The economy of having children

[Queen uloma]

In my country, it is pretty common for parents to have kids then think that their kids are their hope. That is because they get kids without being financially ready for it yet and then they just eventually hope that when their kids grow up they will be the ones to build wealth for them. But is having kids the reason why people end up financially worse over the years? Do not get me wrong, kids are a blessing but realistically speaking they are expensive. Is it fair to yourselves and to the kids to have kids just to leave it up to them to be wealthy and let them grow up through hardships?

I totally agree with you, children are gift from God but as a parent bringing innocent children to the world without having something to fall on is a terrible thing to do,  no good food, school you can't send them, before giving birth to a child ensure you have something doing so that those innocent children won't suffer or join bad group because of the inability of not providing their basic need and want, for me it's very bad for a parent not to provide half of what their children want.

[ImGenius]

But is having kids the reason why people end up financially worse over the years? Do not get me wrong, kids are a blessing but realistically speaking they are expensive. Is it fair to yourselves and to the kids to have kids just to leave it up to them to be wealthy and let them grow up through hardships?

I think it is not right to get married and have children until you are financially independent because after giving birth to a child, you have to pay for everything, such as maintenance, education and medical care. If you cannot afford to pay for these, then it is a sin to dream of these things. Children who grow up in financial hardship can never work for the good of their family and country, but instead they get addicted to drugs and take excessive risks and engage in illegal activities. This puts pressure on the country and national economy and destroys social security.

[GiftedMAN]

I think it is not right to get married and have children until you are financially independent because after giving birth to a child, you have to pay for everything, such as maintenance, education and medical care. If you cannot afford to pay for these, then it is a sin to dream of these things. Children who grow up in financial hardship can never work for the good of their family and country, but instead they get addicted to drugs and take excessive risks and engage in illegal activities. This puts pressure on the country and national economy and destroys social security.

If you have no plan of having kids why then do you rush to get married when you know you need money to maintain your family and the chances of having kids will always come cause you may not be careful enough to avoid getting your wife pregnant. If you have no job that pays your bills focus on securing a job before getting married so that you will not be scared to have kids that should be your plan.

[Rockson1]

If you have no plan of having kids why then do you rush to get married when you know you need money to maintain your family and the chances of having kids will always come cause you may not be careful enough to avoid getting your wife pregnant. If you have no job that pays your bills focus on securing a job before getting married so that you will not be scared to have kids that should be your plan.

Some people are very funny, they act as if they were compelled to get married, why the haste, I have heard some people say me and my wife have plans that we are not having kids immediately, we will get it later but that's laughable because there is nothing of such, when married people have sex, the woman in question may have a rethink about the earlier agreement or discussion she had with the husband, many things might through her mind that will even convinced her to keep the pregnancy if she eventually take in, friends can even advise her if she relate it to them, so it is better to stay clear as a man if you are not for children and yhe responsibilities that come there after.

[MFahad]

In my country, it is pretty common for parents to have kids then think that their kids are their hope. That is because they get kids without being financially ready for it yet and then they just eventually hope that when their kids grow up they will be the ones to build wealth for them. But is having kids the reason why people end up financially worse over the years? Do not get me wrong, kids are a blessing but realistically speaking they are expensive. Is it fair to yourselves and to the kids to have kids just to leave it up to them to be wealthy and let them grow up through hardships?

In my country, parents give birth to children because tomorrow their children will grow up and become a support for them. Children are a blessing to parents. Therefore, raising them requires expense and responsibility. its not a good plan for parents That they birth children on this basis, those children will give them financial benefits in future. Parents play the most important role in a child's life. Because a child learns many things from his environment. its important for parents to make a firm determination that they will spend on their child honestly and without any greed. So that the child can grow up with dignity and safety. many parents don't know how they can treated with their children's.

[blockman]

If you have no plan of having kids why then do you rush to get married when you know you need money to maintain your family and the chances of having kids will always come cause you may not be careful enough to avoid getting your wife pregnant. If you have no job that pays your bills focus on securing a job before getting married so that you will not be scared to have kids that should be your plan.

