Sex before marriage or after marriage, which one do you prefer?

[BADecker]

Sex before marriage or after marriage, which one do you prefer?


After marriage, of course. And the more wives the better.

[DYOR+BTC]

Sex before marriage or after marriage, which one do you prefer?


After marriage, of course. And the more wives the better.

To me I prefer before marriage as having sex after marriage may not end well as marriage before sex is same as buying a non tested electronics which the probability of it working may not be sure. Women of nowadays have made sex an exercise that they never considered the feature but only interested in the present so to avoid getting marriage to a sex machine I think having the test of who we want to marry is the best approach to a lasting marriage. One of the main causes of failed marriages now in lack of sexual satisfaction,  and an average man without drug won’t be able to ride his wife for two hours when most women satisfaction level is over an hour which is a problem.
So to avoid constant complains from our wife we should marry a lady that marches one satisfaction level.

[Iamgoat]

I would rather marry before sex.
Sex before marriage can still be but after marriage ygou can start getting issues with your partner due to lack of trust if you dress up and want to go out you start getting questions like where are you going to, Or maybe where are you coming from because all this are lack of trust. She would be thinking you went out to have sex outside.
 But when you had sex with your wife after marriage she would never have problems with you going out. And she would trust you with her life even if anybody tells her they saw you doing it.

If you say, you will go into sex before marriage be rest assured you may end up not getting married to the person knowing fully well how our folks behave nowadays. In fact, it will become like a license for many of them to keep tasting one lady to the other, sleeping around with countless girls after promising them marriage. From the lady's side, I've been realized the best you can get as a guy is a virgin or at least a girl with little experience with sex because once you marry a lady which have experienced how wild sex can be and have slept with different men, there are high chances she won't appreciate your sex, due to her high sex drive and experience, especially if you are not hitting her the way other guys must have been doing to her.

[Tmoonz]

I would rather marry before sex.
Sex before marriage can still be but after marriage ygou can start getting issues with your partner due to lack of trust if you dress up and want to go out you start getting questions like where are you going to, Or maybe where are you coming from because all this are lack of trust. She would be thinking you went out to have sex outside.
 But when you had sex with your wife after marriage she would never have problems with you going out. And she would trust you with her life even if anybody tells her they saw you doing it.

If you say, you will go into sex before marriage be rest assured you may end up not getting married to the person knowing fully well how our folks behave nowadays. In fact, it will become like a license for many of them to keep tasting one lady to the other, sleeping around with countless girls after promising them marriage. From the lady's side, I've been realized the best you can get as a guy is a virgin or at least a girl with little experience with sex because once you marry a lady which have experienced how wild sex can be and have slept with different men, there are high chances she won't appreciate your sex, due to her high sex drive and experience, especially if you are not hitting her the way other guys must have been doing to her.

I agree with you completely with everything you said, honestly there is no stupidity in keeping oneself be you a male or female till your marriage because sleeping around with different kinds of men and women can be very disastrous, you become very vulnerable to sexually transmitted disease, you can lose your confidence and become low self esteem, these days sex before marriage has become very rampant like a normal but let the truth be told that it is an abnormality, sex after marriage is the best and should be encouraged.

[Emeraldo]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

The ideal way to marriage is by going to the normal customs and rites required of both the man and the woman to do, but because of traditions, some customs will even encourage for the intending couples to have sex and get pregnant before the marriage ceremony, while a large number of other customs and traditions goes against such as, this now makes it a thing of personal decision for us all to make in case we want it or go against it depending on how convinced we have become.

That is true in some traditions, they will only allow you to marry anybody under the traditional rules and believe when either there daughter is pregnant or there son have been able to impregnate your daughter.
I won't blame them because a lot of things are currently happening out there that must have teach this people lessons that's brought about such mandatory process before marriage. I have heard and seen men who can't impregnate there wife due to health issues and won't relate it with there wife and likewise woman who can't be pregnant due to wrong self medication, abortion or even health issues, and will keep quiet from there partners which result in breakups and divorce in marriages today.

