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The worst ridiculous and ugliest moment I have ever encountered pertaining gambling is when a friend told me and few other friends that he was going to take responsibility of the bills for our weekend hangout.
He had us that confidence to be unfailingly.
Guess what???
It was actually from a game he booked against the weekend that had him that morale to had projected this weekend hangout amongst us and it was not that he had secured the money to be assured.

As a matter of fact, he was nowhere to be found all through the weekend and could not even take his calls because he felt messed up of himself for the false promises.
While time passes by, you can imagine how he narrated the stories and felt remorseful of being a d!ck head as the game failed him as predicted.

There’s nothing on being optimistic about how you will manage the future profit of your gambling. The only problem on this story is he already committed while the result is not yet out. He should at least make his plan available to him only before he start committing with the potential money he will earn when his prediction works out.

I usually done this whenever I want to buy something before I proceeded to gamble. The only difference is I’m okay whether I win or lose since I can still purchased my desired item without the help of gambling profit. I’m just doing it to have a goal on my gambling so that I will not over committed to earn more outside my target profit.

You mean he won and used all the money to gamble and later lost all? That is gambling. Or you mean that he staked a bet and thinking he is going to win and told you that? That is not wise at all. Or maybe he staked parsley and have won almost all but the last matches or match messed things up for him.

Even if a friend tells me that he is going to pay for everything when we hangout or in a bar, I make sure that I have enough money with me in case of any disappointment.

We don't need to use the money that we are expecting from the game that we bet on to havejope of paying our bets or make promises to people. Neither should you rely on such money that have not been won. The reason is that there is no sure bet, until the game is over and you won, that is when you can say that you are lucky.

What your friend did is not new, and that is why you see gamblers staking with the amount that they cannot afford to lose, and when the game is over and no luck, they might start chasing their loss, because they cannotwt go of the money, and they want to win by all means.

On the other side of the coin of do not borrow money to gamble is the do not make any promises or plan from your imaginary future wins that hasn't been confirmed. It was just being over-confident. I understand his disappointment and yours too but it is nothing to worry about. We all have been there, we make plans from money that is not in our hands or bank account. This proves that no matter how confident we are in our bet slip there is that huge unknown which is out of our control. Next time your friend makes a promise of this nature, quickly chip in a "what -if". "What if you don't win?"

Does it even occur with the online gambling platforms that you may play a bet in advance to pay later when the game starts, i don't think of that and anyone who also engage in this kind of practice for the physical gambling will only be disappointed because he cannot recover back the money to the gambling platform after he already lost the game, what i know is gamblers paying before gambling, except they lend from friends to gamble.

At the first place that conversation of yours with your friend doesn't have an assurance, that he will owe money, just a casual arrogant way to get superior with the decision-making that is always normal into a conversation with a group of friends just to become dominant, and another thing is don't rely too much with other people or act they will owe something from you as long as there's no assurance and just a words don't trust anybody. I don't think so could be related to gambling or in an off-topic.

I consider this as an unwise decision made by most gamblers. It's like building a house without any foundation. I've seen so many gamblers in my local area, pricing and making plans to purchase some new items hoping that their next game will come out well. Shouldn't we consider this a bit of addiction? I call it stupidity as winning in gambling isn't guaranteed and you don't know what might happen, you will end up losing more than you imagined. Your friend shouldn't be like that but rather wait for his winnings to be sure of first before planning out such weekend gatherings. Though I don't see any reason for him to be hiding as even you and others should know very well that winning in gambling isn't something that happens as expected.

You 're right, this might sound like building a house without foundation but actually many gamblers act irrationaly. They count on money they didn' t win yet and if they are really addicted they believe that next game will give them winnings they often already spent in advance. Because for such gambler failure is not an option.

In the back of my mind, I do have plans but I'm not making specific things that I will do with my winnings even if the game has not yet been planned, I don't want to be disappointed it's like counting chicken when they are still eggs it's very premature, you have to focus first on the game if you're in luck and if you win then you can plan what you want to do with your earnings.
It is a great feeling and you can plan well what to do with your winning if the money is already in your hands. although there's nothing wrong with doing that, planning ahead if you can accept the outcome win or lose.
 

