How has this bad economic affected marriage ?

[TsenTsen]

I haven't married yet. but my parents' were affected by this "bad economic" in their marriage. Economy is the main reason of divorce in my country, seeing this fact, I'm a bit scared for my own sake and my future children if one day I got married with someone. For now, I'm kinda grateful for I am not married yet so i could get prepared for my own economy situation first before I decided to get serious in a relationship to prevent any unwanted problem in a marriage which cause by economy.

Even thinking about the responsiblity, marriage expenses and child expenses are giving me goosebumps somehow, I'm afraid if I'm failed to provide them.

If you are not getting married because you fear that you will not be able to provide for your wife and children after marriage, then this thinking is wrong.  Marriage is a relationship in which real life is recognized.  There is a blessing in marriage, which causes an increase in a person sustenance.  It is a rare relationship in which life takes a new direction with love and understanding.  Most people experience is that after marriage their livelihood increased and life became blessed and peaceful.  So do not look at marriage with fear or worry but as the beginning of a new life.

What you said is very heartwarming, buddy. Yes, I'm scared of it, but I didn't say that I don't want to. That's why it will take a longer time for me to get prepared until I'm ready.
I will put in mind what on your words. Thanks a lot. It just what I have experienced give me a lot to think and a lot to put into consideration before I finally chooses someone to get married.

[Mahanton]

I haven't married yet. but my parents' were affected by this "bad economic" in their marriage. Economy is the main reason of divorce in my country, seeing this fact, I'm a bit scared for my own sake and my future children if one day I got married with someone. For now, I'm kinda grateful for I am not married yet so i could get prepared for my own economy situation first before I decided to get serious in a relationship to prevent any unwanted problem in a marriage which cause by economy.

Even thinking about the responsiblity, marriage expenses and child expenses are giving me goosebumps somehow, I'm afraid if I'm failed to provide them.

If you are not getting married because you fear that you will not be able to provide for your wife and children after marriage, then this thinking is wrong.  Marriage is a relationship in which real life is recognized.  There is a blessing in marriage, which causes an increase in a person sustenance.  It is a rare relationship in which life takes a new direction with love and understanding.  Most people experience is that after marriage their livelihood increased and life became blessed and peaceful.  So do not look at marriage with fear or worry but as the beginning of a new life.

What you said is very heartwarming, buddy. Yes, I'm scared of it, but I didn't say that I don't want to. That's why it will take a longer time for me to get prepared until I'm ready.
I will put in mind what on your words. Thanks a lot. It just what I have experienced give me a lot to think and a lot to put into consideration before I finally chooses someone to get married.

Why people would really be that rushing up themselves on getting married? This isnt really that something that would really be that easily be making up such decision considering that you would really be looking for someone whom you would be with for the rest of your life. This is why you wont really be needing up to rush yourself because if you would then it might bring up that forever regret you would really be having in life
specially when you do get married on someone whom you dont like or something that talks about getting forced or something related to it. As for preparations on marriage life then it would  really be that understandable
that you would really be needing up to have that kind of plans specially on finances. Make yourself that financially prepared since you are building your own family and as a husband or father to be then
tons of responsibilities on which you would really be needing up to provide.

This is why it would really be that important that you should really be that prepared or else then you would really be experiencing that hardship into your marriage life. This is why preparations
would really be that relevant and something that you must need to be done because having no preparation would really be might lead into some financial arguments later on specially
if your wife and children cant take anymore the bad experience that they are really having along side with you as the head of the family.

[boty]

Why people would really be that rushing up themselves on getting married? This isnt really that something that would really be that easily be making up such decision considering that you would really be looking for someone whom you would be with for the rest of your life. This is why you wont really be needing up to rush yourself because if you would then it might bring up that forever regret you would really be having in life
specially when you do get married on someone whom you dont like or something that talks about getting forced or something related to it. As for preparations on marriage life then it would  really be that understandable
that you would really be needing up to have that kind of plans specially on finances. Make yourself that financially prepared since you are building your own family and as a husband or father to be then
tons of responsibilities on which you would really be needing up to provide.

