i never said the fee i paid was massive, it was asking for over $40 worth of fee but i changed it to $1.70 and i keep trying the accelerator but its overloaded or somthing it just won't work
I apologize for saying that... but they (miners/wallet services) are not asking for the high fees
they simply choose transactions to be included in a block based on the highest to lowest tx fee rate in mempool
and the wallet you're using simply suggest the recommended (average) tx fee
anyway lets not debate about fee rate, this is Technical Support SF lets discuss how to get your tx confirmed
you can do CPFP or attempt a double spend tx, it's your choice... or just wait till it gets confirmed or dropped