What quality do you think a husband must have to keep a healthy marriage

[Victorybit1]

There are no qualities that husband must have or must have not to keep a healthy marriage. Marriage is a union of two. Two persons must have qualities that will suit each other. There are no qualities that will fit for every person, family or couple. There is no one right answer. If you dont understand that in family two must work and expect only husband or wife have that special quality (for example honest, rich, loyal, strong), then any advice you get will fail for you.

You are right, they must work together to achieve their goals but it still doesn't change the fact that they are qualities that the man must possess. This doesn't leave the woman out of it, but we are focused on the man here because he is the head of the family, saying that there are no qualities a husband Mut have isn't accurate. There are few qualities he must possess that would make him keep his family together. A man without the attributes of discipline wouldn't be able to lead, many people make the mistake of getting married without working on theirself, this is the reason why many marriages fail.

[Hewlet]

Am I wrong? give at least one thing that can't be solved by money, I would like to test my skill.

this is one reason why we have a lot of children that have been poorly raised by just a single parent because most fathers assume that what the father has to bring to the table is just money, money and more  money. it is true that to run the home you need money but just hoping that money alone is what the man will bring to the table to have an healthy marriage will in most cases result in an unhealthy marriage. there ought to be a sense of balance whereby you bring money and still give some quality time to your family to know what they are feeling emotionally. some children might need some emotional support or a sense of love from the father who on his own believes that because he is bringing the money, that he doesn't need to offer any form of emotional support. even as a man, you can tell that there are times when all you need is just someone to talk to and get some reassurance from, those are not things money can buy.

money will be certainly made and ideally from both parties but what defines a marriage is not how much a certain party makes. marriage is not a business and so the last thing that should be the foundation of an healthy marriage should be money. money is a necessity so whether you are talking about any sector at all, it is a constant that cant be factored out. what matters most in marriage is that the two parties sees themselves an a unit and are ready to work together to make themselves better and to cover up for the lapses of one another. once that natural love is there and both parties are ready to take responsibility of their home, money will come naturally in the long run.

[Helena Yu]

this is one reason why we have a lot of children that have been poorly raised by just a single parent because most fathers assume that what the father has to bring to the table is just money, money and more  money.

This is the cause of not rich parent marriages.

I've said it's not the single parent (mother) who raise the children, the rich father can hire housemaid to take care of the children, private teacher to teach them, support their hobby etc, they will become a big person.

some children might need some emotional support or a sense of love from the father who on his own believes that because he is bringing the money, that he doesn't need to offer any form of emotional support.

Emotional support from men can be gotten by the wife's partner (not only her husband).

marriage is not a business and so the last thing that should be the foundation of an healthy marriage should be money.

I don't know whether you've married or not.

But saying money is the last thing of marriage is a joke.

Right now you might in good situation because you can still make money, but once you're in lowest position and lost a way to make money like end up disabled or got deadly disease, you will know it.

[Tmoonz]

What quality do you think a husband must have to keep a healthy marriage (family life and lifestyle).

Humans have different needs they prioritize. Some women will tell you that the most important quality is wealth. They want a man that is able to afford all their needs without any challenge. Others will inform you that they want a man who pays attention to their emotional needs. They want a man who is always around to spend quality time with them. For me, I think a man used be patient, hardworking, truthful, selfless and loving. He should always put his family first before anything including business or work. A man who considers his family first will do everything he can to provide for their all-round needs.

Is not that easy for a man to completely satisfy a woman's wants and needs, most women changes there behavior and reactions over time, it is much difficult for a man to be at all round meeting up expectations of the family, he is human and imperfect at that but only working towards perfection hence there shouldn't be any crucification at any point where he has failed but Yeah there should be a considerable level of satisfaction a man should have towards his family but he also needs the corporation and understanding of the family while he works or make amends in the areas he his not meeting up, he is the head of the family and everyone is looking up to him for so many things.

[Maryjackson-p]

A husband as the head of the house is supposed to possess some attributes in order for him to have a healthy marriage. I know no one is perfect but as the head of the house there are things you will do in order for your marriage to be peaceful.
1.Respect: as the man of the house you have to respect your wife.woman also needs respect. When a man respect's his wife, his family members will also respect her and that will make the wife to also respect her husband.
2. Honesty: a man should be truthful always. When a man is truthful, you will see that the trust rate in the marriage will increase.
3. Support: a man should always support his wife in terms of house chores and others things when he is less busy.
Resolving of conflict: it is the duty of a man to bring peace when there is conflict in the house.

