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My daughter is 10 years old and wants a mobile phone (mainly because some of her friends at school have them). I have told her when she starts secondary school she can have a phone as she will be travelling on her own.
Some parents don't seem to be able to say no to their children and I have seen children at her school as young as 6 walking around with the latest iPhones, this is society gone made surely when parents cave in and can't say no to their children.

It is good to be nice to one children so as to not instill fear in them. However it is worst to let them have it all the time. Children will always be children and like adult to, our wants is insatiable. But the question to ask is that. Will a parent allow his child to watch an adult only site or movies just because you don't want to say no to him? I think a reasonable man wouldn't allow such. So always give them what is good and best for them at appropriate time not what they requested for.

Good decision not allowing her to fry her brain. I've seen news of small kids who have developmental problems after their parents basically left them with phones as baby-sitters.

This is the future, if your child doesn't learn how to use technology from a young age they will be left behind.  If you want no phones go be Amish.

some parents find it difficult to say no to their children because they want their kids to be very comfortable mostly cos they dont want them to suffer like they did when they were younger.
and kids of this century so much love technology and they can do what it takes in order to have them.

most parents decide to give their kids whatever they ask of because they do not want ot deny them of some of these things that they (parents) where denied of when they were at there(kids) age.

Most parents just give in to what their kids want because they don't want to be bothered with having to deal with the tantrums. Nowadays, parents give very young kids phones, tablets, laptops, PCs because they don't want to be the one who will have to stay with them and play with them or do stuff with them. It's sad that this is seen as normal and it also makes you a "cool" parent. Bonus points if you give them the latest models. And you have some people even defending this kind of practice by saying your kids will get left behind if they don't have access to these gadgets at a young age (and the OP was talking about 6-10-year-old kids.) No wonder kids nowadays feel entitled.

Wealth plays a vital role in this subject. The ability to give anything to your child/children wants, depends into the amount of money you earn as a provider, if you can, then you will provide. Another factor is that how do parents treat their children? Will they spoil or discipline them? In the act of knowing that their likes and wants will not result into something beneficiary.

I feel you, I am a teacher and I experience those things first hand. Not only about phones, many of the young children now are very spoiled and are very hard to teach. I believe that parents need to discipline their children first before us. Many working parents couldn't just say no just to shut their children up. I do hope that those parents will learn to say no to their children so they will be disciplined and all.

Well, we can't really blame the parents this days since they are the last one's that experienced the strict parents with great punishments if they did not follow their parents. In my country, my parents experienced that, having a strict parents, they are telling me the stories that even if they just look at you, you need to be careful on what you do. The effect of that was not on them but will be on the children since they experienced it, and they know that is a bad thing to do or to be experienced by their children. Usually, parents will spoil their children these days because their parents did not spoil them in the past, they are making a comeback not as a strict parent but a not that strict parents. But, there are still these problems like the parents having a story telling about their past having a strict parents and can't do really anything without their consent, well the excuse of these children nowadays will be, "it is not that the children are changing, it is the parents that are changing". Right isn't it?

Spoiling kids with what they like are normally the choice of the parents, I'm not yet a parent as of now but I've been working hard to give everything just for my children in the future. But it's also a good thing that you don't spoil her that much and you're teaching her in able to achieve something, she needs to work hard and wait for it. Study very well and achieve anything they want in the future. Although you're really capable giving what she want.

I disagree on this point - technology to this extent didn't exist when I was a kid - most of this stuff was learned at an older age for myself. I think giving your child some books will put them at a greater advantage as far as development and learning that letting them stare at an iPad or the like.  There's no real advantage to learning how to use an iPhone at 3 vs at 10 or something like that. I'd be willing to bet it actually stifles social interaction.

I think if you are always given the desire to follow the times, then your child will become lazy, spoiled and become naughty. Actually, you do not have to always follow your child's wishes, but give a good example as you teach about positive and negative about your child's desire and you can teach your child to act decisively but in a subtle tone, then your child will listen to you. Some parents always avoid the word not to his son so as not to hurt his son, but if you always like that then you are wrong to educate your child.

