Gambling is a fatal mistake

[dezoel]

Please be specific when you say something. I know that the root of the problem is gambling but we shouldn't say that it's the fault of gambling if a person behaves like that, but it's the addiction that makes them take such steps. Gambling doesn't do anything if you do it while staying within your limits. Thousands of people gamble but they never face such situations in their lives because they gamble responsibly and they know what they should and shouldn't do.

Those who get addicted to gambling ruin their lives and make themselves are their families suffer are to be blamed for their actions and gambling shouldn't be blamed for that. Someone should ask the guy, did someone force him to do that? He is an adult and he should know what's right and what's wrong for him and his family.

[dunfida]

Please be specific when you say something. I know that the root of the problem is gambling but we shouldn't say that it's the fault of gambling if a person behaves like that, but it's the addiction that makes them take such steps. Gambling doesn't do anything if you do it while staying within your limits. Thousands of people gamble but they never face such situations in their lives because they gamble responsibly and they know what they should and shouldn't do.

Those who get addicted to gambling ruin their lives and make themselves are their families suffer are to be blamed for their actions and gambling shouldn't be blamed for that. Someone should ask the guy, did someone force him to do that? He is an adult and he should know what's right and what's wrong for him and his family.

You do know that there would really be people who would really be that tending to make that kind of generalization at the moment that they would be seeing something specially on anything which is connected to gambling.
If they have seen that there's someones life been messed up due to gambling then it would really be already having those kind of approach or impression that gambling is really that at fault, without even trying to look back on what do really happens or on whose the one should really be that getting blamed on. Its true that we are the doer of our own actions and it would really be basing up into the decisions that been made.
It would really be that impossible that you wont really be able to notice out on the things that been affected in too much gambling.

Gambling isnt a mistake because you havent been forced on playing on it on which it is really that on you own will on the money that you had spend through it, on which it would really be just that
people do really loves to blame into something whenever they are on a tough condition or situation.

[mamesso]

Your brother has neglected his responsibilities as a husband and also as a father, he has overly imposed his desires by ignoring the needs of his wife and children. That's why it is highly recommended to gamble responsibly to prevent conflict within the family, there are bigger things that will happen if you don't have responsibility towards your family. Anyone involved in gambling must control their emotions when they lose, no matter how much money they have, they will lose it if they don't know how to manage their finances. Gamble with money that is ready to be lost to prevent things from happening that could damage household relationships.

[leonair]

Well I would say gambling is not bad but when you let it control you then you just lost it, cause it can propel you to spend even money that shoudl be used for eating on gambling and you would always be low on cash and sad and on the edge, gambling addiction must be dealt with in its early stage and that's the best way to overcome it .

Gambling is not bad but we have to control ourselves to gamble. It is ok to gamble after we have everything in order. People who misbehave with family members for gambling I think they are completely addicted to gambling.  So I would say that never waste extra time while gambling and use these times for something good. When a person loses all his money while gambling, that's when he realizes how dangerous gambling is.

[nara1892]

Well I would say gambling is not bad but when you let it control you then you just lost it, cause it can propel you to spend even money that shoudl be used for eating on gambling and you would always be low on cash and sad and on the edge, gambling addiction must be dealt with in its early stage and that's the best way to overcome it .

Gambling is not bad but we have to control ourselves to gamble. It is ok to gamble after we have everything in order. People who misbehave with family members for gambling I think they are completely addicted to gambling.  So I would say that never waste extra time while gambling and use these times for something good. When a person loses all his money while gambling, that's when he realizes how dangerous gambling is.

Yes, of course, actually there is nothing wrong with gambling, and there is absolutely no compulsion from casinos to always bet continuously, everything is up to the gamblers, and I think it is common knowledge that gambling is an activity that refers to two possibilities. at the end of the session, namely whether you win or lose, whoever you are, even if you are a beginner, you have certainly experienced defeat in addition to winning in gambling, and I think that is enough to tell you that gambling is not always about the chance of winning.

But most gamblers these days always treat gambling in the wrong way which usually tends to be excessive and this happens because they are too focused on chasing wins, where they think that they will be able to get a big win, even though it is clearly a bad result. it's not easy to get unless they have very good luck, and usually they are addicted gamblers who end up experiencing many bad impacts in their lives due to treating gambling in the wrong way. And the impact can certainly spread to everything, such as experiencing financial problems in life as well as experiencing problems in family relationships. The point is, as you said, we have to limit our time for gambling, because after all, only by implementing these limits will we avoid various significant bad possibilities.

