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Expectation from people could be the driving force that keeps us going or the reason why some of us gets depressed because of our inability to meeting those expectations.

Because some children did well while growing up in there preliminary classes, people always expect you to come out of the university with destinction and when you're unable to do so, it could get you depressed because it appears most time as though you've failed big time in life and that no one will even understand you at all. I'm at a cross road where my parent and siblings believe so much in me, academically, because I did well in high school but the reality is that I wasn't my best in the university and no one wants to imagine that its a possibility.

How then do I mange the expectation of people on me such that i don't get into depression when I'm  unable to meet up with it.?

It's almost like everyone knows you're going to succeed but don't even care about what you're passing through while you're striving to make them proud.

Firstly, do you want to make them proud or you want to make yourself proud?

I'm on same condition with you but my concern isn't what people will say about me and that I started by letting my family know my goals that it's not really to be the best in class or grade but to be the best in life by doing what I know how to do best. focusing on what I want not what anyone else wants from me.

But on my own there is nothing really too hard to achieve you can still get the good grades which is expected of you if only you put in more percentage of focus on it. but remember not to impress others and get yourself depressed its simple get the goal at the end, it's all about success so you must succeed in life generally.

Why aren't you having a good time at the university? Are you attending to a course you genuinely chose by yourself, or are you coursing an area just to please your family? What are your genuine dreams and expectations on life?

These are questions you have to ask yourself and share your conclusions with your family. I believe human beings seek for self-realization. However, many of us give up or neglect persuing this path to make people around us self-realized, as we were just an extension of them, and not independant individuals with personal aspirations, dreams and goals.

I'm sure that if your self-realization isn't on this course you are attending to, it must be in another field of work, or even outside university. You just have to seek for it. It's normal youngs feel a bit confused about what path to choose once they finish high school. So, no hurry. Give yourself time to think over it and if your family loves you and cares for your welfare they will understand the phase you are passing through.

Try to talk to your family about how you're feeling. Let them know the real deal about your university experience and that it's been tougher than they might think. Share that you're working on it but you need their support rather than extra pressure. Together, set some goals that make sense for you. Don't forget to take care of yourself and remember success isn't just about grades. I know that its easier said than done but remember that youre not alone in this

Sometimes I've noticed that these expectations that we think people expect us to meet are just mental, they are created in your brain and those you really think expect this much from you will accept you any way you are even if you decide to drop out from the university. Why will they accept you? it is because they remain your family. Some family members and friends may act disappointed when you do not meet up to their expectations, but it should not be your problem.

What you should focus on as a person is meeting up with the expectations you have set for yourself, not the expectations of others.

Yes I need you to understand that you need to learn how not to let people expectations get into your head, you don't need to live your life to impress anybody, you need to live your life to suit your own self expectations, More like caring less for what people will say and care more for what you want. There comes a time in a man's life where your expectations and those things you want for yourself makes you to live and shape your life at a certain way so as to be able to achieve your personal goals.

Most times I feel nobody actually thinks about you or have expectations from you,  it's just your own self thought or rational thinking that is making you think about what people are thinking about you. In doing so, you begin to live your life on people's expectation and that is not good for your mental health.

I just want to tell you the truth that if you live without being satisfied with yourself and only rely on satisfaction from others, that life is no different from imprisonment. But views in family and society can impose on your thinking, making you feel stuck because you can't complete it, so simplify it by expressing your view on life, share more with everyone that you should accept the fact that you always try and your previous expectations are just "not yet" and not "impossible".

And one thing that I really feel is, you are not alone, there are many people facing the same problem as you. Be persistent, confident and don't be shy.

Yes, one solution so that you don't always experience pressure from situations like that is that you have to explain to your family about everything you feel now because I understand that there is pressure that you feel from situations like this, I understand that it doesn't mean it's impossible for anyone, including you can be the best at university but maybe it takes time, I'm sure you can but maybe you need a lot of support from the people closest to you to help increase your enthusiasm in the process to prove to them that you really can be the best which is in line with what the family expected. I think not a few people are also in a situation like this and I see that for problems like this you just have to explain to your family that you need full support to increase your morale, you don't need to promise anything to your family but you just need to say that you I will try my best, I think your family will definitely understand.

