A Nigerian Father Rejects Son's Gambling Win

[Yatsan]

A boy won #38,000,000 ($82340.19) with just #400 ($0.87) and when the boy brought home his win, the biological father of the boy rejected the money because it was gotten from gambling. So that makes me to think how people look or see or think of gambling. Is gambling a bad thing to do? As for me gambling is not a bad something but the individual can be bad and also the way you present yourself in the society can also tell people about your personality.

How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?

Then he should keep it. Non-gamblers won't appreciate your wins and how hard it is to win in gambling and it is somewhat a once in a lifetime opportunity for gamblers. If I were the gambler, I'd buy stuffs I want or live in my own but only if I would be able to secure a job to sustain the funds and avoid using all of it in an instant. I won't suggest just walking away with that amount 'coz it won't be enough to live for a year. The reason why I suggest moving away is because anything he would be buying from that amount would surely be a conflict to the boy's father, and that is just to avoid such thing. But what's best is for him to not even mention it in the first place 'coz for sure he knows how would his father react.

[alastantiger]

Probably the father has a thing or two against gambling. Gambling for him may be like  the devil job and the winnings from gambling ma y be like the devil's money and if he is so religious he would stick with his religious beliefs about gambling.We would never know the full story. Probably he is afraid that his son may have gotten it through illegal means. What will the son do? What is the mother's stance? Would he be disowned if he doesn't return the money?

[Ndabagi01]

How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?

There must be a very compelling reason why the father rejected the money and requested his son to return it to where it came from. If gambling is strongly discouraged by his religion, the most likely cause is his father's beliefs and the teachings of his religion. In situations involving such significant sums of money, not all fathers can stand up to their religion's beliefs. If the parent is acting in accordance with his religion's beliefs, I respect his decision.

It’s the man’s choice to choose to accept the money or not, but we all know the amount won is really a big amount that’s enough to change someone’s life. If the man reject the money, i don’t have problem with that but the father shouldn’t stop the boy from spending the money and using the money for anything he want.

The father clearly does not want his son to spend the money and should just return it to them.  If he had intended the son to spend the money, he would simply refuse it and not ask his son to return it.

[drwhobox]

Father has enough money already and he doesn't want his son to get that amount of money without putting any effort. Maybe the father knows that gambling will make his son lazy and he will not work. Also my wild guess is that the father is Muslim and he doesn't want any gambling money in his house. gambling is prohibited in Islam so it can happen.

[Hispo]

It is a personal kind of thing, It seems. But it catches my attention that this happened in Nigeria, it seems that people from that country have all kinds of moral interpretations, not only about gambling but all kinds of aspects of life.

Here in the west, it would be extremely rare for someone to reject money that way, we have grown up in a context where gambling is morally acceptable as soon as the person is an adult and is not doing so compulsively.

I would have taken the money if I had such a lucky son.

[alegotardo]

A boy won #38,000,000 ($82340.19) with just #400 ($0.87) and when the boy brought home his win, the biological father of the boy rejected the money because it was gotten from gambling. So that makes me to think how people look or see or think of gambling. Is gambling a bad thing to do? As for me gambling is not a bad something but the individual can be bad and also the way you present yourself in the society can also tell people about your personality.

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How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?

I would say it depends...

It depends on the country (then you already said it's in Nijeria), but there are countries where gambling is strictly prohibited, the very fact of simply playing, even without winning anything, can lead the user to suffer with very high fines.

It depends on the family's financial situation, if they are comfortably well off and the son did it against the father's rules, then he would be right to make the son reject the money as a form of punishment, in order to educate the son and prevent him from committing further disobedience. serious in the future.

It also depends on the religion, in the Catholic religion gambling is already seen as "something of the devil", in others gambling is equivalent to stealing. If the family is very religious, even going through financial difficulties, the father would be right to reject the money.

[harizen]

If that's the Father's own point of view, so be it. We can't do something about it.