[peter0425]

Marital issues now our days is high I guess compared to past age (just guessing). Like the hike in the rate of divorce and so on.

Okay but that is because back then there weren’t divorces all over the world yet. Many were religious and didn’t believe in divorce. Now, it’s very common and even normal now. Not because people weren’t getting divorced then means they were all completely happy.

What quality do you think a husband must have to keep a healthy marriage (family life and lifestyle).

He should be decisive and be able to guide his family through life. He should provide, of course and lead the family.

[Nothingtodo]

An ideal husband is a true friend to his wife. He will always be by her side and share her unspoken words and if the wife is in any problem, her husband will try his best to solve that problem. A husband must be honest and give importance to all the opinions of his wife. The only happiness in the family depends on the importance of the opinions of both. If a husband is addicted to bad habits, he should definitely abandon those bad habits to protect his wife's dignity.

[franky1]

serious thought

we all know, when at work we all act a certain way,
we accept orders from bosses, colleagues and customers to perform duties
we dont swear, fart, burp, drink or scratch our asses infront of our bosses, colleagues and customers
we have certain standards set on us by our bosses, colleagues, customers
we have a certain dress code and act a particular agreeable way
we set our own standards of expectations we should act like when working

however when we finish work we should be able to switch off. (big emphasis)
fully dis-engage from the act we put on at work, and just be are true selves at home, relaxed, comfortable and without putting in the effort to ACT a certain way

however if the other person we choose to date and live with, wants us to act a certain way, have certain standards and do things a certain way to appease them, we will never truly be comfortable and relaxed even in our own homes as we can never truly switch off 'the act'.. so never be ourselves

so to have a healthy marriage each person in the relationship should not be setting standards or trying to get the other person to 'act' a certain way.. if you cant accept someone for who they are when they switch off, or you dont give them the freedom to switch off. it wont be a happy, healthy marriage

studies have shown that when looking at couples and seeing what their requirements in their partner are
when studies show the requirements are: 'comforting', 'open minded', 'caring' the success rate is high
when studies show the requirements are: 'professional', 'assertive', 'taking the lead', 'energetic', 'organised' the success rate is low

if your requirements of a relationship sound more like a job application, you wont find your soulmate, you'll find a work buddy(who will resign(divorce) at some point)

[Helena Yu]

so to have a healthy marriage each person in the relationship should not be setting standards or trying to get the other person to 'act' a certain way.. if you cant accept someone for who they are when they switch off, or you dont give them the freedom to switch off. it wont be a happy, healthy marriage

You have a good answer, but in the reality it's not applicable.

Women nowadays asking for 5 love languages: words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, physical touch, for them it's a "bare minimum", you have to give compliment, talk in good way, have a good humor, spent time together, give them gifts, always help them, and touching them.

Do you think when men are in "switch off" they will do all these love languages? nah, men like to spend time for doing nothing, relax or doing whatever they likes.

I know, we can still get women who don't mind with our switch off mode, but they're low quality, either they're ugly, bad attitude, or stupid.

Imagine you're handsome, earn 3x times more than average salary, 6 feet, have titles, have good parents etc, you must be have your own standards, will you accept to marry with ugly, bad attitude and stupid woman because she can accept your switch off mode? nah.

[Bushdark]

There are no qualities that husband must have or must have not to keep a healthy marriage. Marriage is a union of two. Two persons must have qualities that will suit each other. There are no qualities that will fit for every person, family or couple. There is no one right answer. If you dont understand that in family two must work and expect only husband or wife have that special quality (for example honest, rich, loyal, strong), then any advice you get will fail for you.

You are right, they must work together to achieve their goals but it still doesn't change the fact that they are qualities that the man must possess. This doesn't leave the woman out of it, but we are focused on the man here because he is the head of the family, saying that there are no qualities a husband Mut have isn't accurate. There are few qualities he must possess that would make him keep his family together. A man without the attributes of discipline wouldn't be able to lead, many people make the mistake of getting married without working on theirself, this is the reason why many marriages fail.

