A VENT

[KonstantinosM]

I work every day... And I have people bitching to me about things knocking at my door and talking to me through it. That's not a conversation asshole that's harrasment. Like bitch let me relax for a sec. I put on loud music because I don't like people listening in to my comings and goings and If I'm taking a shit or a shower.

Why do some people have such a lack of understanding of others? I don't fucking get it. We're all just trying to live our lives over here. I swear to fuck I'm gonna move to a fucking cabin in the woods. Some people need to get a life and get off my case.

/vent over

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[boyptc]

Just tell them straightly that you are there to work not to have some ted talks, and by knowing that they're going to avoid you when they've got something to vent to you as you've already vented to them about what you dislike.

I put on loud music because I don't like people listening in to my comings and goings and If I'm taking a shit or a shower.

Although this is kind of rude to me but it's not my business to go to someone who's just there to work and have his day in the job and tell everything I want to say, I have to understand that not everyone is willing to listen and tired of someone's rant.

[BADecker]

@OP.

Get married, and all those things you are 'venting' about will suddenly disappear.

Or, you could move near one of those 'blow-holes' through which an active volcano breathes, and find out about REAL venting.

[Vod]

Why do some people have such a lack of understanding of others?

People tend to see the tresspasses of others more serious than their own.   You don't want to hear their noise so you force them to hear your noise.   In return, they will feel the same way and escalate.   

Try a loud white noise generator instead of music.   Run it during the allowed noise hours constantly.   You'll drown it out quickly, and it may encourage them to be more quiet.  If not, and they call the police, the law will be on your side - much more than if you were retaliating with music.

[rodskee]

@OP.

Get married, and all those things you are 'venting' about will suddenly disappear.

Or, you could move near one of those 'blow-holes' through which an active volcano breathes, and find out about REAL venting.

I Think this is what OP needs , People are invading His privacy because he live solo but once people
seen him with Wife/Fiance living under his roof ? they will keep the distance for sure or else you can knock t
hem down in front of your door for not respecting your privacy as couple .
sometimes there is a need of force for stupid people to understand what we really mean towards them,
because like what OP says? they seems to not caring about what he feels.

[BADecker]

@OP.

Get married, and all those things you are 'venting' about will suddenly disappear.

Or, you could move near one of those 'blow-holes' through which an active volcano breathes, and find out about REAL venting.

I Think this is what OP needs , People are invading His privacy because he live solo but once people
seen him with Wife/Fiance living under his roof ? they will keep the distance for sure or else you can knock t
hem down in front of your door for not respecting your privacy as couple .
sometimes there is a need of force for stupid people to understand what we really mean towards them,
because like what OP says? they seems to not caring about what he feels.

Vod is quite logical in what he says in his post above your post. That being the case, maybe OP needs an E VENT rather than an A VENT. You know, like an EVENT to happen to him so that he gets help.

[btc78]

Why do some people have such a lack of understanding of others?

Well it’s because they are often too focused on themselves that they end up not caring about whether other people are okay with what they are doing. I think people has become too self-absorbed these days and are often living the mindset of putting oneself first over the others. I think we all need just a little consideration for others and mind our won business.

[peter0425]

Just tell them straightly that you are there to work not to have some ted talks, and by knowing that they're going to avoid you when they've got something to vent to you as you've already vented to them about what you dislike.

Some people are very bad with social clues so it is needed sometimes to directly tell them what you need and don’t need. You are all trying to work so I am sure they will appreciate it if you all had a productive and professional relationship with one another.

Just choose your words wisely and I am sure they will understand and step back or away from you.

[BADecker]

Just tell them straightly that you are there to work not to have some ted talks, and by knowing that they're going to avoid you when they've got something to vent to you as you've already vented to them about what you dislike.

Some people are very bad with social clues so it is needed sometimes to directly tell them what you need and don’t need. You are all trying to work so I am sure they will appreciate it if you all had a productive and professional relationship with one another.

Just choose your words wisely and I am sure they will understand and step back or away from you.

From E. E. (Doc) Smith's book, "Skylark of Space:"

"Don't use such language, doctor!"

