With the tools I have, which difficulty should I choose?
And what is the recommended standard difficulty for my asic?
Which pool is asking you to enter your own difficulty figures? it's 2021 already and all reasonable pools will do that for you, as a miner owner all you need to worry about is entering the correct URL, username, and password if the pool expects you to put more effort you should probably find a different pool.
Some pools, however, have a special port for hash power rentals from the likes of Nicehash, those will have the higher difficulty set to them, since you have your own gears just use the default port.