An Unusual Story that Reflects the Current Gambling Addiction Reality

[mirakal]

I think the person offering help probably got wary because the husband wanted to use his own account for his wife's medical funds. There's a concern that the money might end up being spent on gambling instead of the intended medical support. This situation shows how gambling issues can make people doubt even well-intentioned gesture and it just shows the real-life impact of this problem

Most likely, the one who wanted to give medical assistance knows also the man asking for help. Because one will not jump into a conclusion without knowing the other person. He must be addicted into gambling or just fond of gambling, so the doubt arise if he will really give the money to his wife or will use it to fund his gambling addiction. And I think that’s reasonable enough, just to make sure if this man is actually telling the truth or just using the illness of his wife to fulfill his personal interest.

Gambling addiction has become a threat indeed to lose hope and trust to one person. If he is into gambling, then most likely the possibility to lie for the sake of his own satisfaction is very high. This serves a lesson that no gambler can be trusted when it comes to money. And even if you’re not into gambling anymore, but you have gambling story, still your words will always create doubt and hesitation from the other person.

[Jawhead999]

Anyone can create a fake story in order to scam other people, so you shouldn't trust someone else's mouth even they they act like a pitiful person because he want to try to get your sympathy. You need to have a black heart, don't let your emotion lead to their story because they will able to control you.

However even you send the money to his wife's accounts, there's a chance if he will gamble away the money by forcing his wife to give her bank accounts.

[Yatsan]

In this group a person shared a story of how a married reached out to her for medical assistance to support his wife terminal illness treatment. Instead of providing his wife's account details as requested, he offered his own. Concerned that the funds might be misused, particularly for gambling, the person offering assistance insisted on the wife's account details. However, the conversation ended there, with no further response from the man.

he stranger offering aid had no prior acquaintance with the husband. Why then was there apprehension that the funds might fuel gambling rather than support the wife's medical needs?

This short story reflects the current reality we live in.

Wait, how was it redirected to gambling? Indeed it is suspiscious of the husband to not offer his wife's account given that it's her who needs the help but to give benefit of the doubt, he might have no access of it however he should have explained himself than to just leave jist because his preference was not chosen. On the other hand, it may indeed be used to unwanted acitvities or things or it is just a make up story. Asking for proof on the giver's end would be valid in this case. It is a bit off also that the husband didn't say a single word rather than to please the person who was about to help, if he's being serious.

But going back, isn't it judgement that  the guy was thought of using the money on gambling? I hope the story is  more detailed 'coz it is really confusing. Possibility of bad intention is indeed there but why would it be assumed to be related in gambling, in an instant? If nothing will be ellaborated, this will just be one of the stereotypes of how bad gamblers are with handling money.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

In this group a person shared a story of how a married reached out to her for medical assistance to support his wife terminal illness treatment. Instead of providing his wife's account details as requested, he offered his own. Concerned that the funds might be misused, particularly for gambling, the person offering assistance insisted on the wife's account details. However, the conversation ended there, with no further response from the man.

he stranger offering aid had no prior acquaintance with the husband. Why then was there apprehension that the funds might fuel gambling rather than support the wife's medical needs?

This short story reflects the current reality we live in.

Well, I am honestly trying to understand something here, in other not to write a comment that might be considered out of point and as well as a spam.
I know you already said that the stranger offering help has never had any prior encounter with the man he is trying to help, how then is he suspecting that the man would use the money for gambling when he has never meet this man before?
And let's even assume that the man being offered help was a gambler, how does the one offering help think that the man won't still use the supposed funds for gambling if he wanted to, as it's certain that most husbands and wives usually have access to each others accounts and can withdraw from it at will and at anytime?

This honestly does not make any sense to me, and one thing I can say here is that, like it's commonly said that, a thief usually knows a thief when he or she sees one, or mostly thinks that every other person out there is a thief like he or she is, that man (the man that offered help to the man whose wife is sick) is possibly a gambler himself, and maybe an addicted one, and his mindset is possibly that, the man he wants to help is also like him (a gambler), and that he may misuse the funds for his wife's treatment, just the same way he himself misuses funds due to his own gambling habit.

This is what I legitly see here, or can assume.