Sometimes marriage divorce is not mostly from the man but the woman. Some women became fade up about the marriage and starts misbehaving anyhow. This happens most in Europe and part of the North America where women get 50 50 share of their husband assets.
This is so unjust and many men had suffered from this because of the woman's decision of leaving the marriage because they want to enrich themselves in the name of getting maltreatment in the marriage.
 Their are so many celebrities that have lost their fortunes becsuthey git married to a greedy and unfortunate woman that want to take their properties for themselves without even thinking on fixing the relationship.

[Face_lex]

A man needs to have some qualities to be a good husband and keep his family life intact, not  just one quality.

He has to be a good provider: He has to be able to put food on the table for the family for if he doesn't do this, the wife may lose respect for him.

A good listener:  Generally many women like to gist and talk and gossip so their husbands should be able to sit and listen to all she has to say. If he does this, she may not have the urge to go outside to do the gisting.

A protector: Women love to feel protected by their man. They like to be secured in his arms, so a good husband should be able to give her this assurance.

And a good husband is someone who can always and adequately profess his love for his wife. He shouldn't fail in the regard no matter what

The above mentioned qualities are what a woman is looking out for in a good husband

[Roseline492]

You should be intelligent enough to control your wife. And by intelligence I mean Light. If you have alot of it your wife will be under your power, and will see you as her master and fully submit to you.
Ofcourse this light only comes from the CREATOR.

How do you intend to control your wife and what is the specific thing you are supposed to do?, actually controlling your wife is not really a way of healthy marriage because controlling by definition is always by telling your wife what to do at every giving time and depriving her the opportunity to be entitled of her opinion, also since you said the person must have a light and it comes from the creator, so does it mean that without the light there will not be any healthy marriage?. Actually  communication and understand is a huge substance of longevity in marriage, so all this basic things are the key to a lasting marriage some people may not no.

[Y3shot]

An ideal husband is a true friend to his wife. He will always be by her side and share her unspoken words and if the wife is in any problem, her husband will try his best to solve that problem. A husband must be honest and give importance to all the opinions of his wife. The only happiness in the family depends on the importance of the opinions of both. If a husband is addicted to bad habits, he should definitely abandon those bad habits to protect his wife's dignity.

I agree with you and another thing I would like to add, a husband is also like like a father to the wife because wen a marries a woman she's no no more under her father roofs who used to be a guardian and once a man gets marries to a woman he now becomes her new father. The role of a husband in marriage is to make sure he takes Good care of the wife by protecting and giving support to the woman in all aspect. Husbands are also problem solver to their wired.

[franky1]

so to have a healthy marriage each person in the relationship should not be setting standards or trying to get the other person to 'act' a certain way.. if you cant accept someone for who they are when they switch off, or you dont give them the freedom to switch off. it wont be a happy, healthy marriage

You have a good answer, but in the reality it's not applicable.

Women nowadays asking for 5 love languages: words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, physical touch, for them it's a "bare minimum", you have to give compliment, talk in good way, have a good humor, spent time together, give them gifts, always help them, and touching them.

Do you think when men are in "switch off" they will do all these love languages? nah, men like to spend time for doing nothing, relax or doing whatever they likes.

sounds like your single and never had a relationship
those love languages are universal.. its part of being in a relationship

when guys switch off from work. they want to snuggle with whom they love. thats part of switching off
when guys switch off from work. they want quality time with whom they love. thats part of switching off

if you think that switching off is to go to an empty room, avoid all contact, not speak or touch anyone.. then it means you are obviously single and not experienced a loving relationship to know the basics
if you cant flirt, compliment or spend time with someone. means you dont love that person.. they are just a roommate at best

here is a guys best arrival from work when they enter their home:
him: "honey im home" her: "yay baby, i missed you"  (affirmation)
her: [hugs him] him: [hugs back and kisses] (physical touch)
her: "dinner will be ready in 30mins" him: "i bought you your favourite icecream on way home" (gifts & act of service)
her: "what movie should we snuggle upto tonight" him: "i dont mind i just wanna relax in ur arms" (quality time)

see its universal..

