Too much pressure on the male child

[Jawhead999]

Man was created to work, and for him to get money to take care of his responsibilities he must engage himself in work that will provide the money, that's why it's said that there's no food for a lazy man. Too many expectations are imposed on men, when they get married and starts their own family, naturally their responsibilities becomes his, and the burden will become more pronounced if he doesn't have a source of income or if the money he earns is not enough to cater for the basic needs of his family, the stress can lead to health challenges like heart attack and stroke. This is why in this age it's very important to marry an industrious woman, who can also make money and support the man to take care of the family, because if the responsibilities of a family is left alone for a man who is an average income earner, it can lead to his untimely death.

And there's no food for ugly woman.

Rich man will have a good life, handsome man can also a good life.
Pretty woman will have a good life, rich woman isn't always will have a good life because if she's ugly, man that wants her only want to get her money.

You need to look at the bigger scale, don't only focus with the outliers (pretty girls).

I'd say it's easy to find an industrious woman, but it won't be easy if "pretty" and "virgin" is your standards.

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[MissNonFall9]

I know that life does not require a lot of money to live but minimum money is very necessary by which people meet their basic needs. In a male-dominated society, since every man has to take charge of the whole family, it is very natural for every male child to be under too much pressure. The main reason for this is that every country has to have a certain number of boys or people unemployed because it is not at all possible for the government to provide employment for every boy. At such a time great pressure comes on a male child. A common problem of every person in the world is that if there is no money in the pocket, human pressure is created whether it is a boy or a girl.

[Gozie51]

A common problem of every person in the world is that if there is no money in the pocket, human pressure is created whether it is a boy or a girl.

That is the point. Everyone wants a better life and the need to make money. The bulk of financial burden is being taking away from the male folks with the feminist movement that has emancipated the female folks to be independent from men and so at the moment, that male dominance/financial responsibility is now played down on making that importance of a male child not so important even in third world countries. In the past, such communities hardly adopt children and when they do, they go for male but the situation has changed now. Families who don't have children easily adopt and they now choose to have female adopted.

[Ever-young]

The heaviness of the expectations of society can be breaking, especially when they maintain prejudices based on gender. But don't forget that masculine youngsters face pressures beyond conventional the roles of gender and destructive masculinity. They can also appear in more harmful ways.

1. Mental health: The pressure to succeed can cause anxiety, sadness, and other mental health concerns, and men are typically reluctant to seek help because of social expectations.

2. Risky conduct: Male children may engage in risky activity to demonstrate their manhood, which can lead to substance misuse, sexual risk-taking, and deadly physical accomplishments. Pressure on male children might influence them in various ways as well.

[Zanab247]

Many male child are in the graveyard and some have concluded that they are nothing to their family because, they don't have anything to provide for the family, be sure that you are the owner of your life and always wish yourself good things ahead no matter the pressure your family are releasing to you in the house, I believe you will surely become what God want you to become in the future.

If you accommodate the pressure from your family as a male child, you will not live long to fulfill your destiny because the pressure can make you to start doing wrong things that will lead you to life in prison and nobody will listen to you that it is the pressure that lead you to such crime in the society.

[Y3shot]

Nan can not solve all his problems,  problems will always be their if people don't understand this they will just stress themselves trying to solve all the problems of life. Men should learn not to be worried so much because of problems because when you try to solve all your problems you may end up getting depressed,  it is just better to do the ones you solve and leave the rest for another time, I think with this life  will be very easy.

[Troytech]

The problem is that male children are born with responsibilities cause the society sees them as potential bread winners and when they are up to an age without showing any signs of progress by providing for themselves they are seen as useless and as tho they won't make it, and worst of all the life of a youth us now wreaked, you would see a lot of your mates doing well and you know damn right that they did something bad to get there and you end up with no choice but to either follow suite or find your own way which would often take longer, surviving with a lot of pressure is not easy and male children have the worst burden to bear.

[Negotiation]

A male child is subjected to many family pressures and external pressures. Such as psychological stress, economic stress and other environmental management and some social stress. We should all refrain from creating too much pressure on men. It can be either in the family sphere or in the social sphere. If these should be avoided then a person will not have to face any obstacle in living his normal life. Nowadays mental problems are the biggest problem.

[Oiravon96]

Our expectations from the male child is killing them gradually, a man without money is not just a problem to others, but to himself.

when I see young men engaging into things they ought not to due to lack of money, my heart bleeds.
Our society today have made the male child without money useless, and that have push them to their early grave and most of them engaging into criminal or fraudulent activities just to make a living which have brought them to their untimely end.

