How do you explain losing your payday at the casino?

[CryptSafe]

Such mistake is unacceptable behaviour to the family as there is no excuse to justify such act from anybody who behaves in such a manner. The family must be catered for and that should be the first thing every reasonable and responsible man should have in mind upon receiving their paycheck.

You know, it's this kind of attitudes that leads to divorce. Some people will blame a partner for filling for divorce meanwhile some acts like this must have played out several times which could have caused the individual to take a very safe decision to leave the relationship because the person has refused to be responsible in some actions they take. Someone that does this kind of reckless gambling behavior could even do more than that.

Once someone prioritizes gambling over their family’s welfare it’s no longer just a bad habit it becomes a betrayal of trust the paycheck is supposed to be security for the household not a tool for reckless experiments with luck and the moment a man forgets that responsibility everything begins to crumble.

These are the kinds of behaviors that slowly destroy relationships and lead to separation or divorce most partners don’t just wake up one day and decide to leave it’s usually after watching a pattern of irresponsibility repeated over and over again losing money can be forgiven once or twice but when it becomes a cycle where gambling takes precedence over rent food or children’s needs it turns into emotional abuse. Someone who gambles away family money isn’t only putting finances at risk they’re breaking the foundation of reliability every home needs to survive the lack of discipline and awareness of priorities shows a deeper problem and like you said if a person can easily waste their family’s resources without guilt they are capable of other reckless and harmful acts too it’s not just about money it’s about trust responsibility and respect.

As a man, your family needs must be your utmost priority before anything else. If that responsibility falls short, then you are not worthy to be called the head of the house because you have failed to live up to expectations and responsibility, not to mention when it happens that you do nothing but gamble away your paycheck with nothing to show for it.

If you must gamble, you must or should be able to separate your family's needs first, which should be a non-negotiable before anything else can follow, because the family should come first in anything that has to do with the settlement of needs and the rest of the others.

[ultrloa]

But it's not only limited to men but also to women who can also be addicted to gambling that could be in that shoe as well.

If this applies to any case, whether man or woman, the issue is that we must examine closely because the magnitude of the irresponsibility is great, which is why we cannot allow something like this These cases serve to be shown here and to raise awareness, so that when we find ourselves in a situation like this, we remember the person from this thread.

This is a month of salary while some gambler lost a fortune on their gambling session. This situation can be resolved by focusing on work and less gambling until he recovers from the losses.

It’s very painful to think that someone is willing to risk a month of hard labor earnings for the sake of entertainment that doesn’t last longer.

I believe everyone that working hard will have less temptations to this mistake.

Can be resolve if he can focus on his work or other things that can make him busy. Losing a salary for whole month on single session shows that the gambler is truly irresponsible, he choose to bad side and didn't think about the after effect of that what they said magnitude of those bad decision they have done.

For sure their wife or husband will get angry and it create trouble to the family. Gamblers experience this can still bounce back and better learn from those mistakes they have done. I think working on other things is not enough if they don't have full commitment on their actions done, but if they are willing to learn and avoid those past mistakes they made then provably that there's great chance that they can help theirselves not to commit those same mistakes again.

[Smartvirus]

Can be resolve if he can focus on his work or other things that can make him busy. Losing a salary for whole month on single session shows that the gambler is truly irresponsible, he choose to bad side and didn't think about the after effect of that what they said magnitude of those bad decision they have done.

Any family man whom is also a gambler and can’t distinguish between his duties and hobbies shouldn’t be gambling at all. When your monthly salary is that which is supposed to take care of you and your family, you shouldn’t be gambling with that money. A portion of it maybe but, having to visit the gambling house with all that money is a NO.

A lose would just mean, you try to do a recovery, chasing your loses but, you know what that always only in gambling, more losses and you could lose all that money. Very irresponsible way to gamble.

[serjent05]

Now you’re heading home broke, and as a husband and father, how do you even explain that to your wife waiting at home with your kids?

Would you be honest, or would you make an excuse?

The best approach is to tell them the whole truth.  It will only bring more problems if the person lies and his wife finds out what really happened that night.  By telling the wife the truth, we freed ourselves from future troubles. Yes, wife can nag, but there is nothing she can do because it already happened. Just accept the nagging and apologize, promising that it will not happen again.  Have the courage to face the wrath of the wife's nagging, if that was the first time, I bet the wife will forgive his husband.

[Kelvinid]

Not really a good thing to happen, but I think it is the best option to tell the truth rather than hiding it, because it is difficult to explain when she knows it from others. We will be in big trouble, but at least we're not hiding anything from our wives. It is about building trust, and it is difficult to repair once broken.

So be it, and accept whatever the consequences are after telling her. Maybe after this, everything will be fine, as we also learn from it. But if ever it happens again, that is something ridiculous. That might be the end of being with the family.

[macson]

Would you be honest, or would you make an excuse?

Most men in such a situation will certainly find excuses to cover up their stupidity, but we know that this type of man is unfit to be called a father or a man because he doesn't understand his responsibilities. If he understood his responsibilities as a father and head of the household, he would prioritize his family over having fun with his coworkers.

People might say it's rude to turn down an offer to have fun after payday, but a "real man" would decline the offer if he felt it would cause him problems, preferring instead to go shopping and buy something for his wife, who already takes care of the children and the house. That's what should be done.

[xenomorfo]

We make some mistakes in our life that make us live our whole life in a bad way. If we can learn from those mistakes then we can do something good in life and if we keep making the same mistakes over and over again it is very bad for us. I have learnt to appreciate life by learning from many mistakes in my life.

We all make mistakes, no one is excluded from making mistakes, but the difference is between those who manage to understand the mistake they made and never do it again and those who continue to make the same mistake again. This is the only difference, so whoever made a mistake must understand what he did wrong and what he can do to not do it again.