I think it makes sense for someone who doesn't have a job or a stable one not to start a family. But others just like doing that when they feel challenged and struggling because that's how they become motivated in life. It's not going to work for me and I understand that it's something that needed to be taken seriously when you're having your own family. Imagine your wife has come with you and she's going to bear your child and you're jobless, that shows what kind of person you are, not just a husband and dad, an irresponsible person.

[iamsange]

I think it is not right to get married and have children until you are financially independent because after giving birth to a child, you have to pay for everything, such as maintenance, education and medical care. If you cannot afford to pay for these, then it is a sin to dream of these things. Children who grow up in financial hardship can never work for the good of their family and country, but instead they get addicted to drugs and take excessive risks and engage in illegal activities. This puts pressure on the country and national economy and destroys social security.

A man must be able to take responsibility, primarily for himself and ultimately for his family. A person will make a decision if they are determined and, of course, ready to accept all risks, including marriage and having children. In truth, a man should not complain; he must possess a strong and persistent mentality. While it may seem overwhelming to have so many family members to support, there are actually many solutions for those who think. I believe that children are an asset to be cherished. Our job is simply to care for and educate them until they grow into adulthood, hoping they will become useful individuals.

[Chilwell]

I think it is not right to get married and have children until you are financially independent because after giving birth to a child, you have to pay for everything, such as maintenance, education and medical care. If you cannot afford to pay for these, then it is a sin to dream of these things. Children who grow up in financial hardship can never work for the good of their family and country, but instead they get addicted to drugs and take excessive risks and engage in illegal activities. This puts pressure on the country and national economy and destroys social security.

If you have no plan of having kids why then do you rush to get married when you know you need money to maintain your family and the chances of having kids will always come cause you may not be careful enough to avoid getting your wife pregnant. If you have no job that pays your bills focus on securing a job before getting married so that you will not be scared to have kids that should be your plan.

Some of the youths married with negative mindset, they usually don't have their own plans because they keep on looking after others, I think the best time for someone to marry is when he/she his ready to do it because the word marriage is very sweet once you said it, but there are a lot of challenges in marriage but some people don't know, marriage is not something that we can rush in because if you rush him your Rush out. Get a sources of income either large or small before you get him, when you have the sources of income then get a very good wife so that you can enjoy your life without any problem.

[GiftedMAN]

Some of the youths married with negative mindset, they usually don't have their own plans because they keep on looking after others, I think the best time for someone to marry is when he/she his ready to do it because the word marriage is very sweet once you said it, but there are a lot of challenges in marriage but some people don't know, marriage is not something that we can rush in because if you rush him your Rush out. Get a sources of income either large or small before you get him, when you have the sources of income then get a very good wife so that you can enjoy your life without any problem.

I wonder why someone will be looking at others to decide what they wanna do in marriage as is what is working for the people they are looking at is going to work for them. No one should follow the step of another man in marriage because rushing to get married because you saw someone getting married is dangerous especially if you have no source of income, you will end up losing your sanity, your respect as a man and you will be frustrated because you will no longer behave normal, be prepared before you start that journey because it's not an easy journey.

[livingfree]

I wonder why someone will be looking at others to decide what they wanna do in marriage as is what is working for the people they are looking at is going to work for them. No one should follow the step of another man in marriage because rushing to get married because you saw someone getting married is dangerous especially if you have no source of income, you will end up losing your sanity, your respect as a man and you will be frustrated because you will no longer behave normal, be prepared before you start that journey because it's not an easy journey.

IMO, feeling pressure is what makes them do and follow what other men do. That's why they are in a hurry to marry someone because they think that it's already their time.

But that does comes in the right time, you'll have to take your time before you marry someone. Because it's an important factor on how your life will be for the rest of your lives.

That's the reason why many are divorcing because they went on a hurry and fell out of love. Even their kids have been affected by it, what they think is they have the means to provide to their children.

Although the impact to their children if something goes wrong with their relationship is so big and hard to bear which they carry forever.

