I think it would help if you set up a table with one column showing Bitcoin's strengths, the other weaknesses, put it public where people can give suggestions to add to the list, then rank them in order of importance, and have the group come up with ideas on how to address the issues. Your video was a good start, but it sort of just throws those thoughts out there without an easy way to see or organize them. If you want to take charge and help with that (and on this trolly forum we need all the help we can get), why not post a read-only copy of such a table in public somewhere (Google Docs?), start a thread where people can post comments, and screen those based on what you think is important.
For the record, I completely agree with you that very low fees and faster transactions don't compare to the convenience of whipping out and swiping plastic. Especially when it's still such a pain to refill your Bitcoin account. Also, most benefits of Bitcoin seem to be geared towards merchants, but most people out there are consumers, and customers are always right (even when they use 2.5% fee credit cards). BUT, I also don't think getting people angry or scared is necessarily the right answer. Sadly, most people out there just don't give a shit no matter what. Just look at the number of people who vote.
Hopefully, a more organized brainstorm of ideas will help bring out even better things to concentrate on, and you seem to be trusted enough, or at least well known enough, to be able to attract enough people to yourself and lead this thing.