What would your reaction be in this scenario

[Odusko]

I would not blame this person (who received financial help from me). In my opinion, we cannot control other people. All adults are completely autonomous and manage their own lives.

This person is obsessed with gambling. I would not want my money to be spent in this way. I am ready to give money only to those who are really in need (who need help).

However, my fault is that I gave the person money without first finding out how exactly he plans to spend it. I try not to judge other people, people act based on their inner values.

My task is not to repeat mistakes. Next time I will not give him money.

Once you extended your help, you won’t have control anymore as to where and how that money will be spend. The fact that you have helped a needy person, that’s already good enough. Now, the problem is the money goes only to gambling, something that you don’t have the right anymore to hate him or question him for that, because that money is not yours, but it’s his already. Lesson? Know the person well before you offer financial help. Or once you decided to give away your money, that money doesn’t belong to you anymore so no need to find out how that money being spend.

These days there is no help anymore and the majority of those who seek help either have more than you but want to use you hard earned money to fund their fantasy such as gambling with the money they borrowed, for sure we have to arrive at a point where any money that goes out from us are aimed at settling for a service rendered, giving free money doesn't exist in a scene society so before you give out any amount just be sure you are paying for a service rendered to you either directly or indirectly there is no free money anywhere even in free town, most gamblers gamble with money that they can waste so anyone that takes your money to gamble thinks you have money to waste so guy's be careful out there.

[o48o]

I found this rather interesting story on Twitter. A user narrated what happened when he rendered some financial assistance to someone who he had no prior knowledge was addicted to gambling.

Someone asked me for a little financial help, which I gave him. He risked the funds to play sportybet which is against my values. He won N840k on that day. He called me with excitement to inform me. I don’t event know how to feel.

What would your reaction be in this scenario

Link: https://x.com/winexviv/status/1861494504689115146

Reaction to someone using the money i gave to help them for gambling? Well that would be the last time i would fund them. It's not a matter of someone winning or not, it's the matter of principle, and the fact he might as well could lose the money.

I don't even know if i bothered to rant about it. I would be mad and wanted my money back instantly. This reminds me of some influencer putting their girlfriends money on crypto without their consent, and surprising them with the winnings. It's not about money at that point, but about trust, consent and risking someone else's money.

I would like to think that this person would have learned his lesson, took the winnings out and stopped gambling, but that's not how addiction works and this was definitely move of an addict. They will get in trouble again as this is most likely now his new learned go-to move when ever in financial trouble. Lend money and gamble. Cutting all monetary ties is least what i would do. After i had some time to calm down, i would explain why exactly it make me mad.

[Orpichukwu]

I will also feel bad if such a thing happens to me but alas,life is very simple when we tend to take the little things for what they really are.Honestly,it's not a good feeling and all of this things will end up lingering and releasing unnecessary hates and disgust.People should always do the needful each time they're been rendered help and kindness;this shows a high sense of responsibility to themselves.

Some people just take advantage of kindness that others give to them because they know that the person has a free and open hand to render help to them, which is why they can easily deceive them and tell them they need help for other things and use the money for gambling. Those types of actions reduce trust from both parties; if eventually next time the person is in need of urgent assistance for something important, the person won't have the mind to render that help to him or her again because they will not trust what they said they want to use the money for.

[swogerino]

This remind me of a story my ex boss told me. He would gladly give away 100 dollars in loan to someone when asked without knowing what this guy was doing or were going to do and he had this nice saying, I would not care for 100 dollars if I don't receive it back then it means that friendship was not worth it. The same can be said in this example the guy who funded the other one and this last one got gambling didn't lost anything except money, if he was some relative or friend then it is not worthy to keep him as such and with this spending of money he saw who is a real person and who is not as simple as that. Stories like these are a lot in the world and I am not impressed, as long as I and I suggest you keep in mind what my ex boss would do with 100 dollars I think we should be safe.

[Yucky]

My reaction as a friend wouldn't be all excitement, because, as my friend, you know I'm against gambling. And then you used the money I lent you to gamble without my knowledge. Now, you're telling me. To me the end does not justify the means. Telling me as a friend doesn't change the fact that I'm against it or you want against my values.

So I would remind my friend that I'm not okay with this. I'm against it, and I would appreciate it if next time he didn't use the financial help I provided to gamble. It's against my values, and I feel like I'm a partaker in it.

I'll remind him that gambling is a 50/50 luck thing. You could have lost, and then what would have happened? How would you have coped? Just because your luck shone through today doesn't mean it's going to continue like that. We all know it. So, please, do not use the help I render to gamble. Just because we're friends doesn't make it okay for me. That's how I'll react.