[Slow death]

Here in my country I have seen many families being destroyed because of alcohol addiction, even the women here in my country who are addicted to alcohol manage to leave their children without eating because they need that money allocated for food and take them to go and drink beer until next day and when they return home, their husbands are also arriving, the husband and wife ate outside the house, they drank a lot of beer outside the house and the poor children were starving inside the house and often in these families the children they become thieves because they need money to eat, children as young as 8 or 10 years old are on the streets asking for money to eat because their parents abandon them and are going to consume alcohol and the government does nothing, this is because the beer factories do not are guilty

people have the brains to think, they are of legal age, that's why the government ignores this serious problem, here in my neighborhood every day until the next day people are consuming alcohol, I'm shocked, because it's something I can't understand How can a person spend 10 or 15 hours drinking alcohol and abandon their children without food at home, no matter how much I spent hours thinking about it, I couldn't find a solution to this serious problem, without removing large amounts of alcohol that circulate in my country. After observing for a while I began to understand that alcohol addiction was a much bigger problem in relation to drug addiction.

This is because in the case of drug addiction, those who consume a lot are the young people in my country, young people who mostly don't have wives or children, so they destroy themselves, of course this causes pain for the family, but it's not the same damage as alcohol addiction causes. Looking at gambling addiction, the situation is very similar to alcohol addiction, but the number of people addicted to gambling is small compared to the number of people addicted to alcohol and drugs. As governments intervene in gambling, the situation is under control, but the same cannot be said about alcohol addiction.

[maydna]

When the addiction posses someone, he can do anything to have money, including lying. He only tells that he needs money for his wife. He will tells about how bad his wife conditions. If that person knows about that man and his wife, perhaps he will gives the money with the hope they can solved their problems. But if he is addicted to gambling, he will not uses that money for his wife medicals needs but will used it for playing gambling.

But if that person is a stranger that doesn't know that man or his wife, he suppose not gives the money because they don't know each others. He will search the information about that man and his wife just want to make sure he is not lying to him or he will not help that man and just walk away from him. Addicted to gambling is difficult to be trusted but if someone willing to help him, he needs to keep an eye on addicted person at all times so he can knows what he is doing and not abused the help given to him.

[arimamib]

When the addiction posses someone, he can do anything to have money, including lying. He only tells that he needs money for his wife. He will tells about how bad his wife conditions. If that person knows about that man and his wife, perhaps he will gives the money with the hope they can solved their problems. But if he is addicted to gambling, he will not uses that money for his wife medicals needs but will used it for playing gambling.

But if that person is a stranger that doesn't know that man or his wife, he suppose not gives the money because they don't know each others. He will search the information about that man and his wife just want to make sure he is not lying to him or he will not help that man and just walk away from him. Addicted to gambling is difficult to be trusted but if someone willing to help him, he needs to keep an eye on addicted person at all times so he can knows what he is doing and not abused the help given to him.

That is a challenging situation when someone is battling gambling addiction, as it can lead to desperate measures like lying and manipulation to fuel the addiction. When gamblers resort to fabricating stories about needing money for their spouse's medical needs, it needs to approach the situation with caution and skepticism.

it's advisable to gather more information about the situation and potentially offer support in non-monetary ways, such as directing them to appropriate resources for addiction treatment or counseling. In any case, maintaining boundaries and being vigilant about how any assistance is used is crucial when dealing with someone struggling with gambling addiction. While offering support and understanding is important, it's equally essential to protect oneself from being taken advantage of or enabling destructive behaviors.

[Cookdata]

In this group a person shared a story of how a married reached out to her for medical assistance to support his wife terminal illness treatment. Instead of providing his wife's account details as requested, he offered his own. Concerned that the funds might be misused, particularly for gambling, the person offering assistance insisted on the wife's account details. However, the conversation ended there, with no further response from the man.

he stranger offering aid had no prior acquaintance with the husband. Why then was there apprehension that the funds might fuel gambling rather than support the wife's medical needs?

This short story reflects the current reality we live in.

Who knows, she might be familiar with such tactics gamblers used in begging money from her and it could be that another person has made her not to trust people again that beg money especially people that beg for money with a pity situation. I think the woman has the right to send the money through any means, let's even say that the man really need the money to take care of his wife, what's the big deal in sending money to the wife accounts, need moments aren't meant for solution.