I am a proud African, I know how blessed we are with different mineral resources but our government is not helping matters by providing good jobs.

We should stop putting too much pressure on the male child, because they also feel pain.
 
The male child without money is not useless, they also deserve to live without being pressured!

More precisely, it is not pressure that should be given to boys, but rather education and learning to be able to live in the future. I act as the head of the family and I have 2 children, 1 boy and 1 girl. My wife and I compromised to educate and provide learning to my children from an early age. Boys are my job and girls are my wife's job. I believe that educating and nurturing children from an early age is the right thing to do nowadays considering the social interactions that are becoming more and more disturbing. The nature of a man is that once he is an adult, he has a vital role in determining the direction of his life and success. how is it not vital? In the future, a man will have to work hard to meet all the needs of his future children and wife. So in my view it is not right that boys should be given pressure but should be given education and learning from an early age. The pressure will definitely be there when he grows up and matures. It's really heartbreaking when a boy is put under pressure when he is young and in the future he is also pressured by the demands of life as the head of the family. It would be better to educate and teach boys lessons about life from an early age, rather than putting pressure or demanding that he be what we want him to be...

[Tahid12]

Job problem seems turn into a major problem not into your country but also lots of countries. People can't manage any good job even they are qualify enough. But as a man he need to take responsibility for his family and that's why he have to do something to maintain and manage his family. So pressure will automatically come in that situation. And if a family is poor enough then they don't have any option without pressureing their male children for do any job for money. That's very common problem, what is not going to solve easily

[Dunamisx]

If we are going to consider by the way of virtue, a female child will grow and leave her parent house to marry another man and then this has always been the custom, while a male child will be the one to receive in a wife into the family, so they believe that the female child who marry to another man and family entirely has joined with her husband family and she will be bearing his surname henceforth while a male child will maintain his father name through his generation and remain, all these are the olden days customs some of our parents follows and the male child will be the bread winner of the family.

[ferida504]

Yes, that's how men are made, they have to withstand the pressures of the world, we are made like that, we have to accept, we are loved for what we have. and we are thrown away we lose what we have, life is hard so get used to it.

As a result of the government's lack of concern, the victims are boys, they are sometimes forced to commit crimes to maintain their lives. World institutions that deal with children should draft special laws for their welfare through the development of skills training, so that they each have their own expertise and creativity. That way they can open independent businesses without having to do things that are violated by the state. This result can at least reduce the crime rate

[oktana]

That’s what society has put in people’s head. Male children can be broke but not when they are in their mid twenties and above. And female children can be single but should be married before they are in their early thirties. An ideology that limit individual freedom. I think everyone should have the right to define their success and happiness irrespective of what society has to say. You may just want to train your mind to not accept such ideologies so it doesn’t influence your personal choices.

[Jonyshake71]

Now i use to believe that, man are sent to this world for taking all responsibilities. They Work harder and harder to earn money so that he could be able to do his responsibility for his family. in my country, man have to work alone for his parents, his siblings, wife and children alone. That's too much responsibility and pressure which is created by society where we are living. when a male have no money to live with, then his situation force him involve himself in negative sides. And unemployment plays vital role cause no government fail to give you a job space, then what Will you do? It isn't easy to start business without money. Although somehow man mamage his job.

[Sexylizzy2813]

If we are going to consider by the way of virtue, a female child will grow and leave her parent house to marry another man and then this has always been the custom, while a male child will be the one to receive in a wife into the family, so they believe that the female child who marry to another man and family entirely has joined with her husband family and she will be bearing his surname henceforth while a male child will maintain his father name through his generation and remain, all these are the olden days customs some of our parents follows and the male child will be the bread winner of the family.

This is why in some tradition (especially in Africa) they prefer to have many sons than daughters to carry the name of the father (to me is just a name nothing more) and I don't think nothing is wrong to have a girl, in as much as she'll marry amd leave the house it still doesn't change the fact that she can't help out the family who raised her or it doesn't stop her from calling her father dad or mother mom.
If the girl child will marry and go out it still doesn't mean the boy child won't marry and start his family outsider his biological home, so for the family to grow and not to impose the pressure on "only the boy child" is bether to have a collective efforts from both the girl and the boy child, with that I don't see the pressure on the male child.

[passwordnow]

We all deserve to live, good thing that my parents didn't put pressure on me and I've done a lot of crazy stuff on my teenage days. There were not that much words of encouragement on how successful I should be when I grow up and become a family man. But, it's all natural when I've come to realize them all because I've seen the truth and situation of my life and that's why it made me realize that I need to work my ass of and become successful. I think that I am still far from that actual success but I am happy with my life and that can be considered as a success right?