Deciding to get married is certainly not an easy thing and we must be able to accept the shortcomings of our partner and must be able to complement each other in various ways and if one of the partners does not trust each other then it will be very difficult to last long and I agree with you we do not need to rush in this matter, we must choose a partner who can accept all the shortcomings that we have and we must also be able to accept the shortcomings of our partner and always complement each other, before deciding to get married of course we must have a good income in order to meet the needs of our family later, because for now it is not uncommon for us to see those who choose to separate because what their partner needs is not met.

This is why it would really be that important that you should really be that prepared or else then you would really be experiencing that hardship into your marriage life. This is why preparations
would really be that relevant and something that you must need to be done because having no preparation would really be might lead into some financial arguments later on specially
if your wife and children cant take anymore the bad experience that they are really having along side with you as the head of the family.

If a couple supports each other, of course this will make it easier for them to solve every problem they face, therefore every couple who wants to get married must first ask their partner whether they are ready to accept all the shortcomings they have because everyone certainly has their own shortcomings and advantages, because if they cannot accept their partner's shortcomings, of course their marriage will not last long because there will always be problems in their relationship.

[lizarder]

Hi Forum members, Seeing the high rate of cost of living in our country today, please I want to ask how has this bad or better still tough economic situations affected your family and marriage?

When talking about family, it is a house because inside it there are many things that need to be prepared. Vice versa when talking about marriage and there are many things that need to be prepared carefully. One of them is a way to make money so that we can be responsible after marriage with the increasingly high cost of living.

For those already in it, has it cause chaos/disorder between you and your partners?
And those that entered it not long, does this current situations make you lament taking such decision.

I have married and I have never regretted it and in fact I am a person who believes that because of marriage, my fortune will increase. Even though the process of life is not easy and we have to work hard to achieve financial freedom. The concept lies within us and how far we are willing to struggle to improve our finances for the better because in my opinion the process never translates into results.

For the bachelors/spinsters, are you grateful been single this moment?

I am lucky enough to be married and have children because now they are my strength to earn money and they are also my life encouragement now.

[Roseline492]

If you are not getting married because you fear that you will not be able to provide for your wife and children after marriage, then this thinking is wrong.  Marriage is a relationship in which real life is recognized.  There is a blessing in marriage, which causes an increase in a person sustenance.  It is a rare relationship in which life takes a new direction with love and understanding.  Most people experience is that after marriage their livelihood increased and life became blessed and peaceful.  So do not look at marriage with fear or worry but as the beginning of a new life.

You are right on that because marriage can come with a lot of blessing, perhaps that's actually what most people do not understand, though I no that is very important for someone to be financially stable before going into marriage but the question is that what if it takes so many years before it comes?, well everybody has there own definition of financial stability in regards to marriage because so long as someone can provide for there family three square meal a day there is nothing wrong in getting married because no condition is permanent so long as they are very hardworking, I have even seen a situation were a man was going through financial challenges but the moment he decided to settle down and get married everything changed for him.

[NotATether]

No money is always going to make people apprehensive and turn families against each other. It kind of drives you to a point of desperation. But it's not something that's going to happen just because of a bad economy unless you were also hit with a bunch of large bills at the same time. It's more of an "I can no longer afford this", type of thing, not an "I can't afford anything" thing.

[Accardo]

It's more of an "I can no longer afford this", type of thing, not an "I can't afford anything" thing.

The same reason why most people can't save up for a house is because it keeps increasing. Instead, they spend the money on flashy items, clothes, shoes, phones, etc. In this economy, doom spending is thriving amongst young people who cannot purchase the stuff they want like cars, real estate, build a family and much more. Investing in themselves by paying for tattoos, nails, and expensive hairstyles, becomes a norm in society. I was reading a whole lot of young users complaining on BoredPanda about the things they can't afford anymore in this generation.

[TsenTsen]

I haven't married yet. but my parents' were affected by this "bad economic" in their marriage. Economy is the main reason of divorce in my country, seeing this fact, I'm a bit scared for my own sake and my future children if one day I got married with someone. For now, I'm kinda grateful for I am not married yet so i could get prepared for my own economy situation first before I decided to get serious in a relationship to prevent any unwanted problem in a marriage which cause by economy.

Even thinking about the responsiblity, marriage expenses and child expenses are giving me goosebumps somehow, I'm afraid if I'm failed to provide them.