Maybe he's following a principle or any related stuff related to that and might have a culture-related belief about gambling in general. We don't know the story, we don't know the situation, so we better stay out of it and doesn't need a long discussion.

Was he right to reject his son's gambling win? There is no proper answer to that.

[ralle14]

I'd respect the father's decision, but it's not a good idea to pass up on their son's winnings when they still need to make rent payments. It would've been understandable if they were financially stable, but there's no need to make the situation harder for them when their son is trying to help. That must've felt bad for their son, but it's still not the end of the world for him since he can still use that gambling money in other ways to help his family pay the bills.

[Darker45]

Well, I appreciate the father for being principled. Most of us have double standards. Others would easily forget their principles once money is offered. I don't agree or disagree with the father, but I truly respect him for standing to his principles.

In general, gambling is a vice. I gamble, but I know that there a thousand better ways how to spend that money. But it's for fun. It's for entertainment. I guess we also need that once in a while.

[cabron]

It can't be that bad for the boy, he definitely can use the funds to himself he earned it. He just didn't howver earn the respect from father. But he might just earn it if he gives it all to father's church. 

He's a lucky kid though. So many people gamble and lost thousands already but he spend less than a dollar to make $80k. Who else does that?

[Reatim]

A boy won #38,000,000 ($82340.19) with just #400 ($0.87)

That is truly amazing , how lucky this boy was that moment making that thousands times win over the capital ? rare occasion that i truly admire .

and when the boy brought home his win, the biological father of the boy rejected the money because it was gotten from gambling. So that makes me to think how people look or see or think of gambling. Is gambling a bad thing to do? As for me gambling is not a bad something but the individual can be bad and also the way you present yourself in the society can also tell people about your personality.

maybe this is about religion , or maybe His father stands for something that against easy money and that is about gambling.

How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?

I am a father also , and if this happens to me ? i will not be stupid and hypocrite to deny the fact that this is a life changing event that I must be thankful.

But from there I will make my Son promise not to gamble again or never try to have this gambling again because he will never win that same amount again.

[Sexylizzy2813]

A boy won #38,000,000 ($82340.19) with just #400 ($0.87) and when the boy brought home his win, the biological father of the boy rejected the money because it was gotten from gambling. So that makes me to think how people look or see or think of gambling. Is gambling a bad thing to do? As for me gambling is not a bad something but the individual can be bad and also the way you present yourself in the society can also tell people about your personality.

How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?

Sometimes we parents don't really know when to act against some decisions our children make, the father might be the religious type (let's say he's the religious type) and when it comes to gambling and Christianity is like you're fighting against the devil him self. We take Christianity too serious but we're not really following what is written in the Bible.
As a father (if I'm the father) I can't cast my child away because he's a gambler, I'd rather use that medium to change his mindset about gambling (that's if I despise gambling), use that money to invest on any lucrative business that would keep him off of gambling rather than sending him and the money away. Mehn, that money is a life changing opportunity.
I just see the father as a man who doesn't know how God works and how blessings in disguise come knocking on your door and he made a very big mistake that he'd regret for rejecting both the money and the child (the child especially).

[ethereumhunter]

It depends on each person. I guess his father didn't like his son earning money gambling, so he turned him down. Maybe gambling isn't a bad thing "IF" you manage to win a big win but still, some people think it's not a good thing. And they will not want to accept money from winnings from gambling because they think gambling is prohibited in religion. And maybe his father wants to teach his son to make money in other ways and not from gambling. We don't know many reasons so we can only see it from the outside.

[SquirrelJulietGarden]

A boy won #38,000,000 ($82340.19) with just #400 ($0.87) and when the boy brought home his win, the biological father of the boy rejected the money because it was gotten from gambling. So that makes me to think how people look or see or think of gambling. Is gambling a bad thing to do? As for me gambling is not a bad something but the individual can be bad and also the way you present yourself in the society can also tell people about your personality.