"Why not? I'm for direct action, first, last, and all the time. This thing is too important to mince words. Have you got it with you?"

[bitterguy28]

I work every day... And I have people bitching to me about things knocking at my door and talking to me through it. That's not a conversation asshole that's harrasment. Like bitch let me relax for a sec. I put on loud music because I don't like people listening in to my comings and goings and If I'm taking a shit or a shower.

Why do some people have such a lack of understanding of others? I don't fucking get it. We're all just trying to live our lives over here. I swear to fuck I'm gonna move to a fucking cabin in the woods. Some people need to get a life and get off my case.

/vent over

sorry to hear that mate , looks like you have live in the not so healthy community and need to locate to another one that people respect our privacy?
sometimes people are too numb not to pay attention to what other people wanted . if you can afford selling that house and buy another one then better do it for your own good because your neighbor seems to care nothing but themselves .

[Uhwuchukwu53]

Just tell them straightly that you are there to work not to have some ted talks, and by knowing that they're going to avoid you when they've got something to vent to you as you've already vented to them about what you dislike.

Some people are very bad with social clues so it is needed sometimes to directly tell them what you need and don’t need. You are all trying to work so I am sure they will appreciate it if you all had a productive and professional relationship with one another.

Just choose your words wisely and I am sure they will understand and step back or away from you.

Loud it to them or else a continuous breached of your privacy continue because until you give a red line they will not understand, human is the most difficult to control but with wisdom one can handle it with ease, you can't keep avoiding or isolating yourself or else it affects you more emotionally but letting them know the limit they can Cross reduces their intentions.

[KonstantinosM]

I just play the music loud enough that I can keep my privacy, I don't want to disturb anyone! No noise complaints to be had.

I listen to some good music so generally speaking I get no complaints about it. I'll consider wearing disposable earplugs like I do when I drive sometimes. Like the 3M neons.

I try to communicate my needs more clearly and my boundaries and I've improved my situation a lot. In the format of I don't like when you do X or you can't do Y because...What really didn't work well was doing the same as was done to me to prove an example. That almost never worked well for me. Just drags everyone down a peg.

This forum is great I was genuinely not expecting any replies.

[boyptc]

Just tell them straightly that you are there to work not to have some ted talks, and by knowing that they're going to avoid you when they've got something to vent to you as you've already vented to them about what you dislike.

Some people are very bad with social clues so it is needed sometimes to directly tell them what you need and don’t need. You are all trying to work so I am sure they will appreciate it if you all had a productive and professional relationship with one another.

Just choose your words wisely and I am sure they will understand and step back or away from you.

That's it.

Choosing your words wisely but if they are not listening to you, you have to be frank to them and tell what are you feeling. Otherwise, they'll keep doing what they've started to do because they see that you're comfortable with them and there are no complaints at all.

I just play the music loud enough that I can keep my privacy, I don't want to disturb anyone! No noise complaints to be had.

As long as there are no other people that are being disturbed with your loud music then it's best to do that or else, you just have to put that on your ear with a headphone.

[BADecker]

I work every day... And I have people bitching to me about things knocking at my door and talking to me through it. That's not a conversation asshole that's harrasment. Like bitch let me relax for a sec. I put on loud music because I don't like people listening in to my comings and goings and If I'm taking a shit or a shower.

Why do some people have such a lack of understanding of others? I don't fucking get it. We're all just trying to live our lives over here. I swear to fuck I'm gonna move to a fucking cabin in the woods. Some people need to get a life and get off my case.

/vent over

Put a sign on the door, "OUT TO LUNCH." Lots of people leave their music on while they are gone. But the door people wouldn't know if you really were out to lunch, or if you were simply trying to trick them into thinking you were.

Besides, the joker who has been stealing your - whatever - might be tricked into revealing himself, if he really thought you were gone, and used his secret passkey to get in, but you were there.

[Vod]

I'll consider wearing disposable earplugs like I do when I drive sometimes. Like the 3M neons.

A bit off topic, but is that legal?  In Alberta, it's illegal to have anything in your ears while driving.    You need to be able to hear the traffic.