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November 22, 2018, 07:08:44 PM
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The only and best way to help people is to help them help themselves.
If you do the work for him, he won't be able to appreciate and understand
the value you produced for his life until he loses what he has.


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March 15, 2019, 04:51:35 AM
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Separate yourself emotionally from their choices. Second, focus on encouraging good steps. When you see that person doing something right, tell them that they're doing something right. When you see that person making a good move, give them praise. That way they will know and start doing the right things and eventually start to help themselves. Then you can give them opportunities to work on, so they will grow exponentially. By the way, hit me up at Vegascasino if you're a player there, poker or black jack.   Hope my advice helps.
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March 15, 2019, 05:08:13 AM
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I have a friend who is really in very bad luck financially. He finds it hard to get a job etc etc and so I advised him to get a job online where he won't be judged by how he dresses or how he looks. He just have to get a job and then do his best to perform it. He just kept on saying that he will get into it but does nothing. Yet, he continues to complain how fucked up his life is. It is already annoying for a lot of us, his friends. However, I do not want to be a bad friend.

I would stop listening to his complaints if I were you, maybe it will help him look for a job faster.
Once I have stopped complaining, as I was left alone for sometime, I made a huge progress
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March 15, 2019, 01:20:15 PM
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Separate yourself emotionally from their choices. Second, focus on encouraging good steps. When you see that person doing something right, tell them that they're doing something right. When you see that person making a good move, give them praise. That way they will know and start doing the right things and eventually start to help themselves. Then you can give them opportunities to work on, so they will grow exponentially. By the way, hit me up at Vegascasino if you're a player there, poker or black jack.   Hope my advice helps.
Letting them know you appreciate them as human being is enough. Maybe he/she is just down because of their life decisions but yes don't stop encourage them. You seem like a wonderful and full of positivity person. I'm playing poker too, where can i hit you up ? VegasCasino? Not familiar with that
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March 15, 2019, 01:30:47 PM
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I have a friend who is really in very bad luck financially. He finds it hard to get a job etc etc and so I advised him to get a job online where he won't be judged by how he dresses or how he looks. He just have to get a job and then do his best to perform it. He just kept on saying that he will get into it but does nothing. Yet, he continues to complain how fucked up his life is. It is already annoying for a lot of us, his friends. However, I do not want to be a bad friend.
You have a good heart despite of the attitude your friend has,why bot just let him alone so he will recognize your presence,sometimes people dont wanna move further because they have someone to lean in.but when they become alone they will realize how important friens are
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March 15, 2019, 02:54:12 PM
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I have a friend who is really in very bad luck financially. He finds it hard to get a job etc etc and so I advised him to get a job online where he won't be judged by how he dresses or how he looks. He just have to get a job and then do his best to perform it. He just kept on saying that he will get into it but does nothing. Yet, he continues to complain how fucked up his life is. It is already annoying for a lot of us, his friends. However, I do not want to be a bad friend.
It's a nice thing from you to help your friend.
I take my friend like my brother. Try to show your love for him.
 And let him strengthen his self-confidence. And encouraged him to do so.
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March 15, 2019, 02:58:04 PM
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Only way to help after all efforts have been made to convince and give inspiration is to simply pray.  There are people who just don't  have the drive or enough reason to change their lives for the better no matter how much we wanted to help. 
You are the right to pray, strengthen the will of people,
and push to work more forcefully. Plus someone love us.
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