Title: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: Adbitco on September 18, 2022, 12:37:49 PM https://i.ibb.co/h9LLwdL/Screenshot-20220918-132405.png (https://ibb.co/tKQQF2Q) She sacrificed love and he came back and married five more wives... Yoruba love. When World War II broke out David Oguntoye hid in a ship and travelled to Britain to volunteer for the Royal Air Force. He arrived in Britain in June 1942,and was selected to train as a navigator in Canada for four years. Unfortunately the time he was returning to Britain in 1946, the war had already ended, which meant couldn't be deployed on the battlefield. Instead he was posted to Bicester Oxford as a welfare officer for the Caribbean airmen stationed there. In June of the same year a young beautiful white lady called Dulcie King , also serving in the Royal Air Force , was posted to the same station to serve as an education instructor. The two fell in love and began courting something that shocked the military. Interracial marriages were really resented in Britain, and to make it worse this was happening in the military. Her commanding officer summoned her and warned her about going out with a Black person. Most of the officers disliked the fact that Dulcie had chosen a black boyfriend. Furthemore it was Ministry of Defence's policy that interracial relationships should nor be allowed to thrive in the military. They even transferred her to another station in an attempt to break the relationship, but the love was too strong. On one occasion a group of airmen tried to attack David, but Dulcie intervened to protect him. The couple who were now both holding the rank of Flight Sergeant, continued to be seen together, and in October 1946 they attended a dance at Royal Air Force Bicester. To rub salt in the wound , for the first time they decided to hold each other in public as other airmen watched. “He sat on the arm of my chair with his arm ostentatiously around me. This, of course, was something we never normally did in public, but we intended to demonstrate unmistakably our relationship,” Dulcie recalled. One month later the two decided to leave the Royal Air Force and got married immediately on 16 November 1946 despite the opposition from her parents. They both trained as lawyers in London before leaving for Nigeria in 1954 where they settled permanently. Because he was considered a chief by his tribe Flight Sergeant David went on to marry five other wives , however, this did not in anyway affect their relationship. She was contented with being the first wife. They went on to start a law firm together and in 1960, she denounced her British citizenship. In 1964, David Oguntoye was selected as a Court President while Dulcie Oguntoye became first a Magistrate and, in 1976, a High Court Judge. She was the first woman on the Lagos State bench and the second female judge in Nigeria after Modupe Omo-Eboh. When David died in June 1997, she took charge as a ‘benevolent matriarch’ to her late husband’s family until her death in 2018. Source link (https://www.facebook.com/100069295776264/posts/pfbid0Ag8zwS9bsdGuyzXyenBWUt8TJLAq56X9pGWnR2YVwovJLoFzsHVbrX2KNbHYV4Ujl/) keep in mind, source link might not be accessible to everyone other than those from my country. My question is, do you think color should be a limitation to whom we love or choose to be with in life? Please I need a straight forward answer without being biased over the situation. Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: ThemePen on September 18, 2022, 01:10:23 PM My question is, do you think color should be a limitation to whom we love or choose to be with in life? Love has no limitations.It doesn't see. The color. The cast. The height. Or even Gender. Because love is love. In our country there is a quotation. First I will write in my country language and then translate it in English. دل کا کیا ہے؟ دل تو گدھے پر بھی آجاتا ہے۔ Its mean Heart is Heart. Heart can fit on Donkey too. Replacing heart with Love. We(means in our country) get this meaning from that quotation. Love is love. Love can be with donkey too. Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: btcbeograd on September 18, 2022, 05:36:53 PM No way it should be a limitation! The life is to short to stick to any kind of limitations.
Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: Majestic-milf on September 19, 2022, 11:56:45 AM Love has several characteristics, and one of which is it's ability to not discriminate. Asides from being "in love", we need to also prove it. It's a verb and not a noun hence it's a doing word.
I see no need for color to be a limitation because whether black or white, it's still blood that flows through our veins. Limitations are only set when one has to follow a certain pattern or belief in my opinion. Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: yazher on September 19, 2022, 12:18:45 PM https://i.ibb.co/h9LLwdL/Screenshot-20220918-132405.png (https://ibb.co/tKQQF2Q) My question is, do you think color should be a limitation to whom we love or choose to be with in life? The thing is, it shouldn't be a hindrance for anyone no matter what color he has to pursue his dream no matter how big it is. But he should understand that in order to reach those dreams, he should work harder and dream bigger and be motivated to reach them. Our teacher told us back then that beautiful women are for handsome men and he just stopped right there. I said to myself, I'm not closing the door of the small chance of marrying a beautiful woman one day despite not being handsome but the reality came to me when I'm getting older that thing might not gonna happen for real. so I will just gonna consider looking for someone the same as me and love her as much as I gonna love a beautiful woman and do everything I can to make her the happiest woman in the world. Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: Marykeller on September 19, 2022, 01:21:31 PM When love captures your heart, it comes with different feelings and emotions that you don't understand. It doesn't mind the colour or gender. Love is something no human has control over, it can make you go against your family or friends' wishes.
