I could never go straight up NLP. If I did it was from a script (ala sugar packet).
Most aren't into -nerds-, they're into confident people in nerd chic. I heard it a lot 'confidence is the most attractive thing' and never really got it until I got into pickup.
But sometimes I wish I could go back to AFCdom. The naivete.
If all flirtation, and pickups, romanticizing etc., are just a form a manipulation of sorts...then NLP is king.
But it certainly should not be the primary aspect of conversation or flirtation.