When both entities, a responsible gambler and a non-gambler, stays in same apartment with an addicted gambler. The responsible gambler will figure out earlier than the non-gambler, that the person is addicted to gambling. From his activities and behavior, an experienced gambler can detect that it's addiction. However, if the person is not staying with the addicted gamble in same house, it'll be difficult to unveil the truth from him. Due to their pretense, when asked, that all is right and cool with them, to escape critics. The issue could be that the person can't conclude that a person is addicted to gambling, if he's not being told by the addicted person. But the experience gambling staying close to the gambler, will know that there is something wrong somewhere in the life of the gambler. Then he can engage in a serious conversation with the player. He could open to him, since there are both in the same niche. Humans tend to share genuine information with their cohorts because they engage in same activity.

Addicted players who don't wish to change are the hardest to heal or cure of their problem gambling. Every other addicted player can be rescued out of his gambling struggle. Families can achieve it with the collaboration of the addicted person. If he's not ready to comply. He wouldn't think of letting them know in the first instance. Addicted people have the tendency of hiding their habit from any third party, not minding if they're family or not. People don't want to be blamed for their habit. Especially when they're still comfortable with the habit. Hence a family that wishes to change a member from addiction, should be willing to engage in constant discussions with the person. The aim is to know as more information as possible in the person's life. How they discuss about gambling. They can mention about how much they spent during their last gambling session. Whether a person is known as a gambler or not. He deserves to be loved and allocated some discussion time. It matters in figuring out what the person is under passing hiddenly. The more the problem is hidden, it escalates internally in the person, thereby increasing his pains and suffering. Instead of them complying and sharing the problem with people, they'll think it's preferable than getting rejected or blamed by other people. Who may go ahead to spread the news of their ill condition. In a nutshell, our thoughts are different.

Emotional influence on a gambler is a strong factor, how the gambler thinks, take choices, change decisions etc. matters in his gambling activities. If he's a person who find it difficult to take risks, he wouldn't try it anytime in gambling. So, it depends on the type of gambling and how they think the risk is worth taking. If a person who is not good at risks and identifying the right time to make such decision, gets carried away emotionally to indulge in risky gambling. He may not recover from his mistakes, easily. As he has no prior experience regarding such lifestyle emotionally. Hence, it'll affect him emotionally, to begin to think that way and making more mistakes. He could be thinking it's the right thing to do but is definitely arresting himself to gambling addiction. Whatever strategy a gambler chooses to practice he should make sure he masters it. Trying anything without few preinstalled ideas, is not encouraged. Players should try what they have been doing and knows how to get around it. It'll help us to conclude that with regulation any strategy is crucial and preferable.

Gambling has never been an investment. People only started looking at it as an investment due to the jackpot and huge wins it could provide to a gambler. In agreement to the general rumor that all the money a player has spent gambling, will be handed out to him as a jackpot. So, people easily spend money on gambling on such bases. And they don't regret losing, the only problem is that they are actually suffering pains than financial loss. Gamblers know that they'll win at some point. It gives them some bragging rights as a gambler. Seeing it that money shortage is the reason to the trouble or problem why gamblers blame their new habit inherited from gambling, could be argued. As not all are actually suffering from the problem. Gambling addicts don't always run out of money completely. They get worried over the amount of money spent on a single day because of gambling. Such shock in them can be choking them to an extent of raising an alarm. Which during his explanations to others would make it sound like gambling is the cause his trouble. But dip down he was only passing through the pain of spending high amount of money consistently.

He is probably repeating same thing, whenever he notices he's lost lots of money while gambling. That doesn't make him irresponsible. I actually chuckled reading his response, in the sense that it could be his way of cautioning himself for spending so much money gambling. Since he's not worried on the development, he's all fine with it and nobody is getting disturb for his action. Then his reactions shouldn't be a trouble either. Gamblers have different ways of dealing with losses. Some time when I lose the reactions from me doesn't match my normal action or behavior. He only needs to find something else to make him feel happy when in such a mood. So that it won't eat him up in the process. It's always a thing we should expect as gamblers. Not all gamblers, though.

A gambler without an aim is mainly risking his time and money. He'll stop gambling is the money runs out. The risk as stated by Op, is not something a player can engage into with no prior target. One can't just take a risk for no reason. In any venture in life, we ought to take risks. But what is the aim of gamblers who take frequent risks and don't achieve their goal? Risk is to be taken once a while, not all the time. When we are taking risk in gambling, it has to work with our instinct. Personal speaking, when I'm into a game, at some point I'd feel a bit sure of what could be my next outcome, I seize the moment for some risks. Although it doesn't occur to be as I presumed, but sometimes I win some funds out of the risk. Gamblers are meant to have strong observation of the game they are playing. Such that whenever they deem it right to take risk it won't affect their bankroll. Risk should be taken, not often, once a while.