When you live to fulfill other people's expectations then that is the source of the problem because you will never be able to fulfill them and even if you can fulfill them then you will not be able to enjoy life or live life the way you want.
Today you may be able to fulfill the expectations of those closest to you but tomorrow, next week, next month or next year you may disappoint them so you should live your life according to your expectations not the expectations of others and live a life full of responsibility so that when you are in university you are not as good as when you were in school not because you are irresponsible but because you have difficulties, it could be because your studies are not in accordance with your abilities, and someday those closest to you can understand and accept you as you are today.

Just because you believe something is going to happen is not guarantee that it must, even life is not a guarantee, you can be alive today and the next day you gone, that's the sad reality of life. Nothing in life is guaranteed and should never lead you to depression, some people can't just make it in life no matter what.

My life has been parallel in movements with other people and I have accepted that in this life, we can deam but not all or if not all will come to true if you are not born with a silver spoon. People who has there dream comes true are people that has generational wealth, people that their grandparents and parents has done all the struggles of life and has money somewhere for them, these are the people that always has high expectations and do work in their favour.

Average and poor people are just strugglers that fight every day about life, the ones you see succeeded are either lucky with grace but checked them, many of them don't make it through the educational sector, they made it either entertainment, politics and business. Life after university is always tough for many people.

It must be terrible pressure since they expect you to be someone up there climbing the corporate ladder.  But may I ask why you didn't do well in college?
Because if I were you and had the brains to make it, I would have taken a law degree but let me guess you fell in love in college and enjoyed it so much or the degree you pursued wasn't your decision at all but your parents?

I think it's the same pressure in me since my parents have known me to be stupid since grade school, but now I have to keep proving they didn't raise a fool.  ;D

The thing is that parents in general don't care how their children feel, all they want from their children is go and get me your best, is not bad but the way they go about it is wrong, too much of expectations causes depression and one can lose focus on what he or she is doing.
Not that some children don't know what to do but checking on them to know what they want and all that can let them lose concentrate and another thing or mistake parents make is comparing their children with other people's children when they're not doing well in school or maybe in business too, with that happening it kills their morela. With how some parents are expecting their children to do better like their mates it makes them to look useless in the society, is just bad.

True that. A person should have realistic expectations from life. It is called "knowing yourself". If you know your limits, what you can do and what you cannot, then you will have a happy life because you will be pursuing the goals which you can accomplish. Would you try to be the president of the United States for example? Only a mad man would try that. (Unless his name is Donald Trump or Elon Musk.) But most people can become dentists, engineers, doctors, accountants etc... These are pretty realistic goals for most people. In a way, this is like seeing the future.You dream of it, you work for it and it becomes reality.

It's almost as if parents these days marry just to have children that would be a financial savior for them in the long run. So when the kids given birth to and invested a lot or so little in, fail to be of value and earn from whatever education or investment they have made in them, they simply just get disappointed and don't even care to think for a second if the said child is happy or perhaps the child could do better in another area.

The child having failed to meet such expectations with the investment or because they are supposed to as children of a family become devastated or depressed. That's how it feels to not to meet up with expectations of others mostly when they are family or close friends and associates.

Sincerely I think anyone who puts him or herself in such a scenario of living because of others acceptance are simply just ignorant and it's a disease of much consequences that will lead to much regret in old age or on ones dying bed.

You shouldn’t live base on expectations of other people because you will just feel pressured on your life choices most importantly when you experience failure which you will not bothered if you are free to do whatever you want.

You should remember that the majority of top rich people doesn’t do well on university but they manage to climb the wealth due to their passion. Sometimes people are not good on study because their skills is for actual work. You should find your passion and don’t live on someone expectation.

You should watch this Steve Jobs speech to Stanford because it tackles specifically to your situation. I hope it helped you to boost your confidence.


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Well, it is easy to say to not mind what others are saying or what you feel of your percieved expectations from them but in reality, it is just hard to apply to oneself. It is a combination of self and social awareness which will always be a part of our daily experiences. However you ciuld manage how you would react on those expectancies you view from them. Indeed it could be either positive or negative; to some people it inspires them to prove other people wrong which helps them to strive for the better. But to some people it drags them due to pressure.