Because with what we know, success is being defined by money, career and wealth. But on these days, life is tougher and even you've got those but if your mental health isn't doing well then it all means nothing to your life even you're the wealthiest person in world. I've got peace, health, a happy family and whatever I can wish for. So, the younger ones that are also here, do not pressure your life. Find your purposes and work for your dreams.

[JMBitcointernational]

Our expectations from the male child is killing them gradually, a man without money is not just a problem to others, but to himself.

when I see young men engaging into things they ought not to due to lack of money, my heart bleeds.
Our society today have made the male child without money useless, and that have push them to their early grave and most of them engaging into criminal or fraudulent activities just to make a living which have brought them to their untimely end.

I am a proud African, I know how blessed we are with different mineral resources but our government is not helping matters by providing good jobs.

We should stop putting too much pressure on the male child, because they also feel pain.
 
The male child without money is not useless, they also deserve to live without being pressured!

Well said Op most times I usually ask myself if there is any law that stipulates that all male children should be rich, even in our different families there is this expectations that your Family wants from you as a make child not consisering the stress or source of income. I have seen So many male children depressed as a result of pressure arising from parents or what the Society expects from them .
This pressure on the male child always Make some of our youths To die prematurely By either committing suicide or involving in illegal acts just To survive And Care for his Family . But for me the  whole idea is baseless because any body can be rich And any body can take of his or her Family wether male or female . So let the younger boys Live their normal life And pray for God’s blessing instead of engaging theirselves in any form of illegal act just to peovw a stupid point.

[SmartCharpa]

Our expectations from the male child is killing them gradually, a man without money is not just a problem to others, but to himself.

when I see young men engaging into things they ought not to due to lack of money, my heart bleeds.
Our society today have made the male child without money useless, and that have push them to their early grave and most of them engaging into criminal or fraudulent activities just to make a living which have brought them to their untimely end.

I am a proud African, I know how blessed we are with different mineral resources but our government is not helping matters by providing good jobs.

We should stop putting too much pressure on the male child, because they also feel pain.
 
The male child without money is not useless, they also deserve to live without being pressured!

You're saying the fact mate, the pressure is getting too much on male children, if you are a male child without making money there's no way you will be respected by others, how are they going to make money to live the life they want when the government have refuse to provide a job in the societies? No even peace of mind when you move around with your friends because if they buy something nice for themselves, you might feel like getting it for yourself and you won't be able to afford it. The pressure on male children has led them to commit crimes, they join bad gangs because the pressure is getting too much on them.

In my country, I have seen news where a male child killed his younger brother only because his mother had been pressuring him to make money at a young age and he decided to use his younger brother for money. Many parents have led their children in a bad way because they also want to be a mother of a rich son and enjoy life. If you're a male child, don't let anything pressure you to commit suicide, work hard there's always time for everything.

[uneng]

The male child without money is not useless, they also deserve to live without being pressured!

The human being without money is useless. That is how society measures the worth of their citizens, which goes beyong beind a man, as we can also include women on this situation and every other categorizations such as age, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation and so on... The pressure is over everyone! And each person finds their own way to try raising their personal value through another means, when they don't have money to do so. Then we have the political agendas pushing the rights of their respective groups upside, while denigrating and underestimating the other ones which don't fit their agendas.

And ironically, such movements end becoming only methods for the people leading them to earn considerable sums of the money they couldn't achieve through another means along their lives.

With money comes influence, popularity and the worth they have been looking for so long in vain, although nothing really changes for the people who aren't in prominent positions inside such groups. Personally, I highly suggest you that instead of complaining about reality, you should do your best to overcome its obstacles and your personal challenges. Money is attached to autonomy, independency and access to quality material things in this world.

If you just complain, nothing will improve in your life. So don't conform yourself with the fact you don't have money and that it can remain like this forever without any issues. There are a lot of issues implicit on it, and you are the main prejudiced one if you keep this mindset you have.

Besides God, nobody is going to save you from your misfortune... And God doesn't act in our favour when we don't do our part of the job!

[Mrcool75]

Now days there are many families who are middle class.  It becomes difficult for them to run all the expenses of the family.  So family members put that pressure on their son.  For that, boys have to work at a young age.  As a result, their education is also affected.  And he can do good things in future too.  Because making him work at a young age is wasting his valuable time.  By doing this he is not able to make his career.  Lack of family is the main reason for putting pressure on boys.