compared to:
him: "honey im home" her: "finally, your here. the patio deck broke and needs fixing before it rains"
him: (in his head) "well she aint acting as sweet as honey today, maybe i wont call her it tomorrow"
him: "whats for dinner" her "i havnt done anything but it will be ready by the time the patio is fixed"

what i mean is. if the woman is demanding the guy do day long tasks like fix the patio where she acts like a manager with a schedule in her mind and bossing him around if he didnt do it by the time she had in her head but didnt communicate the deadline to him.. the relationship is basically over

if he comes home from work and it feels like he is starting a second job of the day fixing the house with wife being the boss, he cant relax
if he can come home and his wife jumps him in loving embrace and kisses him mercilessly and then shows love languages. he can relax and enjoy it

if he has to stay in action mode, in professional mode EG he cant fart or pick his nose or scratch his ass because she is pompous, she is the wrong girl for him because he cant relax around her and he cant just be a normal human

[Helena Yu]

sounds like your single and never had a relationship
those love languages are universal.. its part of being in a relationship

Nah bro, I had few relationships.

here is a guys best arrival from work when they enter their home:
him: "honey im home" her: "yay baby, i missed you"  (affirmation)
her: [hugs him] him: [hugs back and kisses] (physical touch)
her: "dinner will be ready in 30mins" him: "i bought you your favourite icecream on way home" (gifts & act of service)
her: "what movie should we snuggle upto tonight" him: "i dont mind i just wanna relax in ur arms" (quality time)

see its universal..

In this case both of them support each other, the woman cook for him, act nice, respect him. This will encourage the man to do same because when someone do good to you, we didn't feel hard or forced to do same.

compared to:
him: "honey im home" her: "finally, your here. the patio deck broke and needs fixing before it rains"
him: (in his head) "well she aint acting as sweet as honey today, maybe i wont call her it tomorrow"
him: "whats for dinner" her "i havnt done anything but it will be ready by the time the patio is fixed"

This.

This is what the modern women look like, the woman not act sweet and they demand something, if you do the same like refuse her demand and not want to call her, she will act like a victim, you will be blamed and you must understand her, but she never tried to understand the man.

For modern women, they think they only have 3 jobs in marriages: pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding. The rest of them should be men's responsibility.

However as I said before, there are still women who respect the men, but they're bad quality.

[AmaGold70]

Marital issues now our days is high I guess compared to past age (just guessing). Like the hike in the rate of divorce and so on.

A man with well developed EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE can be able to handle alot and keep things balanced for himself and his family.

What quality do you think a husband must have to keep a healthy marriage (family life and lifestyle).

Let there be Love first, it takes two to Tangle. Even if the husband has all the good qualities in the world, without love and understanding from the wife marriage still won't work, a healthy marriage is partnership not one-sided, both partners needs to support each other, work together and grow together.  It takes efforts and commitment to make any marriage work out. In the case of divorce, marriages today are based on personal interest, everyone wants something in exchange for the love they give, both partners should be able to compliment each other. In regards to the quality a husband should have to make a healthy marriage, treat your wife with love, respect and empathy just the same way you would like to be treated and she will return the same energy to you.

[Nothingtodo]

An ideal husband is a true friend to his wife. He will always be by her side and share her unspoken words and if the wife is in any problem, her husband will try his best to solve that problem. A husband must be honest and give importance to all the opinions of his wife. The only happiness in the family depends on the importance of the opinions of both. If a husband is addicted to bad habits, he should definitely abandon those bad habits to protect his wife's dignity.

I agree with you and another thing I would like to add, a husband is also like like a father to the wife because wen a marries a woman she's no no more under her father roofs who used to be a guardian and once a man gets marries to a woman he now becomes her new father. The role of a husband in marriage is to make sure he takes Good care of the wife by protecting and giving support to the woman in all aspect. Husbands are also problem solver to their wired.

So after marriage, a girl leaves her father's shelter and goes to her husband and becomes completely lonely in a different environment. At that time, there is no one other than her husband to comfort or provide company to the girl. If the husband does not treat her well at that time, how difficult the situation becomes for the wife. Therefore, a husband must act as a guardian for a wife and try to meet all her needs as a guardian.