What I mean with controlling how you would react in those situations is to try maintaining your composure. We cannot control how others will think and view of us. Focus on what you are doing and follow your plans. Consistencywill always put you to success and that only means keeping your eye on your way despite of distractions.

all you need to do is tell the truth. coz the truth will set you FREE.  ;D
it's not easy of course but that's just how it is and sometimes you need to convince them, that it's not as easy as it was back then when the economy was way better than now. during their time, less distraction, and people could think clearly without worries. in our time, what matters is that you can live independently. some are even earning online being influencers reading just the newspaper for their audience as a career.  

by the way, let them hold a pint of ice cream when you tell them these. ice cream makes things better.

In this context, I have to think of two quotes from the movie "Fightclub" that go perfectly with your post.

"We use the money we don't have to buy things we don't need to impress people we don't like."

and

"We are consumers. We are waste products of general lifestyle obsessions!"

Only when you can cut yourself off from the expectations of others are you truly free. Until then, you're just a hamster in an endless hamster wheel.

To hell with them, in fact life is not as easy as they imagine. It is true that both family and parents want to see us become successful, happy and accomplished people. However, if the expectations they give are too high, this can cause great pressure which can have bad consequences for ourselves. Because we are just ordinary people who are not free from mistakes and are far from perfection. However, they always compare ourselves with other people's success, even though every child develops at a different pace and everyone has their own preferences and desires. However, because their expectations are too high, sometimes they often impose their own will on their children, so that the person's journey does not go according to their wishes, even though every child definitely has interests and talents in certain fields. A child needs space for diaspora so that he can improve his abilities and skills in the field he likes, so that later he will become someone who is successful in the field he is working in.

To overcome this problem, communication is the main key in resolving it, and in creating a healthy family relationship. Therefore, invite our parents and family to talk about our hopes, goals and the process we are doing, say what we are feeling and convey that we also have goals and want to become someone successful in the field we want. .

The first thing you have to do is communicate with yourself, which is very necessary, something that is not the same as expectations, not because Allah wants to weaken you, but Allah wants you to be stronger. Maybe this is the first

For me, it's a way to control expectations so you don't get depressed.
1. Make expectations based on reality
2. Must be willing to compromise
3. Reduce your level of expectations
4. Discuss the expectations you have with other people

Conclusion: In life we cannot control all the variables of life, what we can control is how we respond to them.

As children, of course we also don't want to disappoint our own parents and other family members. We always try to give the best, which we can do, so that we become a child that both parents can hope for and be proud of. However, along the way, it is certain that there will always be obstacles and difficulties that we have to face, which could make us fail to realize what they hope for us. So they feel disappointed with us and think that we are a child whose parents and family cannot hope for. Their inability to accept and appreciate the results of a process that we have carried out, this causes pressure after pressure that they continue to put on us, which makes us a little depressed.

  And that doesn't mean that I want to teach you to disobey your parents, but after all, we as ordinary humans are only capable of planning and trying, while what determines it is fate itself. and we are not gods who can grant every wish of their servants, we are just ordinary humans who can make mistakes and fail. And they, both families and parents, must be aware of this. So we have to give our parents an understanding of the efforts we are making. And if you have to say that you can't be the person they want and hope for, then say so. because after all, we personally also have goals and hopes that we can achieve and realize, we want to become someone who is successful in a field that we really like without having to have any element of compulsion from family or parents.

Making expectations as a target that we must aim for is still a good enough thing to do but in the end in this case we also have to be someone who is realistic so that the expectations we expect do not end in regret and failure.
The situation that happens now is that most people set their expectations too high so that they cannot be achieved which makes them give up halfway.

Expectations can ultimately be a good morale booster but sometimes it actually brings down the mentality that we have so in this case it is important for us to try to be realistic in thinking about expectations so that they are not too high because after all this is quite an important thing in my opinion.
We do have to have sky-high dreams so that we continue to be motivated by what we want to achieve but for the problem of expectations we must be able to distinguish this because after all expectations can be a double-edged sword for ourselves.