It's not about being ignorant of technology or not, it's about gratification. Like how fapping to much messes with your brain.

Some parents just allow their kids to play all day, and we know games are designed to be addicted. Not exactly good for young, growing brains. I'd say keep these gadgets away from anyone not yet in gradeschool.

Parents spoiling their children would spell out trouble in the future. There should be a limit
to things and parents as disciplinarians should do a good job.The way children behaves is a
clear reflection on the parents as well.  ???

Hallo all, in this case apply the law of balance, right man in the right thing, do not want to lose strategy with children, we are more first live in the world, we have more to experience various events, please do not lose the bully with new children only live a few years alone in this world, we have been longer, dictators to the community should not be !!!!! but the dictator on his own son, MANDATORY !!!!!!!!!

I recently had a daughter and although she is a small baby, I understand perfectly what it is about. She still does not know how to talk and she's already being so cunning. Just try to deny her anything, how she will inexperably cry, or think of some other way to get what she wants. I can not even imagine what will happen next and how to refuse correctly.))

educating a child with love is important, but there must be firmness from parents for things that can damage the future of children

Love of parents to children can sometimes never be comprehend but a parent just have to caution his self in order not to cause trouble. 

I don't see any thing wrong in satisfying your children but you just have to let them know how to be a better person telling them that rain doesn't always fall

I think it all depends on the parents and I, for one, salute you for not allowing her to have a phone until she really needs it. Nowadays kids are so addicted to their phones that they seem to forget how to actually socialize. Instead of being a kid and playing outside with their friends, they are bent on their phones playing games or tweeting. It's sad but it's the truth.

Times have changed... During my time, it is not "necessary" for the children to hold and own mobile phones not unlike today. And I think that's only proper and appropriate. I dont see any reason for a young to have that device. However, we cannot blame alone the parents from letting their child to use phone at the very young age since today, it seems like it is "normal". Well, in that case, might as well limit their children's use of cellphones instead of forbidding them to hold such. It is not bad to go with what's in and let go of what's out as long as it is for the betterment of an individual. I believe that with proper guidance and thorough control, the use of it by children can be made possible.

I believed that we as parents have different ways in teaching our children. Its good that you had been able to say no to your child when she ask for the phone. But we all have different situations in life maybe those child who has their phones given by their parents is use as thier way of  communication. There are some parents that are busy and can only check on thier child through phones.

Parents who over-indulge their kids most times are setting up precedence that would not be in their kids overall interest. Parents should be able to draw a line between pandering to children's antiques and showing them consideration which is not really out of place.

Sometimes parents can not say no to their children for several reasons: first, the parents are too dear to the child so that whatever the child asks is always fulfilled. This is certainly not good for the development of the next child's personality. Children will tend to be weak and lazy. Second, it could be that parents can not say no to their children because they do not want to be bothered with the will of their children. According to him, the important thing children do not disturb the activities of parents, what the child demand is met. Third, parents may always meet the demands of his son, because for him it is a prestige. He wants to show everyone that he has a lot of money and with that money he can fulfill what he and his son want. For me, saying no to a child is a necessity, when the child's wish is beyond the limits of the rules, especially religious and social rules. Saying no to the child does not mean the parents are not dear. But saying no is part of the affection of parents whose benefits are felt by children and parents later. However, of course said not done properly and with affection.

Parents needs to be firm to their children , Letting your child have his/her way all the time is a recipe for disaster and it's going to hurt the child in the near future.

I'd say usually spoiled parents (spoiled children before..) also makes and raises spoiled children.
Parent's who don't know the limits and don't know how to discipline their children properly
will definitely have a lot of things to worry about in the near future, as their so called spoiled brats
grow up in society, problems will emerge and it will bite back to the parents.

My child at the age of 7 has a mobile phone, but he will not go to school with him since I think this is not right. Better buy your child a watch with mobile communication.
At my child at school, children are allowed to use a mobile phone only for a change if they want to call their parents.

