Gambling turn into slavery.

[Jewan420]

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Sending him to rehab might be the right decision for you. He has reached a stage of addiction where it is very difficult to bring him back from. If it is difficult for the family or for you to bear the cost of rehabilitation, then take the help of the police and send him to jail. Maybe he will get better on his own after spending a few months in jail. Gambling addiction is very dangerous, it can ruin your own life as well as the lives of hundreds of people. You should have taken action before this situation got worse.

[Wiwo]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Most of this men that carry gambling as their reason for being irresponsible know for sure that they never been a responsible adults right from time, gambling addiction didn't just change them over into becoming irresponsible they hard that characteristics of all the while is just showing up now and everyone is seeing it.

First of, you need to let him know the dengar of gambling addiction to his personal life and also try to see if he is addicted to other things like drugs or alcohol.

Most men who suddenly act I don't care to their family, always have another family outside their known kids, so the distractions will always be there.

[Ever-young]

This is the worst state any gambler can find himself if you ask me.Going through your thread I feel for him especially his wife and kid but this is not what only ordinary talk can solve because this is a chronic case of gambling addiction which, can only be cured via rehabilitation by professional psychologist which should do a mental evaluation of this guy. Because when ever someone has gone to up to the extent of borrowing money for the purpose of gambling then there is a serious problem that should be addressed in such a gambler.

You are right, the help that he needs is a professional help and prayer, and advice them not to take loan, as t will not support them. And this should also serve as a lesson to most gamblers that don't want to gamble in a more responsible way and that tries to force gambling to be what its not made for, as they can help themselves and their families if they follow the right do the necessary thing and know that there is no how one will have peace of mind if they don't do the right thing.

[JunaidAzizi]

Your friend is now in a stage where nobody can bring him back except himself. I know it's hard, but a person can be saved when he wants help or is seeking it so that other people can give him a hand and bring him back. However, in this situation, your friend is not interested in being saved, and if he doesn't want to change, then nothing can be done to change him.

But as he is your friend and you have a soft spot for him in your heart, and he has a wife and child, I would suggest you bring him to a rehabilitation center. He may refuse it, but you can do it forcefully, as he is not in the early stages where he can understand easily. In the rehabilitation center, he will recover soon, and this is the only solution that came to my mind right now.

[gracreavix]

To be honest, you talking to him as a friend alone may not really change anything at this point. It already looks deeper than normal advice. He seriously needs his family now more than ever, because I feel that’s one of the major ways he can still be helped.
He needs to regain that consciousness of the love and care he once had for his family before gambling took over his mind. Because that’s the only thing that can make him start prioritizing his family over the fantasies and false hope gambling keeps feeding him with everyday.
And loving his family doesn’t just boil down to supporting them financially. It also includes him being present mentally and physically, reducing the amount of time he spends on gambling, spending quality time with his wife and kids, and being there for them psychologically too.

[Fiasem20]

My question is,what pleasure is he deriving?Literally it doesn’t make sense at all,being a gambler whether an addict shouldn’t stop you from carrying out your responsibilities.As a friend you just to counsel him though you’re not a professional on that aspect but most people actually need to hear the bitter truth from their friends.Gambling addiction has indeed turned most people into slave,but you always need to carryout some findings if gambling is the only reason why he has neglected he’s family.Sometimes,depression could always lead to isolation,depression can cause a person to disassociate from their loved ones and friends.

[fredericktaylor]

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Sending him to rehab might be the right decision for you. He has reached a stage of addiction where it is very difficult to bring him back from. If it is difficult for the family or for you to bear the cost of rehabilitation, then take the help of the police and send him to jail. Maybe he will get better on his own after spending a few months in jail. Gambling addiction is very dangerous, it can ruin your own life as well as the lives of hundreds of people. You should have taken action before this situation got worse.

To get him back from addiction, he has to abstain from gambling for a long time and even abstain from all the activities that can lead to addiction in the future. Getting rid of addiction completely is not an easy work, It is very challenging. It is very easy to get addicted to gambling but it is very difficult to get out of addiction, most gamblers cannot completely get better from addiction. I think it is not possible to make an addicted gambler completely better by sending him to prison. The result can be the opposite the addicted gambler has to undergo treatment for a long time. In addition he has to be kept away from gambling for a long time. He has to understand the reality and he can get out of addiction his life can be reorganized, etc. All these can be encouraged as a result of which the gambler can gradually get better.