Substance abuse as you mentioned can be a huge damage to the body, but it has no much difference to gambling. Because no form of pain or sickness is good. Be it mental or body problem the person will not stay comfortable. None of them is encouraged due to the bad behavior it causes to the gambler. On the other hand, a gambling addict may not be efficiently capable to resist chasing loss for some time. The compulsive gambling in him won't let him some few moments away from gambling. A person who is still enabled to control himself at some point in gambling is not addicted. Although such people can get addicted, if their goal is mainly about making money through gambling. That's why gamblers are asked to gamble at a minimal duration and wager smaller funds, which they can be able to lose.

That's his fault, maybe he was losing and later started winning. He's lucky he stopped gambling after winning. It could be he realized his mistakes and checked the time, then rushed back home. A man like that is not qualified to father 2 kids. He would have done the gambling online instead and watch over his kids. The children are very young and can't stay on their own. What was he thinking in the first place. His condition is core addiction. And if he begins to lose, as you said, his behavior to his family won't be nice. Good the police reprimands him and charge him to court for abusing his kids. Luckily, the kids weren't harmed by the dangerous dog. Since his wife knows about his compulsive gambling habit, I don't think it's the man's first day of leaving his kids behind all alone at home for gambling.

Those who are lucky enough to win the jackpot are quite not safe from knowing when to stop. It's a mind game. Everyone is involved. Knowing when to stop in gambling is vital. Especially during a period of losses. The gambler needs to halt his urge for continuing the game. I've thought about the need to limit oneself in gambling and realized it's among the best strategies in gambling. However, due to greed of winning like other gamblers, many players have lost their sense of control to chase of losses. Which then puts the gambler on a long run of trying to achieve all his goals of winning big immediately. Those risks are not conducive for a gambler, in any way. No gambler is unique from another, in terms of winning, gamblers have almost similar chances of losses and wins. Although some may have played for quite a significant period that it's their day to win big. I think it's more of a personal experience or encounter.

Winnowing out the thoughts while gambling is quite a great method of gambling. At least the gambler would be able to detect the right move at a given time. What is most crucial is the ability to change ideas while in the game. Some gamblers find it hard to stop, because they've not met their target. That's wrong. If the target is hard to reach, change of idea could be the right step to take. Being pessimistic about our previous strategy before starting the game, could affect the gambler to continue losing. But the change of mind would help the gambler to know it's not in his jurisdiction to choose the outcome of his game. Hence changing his idea or thoughts to something else as, being able to stop, when not getting anything near to his target, can help him out of his troubles.

Those experiences do occur to me but disappears after sleeping over it. The game is over, I'd remind myself. Then spend some weeks without gambling as a means of thinking of my mistakes. Because moving on to a fresh gambling session after the previous losses could be detrimental to gaming skills, and affects the emotions, which could lead to more mistakes. I've been in some situations where the money lost not only pained me, but the doubt I had on the predictions which could have landed me a win, got me worried. Gambling offers unique experiences to gamblers, and we need to understand that it's not meant to make us feel so bad of ourselves. What matters is staying responsible and maintaining our bankroll henceforth. The past moves so fast, and we have to run to the future, such that the past don't remain in our memory. Most gamblers who don't let go of their huge losses, end up wondering over the past that they forget what to do in the present.  

Those doing the match fixing could be leaking some information to other vendors who sell the fixed game for more profits. But the problem arises when the game changes, but not in their favor. I don't think those who fix the game always win all the time. Because another millionaire could be looking to win using the other team. So, football as it stands, remains, that anything can happen. The game makers could change and the players playing to win. Gambling can't be guaranteed 100% due to all these barriers. Hence, it's crucial for gamblers not to depend on fixed games. As most of them are genuinely lies and framed up predictions. Another disadvantage of the fixed game is that the gambler would be looking to wager huge amount of money, since the game is guaranteed to him. On the long run he'd find out he's lost it all. It's better for gamblers to stick to their personal strategy, including the spending method.

Gamblers who do this don't actually depend on the money that can be made through their daily gambling activities. During my few months research on professional gamblers I realized that they actually sponsor it with their money. And focus on other beneficiaries from the casino to reduce their expenses. However, gamblers who don't have much money, but want to become a career gambler need to avoid it. Because there is not such way of making steady income in gambling. Retirees who want to enjoy their time off the cooperate world, could decide to do it via gambling for an extensive period of time. Thereby getting fun, and Aswell earning some bonuses from the casino. All this may not happen if the gambler is not keen to have some free time away from gambling. I mean the career gamblers still know when to stop gambling and take some rest.