Child is one step of human develop that can't define behaviour. They have the world.
If any behaviour, then we say no/don't, it can generate several probability in their psicologist. Maybe they will very bad, or very quitely.
So, the conclude in my opinion is, we allow to say no/don't when they out of edge. What's the edge? It very colorful with any factor.

Not planning to give my children their own phone for a good few years yet, although who knows. Once they're around other children who have phones it becomes a lot more difficult. For the moment Barbies do the trick and I'm hoping it will stay that way for a good few years yet. Definitely don't see the need for one for children under the age of ten, it's difficult enough limiting time on the tablet, although it does seem to be a case of 'out of sight out of mind', they quite happily play for hours without it, but as soon as the tablet enters the picture it's tough to get them off it. I find that the more time you spend off your own phone, the easier it is to persuade children to do the same. How can you be surprised that a child wants to play on a phone when all they see is you staring at at your own?

Really some parents can't tell children "no" I and I consider that shortly such parents will shake "fruits".вeдь encouraging any whim of the child we turn education into overindulgence!
if you so have to say no and ragirovat on production tears, snivels, shouts and stamping by legs that can just talk to the child and obstnit your decision? and in general I consider what indulged the child will deliver a heap of efforts already in a teenage voszrast and precisely in old age the glass of water won't bring.

because they couldn't say no to themselves.


funny as soon as she will have one the conditionning matrix to sexualize her the fastest and lead her to sell herself will be deployed... becareful, they control what she will see... it will be subtle, even to the point that a male brain will not be able even if really aware to pick the subconsious programming...

remember she is just useful for them until the wall, then they will dump her...

it's fast electronic combats warfare, build by the proud Veterans of various armies... soulless...

a story, young girl get a phone, they cloud her to for one of them, in a decentralized matter get her first.

that's it...

some are so naive and uneducated, they can't even conceptualize this... they just deny, self preservation for the immature...

remember if you don't pay her her phone, and then everything she will be tempted to sell herself for that...

poor you...

Over pampering of kids is not healthy for their overall development. Parents should grant the request of their children when it is necessary and know to say no of such request will not help in their growth and maturity

I think if you always cave to your children's wants it hinders them in the future. I think that might be part of the problem with the western world these days. To many people believe that they are entitled to whatever they want when that simply is not the case. You cant always get what you want and that is a lesson that needs to be learned early.

thats bad parenting if you cant say no to your kid, but those parents that give phones to their kids too may also have a good reason for doing it. but good parenting is when you have a principle and you o by it no matter what your kid says or want.

I have 10 years old son.and i buy him phone since ge was 7years old.i buy him not because i cant say no to him.or i buy him what he want.it depend on how you let your xhild use his gadget.i let him use saturday and sunday.and if he finished already his homework.and i dont let him to use internet if were not together.he used his phone for games.

You made a right decision mate. You do not let your child ruin his future with his own doings. When a child adopts the use of the cellphone or any other social media at the very young age, it is impossible for you to change this kind of routine when he is doing it excessively because it releases a chemical called dopamine that gives a feeling of "feels good" which is very addictive if it is not given a treatment at the very start.

The society should understand, or rather the parents, that the child should communicate with the rosters at such a young age, and not sit in the phone, because the kindergarten and the school are one of the stages in the formation of the person's personality.

it doesnt matter weather you give or not give her a smartphone it could also be a very good decision.

I'm completely at your side. Sometimes it seems to me that people are crazy. Sometimes I think that it was and will be.
Some parents are simply irresponsible. Not only they do ALL the whims of their children. And their children will be egocentric. Such upbringing affects families like yours and mine. Because it's really hard to tell a child "no" and explain why you made such a decision.
Some parents are too lazy to educate their children, because it is much easy just give the child what they want and do not think about the consequences.

It may not be so much that the parents can't say no to their children. Every parent has their own philosophies and their own way of thinking. Unfortunately, I know that a lot of parents buy their children iPads or phones to keep them busy. I have seen many parents get small children (like 3 y.o.) iPads and turn on a video for them. It's no coincidence that some of the most viewed videos on YouTube are for children. This isn't the only reason that parents may give their children phones though. If a phone isn't a big expense for a parent, then it may just seem normal to a parent to give their child a phone. Perhaps they even consider it a safety issue. If the child has a phone it will be easier for them to quickly contact one another.

