Risks to take in marriage

[FireDAOJackie_Z]

We all want a good relationship with our spouses or soulmates too .

So what are the risks we should take
1 _when a marriage is about falling ,think about the kids and how divorce will make things wrong and difficult for them
I have grown up as a young girl and has never leaved with both parents till last year when I started living with my dad ,don't you think I might have gone through alot ?? Without both parents by my side ,

If you wanna give your kids the best in life you have to endure certain attitude Ms from both ur wife/husband ,when a home is seperated only one parent can't be able to take care of all the kids even if there is supplus money and second wife or husband ,when a single mother is set to take care of all the kids because she cought her husband cheating or what have you , she leaves ,she can't be fanacially stable to take care of all ,what if na 25 kids what's gonna happen?? The kids will start sleeping outside to care for them own selves ,how can a mother of 25 take such abilities all to her self

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You have brought up a topic that bothers so many married people, including me. Before getting married, I was thinking about all possible marriage life and there were no problem at all. Time has proved that I was too naive. My life has completely changed since I got married. The spouse has not been the same person as I knew before and we quarreled a lot on even small trivial things in daily life. I have thought about divorce a thousand times but hesitated to do so only because of my daughter. Whenever I see her little face and think about all possible miserable life she might encounter in a single-parent family, I hold divorce back. I know I am not happy with my marriage but keeping this kind of life for the sake of my daughter is something I have to do without regret.

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[Rockstarguy]

One of the risk we don't all want to participate in taking is the risk of being responsible for marriage challenges, we must know that it's a lifetime of for better for worse and for richer or poorer, we need to understand that no condition is parmanent, therefore we must be ready to take our partners burden along with ours in facing marriage challenges a d tackle them one after the other, especially being the man who is the head of the house.

The truth is that no one want to face the challenges, and some people thinks marriage must be perfect that is why when it is not going the way it should be their is problem.  Marriage is tolerance because two unperfect persons are coming together to make a family,  so the only thing that can make it work is tolerate and forgive and to understand each other. A marriage where both partners are ready tolerate and understand themselves will always work out good.

[Bruce4]

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Money problems Is a major marital  problem facing marriages today.The lack of finance in any marriage,
Can render that marriage useless.The quality of life will go down if the two of you live in poverty,and not everybody
Wants a broken home.Money is essential to funding our lives,and if there isn't enough to take Care of what we need,
It can create a large amount of stress to both spouses.Although,it could be a result of low income,but action and reactions
From the other party can inflict emotional and mental breakdown towards the union i.e marriage.

[348Judah]

To me i see the risk in marriage ad taking a bold step in trusting your partner on a lifetime agreement to spend the rest of your days together with him or her, this is what we called trust because in marriage, there's no hiding of anything anymore because two has become one, that's why one must not make that costly mistake to chose wrong, marriage is for the two of them to enjoy and create fun altogether and not an hardship or endurance to bear as a burden, the man must be able to make provisions for his home which is the responsibility he takes and must ensures to do.

[Ebede]

Marriage can be risk when you are not up to age before going relationship or Marriage,  that's why some one need to be mature before getting married,  because you are not balanced getting married will cause a very big problem in your,  one of my friends who got married recently is regretting because of it have not rooted the knowledge of marriage before getting married.

[Wolfblood200$]

Like they say,Marriage is school you can’t graduate from..We have to consider alot of things before getting into marriage,You have to be patient and tolerant if you want your marriage to work because change is the only permanent thing in life..Marriage is not only about procreation and companionship you have understand each other and know each other flaws..And lastly be matured for the task it will bring..

[Sakanwa]

Marriage they say is a bond meant not to be disclosed but it becomes risky when we are not prepared or having the quality as an individual person marriage involve responsibility, attention and care towards your spouse trust is important also as bearing burdens together as one marital home as a family decision are made to suit both party in other to avoid controversy and conflict it requires a woman to be submissive to her husband and her husband taken proper responsibility in other to maintain a peaceful home

[Gormicsta]

To be honest, you are correct, but we should also consider how divorce may affect the children's future relationships. Children from divorced households may struggle to build good connections and trust others. They may also find it challenging to trust their own love relationships. This may have a significant influence on their future happiness. So, while divorce may be the most effective choice for certain couples, it is not something to take lightly because it is a major decision that can have a lasting impact for the entire family. Additionally, when there is an absence of respect, it can lead to disagreement and anger, so we need to treat our spouses with dignity and affection.

[|MINER|]

Marriage is a sacred bond.  Once married, efforts should be made to preserve it forever.  Because marriage is only a relationship between two people, if they have children, they should also think about the future.  When you are married, you have to try to adapt to many things.  If you have a child, you must think about that survival before you separate.  Because life without parents is very difficult.  Many marriages are toxic.  Where it is not possible to live by adapting.  From there one must withdraw and keep the good child legally with him as guardian.

