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A man shared his story with me about how he was in a long relationship with a lady, it lasted for a very long time that he expected it to end in marriage, but it did not. What was his regret? his regret was that during the long time of being the relationship with this lady, he shared a lot of his personal information with her, and she even knew his bank passwords and pins and was able to send away all the money in his account just before she left him, leaving him broke. Could it have been his bitcoins? yes, but he is not an investor in bitcoins. How about you? are you being too open in the relationship you are keeping that is not yet marriage, you could be doing yourself some harm by exposing to the person who you are in a relationship with where you have invested which is in bitcoins, and even giving them too much information about how you have kept your seed phrase safe. The sweet relationship can go sour in a moment and that your lover can become your enemy. Unless you are married, do not share all information about you with the person you are in a relationship with.

Sometimes it is a broken bridge for these people, we talk about couples, but some how eventually when you think about inheritance or assets, there are someone you have to trust and in those cases there is legal jurisdiction that functions neutrally in that trust of assets even with your bitcoin.

 It is a shame but absolute trust does not exist, it is a reality but you have to live with this, the above is a legal solution that works in part, common sense simply does not exist in relationships if there is love.
 
In any case, it is not a new situation, and in the reality of life sometimes you have to use a phrase that says: God, take care of my friends, I take care of smy keys.

I cannot blame the young man for some of the things he has exposed to the girl he didn't end up marrying. It is often said that in love and in war, whatever we do at that point is always fair, because it is believed that we have been beclouded by sense of reasoning which is not normal at that particular moment. Love they say is blind and in love you can do things ordinarily you wouldn't do on a good day, you would expose yourself to things you wouldn't want to, it can agreements, it can be gift and a whole lot more. same thing as well in war situation, because you are to obey the last command of your commander even if it goes against your personal wish.  that is why for me I do not blame people too much when they do things or take some actions out of love, because it's not everybody that is wired to keep top secret to themselves and these individual differences is what makes us human beings.

Well, that's quite a dramatic story about the ex! I wouldn't go assuming every new partner is gonna turn into a bank-robbing criminal though.  Sharing some personal stuff can help build trust in a relationship, you know? But yeah, I wouldn't be handing over my bank password on date one either!

My hypothetical bitcoins are my own business.  Trust and boundaries walk hand-in-hand in my view but then again, Id have no reason to actively hide anything from someone I was seriously with.  There are always two sides to consider though.  What if something happened to me and I couldn't access my crypto anymore? My partner would need to know.

What your friend needs is to learn how to choose a nice person to have a relationship with, I believe that everyone here who is married shares information with their wives or husbands, after all a marriage is about living life together sharing everything, right?

I think there was a thread you created sometime ago and you asked if we could trust our spouse with our seed phrase and there were many contributions. From the discussion, I realized that it's necessary to disclose the seed phrase to your spouse if he/she genuinely loves you.

However, in this case it's too early to trust your fiance/fiancee or girlfriend/boyfriend with your financial information. He/she may pull out of the relationship anytime and steal the funds, I've seen it happened many times where one of them would empty the other's bank account and run away. So I think it'd be wise to keep your financial dealings only to yourself while in a relationship to avoid such sad occurrences.

That's a very unfortunate story, I'm sorry that a person fell a victim of, basically, theft in this relationship. Of course, though, such things can happen even in marriage, with one person stealing from another or storming off with funds at some point. So it's tricky and requires some trust, which also presupposes the risks that it might be broken.
I'm married, and I have been married since the beginning of my experiments with cryptos, so I don't know how I would have acted. I suppose to me, it's more about how serious a relationship is, rather than whether people are actually married. I'm a pretty trusting person, and I believe that relationships should be built on trust, so I share my finances with my spouse, cryptos included.

Sometimes even in marriage it is not advisable to share all your holding informations with your wife. The marriage can still go sour and she will leave you and run away with all of your money. Marriage is suppose to be a trustworthy and honest relationship between two people, but sometimes things turn around and you might separate out of some kind of misunderstanding between you two or any unforeseen circumstances. Before sharing all of your secret with your lover, you should be satisfied beyond reasonable doubts that the person is not someone that can leave you through thick and thin and will not want to cheat you. Overall, just be careful with who you share your wealth secret with, if they’re doubtful, don’t do it. And when it becomes necessary to do that, have some back up or something still only you can give the authorisations to the access.