No one can deny that they do not have this type of thoughts in their heads especially when they are damn sure of the game. When I have these sketchy plans of what to do with my gambling profits it is not buying something massive like as house, a car or business but to spend it on having a good time.

No. It has nothing to do with addiction. It only does when it done to the extreme. I think is normal but some persons over do it. The addiction component is when the gamblers gambles more often than they would normally do in a week with the hope of using their gambling profit on something. Anyone who maintains his regular gambling routine but still make plans ahead of what to do with the profit isn't addicted.

As long as you are comfortable with the result and the outcome will not make you feel disappointed I don't see anything wrong with it, I sometimes do that, and it motivates me to do and try to have good bets.

The most important thing is you know the fact that there's no guarantee on your bet and it could go either way you can laugh at your choice and those plans you have while starting to bet.

Acceptance in every bet is important you will not become disappointed it's ok to plan what you will do with your winning as long as you prioritize your enjoyment more than your profit.

This story of yours OP is what most gamblers experience especially if they have obligations to fulfil to their families.

Imagine, you have this promise that you must commit but you instead relied on something that is absolutely risky to answer for such promise and obligation. This is also the reason on why gamblers should not have any kind of moral and financial responsibility if they want to gamble in the first place. If you cannot provide food on the table to your families since you rely on gambling as your funds, then might as well quit and assume responsibility on it.


I think you are somehow missing the point that OP said.

His friend promised them something in which the promise was contingent on him winning on his bets and gamble. Imagine if this were a different scenario- you have kids and you have a natural obligation to provide them with their basic needs. But in order to provide them with these, your funds must come from winning a gambling game which is VERY outrageous to begin with.

The lesson from the story is don't promise which you can't gives because that can makes you in trouble. You can say that you will buy foods for your friends after you wins in gambling games but no one can guarantee you can wins in gambling. When you lose and your friends asks you to buy them foods, you will confuse how you can buy that foods. Your friends will disappointed because you can't keep your promise and they will be sad. The worst of that story is his friends can leave him alone and will not trust him anymore because he can keep his promise. 

We must not to be like that, especially with our best friends because they are our closest friend. It's different if they are not our closest friends but we can't still do that to other people.

This is not strange to me. In fact I know of a story where the hopeful gambler took his friends to a drinking joint to merry and watch the last game to his bet, the game that he perceived as sure bet but alas! the game didn't favour him while the cash out that he was encouraged by his friends to pick up had disappeared. Thus he was painfully left with the bill of close to $22 to pay, if not for his understanding friends that rally round to contribute and support him to clear the bill. So such happens when you have high hope and confidence in your bet. It shows no prediction is perfect because as far as football is concern, it is FT whistle that determines the outcome of the match.


You guys are quite lucky he didn't take you people to the hangout already while waiting for the cash out, otherwise you guys would have paid with your own money or washed the dishes there  ;D

Every gambler are optimistic until they lose everything, Lol. And that's what happen here, he think that he can win and so he take that big risk to gamble that money because he is "very positive" that he turn it around for the better. Seen this before though, even I had this kind of encounter, saying that I will meet with my family and celebrate holidays and unfortunately I have like $600 that time and I say that I will help and cover some expense.

But at night I go to a landbase casinos and lose everything and I had to this "disappearing" act and I felt guilty about it when I look back. Fortunately for me, I have learn that hard lessons and moving forward I don't do that kind of s**t things.

This is really unwise to even think of, already spending the inbuilt profits when the physical one hasn't come,I use to describe such experience like saying the spirit of the money has gone whereas the money hasn't come.
It's really ridiculous,what then will become of him if eventually the game didn't play as expected,he really has so much fate in this game I can see that but he should have waited for the big win before ever having the hangouts.

A friend of mine too fall into such like to him he would cash out $1000  and we know how huge this is but then the money hasn't come but he took his guys out to chill hoping to pay the next day once the money drops but hullaala it shocked him.And he had find his way out to clear the mess.

He was expecting a win but failed. I would understand that he didn't have the money but he shouldn't really making promises like that. He probably wants to impress friends, the problem is that the money isn't in his hands yet.