If you are not getting married because you fear that you will not be able to provide for your wife and children after marriage, then this thinking is wrong.  Marriage is a relationship in which real life is recognized.  There is a blessing in marriage, which causes an increase in a person sustenance.  It is a rare relationship in which life takes a new direction with love and understanding.  Most people experience is that after marriage their livelihood increased and life became blessed and peaceful.  So do not look at marriage with fear or worry but as the beginning of a new life.

What you said is very heartwarming, buddy. Yes, I'm scared of it, but I didn't say that I don't want to. That's why it will take a longer time for me to get prepared until I'm ready.
I will put in mind what on your words. Thanks a lot. It just what I have experienced give me a lot to think and a lot to put into consideration before I finally chooses someone to get married.

Why people would really be that rushing up themselves on getting married? This isnt really that something that would really be that easily be making up such decision considering that you would really be looking for someone whom you would be with for the rest of your life. This is why you wont really be needing up to rush yourself because if you would then it might bring up that forever regret you would really be having in life
specially when you do get married on someone whom you dont like or something that talks about getting forced or something related to it. As for preparations on marriage life then it would  really be that understandable
that you would really be needing up to have that kind of plans specially on finances. Make yourself that financially prepared since you are building your own family and as a husband or father to be then
tons of responsibilities on which you would really be needing up to provide.

This is why it would really be that important that you should really be that prepared or else then you would really be experiencing that hardship into your marriage life. This is why preparations
would really be that relevant and something that you must need to be done because having no preparation would really be might lead into some financial arguments later on specially
if your wife and children cant take anymore the bad experience that they are really having along side with you as the head of the family.

Exactly, marriage is not a race. Those who are lucky enough to have a stable job and married to their dream partner, congratulations to them. I, myself, hasn't been that lucky, but it is okay, I just want to be more responsible in the future.

A lot of people will get married, but not all of them would last forever. Especially when we know how hard marriage is and how divorce will affect everything in our life, especially our children. That is what I'm scared the most.

So, I prefer to get married when I'm really ready for it, financially, phisically, and mentally. I won't get married just because I want to.

[CageMabok]

What you said is very heartwarming, buddy. Yes, I'm scared of it, but I didn't say that I don't want to. That's why it will take a longer time for me to get prepared until I'm ready.
I will put in mind what on your words. Thanks a lot. It just what I have experienced give me a lot to think and a lot to put into consideration before I finally chooses someone to get married.

Everyone can choose and make decisions based on their own knowledge and that also includes choosing a life partner to live together forever. Because when we choose the wrong life partner, of course there will be bad effects that we will feel in life such as the difficulty of making compromises because there are two ideas that cannot be combined so that we cannot focus on working and earning money. So in terms of choosing a life partner, of course there must be mutual understanding and mutual liking so that our lives can run peacefully without any meaningless fuss.

[TsenTsen]

What you said is very heartwarming, buddy. Yes, I'm scared of it, but I didn't say that I don't want to. That's why it will take a longer time for me to get prepared until I'm ready.
I will put in mind what on your words. Thanks a lot. It just what I have experienced give me a lot to think and a lot to put into consideration before I finally chooses someone to get married.

Everyone can choose and make decisions based on their own knowledge and that also includes choosing a life partner to live together forever. Because when we choose the wrong life partner, of course there will be bad effects that we will feel in life such as the difficulty of making compromises because there are two ideas that cannot be combined so that we cannot focus on working and earning money. So in terms of choosing a life partner, of course there must be mutual understanding and mutual liking so that our lives can run peacefully without any meaningless fuss.

I will put your words in mind, facing our own insecurities and trauma based on experience within the family could be challenging somehow, it makes us became more scared of something and could alter our mind from making the right and objective decision. In this case if finding someone that we mutually understand and accept.  I believe in order to gain the courage to face our own mind, I have to have a good preparation and understanding in realizing what happened with us psychologically. Thank you  for your encouraging words.

[Lanatsa]

What you said is very heartwarming, buddy. Yes, I'm scared of it, but I didn't say that I don't want to. That's why it will take a longer time for me to get prepared until I'm ready.
I will put in mind what on your words. Thanks a lot. It just what I have experienced give me a lot to think and a lot to put into consideration before I finally chooses someone to get married.