[bangjoe]

Your brother is just an irresponsible gambler based on your story as he literally use all his hard earned money given that he has a family to feed. I don't do that kind of thing because I already learned from my past mistakes in gambling. He mismanaged his gambling funds and what happened to him right now serves not only him but all of us a lesson to spend only few percentages if we really cannot resist avoiding gambling. We should always prioritize our family over gambling and any other vices.

Indirectly means that you have gone through it and have experienced how irresponsible gambling will have a bad impact but you managed to learn and now maybe have better gambling activities, maybe OP's brother is also in trouble now and we need to pray that he can get up and get through this to get better, because indeed this is very painful, sometimes humans have to feel bitter to learn in their lives and see what is right and what is wrong so that they can get better.

His actions are indeed very bad and it will make him much worse, but indeed when in a situation like that, he needs lightness to be able to get up and be able to carry out his activities again while his family is away from him, maybe he should treat his addiction first.

[karabiber]

What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

It's a very sad situation for the family. If you gamble to the point where you lose all your money, you are an addicted gambler. The only way to overcome this situation is through treatment for gambling addiction. The father may have turned to gambling as a way for his family to have a better standard of living in a short period of time, but it can also lead to a sudden drop in the family's standard of living. After this sad event, it is important to find out why the gambling addict father wants to gamble and to seek support from psychologists for the treatment of this situation. Unfortunately, it is not good for the family if there is no treatment.

[Hispo]

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I also would like to point out this sad story OP is bringing to us, it is not only about gambling and the dangers of being addicted to it, for oneself and also those who depend on one. This could have happened to him also with anything which is considered to be a vice, when it is not gambling, it could be drinking, when it is not alcoholism, then it is abuse of prescription medicine, and so on.
Even if we were not talking about gambling in this particular place, the neglect and the personal issues of that person would have driven him to take other vice, he happened just to have gambling at the reach of his hands and took it.

Honestly, I would not even be sure on what to do if some brother of mine turned out to suffer from a crippling gambling addiction like this one OP is describing, it sounds very traumatic and the worst thing is it could be just matter of time before that woman files for a divorce and takes the children from him. Depression post divorce will only make him to go down further into vices to ease his pain... This sounds like the kind of case which requires an intervention.  

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

It's this kind of incident that makes some people feel irritated by gambling activities and gamblers. This is not the first incident I am reading about here; I have read about so many ugly incidents where someone committed suicide after losing money that didn't belong to him in gambling, while another incident was where a student gambled with the money that was contributed by another student and a man who left his kids at home to gamble. Some people are just so ignorant of their gambling lifestyles to the extent that it can turn their homes apart by convincing others to see gambling as a terrible activity rather than an addiction. 

[Ultegra134]

I think what happened to OP's brother was that he was hypnotized by gambling where he dared to take big risky actions such as risking all the money he had and it was normal for arguments to occur between him and his partner because he should have paid attention and thought about the fate of his family first compared to what they had. want, like gambling, which can indeed make you happy, but only for a short time, because the joy of gambling is winning and winning doesn't happen often. with OP's brother who dared to take a big risky action, of course they are already in a vicious circle where it will be difficult for them to come to their senses and stop gambling to secure their money, but because he was trapped, he did such a big risky act which is detrimental to himself. and harm other people around him.
It's true, everything that is done appropriately will not cause serious problems, with him possibly getting into an argument, that is one of the bad effects of gambling because he has done it excessively. Someone who is addicted to gambling can certainly experience mental health destruction, because a loss that they cannot accept will put too much pressure on them so that they themselves cannot fix it and this is an opportunity for them to become stressed.

I don't think hypnotized is the right word here, and excuse me for my choice of words. Someone who goes to such great lengths to gamble is a mindless idiot. I understand that you can get carried away; we're humans. You lose a few bets, the fury is slowly starting to build up, and you make some more bets, losing more money in the process. That's a process we've all encountered sometime during our gambling sessions. Getting that much carried away and betting a whole month's salary without taking into account that you won't have any money to spend the rest of the month is purely irresponsible and negligent towards his family.

[satscraper]

I think it is not correct  to draw general conclusions based on, metaphorically speaking, "a single  case". Some folk really fall into extremity with gambling and become burden for their families.  But most gamblers I have met  had "brakes" in their mind that protected them from being fall into pit  like that one described by OP. Their families knew about the liability  of its member and did all they can  to make those brakes fail-safe.