Can't say this is a gambling problem but him promising things like that. We all have friends that you really can't rely on, a friend who says he wants to do this and that but does something else. Unless a friend is reliable and promises something and disappoints me, that would need an explanation. But if he isn't the reliable one, I would not expect it. Could it be that OP expected too much from this friend?

Projection is powerful it helps you to be motivated, its disadvantage is the likelihood of getting disappointed, you can project on other interests or areas like tasks in your work or studies, projecting that you already passed the exam and working in a top company will motivate you to work hard to attain these.

But its different when it comes to gambling because however you project your plan, your chances is still 50/50 so better get used to accepting whatever outcomes when it comes to gambling, imagination is powerful but acceptance will relieve you of any stress in gambling.

It is not advisable to put hope on Gambling outcome. I can not put my hope in gambling expecting to use the money I will win to take my guys on a hangout, because gambling game is a game of luck which may or may not play. Instead I will have set aside some fund for the weekend. If I win the game I stake at the end of the week, it is an additional amount to replace the spent one, but if It doesn't then I forget About it.

In conclusion this story entails or emphasis on Puting false hope In Gambling which is not a god one, because some people may owe a big dept hoping for a game yet to play, and if the game disappoint them, they become emotionally devastated and may end up having issues of dept. So let be careful in Puting false hope on gambling.

This is actually funny and disappointing, why will anyone want to hope on something they've not seen or something difficult like gambling, there's a difference between mere joke and faith like I believe your friend had so much faith to some extend he had to promise for celebration, this is strange.
I believe most gamblers who sold out their properties for gambling had same faith as this, let's be realistic there's nothing like 100% accuracy or full confidence when placing a bet but people don't want to listen

of course gamblers do have this thought but I can't express full confidence to such extend, gamblers really need to change this thought cause gambling can't be predicted fully so what will happen next if we never get to win the game we had high hopes on. Winning is fun and exciting especially gamble wins that come unexpected but it should not be taken for granted as we should maintain self control

The only time I have seen something like this is only in skits, I haven’t seen anyone who called his/her friend and told them he would handle their bills for an outing just because they have a game that they are sure they’ll win (there might be some who would actually do something similar but it can’t be me). It is known that no game is 100% sure, even some with 80% chance of winning still end up being wrong because of a small mistake.


You should talk to your friend not to make similar mistake in the future cos if he should keep doing something like that he might end up putting himself in trouble.

Gambling is an unpredictable terrain, hence it is cardinal not to depend on it for any expenses. Some persons do stupid things like taking loans and plan to pay with profit from gambling. I have not replied on gambling wins to fund any expenses because I have always known that gambling is not a source of income. Those people who see gambling as a source of income always end up disappointed.

I don't think any gambling platform offers credit services to customers. Gambling is a risky activity therefore any gambling platform that gives credit facilitates will go bankrupt. Most of the physical casinos I have visited are always right boldly inside the casino that credit betting is forbidden, so you cannot gamble without paying. However, I think OP was talking about his friend who promised to foot their bills during the weekend, meanwhile, his hope to get funds is at his stake. But he lost the bet and failed to show up for the outings.

Well yes and I'm sure some gamblers here are betting because they want to earn money to buy something, and that's the same thing. Is it bad? Sort of, especially if that desire pushes you to bet bigger amount despite of losing. I had an experience before wherein I want to buy something worth $500. Although I have the money that time, I chose to gamble half of it and end up losing. Foolish right? But the idea I had there, was to buy something and still have an amount to be left in my pocket that day. However, the decision isn't practical. This may sound funny to some but I believe other related instances were done by the others too, which is the negative side of projecting the profit. It could make you greedy of winning. Expecting to win is not a bad thing but if you'd be overwhelm by your emotion because of that, then that's a must to avoid.

I also have not seen anyone done something like this before. If my friend said he will take care of the bill, he will. If I tell my friends that they should not worry that we should go out and have some entertaining moment, I will not disappoint them. This is because I have the money I will spend there on my bank account. If the money is not much, I would have told them to know what they will buy. I do not see OP telling the truth but there is nothing impossible on earth.

Of course because even if we badly do, how can we do it when there is no physical cash yet in our hands? It's because it's already deposited in the casino and we are currently planning if what games we will choose and play. If it's not deposited yet, the money can still be smaller than to what we are planning to achieved.

