and free life :)

Growing up in a broken family makes me more independent to others. I learned to do everything on my own. Maybe that's the reason why I won't let anyone control my life, my decisions. I know I'm not good in making decision in a short time but if I were given enough time to think, I can have the best decisions of my life. Also as an achiever in my academic endeavor, my family has a lot of trust on me that I would choose wisely in every decision that I will make. They are certain that I would think for the good of my own and for them. That's why I never had the feeling of someone is controlling my life. I wasn't living like it is the last day of my life but because I do my decisions with right sense of responsibility.

Yes! Like falling crazily in love with a girl. You would do anything just to please her. I once fell in love with a girl and I had to change my style of dressing just to suit her likes. I had to like the things she liked even if I used to have no interest in such things. It felt like my life is being controlled by a lady. Love can be a poison sometimes

Guys, ladies are far less evil. When I enter a supermarket I faint of all these prices  :'( :'( :'(
This greedy system totally controls my life >:(

I always have this self-realization that I may not have any control over what happens in my life but i always have complete control over the choices i make. I always have a choice. My future is always in question and my life is at constant peril of spiraling out of control. This is why I must find ways to take responsibility, grow wiser, and orient myself to this activity called life. If you're friends are asking your whereabouts it's because they care for you. It's not that they want to take control over your life. If someone is making his/her move to make you feel better, try to be a little bit cynical and weigh things out so that you can tell if that person is sincere with his/her intention. If you can sense that s/he is, open up, break some walls and create some bridges that'll connect the both of you. You should stop worrying with their simple questions. Calm down and be strong for yourself. Yes, easier said than done, but it doesn't mean that it's impossible.

I have been very luckily to not experience this. I think I may have come close in the past though. I am more of the kind of person that could be interpreted as controlling. I like to have completely open relationships. This means that I tell my partner everything. In turn, I expect the same from my partner. I don't actually want to control what my partner does, but I'd like to know what she does. I think it can be a fine line between this approach and being controlling. I hope you can get over that feeling soon!

I've had a relationship like that. When love blinds my eyes and mind at that time, everything I will do must be known and must be through the agreement of my partner at that time. I think I can only follow all orders from him under the pretext of love. But apparently that is something very wrong. :D

At least you no longer together. I know it hurts when you think of your past, but it will not be forever. Your past makes you stronger than ever. It is hard to ease the pain. Just pray to God to help you release the pain you are suffering right now.

No. I never had such weird feelings.

I'm happy because all you want to do you do not prohibit stalking you

Yup. Pretty much the whole school and college time. Greate i`m working now and... Waaaaaite a minute...

Never and never want to

Once, when I was deeply in love but the person I loved didn't feel the same towards me.

yes i felt this way, like i am destiny's puppet.

You have such a lighthearted attitude about it. If it is a mutual agreement, then I think it can be fine. If you feel like you want him to always know what you're doing and you're happy doing that, then I don't think there's anything wrong with that. The problem is when you have no freedom. If your boyfriend is always asking you what your doing as if he's suspicious of you, that is not good. If you have to ask permission and your boyfriend forbids you from doing things, that's not a healthy relationship. The important thing is that you feel comfortable and happy.