Too much disasterous threats in relationship and partnerships.

[tomos81]

The rate by which women are going extra miles with domestic violence is becoming so alarming.
Currently here in my society, there had be unstable barbaric and disasterous acts by which women are being exhibition because of their relationships where wives now commonly takes the lifes and disabling the lifes of husband with reasons of jealousy that the man either cheats on them or the man is being Irresponsible to the family.
It's becoming a thing of trends and admiring by this sex (female) that even the single ladies are adjective to possessing such acts with their partners. It even becomes more fearful that the ladies fights themselves in claim of protecting their relationships and they're so conscienceless that they don't care if there'd be lost of lives at the course of fighting for their relationship.

The message being spread in the society resulting to all of it is that it should serve as warning to the rest guys who may intend to push other women from possessing such habits.
Such mayhems actions has really served as threats to the society and inciting to breed the younger ones with such barbaric attitudes.

My question is why not either the man or the woman just peacefully walk out from the relationship if they don't feel welcomed and comfortable anymore instead playing with ones emotions or the intentions to put ones life to an end because of selfish interests and anger of jealousy?
I brought this topic up here because I met with an old friend whom I expected to had married with kids by now but his excuse to still being single is that he doesn't know the mind of the ladies and doesn't want to bring one that'd be a threat to his life in the future.
I hope we can all have a caption towards the severe disasterous exhibitions.

Nowadays, the biggest reason why women have so much power and in front of men is social media, women are so addicted to social media that they don't listen to anyone's words. Self-conceited and full of pride, the separation of men and women is the most common reason in society. But I think both parties must be patient in this matter, and there are some bad-tempered girls who can never be kept in verse.

[Ever-young]

My question is why not either the man or the woman just peacefully walk out from the relationship if they don't feel welcomed and comfortable anymore instead playing with ones emotions or the intentions to put ones life to an end because of selfish interests and anger of jealousy?

Some of us think we have known each other completely without even having an idea on how our fellow partner can react and to what extent they can behave when things turns out the other way, it is also very important that we engage on courtship before making the relationship established, this will help us to achieve a desired goal and get used to each other, then we both also have to develop tolerance for each other if we truly want to stay in a relationship and make it last long for the benefits of the each other.

That's right and it's very advisable for anyone who is into relationship go into courtship first before planning to get married or decided to spend the rest of lives with each other.

So being in courtship as you said can help them know and understand each other, knowing what each of them are capable of doing things like their level of tolerance or patience, that is how they react to matters, especially if you step on their toes, this way can help those in relationships to enjoy and leave in peace with each other and can eventually get married if they are comfortable with each other.

[Richbased]

This inhumane acts are mostly done in Africa because in the western countries issues of domestic violence is not rampant because if a couple feels that they can't tolerate each other anymore they seek for divorce so it is just a case of bitterness and anger including lack of love in a marriage or relationship that makes most partners to go into extreme to inflict injury and other forms of domestic violence on their partners.

It is true that the man is expected to take good and adequate care of his family and not run away from responsibility but in a case where the man don't have enough money the wife should learn to endure except if it involves a man that doesn't want to work in order to put food on his table if not a wife can also support her husband if things are not going well with him yet instead of abusing the man and saying hateful and hurtful speeches that will cause her to their spouse.

In the case of cheating in marriage, I tell people that man is born to be polygamous in nature because no matter how a man tends to love a woman, he can't completely oblige other women advances and all that so women should know that and stop becoming violent just because of a man cheating on them. Anyone among the man and the woman who thinks they can no longer continue in marriage with their partner should seek for divorce and not result to domestic violence.

[JMBitcointernational]

When people newly fall in love, they both have strong attraction with each other. That time they agreed with others opinion, even sacrifice many thing for sake of their relationship and they are partners welfare. When when you being cheated by your partner, when you see that your partner don't like you anymore and start dating with another person then naturally, search things will makes you disappointed as well as make you angry on your partner. How can you let him/her go freely when he/she hurt you? With this thoughts, people do crime.

That is very true my dear friend, there are times like that when both partners make an unending promise to themselves probably because they met each other newly and can do virtually anything possible to make themselves happy. there is no perfect relationship or marriage and this because no human being is perfect, time will come when mistakes will come in the relationship and also hatred and that will bring threats and dislike. some partners are the major causes of their problems because of infidelity or jealousy. i have never heard of a marriage that existed without quarrels and threats and it has become very common in the society. some partners might threat another just to make the person change his or her and might not take it serious at all.  i have also had an opportunity to attend a relationship conference where the guest speaker emphasized that no relationship lasts long without threats or quarrels and that is to say that threats is part of every relationship.