Even if you're married, I don't see any reason to share that much of information if both truly respects each other's privacy and as long as both provides for their relationship. It is reasonable for them to ask sometimes but for them to insist such information as bank informations and you should know her intentions or purpose well if ever you came across with such instance and you should reason it out as much as possible. If you fear of dying and letting your investments in empty space without having anyone access of it, then that's a rare instance to avoid.
Well yes but not in all relationships. Also, you would be able to know a person well as you guys are being together for years. For sure you'd be having enough reason whether to share it or not. Everything could be reasoned out in the first place on why would you or not share such details. It just depends on how you will deliver the message and to not offend her.

If you are afraid that if something happens to you and no one else will be able to use the accumulated money, then it is better to provide passwords to close relatives, not your wife. Although close relatives do not guarantee your safety of funds, all people are different.

Hearing this story of yours reminded me of a friend of mine from the past. They were also in love for a long time and were supposed to get married. It was agreed with their families that they would get married after completing their university studies. Thus, their love was going very well, and their time was going very well, but their relationship ended in the 7th semester of varsity. A lot happens between them. While having a great time with the boy, the two of them shared everything, but there came a time when everything crumbled. The boy used to save money by tutoring, but he also withdrew the money from his bank.
Love is impermanent, no matter how long it lasts. Because marriage is a social bond, it is natural to have faith here as one becomes a life partner through marriage. Both good times and bad times come between them, but no one leaves anyone. When anger and pride are over, the two become each other again. If there is any such problem here, it is not much of a problem.

No matter what the love is or how long it is, your bank or many important things should not be free with them.

Men are extremely vulnerable to scammsters, especially in this generation.

There is a Youtube channel that documents cases of older men looking for love online and voluntarily sent large sums of money to maintain the "relationship". The channel interviews these people--they tell their story even though it is embarrassing. It is sad and yet empowering at the same time.

Do not date ruthless people, or anyone you cannot be sure is trustworthy.

The founder said that they could do a video of a different case every day of the year and not run out of material.

Even the married couple could end up in divorce and the girl gets half of your assets. While it's not good to keep a secret, you just have to protect yourself when you already have the feeling that the relationship could go south. Especially when the inlaws are already up to rescue her and the motives increase when you see them getting nosey around. Women can be manipulative and your kids will be the most affected in this situation.

Luckily that man hasn't married her yet and true colors are revealed already. It is all just money in the end. Regardless of the reason for their fight, it's taking someone else money made her look like it was just what she was after.

Well thats pretty bad for the guy. But even though you are in a relationship with someone else unless you deeply knew the person you dont give her all access to something you knew that can compromise later on. Or yet to say if yourent ready to give it all or give up for marriage. Even the bitcoin and crypto assets arent or should be given not until you are sure and trust someone for that.

This is where we humans stumble the most because we trust them (boyfriends or girlfriends) the most and give them all our secrets. informs In fact, our emotions work, not our intellect. If the luck is good, the relationship is fulfilled through marriage, and if the luck is bad, they leave each other in the middle. This kind of thing happens quite often these days, so it didn't surprise me.
      Here, I am not blaming this guy because he was emotional then, and the depth of the relationship between them was so intense that he emotionally shared all his personal secrets, considering him his closest person. In fact, at that time, it seems that both of them complement each other. But later, he is cheated by the girl; his love is cheated; his faith is lost; and he is broken.
   Well, why do we forget that it is not okay to share any kind of personal information until the marriage starts? We can be deceived because it is impossible to understand what is going on in someone's mind. No one is yours; unscrupulous people hide behind the mask of love. So to keep your emotions in check, it's wise to keep your personal information safe, secure, and private from everyone, no matter how close they are to you (except family).

It is not advisable for anyone to expose either his holdings or all his monetary investment to anyone unless such relationship is defined which is marriage, though even in marriage things can get absolutely wrong too which we don't pray for, but the truth is that sharing your financial keys or password anyone can be detrimental because no one knows when a good and lovely relationship will be meant to face difficulties, IMO I will say that every financial aspect of man or woman should only be made known the his or her immediate family which is the wife or the husband, though things can't still turn to be wrong but it is better this way.

