Does having children have an influence on gambling habits?

[darkangel11]

I have a child but I was never a problem gambler so this has not affected my life. My wife knew that I liked to gamble before we got married and before we had a child together, so it's not a problem for her.
So far I haven't been at a huge loss too and hopefully I never will.

It depends, there are those who are aware of their responsibilities and change their behavior, but there are also those who think that their gambling is not a problem at all. But I think that it comes back to the individual, in most cases it really changes the gambler's behavior because they think that their responsibility to the child is greater, so like it or not they need to change their gambling behavior.

It's not always like that because people who are careless in their behavior usually continue to be when they become parents. I  know many such examples from the real life, where people lived the life of crime, got a child together and continued with it until they got arrested and the child landed in foster care. Auto destructive gamblers who are addicted to playing are pretty much the same kind.

[Fatunad]

When you have one or more children, you have heavy responsibilities. Sometimes you're on a tight budget. Can being a parent change our playing habits? Are losses even harder to bear when you're in charge of a family? What are your experiences in this area?

Having a family which means that you do have more responsibility. So quit up directly. Period.

If you are someone whose really that living in paycheck and having that huge problem when it comes to finances then it would be better that you should
be quitting gambling even if you do say that you are just that playing for the sake of fun but that kind of behavior would really be leading into something which
might really be resulting into addiction which you might not be able to notice it out. If you arent that good when it comes into that kind of approach
then you would really be basically be putting up yourself into such trouble and this is something that you must avoid in the first place.

Having children or family does mean that you would really be having a responsibility that you would really be needing to fulfill, but i do
agree into some points above that as long you do able you do able to give out their needs then its not really that bad to gamble.

[Rockstarguy]

When you have one or more children, you have heavy responsibilities. Sometimes you're on a tight budget. Can being a parent change our playing habits? Are losses even harder to bear when you're in charge of a family? What are your experiences in this area?

When we are married and have children, we have to change all our lifestyles and do not continue like we were doing were single. we have to manage money strictly. Gambling is the same as hobby, when you are single and have a hobby that drains your money, you have to reduce it when you get married. maybe you used 50% your salary to gambling, but when you have married you must reduce it about 25%, except if you have additional income like signature campaign, maybe you can use it in full of them so that your main salary remains intact.

You are right. Once a man is married their should be adjustments on how he behaves in every aspect of lifestyle to not affect his marriage.
It is so wrong for a married man with family to think responsibility can be solve by playing gambling to gain profit. A family man having this mentality is adding more responsibility to himself because looking at gambling as a solution for responsibility is a way of losing more money to gambling. As a married man it is not right to depend so much in gambling because it can never solve problem when you need the gain in it,  instead gambling will make you to lose more. Gambling wins comes as a surprise, no need to have so much expectation of getting a profit all times.

[carlfebz2]

When you have one or more children, you have heavy responsibilities. Sometimes you're on a tight budget. Can being a parent change our playing habits? Are losses even harder to bear when you're in charge of a family? What are your experiences in this area?

When we are married and have children, we have to change all our lifestyles and do not continue like we were doing were single. we have to manage money strictly. Gambling is the same as hobby, when you are single and have a hobby that drains your money, you have to reduce it when you get married. maybe you used 50% your salary to gambling, but when you have married you must reduce it about 25%, except if you have additional income like signature campaign, maybe you can use it in full of them so that your main salary remains intact.

You are right. Once a man is married their should be adjustments on how he behaves in every aspect of lifestyle to not affect his marriage.
It is so wrong for a married man with family to think responsibility can be solve by playing gambling to gain profit. A family man having this mentality is adding more responsibility to himself because looking at gambling as a solution for responsibility is a way of losing more money to gambling. As a married man it is not right to depend so much in gambling because it can never solve problem when you need the gain in it,  instead gambling will make you to lose more. Gambling wins comes as a surprise, no need to have so much expectation of getting a profit all times.

There should really be adjustments and you arent that a single guy anymore on having no responsibility on things. This is why it would be important that on the time that you would really be preparing yourself on married life then it would that just right that you should really be adjusting according into it. You arent living on yourself alone already but rather  you are really that giving your very best on giving on what they do need on which its been mentioned by most people on here that you do already have that kind of responsibility on raising them up. You cant just be that confident on spending on gambling because it would really be
just more worth if you do buy up things into your own kids or wife rather than on losing it on a casino. Who doesnt really think about those good things or more worthy thing rather than on making those
casino owners making more rich? Its not really that hard to make up some balance.