[bluebit25]

(...)My question is why not either the man or the woman just peacefully walk out from the relationship if they don't feel welcomed and comfortable anymore instead playing with ones emotions or the intentions to put ones life to an end because of selfish interests and anger of jealousy?
I brought this topic up here because I met with an old friend whom I expected to had married with kids by now but his excuse to still being single is that he doesn't know the mind of the ladies and doesn't want to bring one that'd be a threat to his life in the future.
I hope we can all have a caption towards the severe disasterous exhibitions.

Imo, perhaps because in this age we have easy access to life stories shared on cyberspace, it can sometimes be misunderstood in terms of seriousness. Actually, I think the problem of family discord has existed for a long time and it will not stop and will take place in the respective social context in different ways.

And maybe the OP is looking at this problem because life is facing those things, I still see that in society, many people's lives are still happy. So we should look at the whole thing to evaluate the issue of fairness, but in situations of family discord, I think the responsibility of each person should be reconsidered because life has many complicated things going on. Even when there is violence, perhaps it is a lesson for those who come after to see the consequences and lead a good life. As for resolving the reason, I think there are billions of different stories that lead to conflicts and it depends on the object creating it.

[Uhwuchukwu53]

My question is why not either the man or the woman just peacefully walk out from the relationship if they don't feel welcomed and comfortable anymore instead playing with ones emotions or the intentions to put ones life to an end because of selfish interests and anger of jealousy?

Some of us think we have known each other completely without even having an idea on how our fellow partner can react and to what extent they can behave when things turns out the other way, it is also very important that we engage on courtship before making the relationship established, this will help us to achieve a desired goal and get used to each other, then we both also have to develop tolerance for each other if we truly want to stay in a relationship and make it last long for the benefits of the each other.

Yes many failed to understand that marriage is relationship that is very hard to known it all that why many do said it's a university one enter and can never graduate all the person who in in marriage need us to keep studying life situation as it keep changing so one need to also apply it in studying it's wife because they are subject to such change Vice versa, it's good to give trust as that is the only root that sustain marriage but not hundred percent and learning the partner behavior should not be under estimated. It unwise to totally give all your heart as anything can happen human being is subject to change at any time no matter how deep the love may be., in my opinion why many if this happens is as a result of having full trust on one partner without carrying details study in who the partner are , what she or he can do it not at any point there occur a changes.

[Ever-young]

To me I think it’s because the most powerful feeling on earth is love. Think about how effective hatred and other emotions can be, then imagine love at its maximum power. This is why people are ready to take their lives once their partner decides to leave them. They have grown too attached and they can’t just walk out like it’s nothing (unless they were never in love).

That's actually right, if people are totally in love with each other, they can do unbelievable things like taking the risk to live with them, especially when they don't have anything doing or don't have money.

Also love is a strong feeling that is hard to resist once a someone has it in them but some people might be in love but still walk away from the person they are in love with for some reasons like their genotype didn't not match or some other health issues.

But being in love with someone who understand what love means and knows how to treat each other well is a sweet feelings.

[teamsherry]

At times people just mistake emotions and dopermin for compatability, marriage isn't so easily achieved and finding a good partner that you can start a life with and suits your character isn't that easy to find, but where its gets bad is when people just believe that since a person makes you feel happy or loved and gives you the self esteem taht you can't give yourself, you begin to hide in that cloud and end up thinking that you are compatible and eventually after a while and the relationship has to mature out if that you can't handle it, they break up for some reason, IMO if people stop confusing themselves with the illusion of boyfriend and girlfriend and face reality that love and a good relationship needs more than feeling then we would have less breakups and divorced marriages.

[AVE5]

At times people just mistake emotions and dopermin for compatability, marriage isn't so easily achieved and finding a good partner that you can start a life with and suits your character isn't that easy to find, but where its gets bad is when people just believe that since a person makes you feel happy or loved and gives you the self esteem taht you can't give yourself, you begin to hide in that cloud and end up thinking that you are compatible and eventually after a while and the relationship has to mature out if that you can't handle it, they break up for some reason, IMO if people stop confusing themselves with the illusion of boyfriend and girlfriend and face reality that love and a good relationship needs more than feeling then we would have less breakups and divorced marriages.

Lot of youths in intimate relationships are being carried away due to causual pleasures and thinks they can go a long way of partnership of marriage.
Infact marriage is all about maturity and not basically about the pleasures both shares because better pleasures can always be attracted and gotten from others which means you could get a better satisfying person than your present.
Marriage is of readiness to pick a soul to tangle and mingle with yours, you both must learn to be tolerance and understanding each other with the shares of love and harmony but if you think you're not fit enough, then you don't have to force in else your partner would become most irritating creating on your existence. Digressing on it, most especially the women, they hides their real habitual characters until marriage then they began frustrating the man while the men too in times gets fed up of being with a particular woman after being too used to her.
Everyone is just sticking to what they wanted and not considering the need of partnership.

