One of the biggest (fasttest) lies ever told

[Obulis]

The joy of being fine and actually having such feelings in reality is the response every here and there... Aside your big house, exotic car, beeautiful  every every, the ultimate quest somehow in life generalty has been.... FREEDOM....  Which is blissful and rosery.
There are different grades/levels of lies ( just trying to make some differences ). Actually, some lies are so expensive that it can tear friends, family even etc apart!!! But then some are to an extent every day or daily vibes that you and I deliberately and indeliberately release! So many of such lies but then not a big deal as most times they are so personal that it does not matter telling it to anyone unlike the dangerous lies that tears even well established centers into pieces.

At times the... I AM FINE.... reply to how are you? how are you doing? And you? Are very big lie I ever told and you too I guess!
How do you see that personally

What other general lie(s) do you and or others say always (as in a popular always lie(s)  ).
Even as they are very sure personal, is it to be said all the time? What do you think?

What are your views on these general always lies?
What is its impact and how can it impact (positive, negative).

[Findingnemo]

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I guess GOD, Heaven, be good, then only you can go to heaven and are possibly the biggest lies that humankind which still believes in.

Nobody really care whether we are fine or not they are just being polite so we just give the most polite reply to that question which is I am fine and sometimes it can be lies but it's not really a matter to anyone other than you. And if you want someone to give that joy you always wanted then I am sorry you will be hurting yourself for very long period.

[Fiatless]

The "I am fine" response is generally seen as a form of greeting. As long as you are alive and okay, you are fine in people's view. I don't see it as lying. You can only express your true state or how you feel to people who are close to you. I can openly tell my mother,.siblings or close friends that I am not fine, if they ask how I am. But for outsiders or formal relationships, the answer will always be I am fine because they don't care how you feel.

[franky1]

im fine
im sorry
i love you
ill do it later

[Dunamisx]

At times the... I AM FINE.... reply to how are you? how are you doing? And you? Are very big lie I ever told and you too I guess!
How do you see that personally

What other general lie(s) do you and or others say always (as in a popular always lie(s)  ).
Even as they are very sure personal, is it to be said all the time? What do you think?

What are your views on these general always lies?
What is its impact and how can it impact (positive, negative).

People don't see this as a lie, because they have been used to the pattern and it's all a wrong approach to responding to a question being asked during pleasantries, if you're asked how are you, then the next that comes to mind is am fine, even when you're crying or sobbing tears, you made the same response, I don't know the mystery behind this, because I've also not seen one before who has ever said the actual condition he is facing in response to how are you doing.

[Iamgoat]

The "I am fine" response is generally seen as a form of greeting. As long as you are alive and okay, you are fine in people's view. I don't see it as lying. You can only express your true state or how you feel to people who are close to you. I can openly tell my mother,.siblings or close friends that I am not fine, if they ask how I am. But for outsiders or formal relationships, the answer will always be I am fine because they don't care how you feel.

You're very correct. I cannot expose the true situation of my life to anyone who ask me unless you are a very close family member or friend but if you arent any of these two, I doubt if I will just start tell you what's wrong with me from you asking me how am I doing. The relationship needs to be a bit more cordial before the conversation is taken deeper. Only talkatives I believe can be so open to the extent of disclosing their confidential information to people whom they barely know and can trust.

[El_Tammy]

At times the... I AM FINE.... reply to how are you? how are you doing? And you? Are very big lie I ever told and you too I guess!
How do you see that personally

I will only talk on the "I'm fine" lie because just like you said, it's a general lie. You spit it out even when you don't want to, even when you're not okay and even when you need someone to sit close to you while you tell them everything that's been going on. Certain people feel they'll be seen as wick persons if they give in therefore they wear this fake smile whenever you ask how they are, they answer with the phrase "I'm fine".

The "I'm Fine" lie this days in our modern society is more like a camouflage used to conceal what you're really going through.

[Goodluck overseer]

The joy of being fine and actually having such feelings in reality is the response every here and there... Aside your big house, exotic car, beeautiful  every every, the ultimate quest somehow in life generalty has been.... FREEDOM....  Which is blissful and rosery.
There are different grades/levels of lies ( just trying to make some differences ). Actually, some lies are so expensive that it can tear friends, family even etc apart!!! But then some are to an extent every day or daily vibes that you and I deliberately and indeliberately release! So many of such lies but then not a big deal as most times they are so personal that it does not matter telling it to anyone unlike the dangerous lies that tears even well established centers into pieces.

At times the... I AM FINE.... reply to how are you? how are you doing? And you? Are very big lie I ever told and you too I guess!
How do you see that personally

What other general lie(s) do you and or others say always (as in a popular always lie(s)  ).
Even as they are very sure personal, is it to be said all the time? What do you think?

What are your views on these general always lies?
What is its impact and how can it impact (positive, negative).

In my own view there’s a spectrum:

Harmless white lies = social grease, keeps things moving.

Costly lies = the ones that destroy trust, relationships, or even lives—those are dangerous.


The balance is to know when honesty matters more than comfort. Saying “I’m fine” sometimes is okay, but if that becomes your default mask, it steals the chance for others to support or truly connect with you.