If a man is having good time with a girl and he forget that is just a good time, there will be serious consequences is he doesn't retrace his step early, though mistake happens but it is not ideal for anyone to love and forget the needful.

People pretend a lot, so you can never really trust someone. Someone may appear nice and act nice, but not really nice.

and I also was not referring to people who are married, but people in a relationship.

There is a difference between marriage and relationships. Before the relationship could lead to marriage, both partners should have studied and understood one another. Check their trust level and all of that before you can determine the kind of information you shared with them. 
 
We can't seize or start having trust issues due to others mistakes. If you are to check very well in the story you shared, it's either the man was blinded by love not to notice the kind of lady he was with all this while, someone you don't know their level of trust and the length at which they can go in order to bring you down is not whom to trust with your personal information with.

I'm open about it with my wife but we've known each other for decades and she never gave me a reason to doubt her intentions.
She knows about all my money and my investments but we have a child together, so If I were to die tragically, I'd like her to be able to use all my money and she would deserve all of it, since I don't have any siblings. I'm not afraid of her leaving with the money. She technically could take it, but we had access to each other's accounts for years and never used them without asking first. The access is just for emergencies.
If you just sleep together, don't share any money. It's much too early. Once you build a house and raise kids together, you either build respect and trust by that time, or you're fucked whether you share accounts or not.

I highly agree with @OP's advice and  I can only say a simple word, have a self-reservation.  Trusting our partner is one thing but abandoning one-self for a partner is another thing.  Not saying everything does not mean a person does not trust his partner.  I have heard and watched several stories like the one @OP stated where the person is sucked dry by their partner and got abandoned after.

If in case same thing happens to a person, I believe he can file a case against the person and if it is proven that he was been exploited the court might favor him and issue a decision where he can recover the money stolen or given to his partner.

Simply being in a relationship doesn't mean you must share information like how much money you have; let alone where you have them. Just as you wouldn't trust your friends (or even best friend) with this info, then neither should you with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Hell, there are people who don't even trust their husbands and wives with this sort of information, and I can understand it to an extent.

It's such a sad thing that he had to lose all his money to the lady he fell in love with, just for the sake of love, because I'm sure If it was to have been Bitcoin, that's how he would have reluctantly also If I'm not mistaking given her access to his wallet password too just for the name of costly love. Hence, I wish to applaud you O.P for bringing this to our notice, as many will surely learn one or two from this.
But I will like to ask you O.P, What Was Your Advice To The Man? Because I'm made ro understand that fiat unlike Bitcoin who has a centre control (i.e the banks), if only he could proof to his bank that the money transfered was sent illegally, there is a high tendency of he recovering his money by reporting this case to the "Anti-Crime Agency", and the account through which the money was sent to likely to be blocked.

That's the thing about trusting people - it's a risk. Ot can be scary to open up, but it's part of having close relationships.  Your friend clearly had a bad experience oversharing with their ex.  That shows how we need boundaries.  But, being too secretive doesn't work either.

I think its all about balance.  Talking money matters is important if you're getting serious with someone, but maybe not a first date topic! Healthy relationships mean being open while respecting each other's space.  And boundaries can change over time as trust builds. Do what feels right for you and check in often with your partner.  If someone cares about you they'll understand and wont pressure you to reveal more than you want.

I wouldn't share my password to my girlfriend unless it is no longer my girlfriend but a wife so that's why I won't share my password. Well, there are some information that we can share with our family but for someone who is not family shouldn't be shared. People do have different reasons of why they won't share it or share it. For me, I don't share it for that same reason that's why I never lose money when I break up with my girlfriend. Having password is the reason why it is yours alone and not to be shared.

This is a very valuable lesson for everyone. Yes, indeed in some places, marriage is not something that is urgent and trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. However, when you are in a relationship with someone who is not married, this is too risky when we give out all very important personal information. Believe the believer, but only as needed and there must be limits. Unless it is a wedding and they are already a small family with their children. Of course all of this will be your own consideration. And you can't complain anymore if the woman takes money easily, right? want to report it? Can we? If you can, just take care of it. However, here is how to learn about this kind of case, which I am sure is not just 1, but there are many other cases. Privacy is very important, keeping secrets is very important and necessary. Don't trust anyone easily.

