thanks I've been reading everywhere since I posted... what I thought was relatively simple to solve, sadly looks like I've lost all my money
First, a minute ago, blockchain.info now shows '1 transaction' (as said I deleted that wallet so looks like my money is going to someone else!?)
Second, thanks for the tip but if I try to send the money again, it obviously says INSUFFICIENT FUNDS.
This thing is diabolical, I simply copied/pasted the wrong address can't believe there is no undo.