[Uhwuchukwu53]

Marriage is allowing certain circumstances to play in your life which ordinarily won't have taken place in the absence of marriage, you loss something to gain and retain peaceful home or marriage but where any of the party involved fail to loose the marriage won't work.

Lossing must be if different kind it could be financial, character most time involved psychological loss, all of this one must have get to loose one depending the one you face in order to retain peaceful home. Psychological may strickly be of pleasure loss, financial spend beyond your budget why character refer drop of behavior without this and many more marriage will always remain shaking.

[Bushdark]

One of the risk we don't all want to participate in taking is the risk of being responsible for marriage challenges, we must know that it's a lifetime of for better for worse and for richer or poorer, we need to understand that no condition is parmanent, therefore we must be ready to take our partners burden along with ours in facing marriage challenges a d tackle them one after the other, especially being the man who is the head of the house.

The truth is that no one want to face the challenges, and some people thinks marriage must be perfect that is why when it is not going the way it should be their is problem.  Marriage is tolerance because two unperfect persons are coming together to make a family,  so the only thing that can make it work is tolerate and forgive and to understand each other. A marriage where both partners are ready tolerate and understand themselves will always work out good.

Sometimes understanding our partners has married couple can be very difficult especially when the person is not ready to be remorseful about their problem that needed to be handled. This is why we keep seeing many divorced couples everywhere in the internet because of lack of understanding to tolerate one self. We just need to understand our partners if we want a successful relationship with any plan for divorce. Their are so many shits we'll have to face and the new couples should be aware of that.

[Zanab247]

All I know is that marriage is hard and we should not go into it if we know that we do not have the power or the strength to endure as much as we can. Everything about marriage is endurance so we need to make sure that we are fully ready to accept whatever we see before we think of going into marriage. Some persons enters marriage without you understanding.

Marriage is not hard, when you are mature and ready to play your role as a man because women don't want to suffer in marriage, which are some of the things that is bringing issues to some marriages today, and it has led many to divorce without considering the children they have in that marriage.

Even though you have the power and your pocket is weak, don't try it, but if your pocket is well strong and you find true love, you are good to enter marriage and you will succeed at the end.

 If you can endure in marriage, you will not experience divorce from your marriage because some couples don't know that nothing last forever in marriage, once you understand that the situation will not be dear forever, you will be among the best marriage in your society.

[ferida504]

My mother's father divorced when I was a toddler, in mother's arms.
And I was raised by step grandparents.
My memory is still sharp enough to remember that sad time.
Mother's father already has another partner as well as another child..
My life is tossing and turning without direction
Jealous of my friends and the happiness of a small child, invites the sadness back..
Father and mother, I just need your love, like my friend.
So far, I've never gotten it.
Now my father is gone forever, look at your son, father, now I am an adult and can find food for myself without your love.
Without you I can be independent, now my father has gone forever back to God's side.
But hatred for you makes me furious and I want to destroy everything around me.

And now, from the experience above, I always try to avoid divorce because it will affect the child's mentality.

The increasingly high divorce rate is influenced by uncontrolled social media and also the influence of social media which is quite large, resulting in household commotion due to frequent communication with the opposite sex. , thus ending in divorce. When a divorce occurs the biggest victim is the child, they will bear an extraordinary burden even if it is so big that it becomes unmanageable, this is all the parents' ego. There is no family where there is never a commotion, so avoid personal contact with people who are not your wife or husband and also eliminate your sense of ego.

[Kriptogram14]

The increasingly high divorce rate is influenced by uncontrolled social media and also the influence of social media which is quite large, resulting in household commotion due to frequent communication with the opposite sex. , thus ending in divorce. When a divorce occurs the biggest victim is the child, they will bear an extraordinary burden even if it is so big that it becomes unmanageable, this is all the parents' ego. There is no family where there is never a commotion, so avoid personal contact with people who are not your wife or husband and also eliminate your sense of ego.

Every decision we take has its risks, in marriage there are of course risks that we have to take, such as our selfishness in the way we think, we have to put our ego behind us, because if we put our ego first, the problems will become complicated, small things will become big , throw away your ego and give in to each other, don't both maintain your own ego.

The divorce rate is getting higher, this is because in the household no one gives in to each other, everyone puts their own egos first, and there is no longer any trust from both parties, this will make problems even more complicated, don't let it be because of their selfishness, children. The victims are children who become victims of incomplete families.

[Uhwuchukwu53]

Marriage is something you need to know before you get to it and you need to understand that your life will never be the same when you will marry the girl you love because when that happens, you gonna do everything to make her happy and comfortable.

