It depends on where you send the payment, If it's on an electrum address too, The payment should be received almost instantly but for some payment service provider, You are force to wait for there dedicated time regardless of the number of confirmation. But 42 confirmation on Bitcoin means the transaction is more than a day old.

Can you atleast provide the TX and the main problem. The transaction should be successful by this time. But there are some error too if the receiver address is from a custodial wallet. Sometimes the balance didn't sync some instances. Maybe your friend experience that.

Why would you want to cancel your transaction? Did you send it to the wrong address?

If it's confirmed, it's done and irreversible.