This addictions tactics to get money from people will a lot of chances for people that need help, if these pattern continues, a time will come when ordinary people will need help from a fellow women, perhaps money to eat but they will assume they are fellow gamblers who need money to gamble even though they provide their wife account for money to be sent.

[AmoreJaz]

When the addiction posses someone, he can do anything to have money, including lying. He only tells that he needs money for his wife. He will tells about how bad his wife conditions. If that person knows about that man and his wife, perhaps he will gives the money with the hope they can solved their problems. But if he is addicted to gambling, he will not uses that money for his wife medicals needs but will used it for playing gambling.

But if that person is a stranger that doesn't know that man or his wife, he suppose not gives the money because they don't know each others. He will search the information about that man and his wife just want to make sure he is not lying to him or he will not help that man and just walk away from him. Addicted to gambling is difficult to be trusted but if someone willing to help him, he needs to keep an eye on addicted person at all times so he can knows what he is doing and not abused the help given to him.

Addiction to anything, will give you desperate moves such as in this story. This is why this is like old news and the person who want to help is right to ask the wife's account details rather than from the man. Because if the story is really true, the man won't hesitate to provide his wife's account details so she can receive all the help from other people. But instead, no more response from the man stating that his wife is in bad condition. Which goes to show that the condition he stated was just something he falsely made just to get money from strangers to supply his vice.

Anyone can create a fake story in order to scam other people, so you shouldn't trust someone else's mouth even they they act like a pitiful person because he want to try to get your sympathy. You need to have a black heart, don't let your emotion lead to their story because they will able to control you.

However even you send the money to his wife's accounts, there's a chance if he will gamble away the money by forcing his wife to give her bank accounts.

This is why if you really want to give significant amount of money, much better if you can visit to the hospital and see for yourself about the actual condition and maybe, send the funds to the account of the patient himself. We can't trust people these days, because scammers wear all kinds of masks just to siphon money from their potential victim.

[rozak]

he stranger offering aid had no prior acquaintance with the husband. Why then was there apprehension that the funds might fuel gambling rather than support the wife's medical needs?

If there are concerns about the misuse of funds given to his wife to fund gambling, I think the person who wants to help must already know how a husband who is an addict behaves.
The problem with addicts is quite complicated. because I also know a gambling addict who was given money by his parents to pay the electricity bill but used the money to play slots. this is real and I heard these stories from addicts and their parents.
The cases of a gambling addict are many and varied. So it's natural for anyone to lose trust in gamblers when dealing with money.

[Lorence.xD]

he stranger offering aid had no prior acquaintance with the husband. Why then was there apprehension that the funds might fuel gambling rather than support the wife's medical needs?

If there are concerns about the misuse of funds given to his wife to fund gambling, I think the person who wants to help must already know how a husband who is an addict behaves.
The problem with addicts is quite complicated. because I also know a gambling addict who was given money by his parents to pay the electricity bill but used the money to play slots. this is real and I heard these stories from addicts and their parents.
The cases of a gambling addict are many and varied. So it's natural for anyone to lose trust in gamblers when dealing with money.

A normal day with addiction. Problem is that in such state of mind, an individual is not being rational and reasonable with decision making. People who are diagnosed with addiction prioritizes the pleasure they are getting from the things they are hooked up with. Obsession and compulsion at the same time which gives pleasure on themselves. They will have tendencies of fooling other people just to get what they want, which is indeed sad of them. Some are indeed willing to make up stories involving people around them regardless if they are important or not, just to fulfill their intentions. But this is not to make judgements instantly, unless proven. If it is the benefit of the doubt for that individual, what if he's not in good state of mind because he is so problematic of what happened to his wife? Possible right? In the given situation, he indeed lacked explanation of his action of just walking away. But let us always not be one sided in every story unless we knew both sides of it.

[arimamib]

Gambling addiction has become a threat indeed to lose hope and trust to one person. If he is into gambling, then most likely the possibility to lie for the sake of his own satisfaction is very high. This serves a lesson that no gambler can be trusted when it comes to money. And even if you’re not into gambling anymore, but you have gambling story, still your words will always create doubt and hesitation from the other person.

