gambling and divorce

[Felicity_Tide]

will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses?

Of course, what is the point of getting married when you can't disclose your own problems to your spouse?. Gambling addiction is a big deal, and like people say, a problem shared is a problem half solved, and if an addict is lucky to have a very good partner, then I can assure that there will be a way to manage the whole thing, if actually the addict respects his/her partner though. There is no point of hiding anything, because sooner or later, the effect of the addiction would reveal itself.

does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

Of course it does, especially for a gambler that doesn't respect their partner. Just like you said, some even go as far as using their saved money to gamble, and in most cases that I've said, it all ended in a loss. That alone can break the trust in a home, and destroy a happy home.

[Cryptmuster]

is there a connection between gambling and divorce rate?

Research from the National Gambling Impact Study Commission and the Gambling Impact and Behavior Study indicates that divorce rates for those dealing with gambling issues are estimated to be around 40% for problem gamblers and approximately 54% for pathological gamblers.

i think the moment we hide our gambling habits from our partners that is the moment we will get in trouble because that is when trust crumbles and when you get in trouble in gambling and have to tell your partner you will be surprising them

not to mention some people also spend money from money that both the partners contributed in

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

Problems with gambling will affect the player, and the player’s mood will affect family relationships. It is all so interconnected that if the player becomes addicted and their problems become very serious, they will simply destroy all the relationships they are in. I think this applies not only to gambling but also to other addictions, such as drugs and alcohol. I would also add gaming addiction alongside gambling, so yes, the connection is definitely there.

[danherbias07]

I think it can break a marriage.

Imagine a responsible father turning to a gambling addict. How can he pay the mortgage, electric bills, and other needs that should be paid? Even if we hide it, there will be a time when it surfaces when all the bills pile up.
It will definitely create tension in the marriage and will probably start a bad relationship with the partner. It's best if we can avoid all of these things from happening. We should always be afraid of losing our family if we get too deep into gambling. Let's also remember that gambling will just be there waiting for us. We don't need to rush things when we are playing and wanting to win.

[Stepstowealth]

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses?

When you choose someone to a partner or spouse, you should be ready to let them into your life and show them even before you become married all the habits you have so that it becomes their decision to choose either to stay or to leave. It is certainly compulsory that you let your partner know about your gambling habits before you get married to them just so that it does not come as a shock or a break of trust or something surprising to them, when they discover that you are gambling.

I would be disappointed in my partner if I found out that they have a habit such as gambling and maybe they had very chronic or deep in it and did not let me know because that would mean them handing a problem to me that I should have known earlier before getting myself into the marriage.

[HistoLock]

Gambling and marriage are different things, sometimes gamblers hide their gambling from their wives, I think if he is addicted to it then there is no reason to hide it. Gambling puts a lot of pressure on the family, so before marriage there are many families who do not want to marry a girl who gambles. Yes, I saw a friend of mine who gambled but the girl's family did not know about it, the marriage was fixed but when they found out that his son was gambling, the marriage got divorced. If he gambles, then after getting addicted to it, he does not take care of his wife properly, but gambles with the money saved in the house. I think gambling can be done but not excessively which causes problems between husband and wife.

[Shinpako09]

Maybe, coz it involves finances. Anyone with a gambling habit should discuss it, or at least let their partner know. As we all know, financial issues are one of the main reasons why some couples get divorced. Anything related to money should be talked about. Also, if you’re in the right mind, why would you prioritize gambling over your family? If your family is fine with it and you’re not having financial problems, then why not? But if not, just forget about it.

[Gozie51]

not to mention some people also spend money from money that both the partners contributed in

I think this will be the annoying aspect for the opposite partner to sue for divorce especially the woman. If a male gambler spends family money in gambling and it doesn't yield profit over time and time without number, of course it will annoy the woman in the house and persistent anger can lead to any outcome.

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

The spouse should know certain habit of each other like smoking, drinking, gambling should not be hidden from the woman. If the man is a gambler, the woman knows that one day he would be skint and may use important savings in the house to gamble, so she has to prepare herself for it. If she knows such habit, the better for her to decide to continue in the marriage or not to.

[Cityhunter34]

It is only inresponsible gamblers that would going to hide there gambling habit from there partners. Normally as a good gambler that normally gamble fun and entertainment with only what you can afford to lose, I don't see any reason hiding it from your partner. Because it is not when you would be having challenges that you would start letting your know that you are a gambler, by then she might be seeing you as someone that is not genu. However, as long as you are gambling responsibly telling your partner about it might be the best way have more trust.