[Stable090]

When you have one or more children, you have heavy responsibilities. Sometimes you're on a tight budget. Can being a parent change our playing habits? Are losses even harder to bear when you're in charge of a family? What are your experiences in this area?

Am not married yet, am not having much responsibilities to take care of, but when you are single, the lifestyle which you will be leaving will completely different from how you will be leaving when you are since. When you are married, you are no longer alone, so anything which you will be doing, you have to think twice before making the decision. If you are married, you will have to reduce your allocation for gambling because you have other things which you are suppose to take care of, whenever you are having some free amount of money, if you are single, you might end up spending it on gambling, but when you are married, you will look for something else to do with the money, rather than gambling with it.

[Obari]

When you have one or more children, you have heavy responsibilities. Sometimes you're on a tight budget. Can being a parent change our playing habits? Are losses even harder to bear when you're in charge of a family? What are your experiences in this area?

Don’t know why, I think this post is coming from the angle of a person in such a situation and I just have to say, yes, that having children and more responsibilities also affects our gambling except the Person is an addict.
The greater your responsibility without any salary increase pays a major role on one’s gambling habits and might force them to reduce the rate and amount they bet on games and I think more the responsibility, the more difficult it is to bear losses.

Children are gift from God, and every responsible parent would want the best for their children at all cost even upto giving up on gambling if it’s taking so much out of them.

As much as children are indeed a blessing, there is also no doubt that unless a person is earning way more than what they need, an additional child will not only bring economic challenges to the couple, the child will also bring challenges to their existing relationships and even reduce the time they can dedicate to themselves.

So there is no doubt that anyone that may enjoy to gamble will have to sacrifice some or all of the time they dedicated to this activity to tend to their family.

I don't seem to understand what you guys are saying, children are blessings and nothing will change that. It is we who should plan our lives and not blame it on innocent children. As couples, they should know the number of children they want to born and that must be measurable to many factors which include their financial capability. If you know you can bear only one or two and give them the best support in all ramifications, why not stick to it? But having the financial capacity of 2 and bearing 5 children means you are wicked. So it is all about us and the right plan we have in every situation.

As for gambling, I do not see this as a must, you should quit it if it is causing you to lose money while your family suffer. That is what I see in your post which is not supposed to be so, it is never a must, so we should take it as such. And if you are such that is kin to gambling, if you are gambling and may not be able to do without it (though it is wrong and you should seek help), perhaps, you gamble with $500 a month, why not force it down to $50? By that, you would have saved a whopping $450 for the month even as you did not deprive yourself of what you like doing. Above all, gambling is not a do-or-die thing, your family must come first if you are responsible and I believe that quitting gambling entirely for the sake of your family is the simplest sacrifice you can make if you truly love them.

I won't even think twice!

You quoted over three persons here and you mean you don’t understand what the three of us are saying but yet you’re saying almost the same thing ?
I don’t know actually provoked you real bad about your responses but I guess they’re just personal opinions which I think everyone is entitled to on the forum .

The three users you quoted agreed that children are blessing from God but not having a proper plan on ground before going into child bearing isn’t a nice one as that might not only affect the parents but will relationship with others.
The three users you quoted also suggested a cut down on their gambling habit and wagers so as to sustain the family just incase the outcomes aren’t favourable.
I think your response seem more serious to me and I don’t know for others

[TopT3ns]

When you have one or more children, you have heavy responsibilities. Sometimes you're on a tight budget. Can being a parent change our playing habits? Are losses even harder to bear when you're in charge of a family? What are your experiences in this area?

Am not married yet, am not having much responsibilities to take care of, but when you are single, the lifestyle which you will be leaving will completely different from how you will be leaving when you are since. When you are married, you are no longer alone, so anything which you will be doing, you have to think twice before making the decision. If you are married, you will have to reduce your allocation for gambling because you have other things which you are suppose to take care of, whenever you are having some free amount of money, if you are single, you might end up spending it on gambling, but when you are married, you will look for something else to do with the money, rather than gambling with it.

Well, it's better like that, when we're still not married, we can earn money by working hard without knowing the time, even our hobby at gambling won't bother us, but when you're married, your hobby might be disturbed because of the time to play at You will also spend time with your new family at the gambling place, so it's better to have fun first and try to have lots of assets in the form of a house, car and others. It doesn't matter the money you get from the gambling place, the important thing is to be rich before you get married.

