Responsible gambling is certainly measured by the process and not the outcome. A gambler who borrowed, stole, sold a property or even spends more than necessary to gamble is not responsible regardless of whether he wins. Winning does not change the fact that he is not responsible. Winners are applauded because in gambling winning is not regular and so it appears strange to hear of someone winning because it means that he was lucky to overcome those factors which makes gambling unpredictable.

On a second thought too, people cannot tell where a gambler got his stake and will not worry about that but in cases where it is clear that a gambler borrowed, stole or even sold his property to gamble even if he wins people may not really appreciate such behaviour because the chances of winning is always slim and sustaining the winning for such gambler will be difficult because he is irresponsible.

On a second thought as you noted yearly is a long time. Making it monthly is not a bad idea so that it can be easy for the team who will be in charge if the proposal is accepted to assess members contributions for the month. I think making it monthly will be more feasible and competitive. Members may not have that flair if it's done yearly. Modification to the idea is highly welcome.

I been dey watch an award programme so e just flash my mind say we fit dey do such award giving once in every year for this local board as e go also make this our local board more active and challenge members to dey post constructively. This award fit no attract any cash price but the recognition alone dey enough or maybe a certain number of merit fit be the price for winners.

The categories of the award I dey propose fit be:

- Member with most constructive topics created (if e tie then we fit vote or use another means to decide who we go award)

- Most active member (This one fit be by nomination and then voting since e fit no dey easy to decide the most active member)

- Topic with the most thread (We go give the award to the person wey create the topic)

- Best new member

- Long service award (This one fit go to person wey get the oldest account if possible or even to our able moderator)

- Best Commenter/Responder (This one too fit be by nomination and then voting since e fit no dey easy to decide the best commenter/responder)

- Most Consistent in Pigin (We fit check that person wey dey always use pigin write for our board. This one fit encourage people to use pigin. If the members dey more than one we fit go by vote or any other means)

Na just suggestion. Ona fit still add more categories or remove any wey no dey necessary if ona see need for the award. Wetin ona think?

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This is really common amongst older men. You hardly hear of a story about a young man dying during sex. Sometimes I think that most of those who died during sex have health challenge which was only triggered during sex - pressure. We should also know that some of the pills we take are fake and causes damage to our system in the long run. I know of a friend who slummed after taking tramadol. Now imagine such reaction if he was having sex. We would all attribute it to the sex. This is why it is not advisable to rely on sex enhancement drugs all the time for sex especially pills, maybe enhancement oil is preferable.

Whether we accept the reality or not, girls of our generation are too wild and know a lot. This is why men too are on constant research to know the best therapy for a lasting sex. This is sometimes not about the girl alone but the fact that other men too may have access to her and so what becomes your fate when you didn't do much? In fact, there is this guilt when you didn't perform well. This is why in such times men would always tell stories to justify why they didn't last longer. Maybe claiming to be stressed out or not feeling fine. Never you meet a girl unprepared except you intend to marry her and so you want her to take you for who you are by knowing your capability but pray she isn't a sex freak or else you will lose her to the street.

Wetin DNA test dey reveal dey always dey shocking. A man go get pikin and him go think say na him born the pikin only to find out say the pikin no be him own. This thing don dey too common for Naija so I feel say to avoid say person go train pikin finish only to find out say no be him pikin e go good make them make DNA test compulsory and free so that nobody go get excuse why him no wan do am. This thing go even reduce the rate wey married women dey cheat and person go dey sure say the pikin na em own or no be him own early.

The way them go conduct the test go be two places, one for private hospital and another for government hospital then if the both results no match because I know say nothing women no fit do to cover their evil then the man go decide which hospital them go conduct the next one and the woman no go know or get access to the doctors wey go conduct am. I go like share this story make we see how bad paternity fraud don dey https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/heartbreaking-stories-of-men-damaged-by-paternity-fraud/%3famp

Wetin ona think about this matter?

Personally too I don't see this coalition as a redeemer because the coalition is about people who are so desperate to rule this country. When people are so eager to be lead watch it closely most times they are not going there for the common good rather than to promote their personal interest. Most of the people in this coalition have held positions and though it may be argued but they didn't do so much that is capable of changing the country. What we suffer today some of them are instrumental to it but now they seem to be bothered because of fear of losing political relevance and also the fact that they don't benefit anymore from the country's treasury but they are appearing to be the Messiah just to deceive the masses and use them as tools to fight the current leadership

This is why I begin to ask why our society find it challenging sustaining programmes that have moral values. Programmes that can help shape the humanity in us. This is the kind of programmes the government should sponsor and promote. To build society these shows are needed but sadly contents that promotes nudity attracts more viewers and sponsorship since it is what our the current generation appreciates. It is no longer about the good of the programme but rather the amount of money it can generate. The government knows exactly how corrupting the bbnaija is but due to massive sponsorship and settlement of different government personalities, the programme is allowed to be visualized at the detriment of societal morality.