It seems like a paradox to me, the word "distinction" conjures up definitions of excellence and truly standing out from the crowd - how can everyone, or even a large portion, be standing out from the crowd? They would just become the average in that context. It should be expected that in general most will get average grades, because you don't need to learn beyond the basics or even show that you can apply them, to be worthy of a reasonable university grade. Any other method of looking at it would suggest that uni grades are manipulated or rigged in a way that makes them less worthwhile as qualifications. It's probably related to the large cost that it now takes to attend university in many countries, so people hope they are buying their way towards the top grades and have built up a false picture in that regard.

That is the delicate balance between setting expectations and being realistic in our aspirations. While having expectations can provide motivation and direction, Those need to be tempered with a dose of realism to avoid disappointment and frustration. Indeed, setting expectations too high can lead to feelings of inadequacy or failure when they are not met. People need to strike a balance between ambition and pragmatism that ensures our goals are challenging yet attainable given our resources, abilities, and circumstances.

At the same time, it's important not to let the fear of failure or setbacks deter us from dreaming big and pursuing our aspirations. While being realistic about our expectations can help us avoid unnecessary disappointment, we should still strive to push our boundaries and reach for the stars. Navigating the terrain of expectations requires introspection, self-awareness, and a willingness to adjust our goals as needed. By setting realistic expectations, we can maintain a healthy perspective and increase our chances of success while also allowing room for growth and development along the way. Finding the right balance between ambition and realism is a personal journey which is shaped by our experiences, values, and aspirations.

Simple: don't meet their expectations. Are you a people-pleaser? A people-pleaser will do anything that other people expect you to do, or you will make decisions or movements based on what other people expect from you; if not, then why bother about the expectations of other people? In this current world, you should become independent, meaning you should mind your own business and ignore what other people will say about you. Don't let what they say about you go through you, because if yes, then it will only limit you to what other people expect from you. What I mean is, if you want to become an artist but other people or your parents expect you to become a doctor, will you follow them? If yes, then you are limiting yourself to what other people want you to be; you are exchanging what you want for what other people expect from you. Don't please anyone because you will be the only one affected.

You will only make yourself more upset if you keep dealing with other people’s expectations rather than focus on yourself and value on what you can give and what you can’t. Those expectations might create more motivation for you but in reality, they will just create pressures on you. And you don’t need pressures but family love and support to whatever you’re capable to achieve. Just be honest with your family. The reality won’t hurt them if they will know it earlier rather than pretending you’re okay but you’re not.

One thing that you must do is just don't mind them, I know that's easy for me to say this but believe me, I've been in that situation and it really kills me whenever I think that I didn't accomplish yet all the things that people expect me to do. I overcome that situation when I started to set aside all the negative comments and pressure because I want to do things on my own timeline, not just because of others expectation. The more you pressure yourself, The more you didn't accomplish everything that you want to have.

Therefore, when we have expectations, it must be accompanied by the reality that we have because in the end, if our expectations are too high, it could backfire and make you mentally down because it cannot be realized properly. So that something like that does not happen, it would be more appropriate if we are not too grandiose in giving expectations. Expectations are indeed a good thing if you reflect on the positive side and I agree that this will add to your motivation but we also have to compare our realization with our quality so as not to let the expectations you have kill your own character who wants to build a good life.

Fear sometimes does always exist but this is one of the stumbling blocks because after all when we do something there is always a process that must be followed and the risks that we must get so that when we try to make a better situation for our lives then we must be sure of what plans we want to build so that there is no alertness when we go through what we are doing.

Well, you have to express the reality to your closed ones and be transparent with your academic activities than can relieve pressure a bit but this is something that everyone has to go through in their early 20's and how you react to it maybe the deciding factor of how your remaining life is gonna be.

Hey, Buddy. It's normal, and not only have you experienced it, but I've also gone through it before. If you are overly concerned with how others perceive your academic performance at school, you will lose focus and may perform worse than you expected. The reality is that in universities, you will meet many people whose level of knowledge is incomparable to yours, and this is simply their natural gift that you cannot compete with.

When you meet people like that, make friends with them to make yourself better in school and try to pass in the university. When you start to see it as a big competition, you'll lose the most important thing you need from them. Brainstorming is the best thing to do in this situation if you want to succeed like them and ignore what others at home think of you as long as you pass your exams and advance to the next level.