[oktana]

To me I think it’s because the most powerful feeling on earth is love. Think about how effective hatred and other emotions can be, then imagine love at its maximum power. This is why people are ready to take their lives once their partner decides to leave them. They have grown too attached and they can’t just walk out like it’s nothing (unless they were never in love).

That's actually right, if people are totally in love with each other, they can do unbelievable things like taking the risk to live with them, especially when they don't have anything doing or don't have money.

Also love is a strong feeling that is hard to resist once a someone has it in them but some people might be in love but still walk away from the person they are in love with for some reasons like their genotype didn't not match or some other health issues.

But being in love with someone who understand what love means and knows how to treat each other well is a sweet feelings.

The conversation about people who breakup because of genotype is quite a long one. I’ve seen cases where people break up long after because they figure their genotype isn’t matching for the safety of the kids. And that’s crazy because asking/checking genotype should be as common as asking someone what their favorite feeling is. Some people didn’t even care to check until they get married and birth SS kids, not good at all.

[Zlantann]

Lot of youths in intimate relationships are being carried away due to causual pleasures and thinks they can go a long way of partnership of marriage.
Infact marriage is all about maturity and not basically about the pleasures both shares because better pleasures can always be attracted and gotten from others which means you could get a better satisfying person than your present.
Marriage is of readiness to pick a soul to tangle and mingle with yours, you both must learn to be tolerance and understanding each other with the shares of love and harmony but if you think you're not fit enough, then you don't have to force in else your partner would become most irritating creating on your existence. Digressing on it, most especially the women, they hides their real habitual characters until marriage then they began frustrating the man while the men too in times gets fed up of being with a particular woman after being too used to her.
Everyone is just sticking to what they wanted and not considering the need of partnership.

The youths have been deceived by what they see on social media and Holywood. Many of them follow celebrities who have had bad marriages due to misbehaviour. These youths just copy and behave like these influencers which leads to lust and divorce. Recently one actress in my country said the reason why she divorced her husband is because she was earning more than him. Now she is encouraging the youths to only marry men that have money. And in most cases, these wealthy men don't treat them right. 

I don't think someone would be able to hide his or her character for six months to one year. If you are observant you would be able to identify that the person is pretending. This is why the youths shouldn't rush into marriage there should be a time of courtship which will help both of them to know each other very well. Any man or woman who pretends because he wants to get married is deceptive. And deception is a good ground for divorce. 

[348Judah]

Even there use to be times in which the mouth and tongue will engage on a minor conflict despite how close they were to each other, so also applies to the relationships with the people in the society, we have to get this right that there will always be a reason for things like misunderstandings to occur, but our maturity is what determines how we handles for it and make it work out for us without affecting the relationships we had with others around us.

[uneng]

My question is why not either the man or the woman just peacefully walk out from the relationship if they don't feel welcomed and comfortable anymore instead playing with ones emotions or the intentions to put ones life to an end because of selfish interests and anger of jealousy?

People are mad and act irrationally during moments of anger and high stress. It can happen for different reasons, like a boring relationship which is already lasting for a long time, without any purposes and genuine feelings anymore or the aggressions might be due to possessive behaviors one partner has over the another one, so he channels his or her energies into rage, resulting in such physical conflicts and injuries. Maybe one partner doesn't want to leave, because he is weak and enforces an hellish coexistence over the another partner, also resulting in aggressions.

It would be really much easier and less traumatizing if both parties agreed in leaving each other and living their own lives on their own. But that is a mature decision which demands a lot of authenticity and courage from the individuals. So, not everyone is willing to act like that, especially in this sick world we live nowadays.

[AVE5]

Even there use to be times in which the mouth and tongue will engage on a minor conflict despite how close they were to each other, so also applies to the relationships with the people in the society, we have to get this right that there will always be a reason for things like misunderstandings to occur, but our maturity is what determines how we handles for it and make it work out for us without affecting the relationships we had with others around us.

That's true. In relationship life we don't expect to meet a perfected partner or someone who'd have a 100% quality of what we expected from them just to suit desires. You can actually find such a person but you in particular wouldn't be a desire to the person.
That's the imperfection of life so maturity is the only way to manage such characters in both marriage and relationship life.
Living to tolerate and being submissive to understand each other and just live peacefully.