[hyudien]

that makes sense, if we can divide our time well maybe everything will be fine. I think we should have time together for family, including with our own children, because it is impossible when we have a child but we don't have time to be together. because of course our children need attention from their parents, this can also determine their future, because many children lack attention from their parents so they have different personalities from children in general. Even though we like to gamble, when we have children we have to be able to adjust the time for ourselves and our family.
If we really have a small income then we should be aware of not gambling, let alone forcing ourselves to continue gambling. It's true what you said to stop or reduce gambling behavior and habits and then pay more attention to the child. I myself will do things that I think are good, but what is clear is that they will not harm other people, including my own children or family.

Rightly said one should never continue gambling by harming someone in the family. All parents want the best for their children and should spend more time with their children than gambling. Think about the downsides before gambling we love to follow others. We judge what we see around us accordingly but sometimes I can't control myself when I can't stop gambling.

That's clear, if gambling is done excessively it can damage family relationships, with the many cases that have occurred, when someone has become addicted to gambling they can change drastically, the main impact will of course be felt by themselves and after that it can spread to the family whether they are partners or children, but what is clear is that gambling addiction can affect family relationships and can destroy relationships that were previously good. If we already have children then we have to be able to divide our time well, prioritizing time for family is important in my opinion, and if we do have new free time we can use it for the habits we do.
I suggest that you must be able to control yourself when gambling, if the gambling ends in defeat then it is better to force yourself to stop, because if it is not like that then what will happen is bigger losses which can be detrimental to yourself and can also have an impact on other things as I said above.

[zuzie]

When you have one or more children, you have heavy responsibilities. Sometimes you're on a tight budget. Can being a parent change our playing habits? Are losses even harder to bear when you're in charge of a family? What are your experiences in this area?

As a parent, you should have an obligation to behave well for the future of your beloved children and wife because their happiness is the most important thing. As a husband, if before marriage he likes to gamble then when he gets married he must promise his wife that he will try to reduce his activities. gambling and as much as possible will get rid of it, even if slowly.
Because a husband must be responsible for all the needs of his children and wife and if he wants to return to gambling he must ask his wife's permission first because if the husband continues to gamble without his wife's knowledge in secret then one day something will happen. If found out, new problems will arise in the family.

[ethereumhunter]

I agree with the both of you on your opinion about gambling responsibility and having children being an addiction to responsible gambling,  this is true any ways but the fact that the gamblers have a choice to make wether or not to be a responsible gambler still matters in some and few instances,  because some of the cases that we have seen are all involve with people who have families being the major hit when discussing gambling addictions.

Much more also we need to settle between wether being responsible have anything do with the individual family statuses, because gambling is all about rules regulations and criteria and this all can be done by anyone regardless of they marital status or number of dependence.

Being responsibility in gambling is a must that every gambler should pay attention so they don't break their rules, especially if they have a children. Having a children means we must gives main attention to them and must reduce our gambling activity because the money we got from our work is for them. We work and earn money to buy food and their needs and we don't use the money to playing gambling. If we realize this, we will reduce our gambling activity and even we will stop that for our children. We don't wants to see our children can't gets what they deserve.

We must responsible if that is about our family, especially for our children. We can playing gambling in other time and in our spare time. But seeing our children grow is the main things that we wants to follows.

[boty]

When you have one or more children, you have heavy responsibilities. Sometimes you're on a tight budget. Can being a parent change our playing habits? Are losses even harder to bear when you're in charge of a family? What are your experiences in this area?

As a parent, you should have an obligation to behave well for the future of your beloved children and wife because their happiness is the most important thing. As a husband, if before marriage he likes to gamble then when he gets married he must promise his wife that he will try to reduce his activities. gambling and as much as possible will get rid of it, even if slowly.
Because a husband must be responsible for all the needs of his children and wife and if he wants to return to gambling he must ask his wife's permission first because if the husband continues to gamble without his wife's knowledge in secret then one day something will happen. If found out, new problems will arise in the family.

Yes, indeed as parents of course have a responsibility towards their children and they must be able to look after their children and also their wives to avoid things they don't want, if someone has a habit of gambling before they get married of course they must be able to control it. their gambling habits after building their family because if they still have the desire to gamble of course they will have financial problems in their family.

[madnessteat]

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Gambling if your family is struggling financially is not a good decision. Unfortunately, not all of us come to this realization at once, but it is better to realize it late than never. Not just so they say that you can gamble only on free money. Therefore, if you want your family to live in prosperity, then try to find yourself an additional income that can provide finances for gambling. In my opinion, this approach is the best if you do not want to give up gambling with the emergence of their own family.