The feedback can only become reasonable when to the gambler is still alive to listen to the criticisms or when he is still conscious of himself. For instance, there have been trending stories of gamblers who committed suicide after losing in gambling. For such gamblers what kind of criticisms can bring them to life or even make them learn. Some mistakes are not worth making because of the harmful consequences it leaves on the gambler. This is why it is better to learn from other gambler's experience than waiting to make mistakes then count it as an experience or life lesson. There are also some mistakes that even when the gambler realises it and learn from it, the harm or scar still remains for a while. For instance, a gambler selling his property or using money kept for a business to gamble. Even if the gambler realises this mistake it still does not change the fact that his property or his business money has gone and this may take the gambler a while to overcome the pains or replace his property or the business money.

The best way to go as a gambler is to be prepared to lose. A gambler who has only this possibility in mind will certainly not have problem gambling since he knows that any amount used for gambling is already lost. This will even guide how much he uses to gamble and help him remain worthless at every trial. From experience, the concern of most gamblers is always not about the stake but rather the expectation and the hype around the ticket. When the hope for winning is so high the gambler will certainly feel worried in his mind if he does not win eventually. To stay safe and healthy - a gambler should not put his mind in anything about gambling because it will affect his emotions.

Our problem is not about working in unity because everybody cannot have the same opinion at the same time and politics is about opinions and interest. We can have different opinions or interest but still have national development. Even in the developed world people belong to diverse blocs but this does not affect their national growth. The reasons for this are: there elections are transparent; the peoples choice wins; candidates are easily voted out when they rule against the interest of the country; political offices are not so juicy; their institutions are independent in the actual meaning of the word . Until we are built on these characters we cannot transform this country.

I no know why right from time I no see anything educative and adventurous about bbnaija but so many Nigerians dey spend hours dey watch am and so I just dey wonder why such interest amongst people. No moral value at all, you go dey see sexual scenes, housemates quarreling and partying which I feel say no suppose dey display publicly. Even some of the contestants dey regret after them comot from the house because of the kind backlash them dey get. I no see any good about bbnaija and e no even get any meaningful contribution for naija. Another season done start today and people go lose focus on meaningful things and societal concerns because of bbnaija.

Most times I dey wish say Gulder Ultimate Search go come back. This programme dey fun, entertaining and adventurous and e no get trace of any sexual contents wey fit corrupt the minds of our youths. People fit learn values like endurance, patience, survival, resilience and e dey even promotes the Africanness. I go like to see the return of Gulder Ultimate Search.

Wetin ona think about bbnaija? Ona go like make Gulder Ultimate Search come back?

You are not being rational here. For the herdsmen who have been killing people how many have been sentenced? Does it mean that it is their right to take lives but their lives must not be taken? If the man sentenced happened to be a close friend or even a family to you would you have reasoned this way also? He did the best he could at that time which is self defense because running away may not be the best option considering his exact state, sometimes how far can you run? Some of these herdsmen move with arrow and daggers so would he have ran more than an arrow? I think that these herdsmen are politically sponsored and that is why the victim has been guilty.

This na exactly wetin we dey suffer for naija. You fit know your right but them go still intimidate you and nothing you go do and even people wey suppose help you protect the right go dey against you. The truth be say the man wey FRSC been wan extort get level na why him finally succeed for this case. A lot of innocent citizens dey prison and some done even die because them dey try to fight for their right. The country is not civil so think twice and know when to fight for your right and when to act like a fool so that you no go dey get problem. Court case now as wey dey see am na about who get money pass. The person wey ready to pay the highest bribe or wey dey highly connected na him go always win case so as a common person wey no get to spend thread with caution to live at peace.

Positive mentality is not a sort of magic that gives a gambler winning but it will help the gambler stay away from compulsive or unhealthy gambling practices. Besides, there are gamblers without this mentality yet they can be grinding better results than the gambler with a positive mentality. However, the difference and reaction lies at that point when they are not winning. Positive mentality will make the gambler understand that even if he losses today he can win tomorrow and so there is no need trying to chase loss knowing that if it is his day to win he don't have to stay in the casino for a long time. Sometimes, the first attempt can be a shocker and the gambler will win an unexpected amount but this feeling still won't make the gambler gamble uncontrollably. This is the positive mentality.