When you are in a relationship, your girlfriend shouldn’t know your personal information. The girl is just your girlfriend, and you are not yet married. Anything can happen at any moment, and if things don’t end well between you two, then they will end up taking advantage, and some will make sure they steal from you, and they won't leave any traces that they are the ones who committed the crime. So when you are in a relationship, you have to be very careful with the information you share with your girl, sometimes it is just supposed to be known by only you.

I don’t tell my girlfriend most things whenever it comes to financial aspects. Some girls might end up doing some crazy things just because of money. If some girls know that you are holding bitcoin and they know the amount of bitcoin you are holding, they might even end up setting you up. That’s why something’s just supposed to be known by only you. Don’t be surprised that a girl you trust and really love might be the one to fuck you up.

Yes, I have already shared informations about my Bitcoin holdings and investments with someone I've been in a relationship in the past, although I didn't share login informations, neither taught how to deal with Bitcoin. I agree it's a risky move to do so, but when you want to make things work for real you end commiting some mistakes, like trusting the other person from the bottom of your heart, keeping no secrets between both of you.

Reality is harsh, though, and things don't happen as we firstly expect. Even if you are married to someone, I don't think it's a good idea to share private informations from your investments, because a paper signed (marriage) doesn't mean anything after all. It's not a guarantee of happily ever after, anyway. A betrayal may come from a girlfriend, fiancé and even a wife, so make sure you only talk about your personal invstments to totally trustful people.

In the end, even if we are already in a marriage relationship or just in a relationship without a marriage bond with our partner, privacy will also be a very important thing to think about.
It is not wrong to always be open with your partner but on the other hand we also have to be able to know that sometimes when dealing with money, no matter your partner or family, it is possible to stab you in the back so that the importance of privacy must be maintained because we do not know the intentions of the people around us even though it is our own partner.

This can be used as a good lesson because in the end not everyone can be sure we give the secrets we have especially if in the end talking about bitcoin we voluntarily give a wallet or anything related to our assets because it could be a blow to you in the future.

As an investor in bitcoin you don’t have to trust anyone even your so called wife talk more of long time relationship that didn't even lead to marriage

Even you married wife you both might have court wedding where properties is been shared if there is a divorce it she happen to know your secret 😉 saving what do you think 🤔 she need to take half of the savings


Then a girl in a long time relationship no matter the memories you both share definitely one day she would turn against you and if she happens to know your secrets bro you are gone

It's a heartbreaking story, but it's important to understand the importance of confiding in people we truly trust. Motivated by trust, this man gave his partner access to his personal information. Such transparency is a practical way to make sure that one's assets and affairs are handled in the event of an unexpected occurrence, such as death, as well as a sign of intimacy. Imagine that you are a Bitcoin owner, but you don't want to share the seed phrase.In this instance, the valued assets stay inaccessible after death and access to the digital wallet is rendered impossible. Thus, it becomes essential to share important information with those you can trust, since this guarantees that your loved ones will be able to handle your assets and affairs even when life throws curveballs at you. But, it's crucial to use caution and judgment when deciding with whom to share such private information, making sure that trustworthiness and secrecy come first.In the end, even if disclosing private information can be useful, it's important to consider the recipients and the degree of trust you are placing in them.

Even if you are still that get married on which there are really things which arent meant to be shared up specially on talking some seed phrases on which there would really be some personal kind of thing but we know that if we are married then everything would really be conjugal on which it would really be just that normal that you would really be that depending on you about on whats been shared up.
As for being still not married then it would really be just that normal that you wont really be giving it all. Its a fool that even putting up your bank account details and other important
stuffs to be known on which its a suicide, not until you have officially been married then it would be always ideal thar you shouldnt really be giving all when it comes to those information.

If are not married yet, then you really have to be very careful, because the dating phase is the phase for you to get to know the person, their character, their dignity, but even so, it is a little difficult to have 100% accuracy if the person It's good or not.... You only really know someone by living day to day for years.