Yes that is truth marriage before venturing into need deep exposure, by going for knowledge, study what it takes to handle marriage, allot happened base on the facts that many don't see it as anything but just a contract but it's beyond a contract except one will keep divorcing and marrying all the time, the knowledge about marriage can help you passed the challenges that is involved that leads to such divorce.

One of the key marrying who you love it solve allot of marriage issue because love covereth all things, the love can superceed any thing which may likely course harm in the marriage, and the knowledge guide you to handle any arising issue that would have exceeded beyond your capability.

[Kelward]

Marriage is something you need to know before you get to it and you need to understand that your life will never be the same when you will marry the girl you love because when that happens, you gonna do everything to make her happy and comfortable.

The risk in marriage is getting married to the wrong person, most people nowadays get married for the wrong purpose not love, is either because of money, beauty and so on. Which it will come to a time when those things might not be what you need anymore. Marriage is a beautiful thing, one just have to choose his or her partner wisely, because marriage comes with a lot of responsibilities, one just have to be prepared all round.

The biggest mistake that anybody can make is marrying the wrong person, the kind of spouse you have will go a long way to determine your happiness or sorrow, so it's very important to know the kinds of qualities that you want in a marriage, although it's not possible to get a perfect partner but let the person poses some important qualities that you need. I don't think that reasonable person will go into marriage with the intention of divorcing their partner, but unfortunately the rate of divorce in our societies is on the increase now, couples no longer tolerate each other's shortcomings, and very little matter that can easily be resolved will lead to divorce.

Couples with children needs to consider the innocent children that they brought into this world before considering divorce, because these will not experience the joy of being raised by loving parents. Inasmuch as I don't endorse divorce, a partner is better of alone than remaining in a toxic relationship.

[Dewiana]

My mother's father divorced when I was a toddler, in mother's arms.
And I was raised by step grandparents.
My memory is still sharp enough to remember that sad time.
Mother's father already has another partner as well as another child..
My life is tossing and turning without direction
Jealous of my friends and the happiness of a small child, invites the sadness back..
Father and mother, I just need your love, like my friend.
So far, I've never gotten it.
Now my father is gone forever, look at your son, father, now I am an adult and can find food for myself without your love.
Without you I can be independent, now my father has gone forever back to God's side.
But hatred for you makes me furious and I want to destroy everything around me.

And now, from the experience above, I always try to avoid divorce because it will affect the child's mentality.

When the ijab qabul or marriage occurs, that is where the responsibility of a father (wife's father) falls to the husband, so a husband must look after his wife as best as possible like a father, at the time of marriage there are also many temptations that must be faced together, many households cannot afford it. keeping this in the end divorce occurred. Currently, the divorce rate is very high, triggered by the arrival of third parties who disrupt the household, as well as factors involving family interference. Before getting married, you should understand both of them so you don't regret it later. I hope it lasts for those who are married.

[AVE5]

Marriage disputes with the inability of the parents to keep their misunderstandings away from the notification of the kids is ought to have negative effects on the kids that's why environment of where kids are being brought up from matters when considering possible behaviours of the kids when they grows up.
So as much husband and wife breaking out when they've kids on the tender ages to take care of is also effective to how the kids could grow up be it could distabilize the dreams of those kids and their potentials to redeem what they're destined for could be doomed because there could be no more of those resources and and parental vibes that motivates those kids to be able to posses their possessions.

Of it all, of time factors to make things right to how those kids could grow up, the kid's could be misleaded by the experienced from their parents.

[passwordnow]

I have seen a lot of relationships that they're just trying to save it because of their kids. Some worked properly but many of them didn't. If you can't take it anymore and you're with a partner that you've chosen wrongly because the relationship and companionship that you've built tears and becomes weary, you should just save yourselves from the emotional being from that kind of relationship. Yes, you may still try but if it's not working out, don't push your luck for it but just be good parents to your kid/s. That's the responsibility that both of you have taken and you shouldn't miss any important gatherings and events of that fruit that will serve as your remembrance of how both of you have been before.

The risk is high but when you are able to get together again then that's nice. But as I've said, the majority of what I've seen with these kind of marriages that are already tearing apart, some solutions worked but most of them decided to just set apart and signed contracts that they'll never forget their responsibilities to their children. I know that some cultures are family oriented but in some, this is no longer a big deal as many children grew up with their step dads/moms or did had one parent but you know what folks? The love of the grandparents are the best that they can lean on and that's why many of these kids from broken marriages have found their comfort through their grandpas and grandmas.

[Volimack]

Personality development is a continuous process from being tied to a relationship like marriage the course of which may not be smooth. Marriage is a sacred bond love can be practiced in any way. Understanding yourself about yourself your life goals and your partner is very important before deciding to get married. Deciding to get married after making decisions about emotional preparation financial security and what you want can increase your chances of a happy married life.