Just like doing an ICO most people are required to do a few tasks like email signup etc and in some cases even do KYC for a number of projects. Pretty much all coins have a Telegram group as its a great way to interact with holders and potential buyers or investors. I believe the requirement to do a few basic steps for Free coins is perfectly fine - I did it and now i follow a lot of the coins i have holdings of. If anyone has issues with the processes coins use to get themselves known to the masses need to have a look at what they are after - do i take part in ICO's, Airdrops or FCO's or just wait for exchange listings to get coins.
Once the coins are in wallet you can have them in a private address which no one can check up on so that is privacy and can allow you to transfer to anyone you choose either privately or not.