[joeperry]

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

Personally I would disclose my habits to my partner, not only for her to be aware of it but also she would be able to see if I am gambling too much and she can intervene with me while it's still early. Also, if you tried to keep it from your partner, there's a lot of negative things that can happen. For instance, you lose more than what your budget is and definitely your partner will quickly notice that there's a problem with your budget (if you decided that you will have joint account). Also, if you get frustrated after losing big amount, of course there will be noticeable change of behavior when you interact with your family.

Many people in my country destroys not only the marriage, even the whole family. A father, who uses his son's hard earned savings, a mother who spends all family's saving for her gambling addiction, a child who uses his tuition to place bet on sports betting. There's really a lot of scenarios and these examples happened to my close friends and family.

[Jawhead999]

I personally think there's no problem to hide that from your partner because your partner also hide something from you. We should know women loves drama and conflict, if you're not the problem, then she will create the problem.

Divorce happen when the husband can't fulfill everything that his wife ask, this won't happen for someone who're a pathological gambler and can fulfill her needs.

Source: Gambling-Related Divorces in Indonesia Soar 83% in 2024
Source: Minister: Online Gambling Drives Up Divorce Rates in Indonesia

Look how ironic it's, the country completely ban gambling, but they conduct a survey and found there are 83% divorce cases due to gambling?

Why would you feel the need to hide your gambling? The only people that are hiding it are losing their asses, very religious and going against beliefs, or just retarded. People need to be open and honest and find a partner that accepts them. Your actions directly affect everyone in your household, so your significant other needs to be aware so they're not blindsided.

Because they've in relationship like for 3 years and they both can accept each other characters, but there are few thing that the partner can't accept. So, rather than risking to breakup with this partner which he think she's 9, he might not able someone as good as her, so he thinks sooner or later his partner can accept gambling.

[Charles-Tim]

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

Only someone that is not a man enough will not disclose his gambling habits to his wife. I use 1% to gamble and I gamble responsibly, there is nothing bad if my wife and I even gambled together. It would really be fun instead of me doing it alone. Anyone that is the breadwinner of the family will not be afraid to let his wife know about his gambling habit but it has to be done responsibly.

[Juicyhome]

is there a connection between gambling and divorce rate?

Research from the National Gambling Impact Study Commission and the Gambling Impact and Behavior Study indicates that divorce rates for those dealing with gambling issues are estimated to be around 40% for problem gamblers and approximately 54% for pathological gamblers.

i think the moment we hide our gambling habits from our partners that is the moment we will get in trouble because that is when trust crumbles and when you get in trouble in gambling and have to tell your partner you will be surprising them

not to mention some people also spend money from money that both the partners contributed in

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

Hiding your gambling habit from your partner is wrong and can lead to divorce or distrust. If you your spouse doesn't like gambling it's better you talk about it before marriage do not lie about, be open in marriage regardless of the outcome. When you hide your habit, then your partner later finds out, it will result to many things that can lead to divorce in marriage.

My ex girlfriend hate gambling, all my days in the university I did hide to gamble without her knowledge. Imagine if we married and she find out about it, she will definitely not trust me at all.  The most important thing is integrity discuss your hobbies and bad habits with your partner and check if they can cope with it, if they can't then don't marry. The reason for most divorce cases are caused by couple discovering some strange habits from their partners while in marriage things they are not aware while dating. Let's be open to our partner to save our marriages.

[₿itcoin]

yeah gambling can & does destroy marriages. A few months ago, I read an article that stated that hiding bets is essentially setting up a breakup trap, with lifetime divorce rates for problem gamblers being close to 40% & for pathological gamblers being 54%.  that is why , I always advise my friends to be honest, tell your partner, safeguard joint funds, seek counselling & call helplines if needed.  Additionally, remember that divorce can encourage gambling, so take action now rather than later.  Transparency & treatment is always preferable to secrecy.

[SuperBitMan]

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

In other to make your marriage last it is important we don't hide anything from our partner and I think even before we get married it is important we let our partner know our gambling habit because some people don't like people that gamble not to talk of getting married to someone that love gambling, if you don't disclose it to your partner surely he or she will fine out one day and when they do they may not want to continue the marriage anymore and in other for them to stay they will give you a condition that you should stop gambling and I'm sure it will be difficult for you so it's better you tell them everything about your self even your gambling habit they have the right to know about it.

Yes gambling has the capacity to break marriage or a family, just like I said above if you don't tell your partner your gambling habit and he or she finds out they may decide not to continue with the marriage especially if they are the kind of people that hate gambling.
And again if you are addicted to gambling your partner may decide to divorce you because of your addition to gambling, I have seen someone that his wife divorced because he was so addicted to gambling that he started selling his property.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

For me, I am always of the opinion that our partners should know about some of our habits that could cause issues when it's been kept a secret from them. I can't keep my gambling lifestyle a secret from anyone and that's because they are not the one funding me and I am not also addicted to gambling. What causes divorce sometimes is because a partner kept their gambling lifestyle a habit and then when the wife or husband got to find out about it, it was already too late for them to accept the disappointment.