Planning in advance is still beneficial because we might end up spending the money on something that we don't genuinely like and we will only regret it later on. It only depends on the plan though. The ones that is story tell in the OP is an example of plans that we must not do. We also need to know and accept that shit happens.

Been there and done that but the promises I made was to myself and not to anyone, it's ridiculous to for any gambler to try to sell a bird that is yet to capture, that's like giving yourself a false hope that will not end well, what you should do in a situation like that if you have a potential ticket that you know is coming home but probably has two or more games remaining, it's better to cashout half and leave the half if you need that money badly, don't rely on such games when you need the money to sort out somethings.

Another thing is that, such type of games should remain within you, making it public wouldn't help the situation either. I know of high stakes bookies that stake huge amount of money, when they have such type of games with 2 games left and a very big amount of money, they don't bother to post it online because there are situations that if you are a big gambler and gamble millions, there is probability that your game might be manipulated and your tickets will lose, I have seen many of them in local leagues. Not a good idea to even be telling people that you are expecting such a big amount of money in the first place for safety.

From what I understand with the story, I conclude that THE PROBLEM IS YOU AND NOT YOUR FRIEND.

You called that as worst and ridiculous moment of yours just because your friend didn't end up covering the supposed weekend hangout?

The nerve. If you have a weekend hangout then, of course, bring some money as well. Why end up being called that worst just because he didn't fulfill his promise? If your friend isn't able to show up then still, invite him to come along and share the bills instead to boost his confidence and overcome his embarrassment about what he did.

That’s funny to me, gambling doesn’t works like that, you might be confident that you are going to win a particular game, but at the end things might not really go as planned, you shouldn’t have plan for any amount you haven’t won in gambling. Gambling is luck, and you might be really sure that what you predicted will be right, but mistake might happen and things will go against you. I think some people who do take loan to gamble, or sell properties to gamble are always confident about their bet, but at the end things don’t go the way they plan.

Funny how most people still have not learned from gambling lessons; they still feel like they are in control of the game, and as such, they just want every game to play the way they predict it to, which is one of the worst expectations for anyone to have and put their hope on.
 
It’s obvious that your friend overrated himself with his too much confidence in the game, which ended the other way around. The only luck that he had was that he had not even preordered anything, hoping to pay once he cash out of the game, because that could have been a total different case here.

Don't underestimate our expectations and that of the system because it comes with different patterns. Profits ought to be generated based on the strategies we've successfully mapped. The projected plans we have successfully mapped out always turn to either our favour or against us. Gambling always go through essential paths and contrary to our actions. It's been noticed how we operates and I must say, it's never one of the challenges to talk about because it's been in existence for lengthy years.

It is stupid from someone to tell friends something he will be doing for them while he is not sure if he can provide it or not.However as a gambler I understand him,I always project myself to what I will spend the money if I hit a big win from the session that I am going to play and that is the main motivator for a gambler,you cannot start a real gambling session if you don't see yourself in some fancy outcome from that session so based on this context I don't blame him that much,it happens that just you make yourself look ridiculous in front of your friends if you cannot achieve what you tell them that you want to achieve.So it is better to keep it to yourself,you start a session to have fun and project yourself as a winner out of that session,however to go telling people that you got something assured as nothing is sure in life.

We can't argue for sure if the OP story is a real event or formulate but from what I have seen about gamblers and how they all behave it is possible this could be true.

I can recall my early days when I started gamble making parley bets, in the course of the early events playing according to my predictions and remaining late events like 1 or 2 games left to play, at that point I just start having imaginations in my head  on how I will spend the money. Unfortunately, at the end the ticket get spoilt by the last game and I just feel disappointed and unhappy thinking of how I have planned on expending that money.

But as I kept on gambling over the years my perspective changed about unfinished parley bets, I don't have to think of the money as my money to be spend until the finally results. So I just believe that anything is possible in gambling going by gamblers diverse behaviors.

