It's over 4 months and you no wan leave?

[Samlucky O]

Hey guys, abeg make una come help me out of this matter, because you guys are my surest paddies here and I can only share this with you because of its sensitivity to me. My only Aunty (paternal Aunty) and her daughter visited us since last year after a wedding of one of my cousins which happened during the ember periods, today makes it 4 months since November last year that they came in and they haven't leave up till now. With the current economic reality that is biting everyone of us, I don tire to they accommodate them already.

And that has made me pretty much uncomfortable because even my fiancé wey cover up for my expenses sometimes has not been comfortable with this lately too upon say na she happy pass when been first come, abeg how do I politely ask her and her daughter to vacate the house without offending her?

You never tell us which method you use chase your aunty out, for all the methods we don give you. You for make am more fun by telling us about how you where able to handle the situation for people know. After which you fit lock the thread 😂

[Gozie51]

Open up to them and tell them your mind, they are aware of the reality of today's economy and if they have your best interest in mind they will happily leave lifting the burden on you and your wife. May if you get small tin you fit the send them ones ones.

Omo this seem like the answer you are looking for. Although some response too don give insight like this.

Me I been want ask if the apartment na your own wey you and your fiancée dey stay abi na your family house but then you dey contribute to their upkeep for the family but the point be say house na house and them don over stay, 4 months no be 4 days and dem just stay put after wedding no be say una plan am to be like that and them too no open mouth talk as e be despite the economic challenges wey dey bite everybody now.

So talk to them, dem no be small pikin and dem gat to understand while you fit just support dem from time to time so that you and your woman fit breath too.

If person want go person place wey dem go stay over you suppose even tell the person, feeding these days no easy, no be to go sit for house on top person bill. One week even don dey enough if you want stay over with person and it must be discussed and agreed upon before such journey.

[Cryptomultiplier]

The best way for dealing with things like this is to call for a meeting and make sure everyone concerned is present. During the meeting, ensure you voice out your concerns, your fiancee, Aunty should participate actively as well. According to history, conversation is one of the best way to resolve things. Your Aunty might have something bothering or restricting her but is unable to tell you. And you also, if you keep it in, there's only so much you'd be able to do as issues like this will continually weigh you down. Don't keep in in.

I have been in a similar situation before and kept it in. I constantly felt bad and it drained. Woke up one day and said enough is enough. I said what had to be say and it was relieving afterwards.

Don't you think calling for a meeting may be too obvious no matter the good intentions one may think they harbour before calling such meeting.
The Aunty may not see it same way and may become emotional as well as the daughter and react in an unexpected manner.

The best approach should be to simply take the Aunty on an outing and when she is comfortable and happy, discuss the situation with her, but it must be to first know what bothers her or the situation she is not comfortable with at home. When she has opened up, she would have a clue and be out of the house with of course any special arrangements she would be expecting from you, having stayed for months already.

[Mate2237]

It is not bad we discuss am here. Lolz  🤣 opportunity comes but once. Even you pursue them know at least they have spent the climax time when the prices were on the roof with you. Op this na very simple matter and all what u need to do be say in the morning devotion, when everyone gathered in the morning you go just politely asked them when dem dey go back. And once dem tell you di date then what you ah e to do is to look for their transport fair. For like two days for them to leave gibe them di transport fair money and see what will happen in the di day.

Those are some of the method to pursue a visitor who refused to go back to their houses after the event ceremony. As for me dat na di method I normally use to let them go.

[Jaycoinz]

It is not bad we discuss am here. Lolz  🤣 opportunity comes but once. Even you pursue them know at least they have spent the climax time when the prices were on the roof with you. Op this na very simple matter and all what u need to do be say in the morning devotion, when everyone gathered in the morning you go just politely asked them when dem dey go back. And once dem tell you di date then what you ah e to do is to look for their transport fair. For like two days for them to leave gibe them di transport fair money and see what will happen in the di day.

Those are some of the method to pursue a visitor who refused to go back to their houses after the event ceremony. As for me dat na di method I normally use to let them go.

Omo with all this experience I dey feel say you na baba to pursue visitors wey don outstay their welcome oo😁😁. But watin you talk dey on point well because it's annoying to be wanting people to know that their time has reached but yet they know and still decides to push you to the edge knowing fully well that you won't do that because of your considerate nature.

[Chibit01]

It is not bad we discuss am here. Lolz  🤣 opportunity comes but once. Even you pursue them know at least they have spent the climax time when the prices were on the roof with you. Op this na very simple matter and all what u need to do be say in the morning devotion, when everyone gathered in the morning you go just politely asked them when dem dey go back. And once dem tell you di date then what you ah e to do is to look for their transport fair. For like two days for them to leave gibe them di transport fair money and see what will happen in the di day.

Those are some of the method to pursue a visitor who refused to go back to their houses after the event ceremony. As for me dat na di method I normally use to let them go.

Omo with all this experience I dey feel say you na baba to pursue visitors wey don outstay their welcome oo😁😁. But watin you talk dey on point well because it's annoying to be wanting people to know that their time has reached but yet they know and still decides to push you to the edge knowing fully well that you won't do that because of your considerate nature.

