ah i see where i messed up now , thank you . what should i do now? should i double spend them?
You can try that if you don't care about your second transaction ever confirming.
If you can figure out how to clear the unconfirmed transactions from Electrum, you can create a transaction that spends from the first transaction's inputs but also include a higher fee.
If you can't double spend it, then all you can do is wait for a miner to confirm both transactions.
how long do you think that will take? this bitcore is going to take a few days most likely to sync :/ . IS there a way to just cancel it from the server? I cannot find a way to clear electrum its giving me a headache searching. I reinstalled electrum and now it says "unconfirmed parent" im not sure if that makes a diffrence.