Yes there are lots of parents give their children everything they wanted to even its unnecesary things already.Those parents spoiled their children too much.But for me those treatment isnt good.Instead of teaching our children for them to learn things, you just made them spoiled and let them grow up in a wrong way.I know some parents just want to give everything to their children to make them happy but the most important thing to give them is a lesson that will make them as a better person.

I find it easier to be a good disciplinarian with my boys than with my daughter.  I'm not sure if its cause they are older than her or just cause they are boys but I can tell them no when I need to but my daughter just owns me and she knows it.  Gives me the pouty look and I usually can't say no. 

I think this just happens on those who belong in the upper class. The perfect term to use are those spoiled brats that want all their wants to happen even their parents don't want to. In our country, that culture mostky didn't happen in the lower classes. Children were disciplined by their parents and the parents were the on who will say what their children would do as they know more about it. I think that should stay that way as I think our parents decision is for the good of ourselves, and I belive in that.

For those who are parents, this is not a joke. We love so much our children that sometimes we cave in and are not strong enough to say no. It is very dangerous. First, it dangerous for the children because they cannot know the difference between what is good and bad. Secondly, parents by being weak, do not play their roles. I believe that progenitors should stand tall and face their offspring. No means no must be their anthem. I have seen in some families when parents cannot say no. Total disaster. It is really awful. Parental guidance is not a lush. It is important.

Many homes are undergoing lots of issues as their children dictates for them. Because they are being showered with so much love and affection

Your upbringing is good, keep up the good work.
Do everything right, do not worry about it

I salute parents who are serious with the upbringing of their kids. Some parents nowadays does not see the very disadvantage of spoiling children with gadgets and stuffs that does not really matter. All these will have an impact with the future of the kids. You may not see it now, but someday it will reflect. Let the children do what kids do and not just using cellphones, watching and playing because this will not do them good.

Parents must remember their role in the life of their children. They are the parent which means they must guide the little ones towards the right path. They must be firm with their principles. They must believe in their own style of upbringing. They must know what good habits they should instill to the children, while avoiding those that negatively affect them.

some parents find it difficult to say no to their children because they want their kids to be very comfortable mostly cos they dont want them to suffer like they did when they were younger.

Yes, you're right but we can't blame them for doing such. However, parents like me should understand that spoiling their children have disadvantages. When a child finds that all of his demands are being met he never bothers to develop the necessary life skills he might need later on. After all, if there is someone who always brings me what I want then why would I bother to learn anything new?

"No" doesn't mean bad or good. I just want to say that children shouldn't identify "no" as something negative. Because if parents say "no" and give arguments to this "no", children will always understand that it's not just the willingness of parents, but that parents want only the best for them. There always should be a conversation in relationships between children and parents. As both will understand each other. What could be better? Also, parents should exactly understand why they're saying "no" to their children. They won't have any doubts about this, and then saying "no" will an easy process.

I agree that some parents cannot say no to their children. Of course, we always want the best for our children, we must always know when to stop. But if a child deserves, I think you can and sometimes reward him for the efforts, no iphone of course ;)

I think the problem is not that they can not say no. Parents want to show their status and money, so they buy expensive gadgets for children.

I think if parents can afford to buy expensive gadgets for children, then this is good. It makes no sense to refuse if you have money.

And, in effect, a lot of young people think that everything is going to be handed to them.

 think children do not need expensive gadgets. This brings up bad feelings in them.

I am convinced that saying no to Children sometimes is extremely needed in case you want to make them understand that they can't get everything that they want in this life. Also it helps them to understand that they can't manipulate with their parents.They need to understand that having things that others possesses is not the most important thing

I think it's wrong when parents can't say no. it is the point of education and making a child a polite person. He-or-she can't always get what he wants imho.