[Porfirii]

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so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

Problems may arise even if you disclose your gambling habits to your spouse. You mentioned some figures but we could do the same with several other practices (drinking, being a sports fan, being unemployed, or crypto enthusiast) that could potentially impact the marriage. I think that it is important both for you and for him/her to be honest with your partner, but it won't save you from divorce if he/she doesn't like what you do.

And yes, gambling definitely has the potential to break up a marriage or a family, but as I said, like many other things in our lives.

[Slow death]

I've read many sad stories of marriages that ended because one partner got involved in gambling. The reasons are varied, from a lack of attention that one partner began to give the other because they started spending more time gambling, to using money that was supposed to pay bills, and women rarely forgive this. From what I've understood from the many cases I've read, the biggest problem is finances.

In many cases, when wives learn that their husbands are involved in gambling, they warn them to stop gambling. This is why many husbands continue gambling without telling their wives, and when they find out, the problems escalate until they reach the point of divorce. If someone plays in casinos and has a wife, that person needs to be very responsible to never cross the red line: not letting the game get more attention than the wife and not using money to pay bills.

[iv4n]

But I wonder why some people will even want to hide their gambling habits from their partner.

It's when you have a partner who doesn't approve of certain things... and your heart wants to have fun.

That's true I forgot that not all marriages are fun. There are so many marriages like that, where the men aren't allowed to do certain things that gives them joy. Like I am just imagining it that I will be in a marriage and I will want to gamble and I need permission from my partner before I can gamble. Like if she doesn't approve I won't gamble?.... Honestly I don't think I can survive in such  union. That's why it's important that people get married to someone that they can get along with and share things without hiding it....

You have made some great points... perhaps the most important one is about choosing a partner in the first place. You shouldn't hide things, especially the ones that are important to you as a person... you should be as open as you can be, and choose a partner who agrees with you and doesn't mind who you really are. Those who hide things sooner or later get into trouble, and some of those troubles can be very serious.

Like when they are still dating, let her know that you're someone who likes to certain things. So when you guys finally get married, you won't need her approval again to do those things.

That's a nice way, but if you wish to have Joker in your hands, you need to let her know that you are crazy/hot-blooded, and you can get crazy in moments if circumstances are right... So it's like a free pass to do some things she won't question, and she will not be surprised when you do some crazy stuff, or she will, but she will understand & not make drama about it. So if she still wants to be with you after all that, that's real love, and marriage is just a formality on paper that makes some things easier.

If someone plays in casinos and has a wife, that person needs to be very responsible to never cross the red line: not letting the game get more attention than the wife and not using money to pay bills.

Right in the spot... I would like to add time/energy/money! Family comes first, with all the responsibilities like paying bills & putting food on the table, and most of the time/energy/money must go there... If most of it goes in any other direction (in this case, gambling), the family will suffer.

[Inwestour]

I've read many sad stories of marriages that ended because one partner got involved in gambling. The reasons are varied, from a lack of attention that one partner began to give the other because they started spending more time gambling, to using money that was supposed to pay bills, and women rarely forgive this. From what I've understood from the many cases I've read, the biggest problem is finances.

In many cases, when wives learn that their husbands are involved in gambling, they warn them to stop gambling. This is why many husbands continue gambling without telling their wives, and when they find out, the problems escalate until they reach the point of divorce. If someone plays in casinos and has a wife, that person needs to be very responsible to never cross the red line: not letting the game get more attention than the wife and not using money to pay bills.

In fact, this is just one of many reasons why families fall apart. If you look at divorce statistics, they are simply huge. According to the statistics, 50% of marriages, that’s every second one, end in divorce. I don’t think gambling is the main cause of this. On the contrary, I believe that divorces due to gambling make up a very, very small percentage. I wouldn’t say that gambling somehow contributes to it. Families always have many different problems, and if they can’t cope with one of them, they decide to divorce.

[lienfaye]

so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?

IMO, it's important that our partner knows what we are up to. Being honest and open to your partner is crucial to have a strong relationship. Not only about gambling but in general. I remember a couple renting house in our neighborhood. Their marriage went on the rocks because of gambling. The wife didn't know his partner is spending their savings in gambling (cockfighting specifically) and it became uncontrollable. It's already late before she found out, when a person called her asking to pay the debt of his husband. They are already separated now (not legally though as they're not divorce yet), it's just sad that there's one child who now have a broken family. Kids are the ones who's truly affected in this situation.