[Onyeeze]

In my country, it is pretty common for parents to have kids then think that their kids are their hope. That is because they get kids without being financially ready for it yet and then they just eventually hope that when their kids grow up they will be the ones to build wealth for them. But is having kids the reason why people end up financially worse over the years? Do not get me wrong, kids are a blessing but realistically speaking they are expensive. Is it fair to yourselves and to the kids to have kids just to leave it up to them to be wealthy and let them grow up through hardships?

despite that this kind of discussion has been treated in this community how will you still make my own suggestion, from my understanding children is a part of investment so if you invest in children by training then in a way that there will become successful in life there will make you achieve what you failed to achieve so that is why most of the parents nailed it down to train their children for a future purpose

Let me say that children training is like investment of any kind because how you manage your investment is the way you're investment will give you a return, so if you didn't try your children very well your children will not become Ambassadors of tomorrow and they will not liberate you from Danger whenever you needed the backup from anything, so the essence of training your children is for your old age so that they will take good care of you and also give you a comfort but you needed at that point of time

[Y3shot]

It's unfair to procreate when you haven't figured out or brought yourself into a place of stability. Many people have this sicknening idea of thngs working out then they give birth because children are a blessing from God, this is a very ignorant thing to actually believe. This mindset is the reason why many kids grow up without being taken care of properly and this makes some of them do illegal things just to survive, this only makes the society terrible to live in. There's nothing wrong in having kids but make sure you can take care of them

So many people have always fall for this, thinking when they go into  marriage to have children God will favour them more. It is just better for people to have it in mind having children doesn't bring increase in finance but God, having children is planning and working hard to take good care of them. If you are not prepare to have children dont tempt yourself or force yourself to have one and doing so it will make God to increaee you financially stable more, this is not just true.

[CageMabok]

A man must be able to take responsibility, primarily for himself and ultimately for his family. A person will make a decision if they are determined and, of course, ready to accept all risks, including marriage and having children. In truth, a man should not complain; he must possess a strong and persistent mentality. While it may seem overwhelming to have so many family members to support, there are actually many solutions for those who think. I believe that children are an asset to be cherished. Our job is simply to care for and educate them until they grow into adulthood, hoping they will become useful individuals.

Educating and caring for children to become more useful in the future is everyone's right. Children are not only an important asset within the family but also the next generation of the family line that must be protected and educated so that the value and image of our own generation can be bettered in the eyes of many. Married men should not complain too much because this will prevent them from finding the right solution for every problem they face, so those who are married and are building a happy household must always have more ideas and work harder than single men.

[JiiBs]

In my country, it is pretty common for parents to have kids then think that their kids are their hope. That is because they get kids without being financially ready for it yet and then they just eventually hope that when their kids grow up they will be the ones to build wealth for them.

This is one way to promote child labour amongst some religion and ethnicity.
Persons that’s fall under this ideology don’t seem to find any issue with the growing population of the world. They always look at their wards as, potential help in bringing in daily funds through child labour or they hope at some point in the feature, their kids would rise to correct the mistakes they made growing up and stabilize the family financially.

While that can be possible, just having a lot of kids could drag the efforts that could have been made on a bright child. Concentrating effort and resource towards the growth and development of a child would have been much better other than, having several kids and hope one succeeds in life.

[Bitcoin.com97]

I kept wondering why most parents has this mindset , it really disgust me , the whole essence of having kids is for them to grow up and elevate you from poverty , this has  made some children to become a breadwinner at an early age which result to them doing things that they are not supposed to do , I just pray and hope parents knows the implications of what they are doing , because they are destroying their children future unknown to them , instead of to shape a child into a bright  future ,you are forcing a teenager to become a breadwinner and adult at an earlier age.

[martinex]

I kept wondering why most parents has this mindset , it really disgust me , the whole essence of having kids is for them to grow up and elevate you from poverty , this has  made some children to become a breadwinner at an early age which result to them doing things that they are not supposed to do , I just pray and hope parents knows the implications of what they are doing , because they are destroying their children future unknown to them , instead of to shape a child into a bright  future ,you are forcing a teenager to become a breadwinner and adult at an earlier age.