[Doan9269]

Everyone of us do not practice the same religion or culture and tradition, be discrepancies among ethnic groups and what they lives as part of their rights when it comes to their custom or their religion ethics, advisably and on a common view, where expected not to get pregnant or have an intercourse before marriage, but today, you will discover a lot of scenarios that contradict this fact, the first one is the mentality or tradition that says you have to force get pregnant before being accepted as a wife into a particular family, the second one is the mentality among the Young adults being in a relationship and having courtship together, cohabitating is one of the dangerous way they can easily achieve what they never planned for because there will definitely be trigger to having intercourse when the state together to know each other better before marriage.

[DrBeer]

I would rather marry before sex.
Sex before marriage can still be but after marriage ygou can start getting issues with your partner due to lack of trust if you dress up and want to go out you start getting questions like where are you going to, Or maybe where are you coming from because all this are lack of trust. She would be thinking you went out to have sex outside.
 But when you had sex with your wife after marriage she would never have problems with you going out. And she would trust you with her life even if anybody tells her they saw you doing it.

Can you tell me—what exactly CAUSES mistrust in a marriage!? I mean, did you trust each other before the wedding but stop doing so afterward? Is the problem really about sex? Trust is a completely different thing—it grows stronger when it’s mutual, and it dwindles to nothing when even one partner’s trust wavers.
P.S. Why even start a family with someone you don’t trust!?

[HelliumZ]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

My religion does not support premarital sex and in our society, extramarital sex is completely forbidden. Therefore, I do not prefer to have sex with my partner before marriage.However, countries that support extramarital affairs and where free sex is practiced may support extramarital affairs. But in my country, such relationships are prohibited and punishable by law.

[Findingnemo]

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Can you tell me—what exactly CAUSES mistrust in a marriage!? I mean, did you trust each other before the wedding but stop doing so afterward? Is the problem really about sex? Trust is a completely different thing—it grows stronger when it’s mutual, and it dwindles to nothing when even one partner’s trust wavers.
P.S. Why even start a family with someone you don’t trust!?

Life will test us with ups and downs, we can't say we will have the same level of mutual understanding in all these and this is the situation that can get derailed but it is not an excuse to do that though while the reality is it may happen. But if that happens then come to mutual agreement whether you want to end this or continue with a promise of not doing it again.

[Abdulzuruku01]

Would you rather want to wait till marriage to intimately know your partner or will you rather know everything there is before marriage?

Although there are some set of individuals in some region who believe that having sex before getting married can help you to know whether the woman can take pregnancy or not, to also know partners sexual capability, and even to start building sexual bonding between each other. But generally speaking, there are many religions and cultures that see the act of having sex before marriage as illegal that can lead to serious punishment. Furthermore having a sex with multiple partners before marriage is one of the way some people contact infections, it's usually not easy for some partner when they break up if they have started sexual relationship with each other.

[BADecker]

The problems of marriage started before women got the vote. When women got the vote, these problems expanded to what they are today. And it wasn't the literal vote that did it. Rather, it was the mindset that was created in people, and strengthened by women getting the vote.

[MagnificentX]

I would rather marry before sex.
Sex before marriage can still be but after marriage ygou can start getting issues with your partner due to lack of trust if you dress up and want to go out you start getting questions like where are you going to, Or maybe where are you coming from because all this are lack of trust. She would be thinking you went out to have sex outside.
 But when you had sex with your wife after marriage she would never have problems with you going out. And she would trust you with her life even if anybody tells her they saw you doing it.

The issue of trust in a relationship is one that can never be easily understood no matter how much you try because it comes in the least expected way. As a man or a woman in a relationship, you may give everything you have to see that your partner sees or notices that you cherish and adore them in every way but then maybe one day just a regular call from a work colleague or a random statement you make during a conversation will start bringing up trust issues.

So I don't think having sex before or after marriage is something that results to trust issues. Also, there are couples who have sex on their first outings together while still dating and end up together till they grow old and good in age so the whole trust issues aspect of a relationship is far from this discussion.