Cash goes first, BTC follows.
And I'd recommend using an escrow service.
I'm not sure what you mean by the first bit. It could go either way.
And I'm sure you could do that. I do not care if one wishes to use an escrow service, but I am not interested in paying the fees. John is fine, but buyer would pay fees. My reputation can be found about the boards. I grow agitated with your comments in each of my posts stating the obvious "escrow should be considered". Really? I am certain that most reasonable people have that on their mind when considering any deal, whether they utilize one or not. So please.