[Kelward]

Firstly I cannot be in such a situation because I gamble responsibly, with my experience and discipline in gambling I can only use amount that I can afford to loose. For a gambler that finds himself in such a mess after losing his salary when he gets home it's better to cook up some story to tell the wife regarding why he couldn't bring any money home on payday. If the irresponsible gambler dares to tell his wife the truth that he lost his salary on gambling he should know that he has also lost his respect from the wife. The important thing is to learn from his mistake and be in control of his gambling so he won't repeat such silly mistake again.

[GIF-JOBS]

We make some mistakes in our life that make us live our whole life in a bad way. If we can learn from those mistakes then we can do something good in life and if we keep making the same mistakes over and over again it is very bad for us. I have learnt to appreciate life by learning from many mistakes in my life.

We all make mistakes, no one is excluded from making mistakes, but the difference is between those who manage to understand the mistake they made and never do it again and those who continue to make the same mistake again. This is the only difference, so whoever made a mistake must understand what he did wrong and what he can do to not do it again.

That is the difference, some learn from their mistakes and become more careful later, and others get emotional from their mistakes and keep making the same mistakes over and over again, and this leads them to more losses.

The same is true in gambling, those who gamble uncontrollably, later face losses, and then they realize that it was their mistake, and then they become cautious and abandon this uncontrolled attitude and manage their gambling carefully from then on.

But others gamble emotionally and uncontrollably, they face losses, but instead of realizing their mistakes, they become more emotional and increase the amount of gambling, and thus gambling destroys them.

[TypoTonic]

But after a few bottles everyone’s looking for more fun so you all end up at the casino, you play a bit, lose a little, try to win it back… and before you know it, your whole salary’s gone.

If you reach the point where you don't know when to quit, and can no longer control how much you wager, then you should seriously consider getting help. Not only is this the start of something destructive for you, but for your family as well.

Now you’re heading home broke, and as a husband and father, how do you even explain that to your wife waiting at home with your kids? Would you be honest, or would you make an excuse?

Don't even try to make stupid excuses or hide what you did, since that will only make things worse. Just be honest to your family. They'll probably (more like definitely) be pretty mad at first, but losing a payday's salary is not the end of the world. It's not like you gambled away all of your life savings. You'll also need their support moving forward, for this to not happen again.

[arabspaceship123]

Making excuses makes you liar so do not lie to your wife and children. Be honest to your wife tell her you lost the pay in casino betting. If you lie you could be hiding bigger secrets like addiction. You must be serious with yourself if you lose pay in gambling you must be honest do not makes excuses.

[Eternad]

Making excuses makes you liar so do not lie to your wife and children. Be honest to your wife tell her you lost the pay in casino betting. If you lie you could be hiding bigger secrets like addiction. You must be serious with yourself if you lose pay in gambling you must be honest do not makes excuses.

Honesty is the best policy but if I’m on situation I will not tell my wife because it might cause huge fight that might result to bad ending.

I will just solve it silently since I don’t want them to suffer on the problem that I created myself. We have different wife characteristics, some are understanding but others are easy to be on panic.

I’m not telling that I lose my salary but I will still give them a money worth my salary through loan and repay it slowly.

[imamusma]

Making excuses makes you liar so do not lie to your wife and children. Be honest to your wife tell her you lost the pay in casino betting. If you lie you could be hiding bigger secrets like addiction. You must be serious with yourself if you lose pay in gambling you must be honest do not makes excuses.

Being honest after making a fatal mistake sometimes causes fear, especially being honest with a wife and children, but that action can resolve the problem. A lie can only be covered up with another lie, and that will form a bad habit. I think everyone, especially gamblers, has made mistakes, so even though an apology will be difficult to accept initially, with a responsible attitude you might have a chance to fix things. Therefore, gamble responsibly moving forward so as not to cause chaos in life.

[Accardo]

Being honest after making a fatal mistake sometimes causes fear, especially being honest with a wife and children, but that action can resolve the problem. A lie can only be covered up with another lie, and that will form a bad habit. I think everyone, especially gamblers, has made mistakes, so even though an apology will be difficult to accept initially, with a responsible attitude you might have a chance to fix things. Therefore, gamble responsibly moving forward so as not to cause chaos in life.

Lying to people who don't deserve to be lied to is a bad habit, in the coming days, the player may unconsciously say something that could result to the wife tracing back to know that they lied in the previous day. Problem erupt in family with little things as lying, and when one side figures out, they would assume every other thing said by the man was a lie. It drops trust drastically and affects the fun of every home.

[arabspaceship123]

Making excuses makes you liar so do not lie to your wife and children. Be honest to your wife tell her you lost the pay in casino betting. If you lie you could be hiding bigger secrets like addiction. You must be serious with yourself if you lose pay in gambling you must be honest do not makes excuses.

Honesty is the best policy but if I’m on situation I will not tell my wife because it might cause huge fight that might result to bad ending.

I will just solve it silently since I don’t want them to suffer on the problem that I created myself. We have different wife characteristics, some are understanding but others are easy to be on panic.

I’m not telling that I lose my salary but I will still give them a money worth my salary through loan and repay it slowly.

She can panic but you should tell the truth. If she gambled your pay you want her to be honest how will you feel if she lied to you. If you do not tell her you could gamble the pay again next month. How many times can you get loans to cover the pay lost in gambling.

[348Judah]

Pay day mostly are not being missed by gamblers except there are conditions that may warrant for such, the casino cannot just denied the gambler from the planned day for their pay, except if anything erupted or was being discovered from the last that warrant for a delay or hold on that, while a responsible gambler should have no reason to lose on this by normal expectations.