I've heard words like these from my gambling friends many times already, but we did not take it seriously as we all know that nothing is guaranteed in gambling, but only the confidence of his game and odds analysis that was pushing him to tell stories like these.
You guys should not take those words seriously, especially with gambling when no results are guaranteed. That friend of yours should've somehow showed up despite of the disappointing result. Well, I don't know what kind of circle you guys are, but if that friend is an arrogant type, then he must have been so embarrassed of his overwhelming confidence.
I really don't believe someone can get a 100% guaranteed results with the bets we make even if it's carefully analyzed, after all it's being called predictions because it is not guaranteed even if there are basis.

Like I said before, I personally haven’t seen anyone do it but that doesn’t mean someone out there is not doing it.

From the way you explained it using parlay I am a little convinced cos there are times when most our games have entered and we’re left with just few more to win a huge some during those periods we might felt that the money is already ours (and that’s what might have happened in the case of the Ops friend).

this is one of the bad practices of people when it comes to gambling, you lead what will happen right away because it can cause problems, if we are not sure of the outcome then we should not think about what to do or how much we will spend because we have not yet holding the money and the fact that you promised your friends right away, you must fulfill it because you told them that you will pay for your food outside and then suddenly you will not show up because you don't have money because you lost the gamble that you did. Lesson learned, let's not lead things. been there done that, the more we expect, the more the chances of having good things are taken away from us.

This is why you don't count your chickens before they hatch. It could lead to a lot of disappointments and frustrations, especially if you have already planned to do something on your winnings. It's not uncommon for people to visualize and allocate their winnings right even before they have it on their hands. I did this before and boy it was a bad experience for me, as I was already hoping that I could something the next day should I win the bet that I placed now.


At the end of the day, the odds are always stacked against us in gambling, no matter the type of game we are playing. Gambling is created as a form of entertainment to those who can afford it, and to make money to those who run it.
 

If I were that friend and I had pre-ordered anything, I'd definitely go into hiding and disconnect all my numbers and socials for at least two weeks after the expected delivery! It's embarrassing to pre-order something you don't have the money to pay for, especially in front of your friends for the sake of bravado :D

I only laugh out loud after reading the title of this topic because when I first started gambling, I exhibited such an attitude of always being affirmative that the game I have staked in will be successful, and I will even start making plans for how I will spend the money while the game is yet to start. It was crazy how, in such a situation, one will be raking his or her brains on how to spend the profit while at the same time losing their mind in suspense about how the game will actually end. 

Don't blame your friend so much if he is actually a new gambler, because I noticed that some new gamblers can actually have those kinds of thoughts running through their heads when they have just started gambling. Such experiences are mostly encountered when the person is staking on sports games that are yet to kick off, or probably someone who just believes that gambling is just something they can do at the casino on their first day and return home with plenty of money.

The least the friend could have done was to own up to what happened and not disappoint them.

Life does not always happen as we have planned, and neither does sports betting or gambling. Also we shouldn't be in a hurry to make a pledge at the spur of the moment because we think our decisions are right. These are games of chance where the outcome is random and revolves around not one factor but many.

Yes, were are saying the same thing, it is definitely with parlays that this circumstances do arise with, as when gamblers will be having a few more games left to play after some other might have played and just remaining either a single game or two and they gambler would feel like there's nothing stopping this single game from play in as much as others before it has played.  But there's no sure prediction in gambling and more often than not, gamblers have experienced disappointment under such circumstance. Gambling money is never ours not until the last game has played accordingly as predicted, and this is something we all gamblers should lo accept so we don't end up making unfulfilled promises like in the Op.

Every individual that gambles must at some point encounter such though because it's either you loose or win and since one is aware that they've got chances of winning then it's normal to make plans of what to do with the profits incase you win. There's no law against that but the only problem is making good use of the profits when you win. Some individuals instead of taking their profits to make better use of it would rather try to double the profits and end up losing everything.

 It's a good thing that you're not depending on gambling as a mature source of income, the fact that you make such statement means that you got a good paying job and you understand carefully that gambling should be done for fun or as a side hustle and not to be taken as a major source of earning a living. Individuals like you could barely get emotional when you lose a bet cause I believe you use your spare cash to gamble.