[kotajikikox]

When you have one or more children, you have heavy responsibilities. Sometimes you're on a tight budget. Can being a parent change our playing habits? Are losses even harder to bear when you're in charge of a family? What are your experiences in this area?

This change everything from a real father/mother perspective , I said REAL PARENT because there are a not so real parent that only have children and not acting as a responsible one and this change the thought of the answer here.

If I am the one who is in the question like what I did in the past? i managed to change everything that i use to when i saw my first child , maybe others have the same experience as well here.

[khiholangkang]

The first thing that comes to my mind about cases like this is that it depends on our economic situation, if we have children and we are still able to divide our time, pay for or take care of children properly, gambling habits in my opinion can still be continued and because of that I also don't think it will affect anything.
Unlike the case with people who have little income and if they insist on gambling, of course taking care of children will be more difficult because they do not have the costs and time because they have to work harder to get more income to cover their needs, therefore it is important to realize that stopping gambling behavior and focusing on children is much better in taking solutions, so the conclusion depends on your own situation, because that will determine what kind of action you have to take so that everything looks good.

that makes sense, if we can divide our time well maybe everything will be fine. I think we should have time together for family, including with our own children, because it is impossible when we have a child but we don't have time to be together. because of course our children need attention from their parents, this can also determine their future, because many children lack attention from their parents so they have different personalities from children in general. Even though we like to gamble, when we have children we have to be able to adjust the time for ourselves and our family.
If we really have a small income then we should be aware of not gambling, let alone forcing ourselves to continue gambling. It's true what you said to stop or reduce gambling behavior and habits and then pay more attention to the child. I myself will do things that I think are good, but what is clear is that they will not harm other people, including my own children or family.

Rightly said one should never continue gambling by harming someone in the family. All parents want the best for their children and should spend more time with their children than gambling. Think about the downsides before gambling we love to follow others. We judge what we see around us accordingly but sometimes I can't control myself when I can't stop gambling.

If that's your case then it's not advisable to go too far in gambling because after all self-control is very important for a gambler, all the concerns you wrote about the importance of dividing time and being able to have more time with family, it will be useless because you can't fully control yourself, let alone have a family later and have children, of course I think you should stop gambling if your personal problems cannot be resolved. The thing that must be clarified is to look at your situation first, not only about the economy but how your relationship with your gambling attitude also needs to be considered because it will make the output of thoughts that you can take wisely.

[Ojima-ojo]

When you have one or more children, you have heavy responsibilities. Sometimes you're on a tight budget. Can being a parent change our playing habits? Are losses even harder to bear when you're in charge of a family? What are your experiences in this area?

This change everything from a real father/mother perspective , I said REAL PARENT because there are a not so real parent that only have children and not acting as a responsible one and this change the thought of the answer here.

If I am the one who is in the question like what I did in the past? i managed to change everything that i use to when i saw my first child , maybe others have the same experience as well here.

I think for us to get the right prospective and analysis of this discussion we need to take a look at some thing's that are very important to the discussions and how we relate responsibility to gambling and how a parent should began gamble responsibly because gambling have a lot to do with how we as a parent handle our affairs and how we expose our family to our activities.


The truth is that gambling shouldn't be done at a passive level because at some point we all need to have it at the back of our minds that gambling can ruin one life so at that we need to have discipline while gambling.

[slapper]

I agree with the both of you on your opinion about gambling responsibility and having children being an addiction to responsible gambling,  this is true any ways but the fact that the gamblers have a choice to make wether or not to be a responsible gambler still matters in some and few instances,  because some of the cases that we have seen are all involve with people who have families being the major hit when discussing gambling addictions.

Much more also we need to settle between wether being responsible have anything do with the individual family statuses, because gambling is all about rules regulations and criteria and this all can be done by anyone regardless of they marital status or number of dependence.

Being responsibility in gambling is a must that every gambler should pay attention so they don't break their rules, especially if they have a children. Having a children means we must gives main attention to them and must reduce our gambling activity because the money we got from our work is for them. We work and earn money to buy food and their needs and we don't use the money to playing gambling. If we realize this, we will reduce our gambling activity and even we will stop that for our children. We don't wants to see our children can't gets what they deserve.

We must responsible if that is about our family, especially for our children. We can playing gambling in other time and in our spare time. But seeing our children grow is the main things that we wants to follows.

