Use of Coporal Punishment over a Child

[Doan9269]

Corporal Punishment is said to be an act of inflicting pain to a person (mostly children) in other to correct them for wrong misconducts at home, in school or in  the society either by flogging, squatting, beating, slapping, spanking or padding all with the aim to punish a child in other to realize the mistakes.

As individuals and parents, we really understand how far children can go extra miles in developing a wrong attitude or character in the society, they tend to learn those wrong misconducts majorly from the situation of the kind of environment they grew up from, which means our environment really have great impact on a child moral upbringings.

I understand that in Europe, America (north and south), and Australia, coporal punishment is totally avoided and assumed to be denial of child fundamental human rights and it is against the law to impose a corporal punishment on a child indescriminately while in Africa and some part of Asian continent, coporal punishment is very effective.

There's a saying and i quote "Spare the Rod and Spoil the Child". As parents and upcoming parents what is our respective views in the use of corporal punishment over a child.

[TheCoinGrabber]

A single slap over something severe (like trying on and crashing the car in the garage) probably wouldn't mentally hurt a normal child/teen permanently. It's really a balance. You over discipline a child physically and you get a sociopath, you never discipline them once physically and you get those middle-age Karens throwing tantrums in public.

As the Red Lobster once said, if you don't make your child understand the consequences, it's society that will, and society would be far less forgiving than you.

Personally I don't mind seeing parent discipline their children this way, provided it don't cause severe damage and that it's not habitual.

[paxmao]

 It is something reserved for situations in which there are safety concerns if the young person does not control him/herself, otherwise, no need at all.

[suchmoon]

trying on and crashing the car in the garage

If something like that happens you should probably slap yourself as a parent instead of slapping the child who is already scared shitless and will have to work two summers to pay for fixing the car.

[lumbanrang]

A single slap over something severe (like trying on and crashing the car in the garage) probably wouldn't mentally hurt a normal child/teen permanently. It's really a balance.

Yes, it's true, hitting a child for his fault is a natural thing, as long as it doesn't leave marks on his body, meaning that parents also have to have limits in controlling their emotions. In Asia itself, hitting a child is a natural thing, because sometimes children need to be spanked so that they know what they did wrong. Usually parents here beat their children with objects such as brooms, sandals, or cloth and there is nothing wrong with that.

[Zlantann]

I have observed that corporal punishment is not the best child raising style. When the child get used to the wipe or slap, what else would the parents use. For me advise and counselling has been my greatest tool. I make the child understand  the consequences of his actions and show him the best way to behave next time. But sometimes the child repeats the wrong behavior and this time I would be forced to scold him seriously. My last resort is usually a mild use of spankings that doesn't inflict any body injury on the child. My wife does the slapping more often, but we ensure that our children are not afflicted with permanent physical or psychological pain.

[Mometaskers]

Us Asians get slapped pretty often unlike Westerners and we still turn out normal. Some kids' ears are really on their backs.

Then there's those problem violent kids that I'd often see attacking their OWN parents. When I see those and the parents are just allowing them, I just want to walk over and slap the little shit. Kids at a young age should be taught the consequences of violence - that others would also be violent towards you in response.

[TheCoinGrabber]

trying on and crashing the car in the garage

If something like that happens you should probably slap yourself as a parent instead of slapping the child who is already scared shitless and will have to work two summers to pay for fixing the car.

A single slap over something severe (like trying on and crashing the car in the garage) probably wouldn't mentally hurt a normal child/teen permanently. It's really a balance.

Yes, it's true, hitting a child for his fault is a natural thing, as long as it doesn't leave marks on his body, meaning that parents also have to have limits in controlling their emotions. In Asia itself, hitting a child is a natural thing, because sometimes children need to be spanked so that they know what they did wrong. Usually parents here beat their children with objects such as brooms, sandals, or cloth and there is nothing wrong with that.

Yeah, Asians don't play when it comes to drilling discipline into kids. I personally have experienced the broom, slippers and the rather obscure mung beans.

[JeromeTash]

I understand that in Europe, America (north and south), and Australia, coporal punishment is totally avoided and assumed to be denial of child fundamental human rights and it is against the law to impose a corporal punishment on a child indescriminately while in Africa and some part of Asian continent, coporal punishment is very effective.

I don't think corporal punishment is effective regardless of one's location. I have seen individuals who were abused and severely punished in their childhoods by very bad or sometime very drunk parents, only for the kids to grow up into notorious characters.

As parents and upcoming parents what is our respective views in the use of corporal punishment over a child.

Corporal punishment is a stupid, outdated approach. You can punish or correct a child who has made a mistake using other ways.

[Proro]

I really don't see coporal punishment as being old, it is still effective and reliable, most African parents like coporal punishment and it has work for them over time.

And the good book say discipline your children that ye may be proud of them. And it also say you should use the rod on children.

In as much is not being used in the western world I think it is still effective.

[Kavelj22]

I understand that in Europe, America (north and south), and Australia, coporal punishment is totally avoided and assumed to be denial of child fundamental human rights and it is against the law to impose a corporal punishment on a child indescriminately while in Africa and some part of Asian continent, coporal punishment is very effective.

Even in many African and Asian countries, legislation does not provide for the use of any form of violence against children. The use of violence is a social norm, and that is why we do not find anyone in the community denouncing it, especially since religion adopts it in different forms.

There's a saying and i quote "Spare the Rod and Spoil the Child". As parents and upcoming parents what is our respective views in the use of corporal punishment over a child.

This is supposed to be totally unacceptable. This can be confirmed by reference to all curricula in educational sciences. Violence in all its forms is a crime. And the crime becomes doubled when the victim is a child because its psychological repercussions are catastrophic.
In the latest studies, more than 90 percent of those who committed violent crimes throughout history had been subjected to violence or had witnessed violent incidents during childhood.

[Rockstarguy]

I have observed that corporal punishment is not the best child raising style. When the child get used to the wipe or slap, what else would the parents use. For me advise and counselling has been my greatest tool. I make the child understand  the consequences of his actions and show him the best way to behave next time. But sometimes the child repeats the wrong behavior and this time I would be forced to scold him seriously. My last resort is usually a mild use of spankings that doesn't inflict any body injury on the child. My wife does the slapping more often, but we ensure that our children are not afflicted with permanent physical or psychological pain.

Some children takes corrections if they are given corporal punishment while some children can take correction if they are being scolded or parents give them serious advice. The strategy of corrections parents feel it will work on their children that is what they use.  Some children are not being hit before they do right things,  they accept corrections by word of advice. I think parent should first of all understand their children and know how follow them up.

[BADecker]

The sergeant has more authority and power (generally) than the corporal. Use corporal punishment when necessary, so that sergeant punishment doesn't have to be administered.

In other words, it isn't the punishment that makes the child. It's guidance, so that the kid won't wind up in prison or living on the streets.

[Doan9269]

Exactly, training a child must be done with utmost intent and consciousness such that the child must see to learn from what you're trying to instill in him and not take it as an abuse from your end as parents or instructors, we must correct our children in love and not with anger or aft of wickedness so that they can realize their mistakes, also there are degrees or extent to how far we canbgo as well in using corporals purnishment on them in other not to make an abuse of it, moderacy is good, correction with caution is profitable as well and we must not turn children into a punching bag by enforcing a discipline on them but rather in love and respect to their own right and level of thinking ability which we are expected to operate along with them, we were all once in a time a child and have behaved rudeness in past times.