...don't understand how it all works. I should have found out more before getting involved:
Not to laugh at the expense of others, but that shiz funny. You just made my day, so worst case scenario, it was not a total loss.
How much coin are we talkin' about here??
I recommend offering a small BTC bounty for successful retrieval.
There are a lot of posts here covering your issue.
start with this one:
https://bitcointalk.org/index.php?topic=8417.0