Every parent has the heart and desire to raise their children to grow up normally and healthy, just like other children, and that's every parent's dream. I also have three children, and they're all currently in their education. My focus is on giving them their basic rights without forcing them to earn money for me and paying their tuition independently.

The situation varies from place to place, depending on the income parents, and it's a sad situation to witness. Beyond that, I also teach them economics, how to make money, and how to survive without any coercion at the right time, because significant changes will occur when they become adults. At least, their initial understanding comes from their parents, not from others, especially for my eldest child who is now a teenager and will soon be an adult.

[dunfida]

I kept wondering why most parents has this mindset , it really disgust me , the whole essence of having kids is for them to grow up and elevate you from poverty , this has  made some children to become a breadwinner at an early age which result to them doing things that they are not supposed to do , I just pray and hope parents knows the implications of what they are doing , because they are destroying their children future unknown to them , instead of to shape a child into a bright  future ,you are forcing a teenager to become a breadwinner and adult at an earlier age.

Every parent has the heart and desire to raise their children to grow up normally and healthy, just like other children, and that's every parent's dream. I also have three children, and they're all currently in their education. My focus is on giving them their basic rights without forcing them to earn money for me and paying their tuition independently.

The situation varies from place to place, depending on the income parents, and it's a sad situation to witness. Beyond that, I also teach them economics, how to make money, and how to survive without any coercion at the right time, because significant changes will occur when they become adults. At least, their initial understanding comes from their parents, not from others, especially for my eldest child who is now a teenager and will soon be an adult.

Forcing children to take on adult responsibilities too early is one of the biggest mistakes parents can make childhood is supposed to be a time to learn grow and prepare for the future not a time to struggle under pressure that should belong to adults when parents expect their kids to become breadwinners it often comes from desperation or poverty but the long term effect is damaging it steals the child’s innocence limits their education and can push them into harmful activities just to survive.

Every parent should understand that providing and guiding their children is their duty not the other way around when kids are forced into adulthood too soon they lose trust in their parents and start to see life as a burden instead of an opportunity a child that grows up this way may end up resenting their parents or struggling emotionally later in life. Teaching children about hard work and financial responsibility is good but it has to be done with balance when the time is right showing them how to manage money or earn it honestly is part of building character but it should never come from pressure or survival needs parents should be the support system for their children until they are mature enough to carry that load themselves that’s how strong independent and emotionally stable adults are raised.

[Judith87403]

If you have no plan of having kids why then do you rush to get married when you know you need money to maintain your family and the chances of having kids will always come cause you may not be careful enough to avoid getting your wife pregnant. If you have no job that pays your bills focus on securing a job before getting married so that you will not be scared to have kids that should be your plan.

While I understand the angle you’re coming from, it might interest you to know that not every couples out there got married for the purpose having kids, some got married for the purpose companionship and to take their relationship to the next level and show more commitment, and now there are several options available for couples who are not yet ready to have kids, it’s left for the couples to make their choices which option to employ until their both ready to have babies.

[XOOMBOX]

I kept wondering why most parents has this mindset , it really disgust me , the whole essence of having kids is for them to grow up and elevate you from poverty , this has  made some children to become a breadwinner at an early age which result to them doing things that they are not supposed to do , I just pray and hope parents knows the implications of what they are doing , because they are destroying their children future unknown to them , instead of to shape a child into a bright  future ,you are forcing a teenager to become a breadwinner and adult at an earlier age.

You are right that there are still many families in our society who see the birth of a child as a financial guarantee for the future and it is very sad that they do not consider the child as a human being but as a kind of investment and the pressure that is created in a child as a result that distorts their natural growth. For a child, childhood is a time for him to learn, a time for him to make mistakes and a time for him to be right but due to such thinking of parents, all these are lost so in my opinion parents should create a path for their child so that they gradually become aware and capable. If the burden of running a family is put on a teenager then he will become mentally exhausted and many times go astray so I hope people will gradually understand their mistake that children are not financial guarantees but are separate individuals who have the right to build their own dreams and their own future.

[toryn388]

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