Responsibility with kids is serious. It can make or ruin you.  I can't believe you risked their future. Food, clothing, and a chance to succeed are non-negotiables. We build, not demolish

Wants vs. necessities. The line is there. Kids don't need a parent with a gambling problem, they need someone who's 100% there.  Your free time should be spent helping kids learn and grow. The genuine satisfaction is there. Not cheap pleasures

Your health and mind are their safety net. You're not just screwing yourself by gambling that away.  Want a serious challenge? Bet on proper upbringing. This gamble has the one payout that matters: everything

I understand the appeal of risk-taking, but this is reckless. It's selfish. Your kids deserve better

[AnonBitCoiner]

Rightly said one should never continue gambling by harming someone in the family. All parents want the best for their children and should spend more time with their children than gambling. Think about the downsides before gambling we love to follow others. We judge what we see around us accordingly but sometimes I can't control myself when I can't stop gambling.

Right but gambler will not understand this thing because he loves to earn money and he does not care about his family. Parents do everything for their children but when they grew up then they cannot obey their parents and do all bad things without realising that this will make their parents feel discomfort.

People are gambling just to earn money but money is not everything and gambler will realise this fact when they loss all the relationships, friends, money and family. For temporary happiness they achieve from gambling they lost their whole money and spoil their life just for the hope of earn more but a person cannot get more than the amount present in his fate.

[Juse14]

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As a parent, you should have an obligation to behave well for the future of your beloved children and wife because their happiness is the most important thing. As a husband, if before marriage he likes to gamble then when he gets married he must promise his wife that he will try to reduce his activities. gambling and as much as possible will get rid of it, even if slowly.
Because a husband must be responsible for all the needs of his children and wife and if he wants to return to gambling he must ask his wife's permission first because if the husband continues to gamble without his wife's knowledge in secret then one day something will happen. If found out, new problems will arise in the family.

In our roles as parents and spouses, it is important that we keep family welfare and satisfaction as the main priorities. Among other things, this entails bearing in mind that our actions have consequences and assuming full responsibility for those choices even if it is gambling we are talking about. The presence of ours and the support given to children and partners determine whether they feel well physically, spiritually, or otherwise.

I think that a person who developed a gambling addiction prior to getting married should be responsible and work hard towards minimizing or eradicating this behavior once they are married, particularly when it can affect the family negatively. When you have your partner’s permission before placing another bet shows the level of respect and sensitivity in the relationship and with the financial matters that affect the family.

Family trust and relationships can be adversely affected when one plays his or her own game without knowing how much money to stake and keeps the secret away from his or her partner. So, in order for a family to live harmoniously, it is crucial that gambling behavior is transparent and there’s an open discussion about it. It is important that the family survives and remains happy if all of us are responsible for our actions and bear in mind how they affect the family.

[Iroh]

Having children or family does mean that you would really be having a responsibility that you would really be needing to fulfill, but i do
agree into some points above that as long you do able you do able to give out their needs then its not really that bad to gamble.

You do have a responsibility to fulfill towards yourself and your family. And whatever activities you do indulge in that takes up time and money before would have to be drastically reduced or if possible, stopped entirely. It doesn’t mean you can’t give yourself to a nice time treat occasionally, it means you’ve got dependents that are looking up to you as a parent financially and morally.

You could still indulge in gambling occasionally and still be a responsible parent to your child. Having a family shouldn’t make one quit doing what they love doing. As long as it’s legally and responsibly done.

[erep]

You do have a responsibility to fulfill towards yourself and your family. And whatever activities you do indulge in that takes up time and money before would have to be drastically reduced or if possible, stopped entirely. It doesn’t mean you can’t give yourself to a nice time treat occasionally, it means you’ve got dependents that are looking up to you as a parent financially and morally.

You could still indulge in gambling occasionally and still be a responsible parent to your child. Having a family shouldn’t make one quit doing what they love doing. As long as it’s legally and responsibly done.

Yes, you can set limits on how much money you can use to gamble according to your income. In fact, gambling doesn't require a high budget if you decide to gamble just for fun and gambling is not a source of income, so it doesn't matter if you want to gamble in your free time to enjoy gambling.

but don't force yourself to gamble if you have a limited budget, only enough for daily needs and you don't have other sources of income, so you as the head of the family must be responsible for your family's needs, so I agree with you that you can gamble when you have a budget and gamble with responsibility.