That's really the mentality of we humans as we always expect things to always go the way it used to be without having that knowledge that change is inevitable in life because as people grows and have more exposure that's how our way of reasoning changes and sometimes the reason why some persons get depressed if they couldn't meet up a standard that they were before is as a result of people trying to let them know about their past life and activities but it is your duty either to listen to them or just live your life the way you can without caring too much on how anyone feels about you whether you are moving forward or not is none of anyone's business.

About the process that you are going through but already imagined with such high results it is annoying, because a person is forced to get results that may be above the ability, if you have tried and done your best I think the final result speaks of time, sincerity and what you have done during the faculty. I think if you look at it from this point of view, it will be a burden for you, and will certainly affect your identity and will even be a worse decline. You can start from today enjoy and master the material from the smallest thing, for me learning is better to repeat than memorize from today, or you can be more intense when going to the end of learning maybe a few months for maturation.

Trust your own pace and find out how your brain and feelings work because every day has free time in it, if you have the easiest way for me the results will be better than you mourning yourself every day, hopefully you can get through and make peace with yourself, spirit.

Sometimes it doesn't really work that way by having that focus on yourself but the way they treat you makes it look like you have nothing to offer, they even make you feel so small. Even when you're doing the things you know how to do best it seems like you're going about it the wrong way and ones your mind is divided I don't think you can concentrate on things around you.
Pressure is one crazy thing that families love to give to their children especially the male child (1st born to be precise), when you have that responsibility of taking care of things in the family and you're taking your time to do your thing, the next thing you'll see how they see your efforts as trash, 88% of the family members don't care how their children manage all they want is be at the higher level as your mates and they hardly listen, so sharing your problems with some family members is a waste of time.

Focusing on other people expectations will make you miss your own expectations because, you will begin to look at your expectations like something that will not bring changes to you and your family which is a negative thoughts you had and it can bring anyone down in the future.

 The most important thing is to make your family to be aware of your correct situation so that they will not be thinking you are who you are in the secondary school because, a lot of things used to happen in the university which it will be difficult for you to explain to your parents for them to believe your poor performance.

Managing higher expectations from people around us need careful intellectual principles on how to deal with them.
Sometime we don't always get what we planned to get or reach where we planned to reach but all, it depends on our focus because of we don't get it now, that would not make us feel depressed and try too hard to satisfy their curiosity. Since we don't determine the outcome of tomorrow we should always adhere to the current status we are now without faking it to please people and make them compare us to others. Very wrong!

Honestly you have no control over other people’s thoughts and expectations. what i suggest is for you to instead work on your own mindset. You have to live your life in a way where you dont feel the need to have others’ approval or validation. You have to start with yourself and accept everything that comes with it.
it might be hard to do but i know it is a step worth taking. you cannot live your life to the fullest if you are always looking back at the people behind you trying to check whether you are going in the right direction. you will be much happier if you did things based on how you like it.

I once allowed the society's expectations from me bother me so much that I Began to displease myself just to be on their good books. Then it occurred to me that I was not helping myself.
I took up a particular course because people felt that was what was best for me
I studied so hard because failure was seen as a taboo
I graduated and people still expected me to get a job immediately and start taking care of the home,  and the few days i had to struggle to earn some money, people felt i was not trying enough. Most times, this pressure drove me crazy that I began to feel like I was  not up to the task.

But right now I am free and happy because i have refused to be pressured by the society's expectations from me. Everyone out there too who is facing such pressure should refuse same too. Allowing the society control your life can be really disastrous as it will be difficult for you to handle real life's situations without validation from people. Be you always.

They say that expectation is the seed of disappointment. That’s why you really shouldn’t expect anything from anyone. You’ll be better off if you always prepare for the worst so you can handle anything. Like the old saying goes… The bird on a branch doesn’t trust the tree branch won’t break, it trusts that it’s wings will keep it from hitting the ground.

Several years ago, a Political Theorist named Ted Gurr propounded a theory on causes of violent conflicts in the human society as; Expectations - Deprivation - Frustration - Aggression Thesis. This theory explains how failure on expectations lead to violent conflicts.
But the issue being raised here is quiet different, it's the expector and not the expectee that is worried over the disappointment. There is a solution to this situation as;
In a simple logic, the expector must keep the expectee informed in all the stages of development of the said phenomenon. At this moment, the expectee would understand better and also would encourage the expectee never to be disturbed. 