[Dewi Aries]

It's this kind of incident that makes some people feel irritated by gambling activities and gamblers. This is not the first incident I am reading about here; I have read about so many ugly incidents where someone committed suicide after losing money that didn't belong to him in gambling, while another incident was where a student gambled with the money that was contributed by another student and a man who left his kids at home to gamble. Some people are just so ignorant of their gambling lifestyles to the extent that it can turn their homes apart by convincing others to see gambling as a terrible activity rather than an addiction. 

That's right, and I would say that actually the stigma and the bad viewpoint that society has towards gambling is because of the behavior of the gamblers themselves who gamble in the wrong way which causes various disasters to their own lives and their families. And as you said, there are also some gamblers who are even very desperate in terms of making decisions such as those who are desperate to end their lives, and I believe that these actions are taken because they cannot withstand all the pressure they experience from treating gambling in the wrong way.

So I think it's completely normal for people to have such a bad stigma towards gambling because indeed the majority of gamblers always take various actions that are not in accordance with what is recommended and instead they take various high-risk actions which in the end it is clear that the decision is very dangerous for themselves.

[Mahanton]

I think what happened to OP's brother was that he was hypnotized by gambling where he dared to take big risky actions such as risking all the money he had and it was normal for arguments to occur between him and his partner because he should have paid attention and thought about the fate of his family first compared to what they had. want, like gambling, which can indeed make you happy, but only for a short time, because the joy of gambling is winning and winning doesn't happen often. with OP's brother who dared to take a big risky action, of course they are already in a vicious circle where it will be difficult for them to come to their senses and stop gambling to secure their money, but because he was trapped, he did such a big risky act which is detrimental to himself. and harm other people around him.
It's true, everything that is done appropriately will not cause serious problems, with him possibly getting into an argument, that is one of the bad effects of gambling because he has done it excessively. Someone who is addicted to gambling can certainly experience mental health destruction, because a loss that they cannot accept will put too much pressure on them so that they themselves cannot fix it and this is an opportunity for them to become stressed.

I don't think hypnotized is the right word here, and excuse me for my choice of words. Someone who goes to such great lengths to gamble is a mindless idiot. I understand that you can get carried away; we're humans. You lose a few bets, the fury is slowly starting to build up, and you make some more bets, losing more money in the process. That's a process we've all encountered sometime during our gambling sessions. Getting that much carried away and betting a whole month's salary without taking into account that you won't have any money to spend the rest of the month is purely irresponsible and negligent towards his family.

Whats the connection about being hypnotized? We should really that think that no one forces us to gamble but only ourselves did make out such decision. There's no one that should be blamed but only yourself.
You have done something which supposedly not to be done specially on spending up on the amount on which you cant afford to lose. People or gambler do usually mess up their lives at the moment
that they would really be going beyond their limits on which at the moment that you would be finding yourself having that kind of condition then better stop mid way. Addiction isnt something that could be easily controlled
once you have it, then it would really be continuously for you to gamble no matter what until you have lost it all.

Mistake could really be only considered on the moment that you had made out bad decisions specially on spending money. Making up such foolish decisions on which you do know that this could really be able to affect you entirely and with your family. People do really learn up on their mistakes on the moment that they will really be experiencing those tough situations on which we know that this is where people do usually be ending up.
Dont let yourself that goes into that point that you would be only stopping when everything has already been that damaged. So it would really be something that will really be depending on you
on how wise you do make with your decisions.

[Stable090]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 

You should change your topic, gambling is not a fatal accident the way you said it, but gambling addiction is a fatal accident. Lots of people are gambling, and they don’t do crazy things like that. How will you collect your salary, Then you will choose not to sleep at home, rather, you will prefers to sleep at a casino house. I don’t know why some people don’t even think, How are you going to collect your salary, The next thing to do is gamble. At least you are supposed to settle all your bills and stock up your kitchen with foodstuffs. Then you can even think about gambling, but why will you gamble with all your money without thinking about how your family members are going to survive?

In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now.

Then the man is not a responsible person. How will you leave your family members without reaching out to them? No matter what happens, you shouldn’t abandon your family members. And the wife didn’t do anything bad. How will the husband gamble away all his money without buying foodstuffs that the family members will eat? It’s totally rubbish.

So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

People like this are the reason why most people in society think gambling is really a bad activity, but only addicted gamblers do crazy things like this, not all gamblers.

[Casdinyard]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

Welp, In this case you can keep blaming the shit to gambling or you could have your older brother own up to his stupidity and admit that he made a mistake cause he sucks and he's got no control over himself. First and foremost, he got his paycheck and instead of going home he went straight into the casino? For what? All this leads me to believe that this is not the first time this has happened and that he has been addicted to gambling for a longer time than most of you know already. And it's just now that his bad habits and its effects are manifesting.