Well this is really alarming and needs to be addressed very well I like as we carry am come this platform but it is actually funny how someone will from his church mind to to spend some day with person and it will end up being 4 months or even more Omo it is alarming And needs to be addressed and most of these person thinks that they are entitled to what they are going forgetting that you have a privacy to enjoy in your home....

I think it is very nice and necessary we address it here also all of this extended family members even our to some of our immediate family members that will come just to spend some days from there they have stayed for over 4 months my dear it is not funny again it needs to be addressed just like we are doing here....

[GiftedMAN]

This is supposed to be your private matter which the op knows but since he has brought it here it means he has tried to do it within his power but can't handle it in a better way, first of all, I believe yiu make them feel very comfortable that's why they want to stay longer than expected if not they ought to have left few days after the wedding since they aren't staying with you nor have more events to attend after the one that brought them to your house. Here are few smart ways to kindly ask them to leave.

1) Pretend to be broke for days let food be lacking in the house.
2) If you have always running generator pause let the house be uncomfortable for all of you for at least one week then watch their next step.
3) Fake an emergency travel, beg them for transportation fee let them be convinced that you won't be coming back for atleast one month once they consider that no one will be feeding them they won't have no options than to go.
4) If you try all this and they refuse to go, you have no other thing than to start planning for another apartment to move into because if they leave with anger, your fiancee will be the topic of the year because they will make everyone in your family believe that you asked them to leave because of a woman whom you want to get married to, I hope this can help you in any little way.

[DubemIfedigbo001]

Were you informed initially of her desire to stay at your place for a period of time before they came over?, if no, then I put it to you that you're the cause of the problem you're  facing. You shouldn't even have allowed them stay  past two weeks before confronting her on the reason for the over stay and the possible  duration of further stay.

You're a man and as such you need to plan both your present and your future and not let families or friends hinder you. I personally confronted my cousin years ago on the third night of saying over at my house when both of us were students, he couldn't reply and I gave him 24 hours to properly inform me on his pattern of stay since he was not contributing to feeding and other house expenses, the guy just left the next day. That explained to me that he was just taking advantage of me unnecessarily. Its not out of place to peacefully and respectfully inform her of your inability to keep up with providing for them, that they have to leave so you can properly live your life.

People are opportunistic, be it family, friends, even strangers and if you don't draw the line on time, it tends to affect you much later, just as its telling on the finances of OP right now.

[Bitco55]

Hey guys, abeg make una come help me out of this matter, because you guys are my surest paddies here and I can only share this with you because of its sensitivity to me. My only Aunty (paternal Aunty) and her daughter visited us since last year after a wedding of one of my cousins which happened during the ember periods, today makes it 4 months since November last year that they came in and they haven't leave up till now. With the current economic reality that is biting everyone of us, I don tire to they accommodate them already.

And that has made me pretty much uncomfortable because even my fiancé wey cover up for my expenses sometimes has not been comfortable with this lately too upon say na she happy pass when been first come, abeg how do I politely ask her and her daughter to vacate the house without offending her?

It is nice you're so generous though, but I honestly think her staying at your place is intentional, due to whatever reasons she has. The thing is if you're not comfortable, then you should tell her straight forward that it's becoming difficult to fend for whatever amount of people live in the house. She may be angry, but you gats let her know that you mean no offense or anything. Even if she gets angry, you know you've done nothing wrong, you just did what was B's for you and your own family. So, there won't be any reason for you to feel guilty.

[Gormicsta]

Hey guys, abeg make una come help me out of this matter, because you guys are my surest paddies here and I can only share this with you because of its sensitivity to me. My only Aunty (paternal Aunty) and her daughter visited us since last year after a wedding of one of my cousins which happened during the ember periods, today makes it 4 months since November last year that they came in and they haven't leave up till now. With the current economic reality that is biting everyone of us, I don tire to they accommodate them already.

And that has made me pretty much uncomfortable because even my fiancé wey cover up for my expenses sometimes has not been comfortable with this lately too upon say na she happy pass when been first come, abeg how do I politely ask her and her daughter to vacate the house without offending her?

But you get to do something o, because you no go dey feel shy dey chop shit for mouth. So you need to carry yourself for mind first and approach her with respect and also with tact.
You go tell her say na because of the economic condition of things now, na why you wan tell her say she need to find a new place to stay. But make sure you still dey make her know say you dey appreciate her for visiting. Try to use your sweet mouth o, so that she no go think say you dey insult her. You go tell her say, "Aunty, no be say I no like you and your daughter or say I no wan see una again. But the truth be say as the cost of things don increase, my pocket no fit take this stress again. Na why I need to ask you politely to dey look for somewhere else to go and stay
You go also tell her say if she need any help, say u go still try to dey help am and say you go dey there for her. And no forget to say "Thank you" well well o, if not the matter no go be here o.

[sotelorene]

Bro I understand how you feel even if I am in your shoes I will seek for remedy and a better approach so that she won't feel like am embarrassing her or something but one thing you should know someone who has shame or someone who is hardworking and responsible no go stay for another person house still fold hands they consume food for this kind hard economy, the person no get conscience so sorry to say. Since she's your cousin I believe before now you should have known her kind of person cause that is what is going to determined the way you will approach her. I am very sure you understand what I mean.