This scenerios remind me of something that happened sometimes ago with a friend, on that faithful day, he was bragging how he own and hold 21 million of our local currency in his possession, at first I was surprised how he can carry 21 millions in his pocket without showing at all or even carrying a bag to convey the money, but to my ultimos supprise when I enquire further he told me that he hold the money in a bet he staked and waiting for the outcome.
I became ferrous with him because he over play it when he can put so much hope on a game that is yet to be played, but then it shows the level of high s addictions and imagination outside whatever possibility that he may thinks possible for him to own or win that money.

If you have good plans for money before you get it, and then you win finally, you may become distracted from spending on unnecessary things that you forget all the good plans you had for the money you were expecting. Whenever there is a good plan for money before the money comes, write down the plans and then avoid people who you know can make you spend unwisely on unimportant things.
It is best not to make gambling the only source you expect money from to accomplish any plans that you have.

This what you called irresponsible, being too ahead of himself without securing the money first before boosting about anything, if I where him I will really become shameful of course and will not show up for sure, I have never done this kind of scenario to my family or friends because I also dont want to jinx anything, like I dont want to mention things that is about to happen until it happens because I know the saying that its better to stay quite until what you expected to happe, happens, so that man let his arrogant take over that's why he jinx his own prediction, anyway ai hope he learns his lesson and will not do that again because it can also affect your friendship, look how shameful your friend is, he didn't even show up and might take a while before he do so, in gambling there are no certainty so dont get ahead of it and just believe or rely on the end results.

You are just shaming yourself if you do this kind of act. Why compromise yourself for something you don't have yet? Definitely, you will get ashamed for what will happen if you failed your bet. I don't think you will have the face to meet up with your friends after such failure.

I don't think it is a smart move promising to your friends for something you have no idea what the results will be for your bet. You are just subjecting yourself to uneasy position.

From what I understood from the whole story, the guy has not even won the game at all, but he was hoping to spend money on the game he played and was very sure the game would enter according to how he had predicted it.
 
He was very confident enough that he would win the game. Maybe this is due to all his games playing as predicted, and only a few were left for him to finally win the game, and due to that confidence, he promised his friends a hangout with the money.

When I was a newbie gambler I also did something similar by projecting what I will do to my winnings without even thinking that there's no assurance to win at all. As we know, it's a game of chance and luck is a major factor in order to win. The difference is, it's just in my mind and didn't promise anyone to have a false hope.

Well, it's a lesson learned that in gambling you should not be too hopeful to win and don't borrow money just to sustain this habit. It's funny how a person made a promise knowing that he is just relying on the result of his bet. He just humiliated himself for doing so.

I have seen this happen many times not just with gamblers but with other people too. It’s incredible how people can make plans off a promise of something that they have not yet had. Attitude like this makes the loss extremely difficult to handle because now not only did he lose money, he plans for the weekend got ruined and his pride has been hurt. There is no assurance in gambling, it’s a game of odds and you just have to accept that sometimes the odds are not going to be in your favor.

This happens everywhere not only when people gamble, and the reason for this is that most people are not really equipped to deal with uncertainty, it is because of this that we get newbies looking for investment opportunities that give them huge profits and that cannot fail.

Investment opportunities that only exist on the minds of scammers, as anyone that wants to get huge profits must be willing to take the corresponding risk, so it is common for people to look for the sure thing and instead find the opposite and lose their money as a result of the fear they have towards uncertainty.

Who has never made plans hastily when they already knew they would earn extra money?
I myself always spend the extra money I earn a month later on my employer's end-of-year bonuses on my credit card.
However, I have never been so foolish as to make plans with something that was not guaranteed.

Probably, this person you mention was very confident in his bet and something very wrong must have happened hastily to ruin his plans.
In any case, I think the friends were much sadder than the bettor, after all they were counting on getting a free party, which didn't happen.

This is called “sharing the skin of an unkilled bear.” Well, or there is another proverb that instructs us not to utter shouts of joy until you jump over some obstacle. Indeed, this is very stupid. You've just prepared for the game and it's good if you've done a thorough analysis. It’s good if the odds for your possible victory are high and you have a large bet amount. More precisely, it is impossible to say unequivocally that this is not good. After all, one small nuance remains: the bet still needs to be won. Many people underestimate the probabilities of random events. But the truth is that no matter how right you think you are, there is always the possibility that somewhere you made a mistake. First, wait for the game results.