Everyone can choose and make decisions based on their own knowledge and that also includes choosing a life partner to live together forever. Because when we choose the wrong life partner, of course there will be bad effects that we will feel in life such as the difficulty of making compromises because there are two ideas that cannot be combined so that we cannot focus on working and earning money. So in terms of choosing a life partner, of course there must be mutual understanding and mutual liking so that our lives can run peacefully without any meaningless fuss.

I will put your words in mind, facing our own insecurities and trauma based on experience within the family could be challenging somehow, it makes us became more scared of something and could alter our mind from making the right and objective decision. In this case if finding someone that we mutually understand and accept.  I believe in order to gain the courage to face our own mind, I have to have a good preparation and understanding in realizing what happened with us psychologically. Thank you  for your encouraging words.

Not really just that limited on marriage aspect but also in other things as well on which it would really be that making you that thinking that it would really be that hard for you to have such action on which we know that when it comes to various decisions then it will really be needing up that careful steps that you would be needing ahead because on the time that you will really be having such awareness about other peoples experiences then you would really be that keen on making up some further actions just because you would really be that get scared or would really be not that liking for you to be able to experience on the same thing. This is why it would really be that important that you should really know at least on whats the difference among into those decisions you would be making and trying out to reflect yourself into their condition.

Speaking about marriage then this isnt something and easy thing that you could just simply get in and tends to get out if you cant bare it anymore. This is really that a lifetime commitment on which
you would really be needing to stood strong on it or would be taking up the responsibility that attaches to it. Here comes that normal thing about having those preparation and those plans on which
its really just that a normal thing that you would be needing up to get in place or organized because you are building your own family so financial aspect or preparedness is really that a default thing.

[Maslate]

No money is always going to make people apprehensive and turn families against each other. It kind of drives you to a point of desperation. But it's not something that's going to happen just because of a bad economy unless you were also hit with a bunch of large bills at the same time. It's more of an "I can no longer afford this", type of thing, not an "I can't afford anything" thing.

Seeing the cost of living getting expensive from time to time is inevitable. But I don't think this is really a serious problem for those who are both working or both have their own individual source of income. There may be instances that they can't afford some things that they used to afford before, but that's only normal when your budget is tight. What's more important these days is to increase your sources of income since relying on a sole source is hard and risky, and don't wait before it will come to damage your marital relationship between husband and wife.

[Furious 7]

That's obvious because not a few people think that having a partner will actually make conditions even more difficult and not a few people who already have a partner experience internal problems that result in separation because of economic factors that are difficult to stem.

But regarding this matter, I personally feel that everything depends on the choice and commitment that is carried out. I am someone who is married and has a small family where I live with my partner and child for now. It is clear that for now the needs are getting more and more especially my child is still small where he still needs baby diapers and milk to support his life so that the current conditions are clearly felt when the economy is in a difficult condition for now coupled with a large burden of life then this will greatly impact the economic factors owned. But when our commitment and our partner have begun to be well established and both have the same chemistry then I think we have considered this and still enjoy running our marriage so that even though many people sometimes choose single (not having a partner) and those who separate when they already have a partner only because of economic factors it is not entirely like that because in the end there are still a lot of couples who survive and this is just about the perception of life in the end.

[MarjorieZimmermanGinger]

For those already in it, has it cause chaos/disorder between you and your partners?
And those that entered it not long, does this current situations make you lament taking such decision.

For the bachelors/spinsters, are you grateful been single this moment?

This condition has been going on for a long time and now it is difficult to get a job to earn money if people do not have skills. When talking about marriage, there are many things that we may have to highlight, both needs and other financial preparations for needs that we do not predict. This situation cannot be resolved without planning because in a household there are many needs that may have to be met. I am grateful to be married and until now I have been given the opportunity to build happiness with them.

If you want to live happier, then someone must think about how to make money and have time spent with family. Happiness is not always seen from how much money we have, but money is also a fairly important part of living life in this world and no less importantly we must be able to balance it.

[BigBos]

Hi Forum members, Seeing the high rate of cost of living in our country today, please I want to ask how has this bad or better still tough economic situations affected your family and marriage?

