Sex before marriage or after marriage, which one do you prefer?

[DrBeer]

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Can you tell me—what exactly CAUSES mistrust in a marriage!? I mean, did you trust each other before the wedding but stop doing so afterward? Is the problem really about sex? Trust is a completely different thing—it grows stronger when it’s mutual, and it dwindles to nothing when even one partner’s trust wavers.
P.S. Why even start a family with someone you don’t trust!?

Life will test us with ups and downs, we can't say we will have the same level of mutual understanding in all these and this is the situation that can get derailed but it is not an excuse to do that though while the reality is it may happen. But if that happens then come to mutual agreement whether you want to end this or continue with a promise of not doing it again.

But 2–3 years of living together will, at the very least, show whether they can count on each other in difficult situations, whether he is willing to compromise, and whether they are both willing to make concessions. Of course, during this time, the couple won’t be able to experience everything that lies ahead, but they will pass a “basic test.” By the way, 2–3 years is the period when most new marriages fall apart.

[Findingnemo]

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Can you tell me—what exactly CAUSES mistrust in a marriage!? I mean, did you trust each other before the wedding but stop doing so afterward? Is the problem really about sex? Trust is a completely different thing—it grows stronger when it’s mutual, and it dwindles to nothing when even one partner’s trust wavers.
P.S. Why even start a family with someone you don’t trust!?

Life will test us with ups and downs, we can't say we will have the same level of mutual understanding in all these and this is the situation that can get derailed but it is not an excuse to do that though while the reality is it may happen. But if that happens then come to mutual agreement whether you want to end this or continue with a promise of not doing it again.

But 2–3 years of living together will, at the very least, show whether they can count on each other in difficult situations, whether he is willing to compromise, and whether they are both willing to make concessions. Of course, during this time, the couple won’t be able to experience everything that lies ahead, but they will pass a “basic test.” By the way, 2–3 years is the period when most new marriages fall apart.

Yep, from being sweet hearts to annoying faces but that is how life will be and need to tolerate each other if they really want this to last long forever. But many are just pretending to be their better version while they are in love, once they are for a long time their mask can fall and real character will show up, not everyone who showed that they care about the other will be like that.

[Callido]

Sex can be exciting no matter what, if you think that it will be no fun after you do it then even after marriage a couple of years it will be no fun then what is the solution? And people are getting married in their 30s, so they all should wait until their marriage? Not realistic option though.

People are just going to lie over hear to claim scents for what they are not, majority if not all here first had sexual moves at a younger age, maybe little above a legal age, while some even before their youthful age. Sex before marriage or sex after marriage depends on who wants it that way, remember that both parties have to agree on it, and that is how they pictured their relationship. If we judge from the world we are in today, sex is now common, people no longer see it as something sacred anymore.

[Nothingtodo]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

According to the prevailing law of our country, we can never choose a girlfriend before marriage, especially in our country, we can have physical relations after marriage. Having physical relations before marriage is definitely considered a crime socially and stately. That is why it is not possible to choose a partner before marriage in our country. We can choose our partner with the consent of the family and after marriage, we can have physical relations with you and it is known whether she is mentally fit to live with a man.

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Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

According to the prevailing law of our country, we can never choose a girlfriend before marriage, especially in our country, we can have physical relations after marriage. Having physical relations before marriage is definitely considered a crime socially and stately. That is why it is not possible to choose a partner before marriage in our country. We can choose our partner with the consent of the family and after marriage, we can have physical relations with you and it is known whether she is mentally fit to live with a man.

The sex laws of each country are different, some prohibit sex before marriage, some allow it, even women have children but are still unmarried, maybe in western countries this is commonplace, while in our country this is a bad crime.

I'm not going to criticize anyone because it's their right with their own country's rules --- so my custom and the government's rules mean that sex should be possible after marriage and that's much better for us.

[DYOR+BTC]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

According to the prevailing law of our country, we can never choose a girlfriend before marriage, especially in our country, we can have physical relations after marriage. Having physical relations before marriage is definitely considered a crime socially and stately. That is why it is not possible to choose a partner before marriage in our country. We can choose our partner with the consent of the family and after marriage, we can have physical relations with you and it is known whether she is mentally fit to live with a man.

The sex laws of each country are different, some prohibit sex before marriage, some allow it, even women have children but are still unmarried, maybe in western countries this is commonplace, while in our country this is a bad crime.

I'm not going to criticize anyone because it's their right with their own country's rules --- so my custom and the government's rules mean that sex should be possible after marriage and that's much better for us.

Constitutionally some countries prohibites sex  before marriage but such laws do not stand because of the corruption in the world right now, before such Constitutional restrictions has major effects on citizens but now such laws are easily bypassed as there is no one willing to make an expensive mistake that will keep hunting him till death.
Not that am pushing to convince you on having sex before marriage but you need to ask yourself this question,  can you bear it if sex becomes the reasons behind your marriage failure as 80 percent or failed marriages all happened because of a man's inability to satisfy his partner. 

Sticking to your said law on prohibition of sex before marriage are you telling me that all single ladies in your country still have there virginity intact or you are only saying it to prove a point.

[DrBeer]

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Can you tell me—what exactly CAUSES mistrust in a marriage!? I mean, did you trust each other before the wedding but stop doing so afterward? Is the problem really about sex? Trust is a completely different thing—it grows stronger when it’s mutual, and it dwindles to nothing when even one partner’s trust wavers.
P.S. Why even start a family with someone you don’t trust!?