He's got to clean himself up and realize that he has a problem that needs fixing. He needs to become more responsible cause you can't be out here acting like a teenager with a lot of leeway when you already have a wife and kids waiting on you at home.

[Nwada001]

Your brother is just an irresponsible gambler based on your story as he literally use all his hard earned money given that he has a family to feed. I don't do that kind of thing because I already learned from my past mistakes in gambling. He mismanaged his gambling funds and what happened to him right now serves not only him but all of us a lesson to spend only few percentages if we really cannot resist avoiding gambling. We should always prioritize our family over gambling and any other vices.

The man is just irresponsible; he puts gambling first before his family needs, and aside from just being irrepressible, the man needs serious treatment before it gets out of hand. First, let us all hope that he is safe and did not run into trouble as he left home. 
 
Another thing is that the man should also have a defined goal for why he is gambling and know when to stop. From the story narration, it's clear that even if he is given someone else's money, there is a higher possibility of him using them all to gamble, which is a clear sign and behaviour of a gambling addict.

[Accardo]

Welp, In this case you can keep blaming the shit to gambling or you could have your older brother own up to his stupidity and admit that he made a mistake cause he sucks and he's got no control over himself. First and foremost, he got his paycheck and instead of going home he went straight into the casino? For what? All this leads me to believe that this is not the first time this has happened and that he has been addicted to gambling for a longer time than most of you know already. And it's just now that his bad habits and its effects are manifesting.

He's got to clean himself up and realize that he has a problem that needs fixing. He needs to become more responsible cause you can't be out here acting like a teenager with a lot of leeway when you already have a wife and kids waiting on you at home.

It's true that everyone have to own up for their mistakes. But when someone falls off the bike, people would help him get on his feet again. You can't do it all by yourself in some situations like gambling. Its true as you said that he have been suffering this for a long time before it got more obvious that his family began to notices his flaws. Imagine how long he's been battling this alone. Do you expect him to rightly come up to his family and tell them his inner battles? Not every addict does it, many wants to engage in the almost unsuccessful battle of solving their problem gambling alone.

[Juse14]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

I'm sorry to hear your sister's story. This narrative clearly illustrates the enormous harm that gambling poses, not only to the individuals directly involved but also to their family members. Your brother is dedicated to his job at a private company, but his gambling addiction causes him to squander his entire monthly salary in one night—an act that sparks discord in his household and ultimately causes him to disappear into oblivion. Gambling can be catastrophic: it doesn't just take its toll directly.

Sometimes people can lose large amounts of money in gambling; the main cause is their inability to control their urge to gamble and unrealistic expectations of winning big. If someone has lost and still continues to gamble, they often try to chase their losses which results in even greater financial losses. Uncontrolled gambling can damage a person's personal, financial and social life.

Your story underscores the importance of self-control and awareness of the dangers posed by gambling; Hopefully this can be a warning to other people to be more careful in managing their finances and time.

[iBaba]

Please be specific when you say something. I know that the root of the problem is gambling but we shouldn't say that it's the fault of gambling if a person behaves like that, but it's the addiction that makes them take such steps. Gambling doesn't do anything if you do it while staying within your limits. Thousands of people gamble but they never face such situations in their lives because they gamble responsibly and they know what they should and shouldn't do.

Gambling is not just any kind of game or sport out there but an addictive one. Gambling is absolutely addictive by nature and the people of knowledge have categorized gambling as a behavioral type of addiction unlike the use of substance abuse which can be classified as another form of gambling separately. Whilst all kinds of addictive agents end up dealing with our mental health, they all have forms to which they sink and affect the brain. Gambling form of addiction can be similar to the kind of addiction people get from the excitement of watching pornography.

What am I saying in essence, people who ever got to survive their ways towards creating a permanent limitations to addiction of gambling and are able to stick to it does not necessarily mean they also cant be victims someday especially wen they get to do it very frequently. All we can do is to continue to advise addicts to always learn ways in which they can avoid the addiction of gambling.

[CroverNo01]

Gambling is a mind game,if you don't have the mind to lose money in the search of money,then you just have to step aside.Its not everybody's thing.Its meant for those who have already determined,that nomatter what it takes them,they would still gamble.They are people who wants to make money and maybe use it for something big.Nowadays, people feel those that engage in gambling are those who have decided that their future isn't important to them.
Gambling is something that is bad to some people,while it's good to some People,those that win Everytime cannot say it is a fatal thing to do,while those who lose Everytime won't advice anybody to ba a part of it.