It has become common knowledge that gambling addiction can deeply impact an individual's trustworthiness and integrity, particularly when it comes to financial matters. The compulsive need to gamble can drive individuals to lie, manipulate, or deceive in order to satisfy their addiction or cover up losses. This can erode trust not only in their relationships but also in their reputation and credibility. Even after overcoming a gambling addiction, the stigma and doubt associated with past behavior can linger. Others may remain wary or hesitant to fully trust someone with a history of gambling problems, regardless of whether they have since recovered.

Gambling addiction can indeed strain relationships and damage trust, but recovery is possible with the right support and resources. For those had struggled with gambling addiction, fostering open communication and transparency about past experiences can help address any lingering doubts or concerns others may have. Addicted individuals need empathy and support as they work towards recovery and rebuilding their lives.

[borovichok]

Truth be told gambling is like a household name. You hardly find someone who is not into gambling and that is why in today`s reality it is only surprising when you see a person who doesn’t participate in gambling. However, some people are psychologists and so they reason meaning into every action. The fact that the man refused to send his wife`s account to the man might have sent the wrong signal that the man has an ulterior motive. Gambling easily crossed his mind because it is so common in this generation. One of the primary reasons why gambling is so common is the widespread availability and accessibility of gambling opportunities. With the rise of online gambling platforms, casinos, sports betting, and lotteries, individuals can easily engage in various forms of gambling without having to travel far or visit physical locations. The convenience of being able to gamble from the comfort of their home or even on the go through mobile devices has significantly contributed to the prevalence of gambling.

In many cases, the social aspect of gambling, such as participating in poker nights or visiting casinos with friends, has further reinforced addictive patterns as individuals seek acceptance and validation within their social circles. Through targeted campaigns that promote the glamour, excitement, and potential winnings associated with gambling, companies attract vulnerable individuals who may be more susceptible to developing addictive behaviours. The normalization of gambling in popular culture further perpetuates the idea that it is a harmless form of entertainment rather than a potentially harmful habit.

[the rise]

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he stranger offering aid had no prior acquaintance with the husband. Why then was there apprehension that the funds might fuel gambling rather than support the wife's medical needs?

This short story reflects the current reality we live in.

I think the foreigner who offers help already knows her husband's history, if indeed the person giving the help doesn't know the husband, there is no reason to doubt him, except in different situations such as the help giver not being sure about the husband for suspicious reasons as it seems drug users or others, but from the story above, those who provide assistance must already know the husband's history

[Renampun]

Today, I sat amongst a group of people and listened to them as they shared a story that indirectly reflects how terrible the spate of gambling addiction is. It became evident to me that this addiction transcends demographics such as age, marital status, ethnicity, and religious beliefs, but appears to be more prevalent among males.

In this group a person shared a story of how a married reached out to her for medical assistance to support his wife terminal illness treatment. Instead of providing his wife's account details as requested, he offered his own. Concerned that the funds might be misused, particularly for gambling, the person offering assistance insisted on the wife's account details. However, the conversation ended there, with no further response from the man.

he stranger offering aid had no prior acquaintance with the husband. Why then was there apprehension that the funds might fuel gambling rather than support the wife's medical needs?

This short story reflects the current reality we live in.

this is the reason why as a woman it is very important to choose the best partner, and I admit that I am lucky to have found one. imagine how much time the wife spends accompanying the man who just got married, then he really is a jerk if he only cares about gambling rather than his wife who is sick.
A man who is a heavy gambling addict will mostly damage their social life, especially their relationship with their partner, so it is not surprising that many heavy gambling addicts become homeless (their families think they are no longer useful and only add to the family's burden)

[Fiatless]

This short story reflects the current reality we live in.

The helper's reaction might be due to experience. Maybe she has had a case where money given offered for a particular purpose was used for gambling. I also think that she did the right thing because it would be better to give the money to the sick person than any other person. After all, the sufferer will maximize the money.