For those already in it, has it cause chaos/disorder between you and your partners?
And those that entered it not long, does this current situations make you lament taking such decision.

For the bachelors/spinsters, are you grateful been single this moment?

Share your experiences?

The economic instability that occurs in my opinion has an impact on those who are married or single. because of course this makes everything more difficult, such as someone who is still single with a job that can only make them survive with a mediocre income, but when this income is lost it will certainly affect them on a large scale. and with those who are married or have families, in my opinion it is the same or maybe even worse.
when there is a couple who are officially married and experience economic difficulties, there must be problems that occur. several cases of divorce occur due to unstable economic factors, either because the man does not want to work or it is indeed difficult to find work. therefore, as much as possible we must be able to stabilize the economic situation so that everything is fine when married or still single, in my opinion a stable economic situation must still be prioritized.

[TsenTsen]

What you said is very heartwarming, buddy. Yes, I'm scared of it, but I didn't say that I don't want to. That's why it will take a longer time for me to get prepared until I'm ready.
I will put in mind what on your words. Thanks a lot. It just what I have experienced give me a lot to think and a lot to put into consideration before I finally chooses someone to get married.

Everyone can choose and make decisions based on their own knowledge and that also includes choosing a life partner to live together forever. Because when we choose the wrong life partner, of course there will be bad effects that we will feel in life such as the difficulty of making compromises because there are two ideas that cannot be combined so that we cannot focus on working and earning money. So in terms of choosing a life partner, of course there must be mutual understanding and mutual liking so that our lives can run peacefully without any meaningless fuss.

I will put your words in mind, facing our own insecurities and trauma based on experience within the family could be challenging somehow, it makes us became more scared of something and could alter our mind from making the right and objective decision. In this case if finding someone that we mutually understand and accept.  I believe in order to gain the courage to face our own mind, I have to have a good preparation and understanding in realizing what happened with us psychologically. Thank you  for your encouraging words.

Not really just that limited on marriage aspect but also in other things as well on which it would really be that making you that thinking that it would really be that hard for you to have such action on which we know that when it comes to various decisions then it will really be needing up that careful steps that you would be needing ahead because on the time that you will really be having such awareness about other peoples experiences then you would really be that keen on making up some further actions just because you would really be that get scared or would really be not that liking for you to be able to experience on the same thing. This is why it would really be that important that you should really know at least on whats the difference among into those decisions you would be making and trying out to reflect yourself into their condition.

Speaking about marriage then this isnt something and easy thing that you could just simply get in and tends to get out if you cant bare it anymore. This is really that a lifetime commitment on which
you would really be needing to stood strong on it or would be taking up the responsibility that attaches to it. Here comes that normal thing about having those preparation and those plans on which
its really just that a normal thing that you would be needing up to get in place or organized because you are building your own family so financial aspect or preparedness is really that a default thing.

Thank you for the explanation, that sums up everything in term of facing our own fears. When we experience or witness a painful or traumatic event, our brain will subconsciously develop a coping mechanism to prevent that from happening again. What you just explained is how coping mechanism work.

And when it comes to marriage, what you said about it is what I also want to have. But looking into nowadays dating habit which is kinda messed up, it is rather hard to trust someone who would share the same value as you, and in this case is about loyalty and sincerity

[legendbtc]

Hi Forum members, Seeing the high rate of cost of living in our country today, please I want to ask how has this bad or better still tough economic situations affected your family and marriage?

For those already in it, has it cause chaos/disorder between you and your partners?
And those that entered it not long, does this current situations make you lament taking such decision.

For the bachelors/spinsters, are you grateful been single this moment?

Share your experiences?

The economic instability that occurs in my opinion has an impact on those who are married or single. because of course this makes everything more difficult, such as someone who is still single with a job that can only make them survive with a mediocre income, but when this income is lost it will certainly affect them on a large scale. and with those who are married or have families, in my opinion it is the same or maybe even worse.
when there is a couple who are officially married and experience economic difficulties, there must be problems that occur. several cases of divorce occur due to unstable economic factors, either because the man does not want to work or it is indeed difficult to find work. therefore, as much as possible we must be able to stabilize the economic situation so that everything is fine when married or still single, in my opinion a stable economic situation must still be prioritized.

