Well before any of that happens, I would prefer that Somaliland get official recognition first so that the fledgling democracy can get all the support it needs. I mean, it's working better than Somalia proper. They need help now though. They're currently experiencing drought as we know, that do lead to violence as people fight for resources. Many would argue the Syrian civil war started with inadequate response to the drought happening at the time.
You are 100% correct about Somaliland. They need international recognition, and perhaps a United Nations membership. It is unfair to deny them the membership, when Somalia can have it.