Not everybody see it that way, getting that results the way they want it is what they care about the most, your feelings the stress you pass through is like your doing things fine to them and you have no right to be depressed.
And I feel we have less people who can over look such act and less of those who can develop thick skin, some expectations can help a person positively but it all depends on how they go about it.
Imagine a person who's managing a business and he's thinking that things would be fine in no time and he's doing poorly, there's a way the next person would say "my expectation for you is to never give up like a some people, continue having that hope that the good times are coming" with that been said I believe it wouldn't kill that person's mindset rather it will boost it, that's how it should be.

Expectations can be quite harmful to a person's life when it's not met, depression is bound to happen especially when you are surrounded by people whose actions or words seem to remind everytime of how much you've failed to achieve, at this point your mental health should be the most important to you irrespective of who is making you feel like you've failed or failing.

If you've tried numerous times and still couldn't succeed in that area then you should know you have to look somewhere else, just try not to allows people's expectations to weigh u down

Expectations should always be within limits.After a child is born, we think about whether this child will grow up to be a doctor or an engineer.This is where we make the main mistake.How can we predict what a child will grow up to be and what his intellectual potential will be?These expectations become a burden for us as well as a stress for the child.This becomes very frustrating for the child who has not yet learned to speak.Growing up from a young age under a pressure to live up to our expectations.We can only hope that the child will grow up to be an ideal human being.Expecting more than this can cause stress and frustration for us and the baby.

Expection most time usually accompany disappointment that is why we don't have to have high expectations on people.
We are all humans and we have the potential to disappoint since we are not 100% available to settle all our problems and needs.
It is important for us to reduce the expectations we have on humans even the government is included here.
Disappointment is everywhere so we need to know what we are doing and not to be over relaxed.

I totally agree with you that opening up to your family and friends that have high expectation of you, when you're finding it difficult to live up to their expectations is very important, if you're not able to communicate effectively with them to understand your shortcomings, then you'll be surprised that you'll work yourself to depression, and they'll be the same people that'll ask why you didn't open up that you're having challenges, that they would've provided emotional or financial supports.

Also remember that despite your best efforts that you can't please everybody, you can only do your best and leave the rest, ofcourse this doesn't mean that we shouldn't work to become better. The point is that our wants in life are insatiable, because the more we achieve the more we want to break that record and achieve more, so remember to give yourself a break sometimes and just relax and forget all worries.

This is the mistake most parents normally make, from the time of child birth they decide what the child will grow up to be. They don't even care if what they are aspiring for  the child is something that the child won't have passion for and it is going to affect the child.  Parent should learn to allow their child to choose what they want , when a child love a career and goes after it, do child performs well and will never regret about his or her choice for life.

You shouldn’t allow the feeling that other people will have on you be the reason why you’re doing so much that your body can’t handle. I have seen situations like yours where children who do well in high school are expected to still be the best in their university, but in reality it is not always the case because of the competitive nature of the environment and meeting of new children from different categories which some of them are just talented and gifted. You don’t expect you as a person that is only focusing on hardwork to better yourself as the person already born with that knowledge in them, definitely they will always do better than you and you shouldn’t feel like you are not trying enough too. You know yourself better than anyone, so do what works best for you and stop thinking about what other people will feel about you with the grades they’re expecting from you. As long as you don’t fail, you’re good to go.

Depression kills and when you allow it to get into you without having to control it at it’s early stages, it becomes hard for you to do so when it has already being built inside of you. If we all want to live life on the basis of what people will always say, what people always expects from us, then we are living a life for the people and not for ourselves and before you try to adjust back, it might have become a life of regrets and “has I known”. Don’t let no one deceive you that you can be the best always, no one is perfect and everyone at some point will never be the best but will fit in any category they find themselves. Your mental health is more precious and important than all of this, so take care of it before it controls you.

