I still believe that even though family is important and we should start a family when we can. I do not think doing it when one does not have economical safety is a good idea, though.
Why would I marry and have children if I cannot even provide to myself so I can live in a comfortable enough way? That is why it bothers my mind a bit when I see people living in poverty and in the outer limits of the cities and still having children that they cannot even send to school. It does not sound like a good plan in my opinion.
Would not be easier just to stay single and only being responsible of oneself in the meantime?
Some of us got married when the economy was good. There were jobs everywhere and our local currency had value. My salary used to be enough to take care of my family because of the strong purchasing power of our currency. But years after, things began to fall apart and life started becoming difficult. My salary has not been increased for many years in an economy that is going through hyperinflation. I never though that my country's economy will be as bad as this that's why I had more than two children.
The economy of an individual or nation is unpredictable so marrying because you are financially stable is good but don't forget that you can lose the money. If you feel that you can live a fulfilled life without marriage and children, then you can decide not to marry and enjoy your life. This is because marriage and childraising are expensive.
It is fair. I had kinda forgotten that was also a possibility, that good times come, there are savings jobs, security so one decided to start a family and all goes to hell because politicians being irresponsible.
I guess, it is kind of inevitable for many, thanks for pointing it out.
I still believe that even though family is important and we should start a family when we can. I do not think doing it when one does not have economical safety is a good idea, though.
Why would I marry and have children if I cannot even provide to myself so I can live in a comfortable enough way? That is why it bothers my mind a bit when I see people living in poverty and in the outer limits of the cities and still having children that they cannot even send to school. It does not sound like a good plan in my opinion.
Would not be easier just to stay single and only being responsible of oneself in the meantime?
There are quite a number of things that pushes people into getting married, these may include;
Societal pressure
age barrier
religious believes
procreation etc.
Some people believe their finance will turn around once they get married since the holy book states that, "who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour from God..." so these anticipated favour has pushed many people into marriages without proper plans.
However, you would agree that there are those that have actually created this fortune for themselves after getting married through hard work with their spouse. Hence, a certain percentage of the people with plenty children suffering in poverty and hardship directly reflects ignorance and maybe unwillingness to work.
Despite all these factors, i believe a man can start his own family whenever he has the resources and willingness to take good care of them.
Well, I am the kind of person who would not blindly follow one religion when comes to matters like having children or personal finances, but I get it is different according to where one lives.
Also, that fragment of the book does not mention or takes in consideration that there are bad women which could make their husband life's miserable, obviously there are other written norms about marriage in religion, but we cannot discuss about this topic only keeping in mind one single commandment or divine advise.