The 10% left is enough to make a gambler lose so it is still gambling. Even if the gambler is 100% sure it is still gambling since something is always at stake. It is the confidence that always make a gambler wants to gamble. Just as the gambler would want to stake high if he is sure to win so also it will be for the gambler not to stake if he is also sure that he has a zero chance of winning. It will not even be reasonable for a gambler to decide to lose when it will be safer for him to ignore gambling at that particular session.

On some occasions a gambler would be afraid to place a stake due to fear and uncertainty and at the end the game will play and he will regret not playing the game. Others times, a gambler would be confidence and certain that he will win but end up losing. Regardless of how certain a gambler is there is always no winning guarantee and that is what makes it gambling. If gamblers starts winning everyday the bookies will close down and that is why gambling is always in the bookies favour to ensure that they profit continuously and remain in the market.

Where gambling is legal people would freely gamble since it is not against the law of the country and this means that betting sites can freely advertise their platform which will motivate and trigger so many people to gamble. So, obviously there are more gamblers in countries where gambling is acceptable. I believe that people would even travel to such countries just to gamble and enjoy certain kinds of casino. A core gambler would be skeptical traveling to a country that prohibits gambling, that would be a limitation to his freedom. Where gambling is prohibited there would be very few gamblers and the gamblers are aware of the implication if they are caught. This fear would prevent so many from gambling and some may not have the knowledge of using softwares like VPN to access gambling platforms. Thus, legislation is decider in accessing why there are more gamblers in certain countries than others.


I think that this stats is based on the value of the currency but if we go by the total number of gamblers per head then I will say that there are more gamblers in low income countries who are hoping to get a better life from gambling. No doubt, few gamblers from high income countries may be spending more in gambling compared to the so many gamblers in low income countries due to the value for money. For instance, don't be surprised that if you accumulate the amount Drake alone spends in gambling for a year it may exceed the total amount of money gotten from all gamblers from low income countries in that year. This is why stats will always show that people gamble more when they have bigger paycheck but the reality is that when people gets bigger paycheck they don't see the need for gambling and only few would be gambling for fun.

Yeah, every money counts. If you ever gets in need of money then it becomes obvious why every amount counts. This is why I don't even subscribe to the thinking that people can actually gamble for fun. Like you mentioned and I agree too that fun comes from winning. Practically, it is difficult to win which means that the gambler will not be having fun gambling since winning is not steady and certain due to the unpredictability and probability which characterize gambling. Even when people gamble to show support for a favorite team, they end up doubling their pain, one for losing money and secondly for watching the favorite team lose especially in a highly competitive game that have something at stake. As long as a gambler wishes to win then no amount is affordable when he is not getting the win.

We are used to say that a gambler should gamble with an amount he can afford to lose but in the actual sense do we think there is any amount a gambler can afford to lose? When a gambler places a stake what he sees is not the stake but the potential win. This is why when he does not win he panics regardless of how little the stake is and he will always mention the potential win rather than the stake as the amount lost. The gambling system especially sports betting works in a way that as a game plays the value of the stake keeps increasing and what may appear to be what the gambler can afford to lose may rise and become what he can no longer afford to lose and this becomes a source of concern for the gambler if he losses the bet. In fact, if a gambler accumulates the total of what he thinks he can afford to lose he would know that he is losing what he cannot afford to lose. I think that any penny spent on gambling is a money the gambler have decided to sacrifice with the hope of getting a bigger amount and not because he can afford to lose it.

What's your position on this thought?

The mistakes we make in gambling are not conscious mistakes but rather the reality. As a gambler you must lose but the spirit of trying and hoping to win will always make the gambler to keep trying despite how big the loss is. In fact, when the losses are big, the more painful it is and the more difficult it becomes to stop. At this moment even a little win becomes source of smile and hope for the gambler and he will forget all his losses in a hurry. This is the tricky thing about gambling. The gambler can just have a win with his last stake and that will become a confidence booster for him and instead of becoming more calculative this time he will start feeling that this is the best time to recover from all his losses but this is where the bigger mistake lies - when a gambler wants to recover from losses. No matter how bad you lose as a gambler, chasing losses will be more devastating.