Firstly know your priorities, do you want be successful and happy with your result and all it took to get there?
Or do you want to be successful with a lot of load on you.
Here's what I mean, family and friends usually put up a lot of pressure on you. You might be doing above averagely well, but they just think you're not doing enough.
They tend to see the worst in your efforts rather than the best of it.
So basically, keep yourself in a serene mental state and be aware of your output and input, and do the best you can

Mate, you should be yourself at all time, you know yourself, it is normal for people to be expecting much from you, but you should understand that no matter how expectant they could be you are the one that will make that happen, don't allow pressure to bring you down, set your goals and their is nothing you can not achieve, life is understanding, you shouldn't allow family to make you derail and thats why you should go for things that you have passion for so that you will not be seen as a failure later.

As student or skill learner, you should have the spirit of I can do it but without any pressure, there no limit to what anyone can achieve, the only setback people have most times is perseverance, if you don't persevere and keep trying at all times you won't get to your destination.   

You're right. Being a dependent your kind of request must be visible in a sensible and considerable aspect. You can keep what matters aside and make requests of enhancing your pleasures While there are other necessary bills to make requests about.
Once you needed a help also work out hard for a payback because some days the parents that catered for you today would look to you tomorrow because either age might take place in them or changes which is constant might be possible whereas they might not be in the same position to keep a stable financial income a continuously.
Succeed is just built over night, it takes a gradual process and so when it comes to you don't fail to utilize it well.

Coping with family pressure & expectations can be hard. It's vital to communicate with your family expressing your feelings & setting boundaries. Seek support from friends or a therapist who can provide guidance & perspective. Focus on self care & prioritise your own well being. Set realistic goals & expectations for yourself understanding that you can’t please everyone. Remember it's OK to make your own choices & pursue your own path in life. Surround yourself with positive influences & seek validation from within.

We all have to face our fear and not allow it to keep compiling till is going to choke us. We need to know what we are doing and don't become too easy to allow things that don't worth it to keep taking our time. With the current situation in the world now, we need to keep doing what we needed to keep surviving and those that have enough should keep helping others to stay strong rather doing things for ourselves alone with helping the neighborhood.

Handling the expectations of others can be a difficult task. But remember, you're the captain of your own ship, and you get to choose which demands to meet and which to decline with politeness. Here are some additional tips to help you cruise without a hitch

1. Set reasonable goals: Make sure your goals are achievable, and promote growth over perfection.

2. Seek affirmation from within: Rather of seeking approval from others, learn to value your own worth and abilities.

3. Keep your values in check: Make decisions based on what is consistent with your particular ideals, rather than surrendering to human nature and celebrating.

You may use this chat to let them know that you're scared that you won't be able to live up to their expectations and that you're feeling overburdened by the pressure of them. You might let them know that you wish to follow your own path rather than just doing what they think is right and discuss your own aspirations and plans for the future. Having this talk could be difficult, but it could also be very crucial for you to set limits and stay loyal to who you are. By doing this, you may avoid placing the blame elsewhere and keep the discourse focused on your own experiences.You may use this chat to let them know that you're scared that you won't be able to live up to their expectations and that you're feeling overburdened by the pressure of them. You might let them know that you wish to follow your own path rather than just doing what they think is right and discuss your own aspirations and plans for the future. Having this talk could be difficult, but it could also be very crucial for you to set limits and stay loyal to who you are. By doing this, you may avoid placing the blame elsewhere and keep the discourse focused on your own experiences.

The best way to live life is to live without being bothered about what people will say,  when you are always thinking about the opinions of people in your life . So many people have gone so depressed because of the opinion other people have towards them . When people know you do your things without minding what people will say, or if it is good or not they won't even have that time to interfere into your matter because they already know you don't care about them.

If you are to live on people's expectations, have it at the back of your mind that you will regret doing so because people you think, you are doing your best to prove a point to, don't care as they claim to, of what you become in life.

Your family can show interest in your studies by asking about your performance in university but that doesn't mean they will care for you or provide a job for you after your university days. However, when you have check everything you have done to please everyone, you will come to the conclusion of, living your life on the expectation of others is a wrong move a human being would take in their life.

It is very wrong for some one to live with such reality of life  based on what people will say or think about you, it shouldn't be about living to meet up people expectations but it should be about discovering yourself as a person by understanding your strength and weakness, people dont give a fuck about how you were able to be successful all they just want  is  for you to be successful, it sucks trying to live up with certain life expectations, however you just have to be the best person that you can be an never give a fuck about what people thinks or feels about you.