So one thing that screwed me up was I downloaded the wrong blockchain.  Make sure you download 3.0 if you are using Verge-QT 3.0.  I had to replace it with the real deal one and let it resync up and it took at least 24 hours before I was able to solo mine on the wallet.  Still waiting to find a block only been about a day though.  Although thanks to whoever posted unimining.com in here I now have some XVG from mining that pool last night.  Anyways the key with this wallet is patience.  It takes a long time to sync the wallet and blockchain even when you download it.  When I close the wallet down it takes 15 minutes for it to Load the Block Index every time so I just keep it mining open all day.