Economic instability will affect everyone, but single people will feel less pressure than those with families, especially couples with young children. But I think whether there will be any problems between them will depend on how they love and treat each other. Not all couples argue and have problems like you said.

For example, my family, our income has decreased a little bit compared to last year but we still try to work together every day and there is no problem between us. Or many other couples around me, all are very harmonious even though they are also having economic problems. It can be said that it depends on how we treat each other as well as how we solve problems.

By the way, the idea that one needs to be financially stable before marriage sounds idealistic and most unmarried people aspire to that. But the question is when will you get a steady income, and if you never get a steady economy, what is your next plan? 
I've been there and I just want to tell you that it's easier said than done and it's not all bad when things don't go according to our plans. The proof is that my wife and I are very happy no matter what challenges we face.

[erep]

No money is always going to make people apprehensive and turn families against each other. It kind of drives you to a point of desperation. But it's not something that's going to happen just because of a bad economy unless you were also hit with a bunch of large bills at the same time. It's more of an "I can no longer afford this", type of thing, not an "I can't afford anything" thing.

Seeing the cost of living getting expensive from time to time is inevitable. But I don't think this is really a serious problem for those who are both working or both have their own individual source of income. There may be instances that they can't afford some things that they used to afford before, but that's only normal when your budget is tight. What's more important these days is to increase your sources of income since relying on a sole source is hard and risky, and don't wait before it will come to damage your marital relationship between husband and wife.

All costs of goods and services are increasing at this time but monthly income or salary does not adjust the impact of inflation, we have to save to use income for monthly needs and we cannot buy some optional items for our needs because of the current price increase we have to save the budget, I think our partners understand the impact of the current bad economy very well and they will not make economic matters a problem with household relationships, I think if we have the right partner will accept all our current realities and we have to fight together to improve the economy by looking for other income opportunities.

[GigaBit]

No money is always going to make people apprehensive and turn families against each other. It kind of drives you to a point of desperation. But it's not something that's going to happen just because of a bad economy unless you were also hit with a bunch of large bills at the same time. It's more of an "I can no longer afford this", type of thing, not an "I can't afford anything" thing.

Seeing the cost of living getting expensive from time to time is inevitable. But I don't think this is really a serious problem for those who are both working or both have their own individual source of income. There may be instances that they can't afford some things that they used to afford before, but that's only normal when your budget is tight. What's more important these days is to increase your sources of income since relying on a sole source is hard and risky, and don't wait before it will come to damage your marital relationship between husband and wife.

All costs of goods and services are increasing at this time but monthly income or salary does not adjust the impact of inflation, we have to save to use income for monthly needs and we cannot buy some optional items for our needs because of the current price increase we have to save the budget, I think our partners understand the impact of the current bad economy very well and they will not make economic matters a problem with household relationships, I think if we have the right partner will accept all our current realities and we have to fight together to improve the economy by looking for other income opportunities.

When the economic situation is bad, extra caution must be taken in the use of money otherwise it will be difficult to manage the situation. At present the economic situation is not good in most of the countries of the world. At this time, how to survive should be focused. While cutting unnecessary expenses, one should also continue to plan to increase one's income. When there is a financial crisis in the family, the crisis should be resolved through the new members of the family. If it can be done then there is no problem. If family members can understand where they spend their income and adapt themselves to the situation, minimizing the impact of spending as needed, they will be able to survive in any situation.

[Su-asa]

Hi Forum members, Seeing the high rate of cost of living in our country today, please I want to ask how has this bad or better still tough economic situations affected your family and marriage?

For those already in it, has it cause chaos/disorder between you and your partners?
And those that entered it not long, does this current situations make you lament taking such decision.

For the bachelors/spinsters, are you grateful been single this moment?

Share your experiences?

The cost of living actually scares a lot of people now to become independent talk more of marriage, getting married in this economy and living comfortably with your spouse can only be achieved if you have a steady source of income or should I even say different streams of income. in Nigeria right now a lot of people don't put marriage on their priority list because they are barely surviving due to the crazy inflation and economic melt down, before getting married right now you should at least have a business going on