It surprises me, how some people still use the colour of their skin to decide who they want their friends or family member to get married to. Skin colour is supposed not to be a benchmark to define how happy or successful a human being can be in a marriage when there is love that coexists between the two. Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: Moneyprism on September 19, 2022, 05:21:09 PM https://i.ibb.co/h9LLwdL/Screenshot-20220918-132405.png (https://ibb.co/tKQQF2Q) My question is, do you think color should be a limitation to whom we love or choose to be with in life? of course not ,, we can love anyone regardless of what color he is .. life will be very short if we continue to worry about the color of our partner's skin ... regardless of what people comment on our choices ,, just let them comment, because who lives life is us not them Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: Queentoshi on September 19, 2022, 08:48:00 PM My question is, do you think color should be a limitation to whom we love or choose to be with in life? What kind of answer do you expect to get, many people replying to this will not be too inclined to tell you how they fell but will tell you what you want to hear which is "love should have no limitation", when they know in their heart that they are still selective about who they love, and not just romantically but who they choose to show love to.Please I need a straight forward answer without being biased over the situation. Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: BADecker on September 19, 2022, 09:02:11 PM Color absolutely should NOT be a limiting factor. But we kinda have it backwards.
In the visible-light area of the electromagnetic spectrum, white has all the colors, while black is absence of color. ::) Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: Mr.right85 on September 19, 2022, 11:34:31 PM There is a huge difference between 1946 and 2022. My calculator gives me over 58 years difference and that's almost as old as Republic of Algeria and older than the Republic of Burundi.
Times have changed my friend and so has the people. In the days past, people acted this way because they didn't know any better. Sadly, we still have some of them in our world today. Those who believe in a far superior race and the truth is, the changes will get to them one day or to there generations. Colour is genetic and depends on the place yiu are found in time. As much as your environment affects your being, it doesn't make you any less a human. There is nothing wrong between men of interracial relations. Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: Dunamisx on September 20, 2022, 10:42:25 AM do you think color should be a limitation to whom we love or choose to be with in life? No and i mean it when i say no, colour should not be a barrier to choosing a partner, compactibility should be the major concern, are the two intending couple compactible enough with each other? Have they try to sit down and make individual discoveries about themselves? Do they even go on a courtship to enjoy both the sweet and bitter experience of a relationship, some have ended up marrying their ethnicity colour but the marriage fails all because they were not compactible, love is a practical thing that must exist and regardless of colour, it can be found with a partner whom you're free and compactible with, while culture, parents and colour shouldn't be a barrier to a perfect match. Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: BADecker on September 20, 2022, 01:25:18 PM People can think and make choices. But regarding nationalities, be careful that you know what you are getting into in your choice of a life partner of a different color. Apply the old saying, "Birds of a feather flock together."
8) Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: Techkoy407 on September 21, 2022, 07:05:52 AM everyone has weaknesses and strengths and that is a gift from the almighty God, so people who like to insult because different races have different skin colors are people who lack tolerance because different skin colors or different races are not an obstacle, especially in matters of love is clear there are no obstacles whatsoever.
Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: iamsheikhadil on September 23, 2022, 06:44:33 PM Love is a mysterious feeling, there are hardly any choices we can make when it comes to loving someone I guess, just like we can't control our heart beats. Color of skin can be directly related to some chemicals and pigments present in the skin layers, morphological difference it is, not something that might stand as a hindrance when someone is falling in love with somebody I guess :D
Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: BADecker on September 23, 2022, 07:15:31 PM Regarding love, what is the difference between love and infatuation? Infatuationis something easy. True love can be difficult.
When a person has a crush on someone, the person is really looking at things that the other person remind him/her of. Take time to find out if the other person is really the way you like. Don't be tricked by your own imagination into thinking the other person is the way you think he/she is. In the OP, it seems to have worked out well. Many similar get-togethers don't work so well. Takes grounding in life to make a good relationship. 8) Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: OgNasty on September 23, 2022, 07:55:38 PM Obviously color shouldn't be a limitation. The idea of separating anyone based on the color of their skin is outrageous to me. This is why I think the current liberal movement is to me extremely racist. They keep wanting to divide and have special rights or access to college, etc. I understand the black community has been wronged and the financial damage is lasting, but I think the way forward should not be to continue dividing with special privileges for any race. Instead of this woke movement where everyone should learn to treat people differently, I'd prefer a sleep movement where anyone who mentions race is branded a racist while those who want an even playing ground for everyone going forward should be considered the "good" people.
Either way, comedians are the ones who will suffer. Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: Frankolala on September 24, 2022, 04:24:54 PM Color shouldn't be a barrier on loving,since you don't know who is the right woman for you. I am happy that this generation have understood this unlike the previous generation that believe in color and where you are from. I mean back in the days even in the year 2000 some persons still think color makes people different not knowing that we are all one.