Life will test us with ups and downs, we can't say we will have the same level of mutual understanding in all these and this is the situation that can get derailed but it is not an excuse to do that though while the reality is it may happen. But if that happens then come to mutual agreement whether you want to end this or continue with a promise of not doing it again.

But 2–3 years of living together will, at the very least, show whether they can count on each other in difficult situations, whether he is willing to compromise, and whether they are both willing to make concessions. Of course, during this time, the couple won’t be able to experience everything that lies ahead, but they will pass a “basic test.” By the way, 2–3 years is the period when most new marriages fall apart.

Yep, from being sweet hearts to annoying faces but that is how life will be and need to tolerate each other if they really want this to last long forever. But many are just pretending to be their better version while they are in love, once they are for a long time their mask can fall and real character will show up, not everyone who showed that they care about the other will be like that.

At first, we’re driven by hormones and the most romantic feelings... And then reality sets in—relationships, shared problems
Starting a family without preparation is like getting behind the wheel of a car without taking driving lessons or getting a driver’s license—DANGEROUS! Although some people get lucky
I would say the key problem with this approach is the religious characteristics and restrictions in some countries or religions. But... I think religion should adapt to the changing world; after all, we live in the 21st century.

[Findingnemo]

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At first, we’re driven by hormones and the most romantic feelings... And then reality sets in—relationships, shared problems
Starting a family without preparation is like getting behind the wheel of a car without taking driving lessons or getting a driver’s license—DANGEROUS! Although some people get lucky
I would say the key problem with this approach is the religious characteristics and restrictions in some countries or religions. But... I think religion should adapt to the changing world; after all, we live in the 21st century.

People should evolve instead of shifting the blame to the religion, every religion allows to live the life as they want to be but the people are being regressive and don't adapt the changes. But I had seen women/men belong to the same religion take different life sppoarch abd both claim this is allowed in their religion, I would say those are mere guidelines but we know what is good for us so picking the right partnet is priority than following what the book said about how they should.

[Tonimez]

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At first, we’re driven by hormones and the most romantic feelings... And then reality sets in—relationships, shared problems
Starting a family without preparation is like getting behind the wheel of a car without taking driving lessons or getting a driver’s license—DANGEROUS! Although some people get lucky
I would say the key problem with this approach is the religious characteristics and restrictions in some countries or religions. But... I think religion should adapt to the changing world; after all, we live in the 21st century.

You're very correct. Humans have to start facing reality instead of sitting behind, leaning their heads on an age-long Hypocritical hypothesis about human coexistence and how they wish to manoeuvre human hormones to suit their ideology. Life is meant to be enjoyed and family is a whole different world of it's own. I have seen people rush into marriage simply because that was the only ground to satisfy their feelings for who they want simply because that was the only condition. If human laws control what happens before marriage, does it also take care of what happens in marriage? I understand the many believe systems and wouldn't go against anyone, not in my dreams but then, every body knows what he wants and should do only what works for you.

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People should evolve instead of shifting the blame to the religion, every religion allows to live the life as they want to be but the people are being regressive and don't adapt the changes. But I had seen women/men belong to the same religion take different life sppoarch abd both claim this is allowed in their religion, I would say those are mere guidelines but we know what is good for us so picking the right partnet is priority than following what the book said about how they should.

At first, it's humans sitting up their traps which has held them back for centuries. Random feelings with random satisfaction. Leaving the stone ages unto the reality of civilization is what we need to get things right. People now plan homes before getting into them and using sex as a trap must be avoided. Infact I see the context of sex before marriage as weaponizing sex against human real needs. I. All, they should be a balanced understanding among folks involved.

[BADecker]

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Yep, from being sweet hearts to annoying faces but that is how life will be and need to tolerate each other if they really want this to last long forever. But many are just pretending to be their better version while they are in love, once they are for a long time their mask can fall and real character will show up, not everyone who showed that they care about the other will be like that.

At first, we’re driven by hormones and the most romantic feelings... And then reality sets in—relationships, shared problems
Starting a family without preparation is like getting behind the wheel of a car without taking driving lessons or getting a driver’s license—DANGEROUS! Although some people get lucky
I would say the key problem with this approach is the religious characteristics and restrictions in some countries or religions. But... I think religion should adapt to the changing world; after all, we live in the 21st century.

The strange thing is, that if you took all the chemicals that make up life, and placed them in the exact right places for them to be alive, they would not be alive. You would have to kick-start them all at the same time, into motion to make them alive. And we don't even have a hint as to how to do that.

This means that we need to start to follow the directions that God gave - one man and one woman, but never one woman and more than one man - and a permanent relationship so that the children have a firm foundation to build their lives on. God allows freedom, but using freedom incorrectly will be ju8dged in the Resurrection at the last day.

Get direction and understanding from the Bible, and ask questions from Bible scholars. Bible scholars can't do anything other than show what the directions of God Almighty are, taken from the Bible.

[Dunamisx]

Which everyone of us have different definitions to how we see life, but we should always be considerate whenever we are dealing with others because of what may work well with us can be something different from what others may wanted, we should also have conscience in everything we do, this go along way in channeling our behavior towards the right models, which is what we think is right to do with a clear conscience.

[BADecker]

Which everyone of us have different definitions to how we see life, but we should always be considerate whenever we are dealing with others because of what may work well with us can be something different from what others may wanted, we should also have conscience in everything we do, this go along way in channeling our behavior towards the right models, which is what we think is right to do with a clear conscience.

The fact that you understand this shows that you have recognized some of the laws of God written on your heart.

Now is a good time for us to recognize the rest of God's laws by getting into the understandings of the Bible.