Not at all... He actually had overconfidence in such a future game which he booked during the week against the weekend.
Unfortunately for him the play failed him and he has already fixed a weekend hangout amongst us as friends with the expectation that when the game had played, he would take care of the bills at our hangout.

So it was like he disappeared and disappointed all those promises all because he does not have the funds to cater for the hangout since the game has also disappointed him.

Where I'm from this is called "Counting chickens before they are hatched" and that is not good at all, in fact I know that many people must have a lot of confidence in themselves and well yes, it shows that this gives a great effect. . I am positive and as far as I am concerned things can be very different because it is good to have confidence, positivism and everything that can be done, but you also have to have your feet on the ground, in casinos you cannot trust everything. time on yourself that you are going to win, no, in casinos what you have to do is guarantee that what you are paying as money is exclusively what you have to spend and assume if you lose, but we can never count winnings that you do not have yet, because if the opposite happens the emotional blow is strong, then you have to have a little peace of mind and wait to play and obtain the results.

In my story, I interpreted what you said in this thread, if I win gambling, it means we hang out somewhere and I will pay the bill. yeah, we do it a lot like the title of this thread says. but I personally, never promise anything definite. whether it's friends or family. I never promise anything, because the problem is that what we are after is the winnings in the betting predictions that I made to fund the hangout that we are planning. usually I'll say, "if" I win the bet I bet on, we'll hang out and I'll pay the bill. in our place, this is something normal. however, not because we are very sure that we will win the betting ticket that we make. This is just a discourse, if we or I win a bet, especially one with a big reward, we often celebrate by hanging out at the weekend or when we win.

There are also things where things like this become a tradition of a certain place, country or region. For me it's normal, especially when I bet with a high bankroll. which means, if we win, we can use the funds like the story in this thread. but in your case, the problem is that your friend said he would be responsible for the bill for hanging out on the weekend. It's as if your friend promised and believed that he would definitely win. contrary to the story I told, I can do it "IF" we get a win. whatever type of gambling, especially in my story is football, it can be a single bet with a large bankroll.  or, bet multibet at very high odds. well, what I told you is almost the same as your experience. the difference is, we, I, or my friends, don't make definite promises and are responsible for making it happen. because, we are well aware that in any type of betting, everything is subject to possibility and is related to luck.

This people is just dreaming unrealistic thing that's how they get disappointed especially if the result is not as what they expected. That's also the reason we should not lead things in advance because the result would really be different and for sure that if we are not lucky then we will be disappointed then might come up with idea about try to catch up more and win which is dangerous action since in gambling if you are unlucky for sure this will occur whole day. So to avoid getting any problems on gambling activities having a conflict with other people its better to settle all those necessary things that need to pay attention and gamble only when everything is clear. Since if we are stress for sure this will give us negative result since negative feeling will brought up some bad energy and it result to bad luck.

We have all made mistakes as no one is really perfect, but at the same time there are some mistakes that are understandable and some others that are not, and to me this mistake falls into the latter category.

Since failing to fulfill your promises to your family or your friends is never a good thing, as the next time a person where to assure them he was going to pay the bill, there is no way they are going to trust in him when they have such an example fresh on their memories.

Yes, I sometimes do imagine where I would spend the money if I won the game and I have already successfully done that. I took my two kids somewhere they will have a lot of fun and they did after I won like a month ago with my highest multiplier ever in slots.
The wrong thing about what your friend did was he told you all that he would pay those bills for your hangout even if he had not won anything yet. That I don't do.
First, I will try to win the money and everything that I am projecting is all in my mind. The good part of doing this is the element of surprise. Even my wife will surprised when I suddenly tell them one weekend that we will go out somewhere to have fun and the most surprising thing is you are not even looking at the prices of anything they want, just buying it all for them.

