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[bitsalame]

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Now before finishing this post, I would like to make a comment regarding to "negs". I hate that term because it misleads people.
It is not about being an asshole, it is about teasing playfully. That's the safest way of throwing a girl from her pedestal, and at the same time being safe of not offending her. You may use dry negs afterwards, if you know what you are doing, but don't abuse it and never repeat a neg.

This is exactly what they're talking about. You're not talking about how to get someone to like you, you're talking about how to go fishing, catch a fish, rape it in the mouth, and throw it back. It's not "teasing playfully" if your main goal is to reduce their self confidence so they'll settle for you.

"main goal is to reduce their self confidence", nope, that's not the main goal.
Thinking it that way, I agree, it is very negative and those are the jerks who pursue control and manipulation.
It is a big red flag, indeed.

The actual goal is not to make her feel insecure, it is about creating a shortcut to the feeling of closeness, confidence and intimacy.
It is counter-intuitive, but think about it for a minute. There is a saying that says: a good friend will say you did good, but your best friend will tell you that you sucked.

Looking for control is bad for your soul, but looking for playfulness is good. It is more about being playful, rather than a jerk.
From the outside the techniques might look similar, but it is the intention and the delivery what really makes the difference.

Negging isn't "playfullness", it's sole purpose is to reduce self confidence. Flirting is the "shortcut" you're talking about, because it shows interest.

I am telling you that using negging with that mindset is counterproductive, especially for newbies.
Teasing is negging in disguise and it is the smooth way of executing it.
In any case I am against the concept of negging as reducing self confidence, but as a way of inducing banter.

The proper definition would be that negging is to increase her self-awareness, but the moment you touch their self-esteem you are done for the night.
If you go in with the mentality of reducing confidence, you'll end up offending your targets.
Please refrain from regurgitating the Mystery Method crap.

It's teasing when they know you're joking, it's being a douchebag when you tell someone that "it's great they're finally going on a diet"

How many times do I have to say it to make you understand that I agree with you? Please re-read what I wrote, having in mind that I am agreeing with you all the way.
And all I am saying is that being a douche is obviously idiotic, "neg" without considering the context (or lack of context) is plain suicide.

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[Electrongolf]

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Good Luck!

[jago25_98]

What a good idea.

I have my own method that I would like to share. It very different to what I think the OP is offering. I think the 2 things complement each other well. I have for brief moments felt the feeling of being in that moment and in demand. That's not what I want to teach here. This is something different. For me it has been more modest; ego doesn't work with it.

I want to share how I met my partners because it has really changed my outlook in life. I too also don't want to charge any money for it up front. The reason for this is because I don't think there's much need. If it works for you as it has done for me you will feel so happy that frankly I can't see why anyone wouldn't want to acknowledge that happiness and say thank you.

If you fancy giving this a go just send me a PM with your Skype and what kind of time to call you on UTC time and I'll talk you through it.

Peace

 -j

[bitsalame]

Step 1: Make a lot of money

Step 2: Grow a large penis

Step 3: Show her the results of Steps 1 and 2.

If you want shallow you can have it.

Although I know that it was just for the lulz, I will address the previous comment as serious because it is one of the main misconceptions that males have, deep within.

Step 1 influential but not essential. Actually, to be accurate, enough money to be self-sufficient, autonomous and being independent, which translates to security which in turn are signs of maturity. That's what girls really dig, the amount of money beyond that is not really important, unless you are targetting gold diggers. ie. if you made a million dollars but still living with your parents, I can bet all my bitcoins that you'll have a tough time attracting quality dates.
Step 2 is not essential AT ALL. Ironically guys are more obsessed with big dicks than girls. Go figure.
AND also it is impossible to make your dick bigger naturally (ointment, massages, pills, etc...), stop listening to infomercial craps and don't believe what you see in porn, they are preying on one's insecurity... the only somewhat reliable way of making it bigger is with surgeries doesn't actually guarantee a permanent long penis, and even worse, they can leave you limp for life and incapable of achieving orgasms. Big, dead and insensitive, are the potential outcome that you would get. If it works, just leave it. Having a small dick and a huge self-confidence, makes you still an attractive person.
In fact, every defect that you may have, even the physical ones, may be a big advantage if you know how to reframe it properly. It is how you look at things what defines things.

Cheers

[frisco2]

Here's something that took me a while to understand. I was under impression that I should be able to get any girl I wanted. More importantly, if I was shooting for a sophisticated girl, then I should be able to attract any lesser one no problem.
But that is impossible, because many girls will not be able to value what you got because they lack the background and knowledge, or like different things. As well, you can not attract a girl that has achieved significantly more than you.

You can only attract a girl that is comparable to you. So don't feel offended upon rejection. Just realize that it must be right that its not meant to be. Only the right girl will "resonate" with you. I find that girls responses are a pretty good "litmus" test for weather they would value you or not.