Just like other forms of addiction like drugs, alcohol, sex, and others, gambling addiction could lead to loss of funds that would have been used for other important purposes. I know a man whose wife receives his salary from his workplace because of his alcohol addiction. His employer decided to give his wife because he would waste all the money before he got home after receiving his pay. We live in a society where unfavorable economic conditions are forcing people to engage in unhealthy practices which include uncontrollable gambling habits.

It is also believed that women are more prudent with funds and will unlikely engage in gambling activities. The majority of gamblers in my area are male, which means it will be ideal to give funds to women if you don't want them to be used for gaming.

[bittraffic]

This short story reflects the current reality we live in.

The helper's reaction might be due to experience. Maybe she has had a case where money given offered for a particular purpose was used for gambling. I also think that she did the right thing because it would be better to give the money to the sick person than any other person. After all, the sufferer will maximize the money.

Just like other forms of addiction like drugs, alcohol, sex, and others, gambling addiction could lead to loss of funds that would have been used for other important purposes. I know a man whose wife receives his salary from his workplace because of his alcohol addiction. His employer decided to give his wife because he would waste all the money before he got home after receiving his pay. We live in a society where unfavorable economic conditions are forcing people to engage in unhealthy practices which include uncontrollable gambling habits.

It is also believed that women are more prudent with funds and will unlikely engage in gambling activities. The majority of gamblers in my area are male, which means it will be ideal to give funds to women if you don't want them to be used for gaming.

And I think women are more conscious of showing their obedience to the man who offers help. Disappointing someone like this philanthropist will add to the damage to humanity especially if he learns that the money that is supposedly for the hospitalization is gone due to gambling. He will never give anyone who is asking for help thinking it is a scam.

He knows the gambler didn't prioritize his wife. It wouldn't come to such a situation where she got this terminal illness if the gambler prioritized his wife.

[kojektea]

the person who offers will of course be worried if the funds given are not used properly, surely the person giving the aid has heard about the husband, that's why he's worried, and it's a very annoying thing if the aid is not used for the proper purpose, p. This is what is known to be very bad for gambling addicts, no one believes it

[Lida93]

Today, I sat amongst a group of people and listened to them as they shared a story that indirectly reflects how terrible the spate of gambling addiction is. It became evident to me that this addiction transcends demographics such as age, marital status, ethnicity, and religious beliefs, but appears to be more prevalent among males.

The prevalence is not surprising to me being among males, there are high number of male gamblers  than the females. For in a gathering of 10 gamblers you may rarely see a single female gambler in that circle that's just a simple example to the extend the males populate the total figure, which is expected that the high rate of addiction should come from the gender with the highest number that gambles.

In this group a person shared a story of how a married reached out to her for medical assistance to support his wife terminal illness treatment. Instead of providing his wife's account details as requested, he offered his own. Concerned that the funds might be misused, particularly for gambling, the person offering assistance insisted on the wife's account details. However, the conversation ended there, with no further response from the man.

he stranger offering aid had no prior acquaintance with the husband. Why then was there apprehension that the funds might fuel gambling rather than support the wife's medical needs?

This short story reflects the current reality we live in.

In this case I sense the stranger who offers to give a financial assistance to their plight must have got an information about the man's gambling behaviour before now and that is what's making her taking precautionary measures by ensuring the money goes directly into the man's wife account than to his as he could be tempted to divert that money into gambling to satisfy his uncontrollable gambling urge.

This story from the op brings to light how evil addiction to anything in general can be and for those of us who are still in control we should strive with all conscientiousness never to fall victim of addiction of any kind. I have heard and seen gamblers who are famished but prefers to use the only money at their disposal to stake a game order that using it to get something to eat to quench their hunger. It's no joke, gambling addiction is real.

[Wexnident]

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Okay that suspicion was rather odd. I honestly wouldn't consider it as something that faults gamblers (or addicts more specifically), probably just a really bad experience by the husband when loaning money to others. While I do think giving out a loan to someone can be bad, at least that's what I think so since I avidly try to avoid giving out loans, there's no particular reason to be THAT specific for a reason unless there's some context behind it, so yea, I believe the husband had some problems, particularly him or someone close to him related to gambling and loans.

As for gambling being more prevalent to males, well, it is a fact that the majority of the gamblers out there are males so it isn't really that odd for addicts to be males.