Well, yes, but because poker gives me income on a regular basis. If you bet in a casino and plan what to do with the jackpot money, it is not a very serious planning because you don't know when you are going to win, and by the time you win you will surely have spent more money in that game than the one you win, so it would have been better for you to save it.

some people are just optimistic and thats fine I mean someone can have a dream despite the outcome might shown different result, I mean if you are a fan of arsenal for example, and you know full well that you put your money at stake for this club at a reason and you know very well based on your own judgement whether arsenal gonna comes out victorious or not, what do you think? wouldn't you project your winning later on because you're so sure.
there's most certainly no harm in being optimistic about the result of your judgement,on the other hand if its turning out to be a lose then a lose is unavoidable and what you can do is accept it anyway.
I always project my winning even before the game played, what kind of phones i'd get with the winning money, its just a small joy before the match thats not gonna do something bad to you.

its only become bad when your expectation is too high to the point where it just gets unhealthy that makes you think you can't afford to lose your money, only that case it will affect your mental heavily.

What he did was to inform his acquaintances that they should not trust him because he broke the promise he made to them. That's why there is a saying "don't speak without certainty" because a lot can happen if you lead it with promises. It's true that nobody's perfect, but we should also be aware of the words we say because like what happened to him, his image can be damaged by the people close to him.

In my opinion, anticipating how you would spend your potential gambling wins when you haven't even staked is simply too much. When you put in too much hope into anticipating gambling wins you end up being very tensed before the game which can even alter your decision making. Aside from that, if you as a gambler eventually loses the game you tend to feel the loss more since all plan you intended shattered the moment you lost the bet.

The fact that a majority of gambling activities and games require a great deal of luck is enough for a gamler to understand the losing that bet is very possible. Therefore the earlier and better you are able to keep These in mind, tye easier it would be for such a gambler to manage losses.

What your friend has done is called unrealistic hope. He was busy hoping in something that has a high possibility of failing him tremendously. He surely counted his chicks before the eggs hatched. He's not alone in this act, sometimes some bet looks too good to fail, but in the end there is nothing like a sure game, even the biggest team has the possibility of flopping anytime. Taking for example, Everton which weak Chelsea beat 6 nil just last week, turned things around by beating almighty Liverpool by two goals to nil yesterday, I could not hold my frustration when such stupid performance from Liverpool deprived me of cashing out something nice for the week.

People do have similar experiences when they book what they think is sure and have hopes on it only for it to disappoint them and render their plans futile, but of a truth gambling isn't something to rely on as a basis of financial decisions making, so anyone who makes such mistake is invariably setting himself up by himself. You better find something better to raise finances from rather than hoping on gambling which has no definite return on investment.

I always do so. I'm a man of patterns and trends after all.

Having some sort of agency and expectation as to how my games go allows me to become more confident with plays, more level-headed when I lose, and at the end of the day, allows me to really enjoy every time I gamble. A case could be made for people who just gamble on the fly without really having any idea as to how much they are willing to spend but at the end of the day, it would only work for you if you're gambling occasionally and are not gambling for profit. Learning or setting amounts before I even gamble, even projecting how much I'd earn and lose in the process is what makes gambling work for me. These predetermined courses I always take, while it gets tiring after some time, hits the itch in my brain that goes off whenever I gamble, and it has saved my bankroll a couple of times in the past already, so I know that this is a system that works for me.

Not here to preach about it anymore or something. At the end of the day if gambling on the fly is what works for you and you know that you won't get hacked to death by the cost of not being more prudent with your bankroll then go for it. Go crazy.

In the case of your friend though (pretty misleading title by the way), He had it coming, it's always show first, talk after. Not the other way around. Which is why I myself don't go out there actively telling my friends that I'll treat them, they gotta bring their own bread, cause only by then will I realize that they are indeed true ones and not just in it for my cash.

Maybe because of shame, and not being able to face the fact that his empty promises could not be fulfilled. Imagine the way he would tell this story to you as well as to others. Of course, this retrospection gives rise to regret in him because his gamble was in vain and regret because what he promised was beyond realization. A valuable lesson about the importance of being responsible for our statements and actions, especially when it involves money or promises to other people. And it's best not to promise or swear when we are unable to fulfill it.

Gambling is full of uncertainty and unreliability, so it would be ridiculous to guarantee a win that we can't necessarily achieve. If we really can't afford to treat them to a hangout, then never mind, don't push yourself too hard just because you want to appear capable in front of them. Wanting to act cool and arrogant, in the end because the bet placed ends in failure, this ends up embarrassing ourselves in front of them. Unless the victory is already in our hands, then we can freely use the money as we wish, whether it's treating friends or something else.