Our parents especially where the ones more serious about color because of what they have experienced or heard about in their past,but as the year keeps moving forward we ourselves now begin to see that its not true,that color means nothing in falling in love or in settling down with a lady. For the both air officers they understood this way back 1946, they were destined to be together for greatness. Love have no limitations. Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: Naficopa on September 25, 2022, 10:05:29 PM Color shouldn't be a barrier on loving,since you don't know who is the right woman for you. I am happy that this generation have understood this unlike the previous generation that believe in color and where you are from. I mean back in the days even in the year 2000 some persons still think color makes people different not knowing that we are all one. that is correct - in my life all the good things and images are black and white Our parents especially where the ones more serious about color because of what they have experienced or heard about in their past,but as the year keeps moving forward we ourselves now begin to see that its not true,that color means nothing in falling in love or in settling down with a lady. For the both air officers they understood this way back 1946, they were destined to be together for greatness. Love have no limitations. To me colour is not the limitation - the real bound of life is the love that is not dependent on colous Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: BADecker on September 29, 2022, 08:17:04 PM I read a science fiction book one time, where the aliens had eyesight that was very accurate. They could detect minute differences in colors. They based their alphabet and numbering system on colors and shades and hues of color. Color wasn't a limiting factor for them, but it would be for us. :D
8) Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: 348Judah on September 29, 2022, 09:04:42 PM People can think and make choices. But regarding nationalities, be careful that you know what you are getting into in your choice of a life partner of a different color. Apply the old saying, "Birds of a feather flock together." I admit this your point as a strong one, in addition to it, we are actually not against the combination here but rather compactibility, unity and understanding that could come aftermath, abiding by an entire different culture away from yours means turning a new life itself and could be somewhat difficult to adjust to, i will say this in contrary that if the two have been together for a long relationship or courtship and have a good understanding of each without minding their differences in culture and ways of live, then they are good to go, what we are after is the peace and joy after the marriage which is a lifetime journey. Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: jrrsparkles on September 30, 2022, 07:59:36 AM We evolved a lot from the time the incident happened and now there is no limitations to make love with anyone if both individuals mutually like each other. Still there are racists and they hate people who commit interacial relationship or anything but the numbers were reduced a lot and with the time it will reach out null at some point.
Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: BADecker on September 30, 2022, 02:09:52 PM We evolved a lot from the time the incident happened and now there is no limitations to make love with anyone if both individuals mutually like each other. Still there are racists and they hate people who commit interacial relationship or anything but the numbers were reduced a lot and with the time it will reach out null at some point. We evolved a lot regarding racism, backward and forward, is certain. If you look back in history, over the last thousands of years, you will find that racism existed among groups, back and forth throughout all those years. Racism and the lack of it are nothing new. Rather, it is kinda natural that it happens both ways at different times. However, 'birds of a feather flock together'. And generally speaking, schools of fish are made up of all the same kind of fish. 8) Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: Maestro75 on October 01, 2022, 05:12:56 AM I felt bad reading that part where he had to marry 5 more wives. I feel it is betrayal of love. But that she did not find it bad showed her love for him was stronger than his. Whoever says a chief must marry more than one wife in the first place? It is just an African thing to have an excuse of having many women around them. And because women love power and success, they do not mind when packed in one successful man's home. No, colour should not be a limitation. But to let you know that till the end of this world there can never exist a time that man will live without certain kinds of limitations, whether in marriages or with jobs. If it is not colour as limitation, it is tribe and ethnicity like we have in Africa. Racism and tribalism will never go away. Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: BADecker on October 01, 2022, 05:34:35 PM Do you think Color should be a limitation?
Depends on what color it is. ;D 8) Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: Mate2237 on October 01, 2022, 08:20:53 PM It is an interesting non fictional story, segregation, balkanization, and racism was very high and strong as of that time. And I also know that what happened to those two young people, happened to all families, village and communities. Disliking someone is not necessarily a racism. It also happened rich and poor so tagging it to black and white dating is... Marrying a beautiful girl or a boy comes with very strong resistance fru om all angle, those who likes the girl will not want you to come close to the girl and marry. Now from the story. If the girl was very ugly would they still resisted the boy to date or marry her? Racism is not all about colour but thinking. In the first why did they accept the boy in the air force known well that he is a black boy. So you can see that it has nothing to do with color but the thinking the men.
Title: Re: Do you think Color should be a limitation? Post by: BADecker on October 01, 2022, 09:09:48 PM Society's Child - 1967. Janis was just 13.
Janis Ian - Society's Child https://i.ytimg.com/vi/-QPF-duKQro/hqdefault.jpg?sqp=-oaymwEjCOADEI4CSFryq4qpAxUIARUAAAAAGAElAADIQj0AgKJDeAE=&rs=AOn4CLBtZB-3PpTg_4e4zu6xsHMi_JLjoA https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-QPF-duKQro (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-QPF-duKQro) 8) |