So, I’d say the “always lies” are part of human communication, but their true weight depends on whether they hide small inconveniences or hide our true selves.

[franky1]

one of the other thoughtless social lies, is before the "im ok".. its actually the questioner asking "how are you" because they are not actually asking to want a real answer, they dont actually care to that degree to want to hear someones insecurities. they say the false empathetic gesture, just to say "hi"

much like strangers hearing about another stranger losing a family member and then saying "im sorry to hear about your loss"
it has become almost a meaningless scripted gesture to fake sympathy.

even now when seeing someone in camo-soldier attire.. the immediate gesture without thinking is "thank you for your service". where you have no clue if the guy in camo actually served in actual war, or just used his time training at some university, training to become a HQ officer who will sit in an office delegating risky duties onto others

[mich]

Well I do know what you mean it is something I do say to people. And just other day I was feeling alittle bit down and my neighbor walked past me with his dog.
He asked me how I was doing and I did say I was doing fine. He did look at me like he knew it was not true I will usually pet his dog.
But really I was not having a good day. We just do find outself saying we are fine just so an other person will not worry about us.

[ODG001]

"We will get back to you" is a popular lie in the business and cooperate space

Customers who just want to get a knowledge and compare prices with no intention of actually buying never get back to you

After most mass interviews too, the company usually finish sessions with 'we will get back to you' even when they know they never will. If you're lucky you might one day come across a publication indicating the vacancy has been filled or wait till eternity to 'be gotten back to'

[Hispo]

Interestingly enough, there have been occasions on which I have not felt actually well, so when someone decided to greet me and ask how I was, I decided to be honest and reply with something like " soso" or "not really that good".

I have also been aware most people tend to lie when they are asked and greeted with "how are you". But that is rather an involuntary lie and a simple courtesy.

I have stumble with people in life who believe one is supposed to answer positively, not matter how bad things are going, but I tend to disagree with them.

[Obulis]

~

I guess GOD, Heaven, be good, then only you can go to heaven and are possibly the biggest lies that humankind which still believes in.

Nobody really care whether we are fine or not they are just being polite so we just give the most polite reply to that question which is I am fine and sometimes it can be lies but it's not really a matter to anyone other than you. And if you want someone to give that joy you always wanted then I am sorry you will be hurting yourself for very long period.

Not really being emotional, just trying to engage common sense! A look at nobody cares.
Is it true all life long that not even one person truly cares about the other person even momentarily if not all the time at least at a particular instance or happening (a matter at hand). That might not be 100% true.
Indeed like you pointed, polite questions with polite answers yeah.

[Findingnemo]

Not really being emotional, just trying to engage common sense! A look at nobody cares.
Is it true all life long that not even one person truly cares about the other person even momentarily if not all the time at least at a particular instance or happening (a matter at hand). That might not be 100% true.
Indeed like you pointed, polite questions with polite answers yeah.

We may have people in our life who cares about them but it's not all of them in our life, it can be very closed to only our partner because she/he has reasons in that too like if we are not well then it may affect our partner in one way or other so they will care on our well being and it's not bad either I am just pointing out that is the reality.

[o48o]

The joy of being fine and actually having such feelings in reality is the response every here and there... Aside your big house, exotic car, beeautiful  every every, the ultimate quest somehow in life generalty has been.... FREEDOM....  Which is blissful and rosery.
There are different grades/levels of lies ( just trying to make some differences ). Actually, some lies are so expensive that it can tear friends, family even etc apart!!! But then some are to an extent every day or daily vibes that you and I deliberately and indeliberately release! So many of such lies but then not a big deal as most times they are so personal that it does not matter telling it to anyone unlike the dangerous lies that tears even well established centers into pieces.

At times the... I AM FINE.... reply to how are you? how are you doing? And you? Are very big lie I ever told and you too I guess!
How do you see that personally

What other general lie(s) do you and or others say always (as in a popular always lie(s)  ).
Even as they are very sure personal, is it to be said all the time? What do you think?

What are your views on these general always lies?
What is its impact and how can it impact (positive, negative).

When people ask me how i am doing etc, my answer depends on the situation. If i want to avoid the conversation, i will just say that i am fine. When it's my friends asking, i will probably ask if they want to really know, or are they just trying small talk.

If they want to know, i will respond with rather long monologue where i am trying to reflect on my life. But i try to avoid it as i can overshare and feel like people could become anxious because they didn't really want to know, but that's not really my problem when they asked.

Negative impact of saying you are fine to your friends, is that you might start to think that they wouldn't like you if you weren't fine. As when "fine" is a lie you hide your identity under, you don't feel like being seen by anyone. It's just the image you chose to give to others and that others don't know the real you.

Positive impact of saying you are fine is that it's sometimes just better work on your issues before sharing them. It can also help with your boundaries. But rather then fine, you can just say that i rather not talk about it now.

[ODG001]

One of the biggest (fattest) lies in a teen era has to be 'I love you'

A lot of persons in teen age just confess love without full understanding of what it means or what it requires. Many even understand by decide to use the word for self-interest

Sadly, it's not only about teens these days.. family, friends and colleagues say and pretend to love you but would backstab you at any given chance.