That's an improvement on the Op's end which shows he's recovering from his mistakes. His thoughts may have been on making more profits with the loan. The urge of making quick money also leads to the increase of numerous gamblers who want to earn via loans. It also removes the senses of the losses in gambling, regardless of where one got their funds. A gambler who doesn't have those controls will find it very difficult to abstain from taking more loan. Even though he's having a hard time with paying back his debts. The player still goes ahead to seek for loan from other people aside his previous lenders. Soon, the amount will accumulate and become huge in his eyes, then his senses begin to creep in bit by bit. His mistakes he'll begin to realize, and ways of solving the problem may not be easy to find. Hence, he'll first want to tell other gamblers not to take that route. When in trouble, we all need to begin from somewhere. I think it's what Op is doing right now.

Those who don't accept defeat would have to deal with the consequences of not accepting the unending losses attached to gambling activities. It's a personal decision which may have to do with multiple factors. Which we can't predict exactly why a gambler wouldn't stop gambling for some moment, after facing a spree of losses in his gambling activity. Some could be in a dilemma that eliminates the choices of being restrictive. As they're confused on ways of countering the problem gambling in them, hungrily seeking for few wins. A lot of gamblers respond to this differently, and few learns to restrict themselves, while others struggle over it and try to maintain and regulate their gambling urge. A gambler can easily change his authority over the money he earns, and hand it over to his spouse to help him manage the funds, to help them deal with the gambling difficulty. Even though, lots of gamblers, are well aware of the problem affiliated to gambling, but find it hard to ask for help from loved ones.

Addiction is not good for gamblers, similar to financial loss. The later leads to addiction. Lack of control pushes gamblers to get addicted to gambling due to loss of money. However, lots of gamblers deal with financial loss, and abandon addiction. Yet that doesn't erase the chances of addiction in the gambler's life. Whatever threat the financial loss pose on the gambler, he'd have to deal with tempting urge of gaining his funds. So, if a gambler is able to restrict himself from being compulsive, his financial loss wouldn't mean a thing compared to the addicts. Gamblers who are addicted suffer from both financial loss and mental disorder. Which is dangerous to his health than what financial loss could cause him. No body will be happy recalling he, at some point in his life, was aggressive to his loved ones and caused his family pains. Such thought is harmful to the brain and could get a gambler depressed. In a nutshell, being on a safe side of financial loss is quite better than losing control and getting addicted.

Not stopping will make him sell another property, thereby compounding his troubles. If he stops, he wouldn't battle anymore with borrowing money or finishing his belongings for the sake of gambling. Gamblers who have decided to sell things to raise money, may not find it a happy ending if they don't win enough money. Such people are not expected to stay happy while losing. Gamblers who enjoy the process of losing, don't have anything to lose. Instead, they are winning by earning some experiences with gambling and how to manage their emotions and money. Gamblers are not governed by same mentality or aim. Everyone has his unique reason of participating in gambling. Some gamblers get the fun, while losing few funds and their time. Many others don't find it funny in any form. Differences in gambling has made it impossible for people to generalize on the effect of gambling on players.

That's a trouble and requires extra help to make it out of the struggle. In this stage, it's no longer in his jurisdiction to stop those feelings. Since he's been feeling this way for quite a long time, opening up to people around him would be a best choice for Op. His emotions have clouded his thoughts, and he is having a hard time making decision on stopping. If his thoughts were sound and able to control the body, he'll easily wake up and stop gambling if his losses are getting countless. Hence, the player may not have any aim of why he's behaving the way he's found himself. Trying to retaliate for his money, wouldn't be the issue. It's a one-sided case. The player controls himself to stop when winning. That means he gets worried emotionally, while losing, and must win to be free from his worrisome thoughts of losing often his funds. 

Addiction knows no boundary, experts or professionals are vulnerable to it. Gamblers need to stay careful at all costs, not to fail. The income earners who get addicted along the line, will most likely end up facing a hard time with their businesses. It's one of the fastest means of crumbling a business. The gambler's productivity could be affected due to the addiction in him, which won't let him focus and do the right thing. So, if the player is lacking self-control, he's expected to stay away from gambling, unless he's ready to risk the focus he's got for his work or business. Such a bankroll management, as you mentioned, is quite good and would help the gambler to have extra funds to gamble another day, whenever he feels the urge to gamble. Although it could be hard to control, but it's better to start from somewhere.

Budgeting is great, whether a player is focused on getting fun or not. What is crucial in a gambler's life is being able to avoid compulsive gambling. Like Op is battling with his thoughts, and what gambling has done to him mentally. It's safe to say it's gambling, and not him. But at the initial stage when he started gambling, the blame should be on the gambler. As he was in control of himself. That's the aim of gambler, not to fail during the early stages of their gambling habit. It's a matter of self-consciousness. If Op is keen to change and doesn't want to gamble anymore, it'll take him longer time, depending on the healing method and process. The gambler's family need to also join in changing their ward's lifestyle. No need blaming the casino, being focused on getting cured is the right move expected of any gambler.