It is bad if you are gambling irresponsibly and gambling addictive. However it is true with many things, not only with gambling. If you are addictive to something, you likely are doing it irresponsibly and fail to control yourself. Trading, investing, playing games, playing sports and more, if you can not control yourself, you will have problems.

How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?

I think that father did a good thing because it's hard to control your greed with gambling. The father want to send a strong warning to his son, gambling can make you rich but it can make you poor again or poorer than before you got that win.

The father is not able to control his son in future. Gambling responsibly or not will depend on his son and he will decide what he does with gambling and what ending he want to have financially.

[Don Pedro Dinero]

His father's decision might have a religious or cultural undertone. I am aware that some religions and even cultures see gambling as immoral. Islam absolutely forbids gambling, it is called haram.

That's the first thing I thought of, otherwise it's not understandable. With just over half of Nigeria's population being Muslim, the religious hypothesis is the most likely. In a Western family, with a different cultural background, the father could at most say that he is not happy about where the money comes from and that he should be careful because what he has earned today he could lose tomorrow. Things like that.

[Strongkored]

A boy won #38,000,000 ($82340.19) with just #400 ($0.87) and when the boy brought home his win, the biological father of the boy rejected the money because it was gotten from gambling. So that makes me to think how people look or see or think of gambling. Is gambling a bad thing to do? As for me gambling is not a bad something but the individual can be bad and also the way you present yourself in the society can also tell people about your personality.

How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?

Very sure the reason the boy's father refused to accept the money even though the amount is so much for the cost of living in Nigeria that it can change lives, is religion. Religion has always considered gambling as a bad thing and can be destructive. Indeed, it is true that the people who do it are not mature enough so it can make people lazy because they think gambling can make someone rich if they hit the jackpot, or do other bad things because they run out of money while gambling or because they experience a loss and need money so they do some criminal activity.

Or the boy's father feels the need to save his boy from gambling activities by refusing the money so that the boy feels that what he is doing will not bring happiness to his family even though he can get the money that can change the economy of his family. But I believe what this young man got was just a fluke and if he continued to gamble he could lose all the money if he thought that he could always earn from gambling.

What the father did was not a matter of right or wrong but rather a point of view and we cannot blame it if there are people who don't like money from gambling because it is about faith.

[pakhitheboss]

It is a matter of an individuals choice! The father thinks earning from gambling will only bring bad image of his family whereas the son doesn't believe in his ideology. It is quite common in many societies around the world  to consider Gambling as a bad influence to the family. There are religions that believe earnings from gambling to be bad. Therefore this news doesn't suprise me.

[Oasisman]

How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?

I don't see anything wrong with the father rejecting this kind of money. For sure, he's a man with strong principles to stand against what he thinks it's wrong and right in his own perception or religious beliefs.
Now, this is where this situation is going to be tricky, because the Son is now in a hot seat between choosing his family or the money. Pretty common scenario here in my country, not with this same exact situation, but it's with the inherited land and properties. 
I don't think bringing the money back to the gambling company is a good idea. They should at least share it to the poor struggling families or send it directly to charity.

[Pierre 2]

I feel like if this story is true its completely about father's religious views in life. Most religious people I met here (majority muslim country) tell me that money earned through gambling can't be counted as hard-earned money. They see it as easy money and/or dirty money. They always favor labor money or trader money in life. I think we have not much to say about father. If I was kid I would definitely use that money in somewhere good. Rejecting it is a bad idea indeed.

[Zanab247]

Gambling is a bad thing to children who are still under their parents roof because, they can use their school fees or their father property to gamble and reduce the entire family to nothing in the community. I like what his father did at the moment, so that the boy will know that his father is not after money but him  want a better future for the boy by focusing on his educational career that will make his father to be proud of his son. But if you have married or you are not under your parents, I don't think your parents will reject such money from you than to pray for you for more favour and join you to celebrate for the financial breakthrough.