[Su-asa]

The only thing you can do is to make sure that he seeks professional help because there is little to nothing that you can do about the situation. Gambling addiction is a serious issue and when it has do with a case where a person becomes a psychotic gambler it becomes q terrible situation to deal with. I have actually met someone like this before and the only thing that i could do was to offer advice and recommend them to people that can offer professional help. it is very difficult for compulsive gamblers to stop gambling easily.

[STT]

Well its not slavery, he is bound by his own chains.    Either that makes it easier to break down whatever negatives he is repeating, or it might it harder for some people as he must fight his own bad habits.
   First chance he gets he should avoid any shortcut or easy way to continue, borrowing from friends was this and its unfortunate no one stopped him.   Lying etc. will be common methods to continue also, it really depends on how much will he has to change as he needs to seek help outside of friends and family most likely.

[Agbamoni]

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Since your freind has decide to be irresponsible, forget about him, get married to his wife, take care of the little one and go to a new City. After years of fooling around he will get back to his senses.  comon man, im joking. The sad truth is, you cant do anything to help him or his family. An advice will do nothing to him because he controls his decisions and controls how he spend his money. Some adult need to make mistake before realizing how wrong they have been.

[Africolo]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

I keep telling people that you can't talk someone who is already addicted to gambling out of it, if the person has not yet identified with himself and decides to stop it by him or herself, the person has to decide to stop before he can take any advice given. I personally think anyone who gambles and don't care about the well-being of his family nor putting them at risk due to reckless gambling is no longer in his right senses and needs a phycologicallly care before he can heal and quit gambling.

It only takes a person that don't have any other Job and he depends on gambling for survival to neglect his family and choose gambling over them, one might think it's not ordinary the way he has gone. If there is a way for him to be restricted from getting access to a phone it will be better in other for him not to use it and start gambling, it's so pathetic for a Man to to neglect his family and be gambling without having remorse. He needs help and getting him a therapist that will talk him out of gambling will do him more good.

[HONDACD125]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

You can't help a gambling addict get away from gambling unless they are ready to get away and just need help with it. If your friend acknowledges the fact that their gambling activities are causing so many problems and that they need to act, then you or someone else might be able to help them get away from gambling by keeping an eye on them at all times and not allowing them to gamble as much as they would if they are left alone. Someone will have to supervise them and that person will have to be with them at all times until things get normal.

However, if your friend is not ready to accept it, and they don't even believe that they are creating all these problems, this simply means that this won't stop any time soon, and most probably, they will end up losing their family, getting completely broke, and then they will most probably get into criminal activities to fund their gambling addiction because if they won't have any money for it, they will look for ways that can get them some money, and they will probably not think of working for it.

[Charcol]

What I have come to understand about your friend is that his gambling is not just a simple pastime or an occasional game. He has probably gone straight to gambling addiction. In that case, he should stop lending money. If family members or relatives give him money repeatedly, then it should be understood that they are unknowingly helping him continue his addiction. It is almost impossible to change such a person by giving advice. Because he ignores everything, family, social respect and keeps borrowing money for gambling.

[Crypto Library]

He is basically in a mirage where he thinks that maybe he will recover the losses he has faced by gambling by gambling again and at the same time he will become very rich. And this is the reason why most gamblers are addicted to gambling, in other words they become slaves to gambling.

In this case, I think he should go to a professional psychologist to bring him back from the situation he is in. Moreover, I don't think getting suggestions from us will be of much help. Because he can manage this situation in which he is in, such as allocating a separate fund for gambling at the beginning of the month. And taking it only as an entertainment purpose.

[Jubilee58]

It is important to follow gambling with caution, and avoid using gambling as your main source of income. Responsible gambling is what every gambler should embrace, because when someone become addicted to gambling, the effect is always disgusting.
Getting addicted to gambling is like someone who is always getting drunk, it makes you behave abnormal, most times make you run into confusion.
Nevertheless, if you have a friend who is addicted to gambling, there is need to help him out, because this the time to prove that you are a friend indeed. Ensure you talk to him very seriously, and telling him about the implications of addiction, and where it will land him to, and this has to persistent, i believe a time will come when he will realize himself, and become responsible again.

[Emjay24]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

I'm tired of hearing all these stories of irresponsible gamblers, especially as I heard a familiar story from a colleague at the bar today. I'll advise you as someone from your country, let the wife go and meet his boss at the office and complain to them about his behavior and if the boys is a great guy, he'll give him conditions to continue being his employee or better still she might be asked to get one or two documents from customary court which would give his employer the right to pay 50% of his salary directly to his wife and give him the rest, since he's not listening to anybody, only his boss at office can help at this point, he cannot continue suffering his family unnecessarily due to his stupidity.

[Bitcoin.com97]

I think the worst part of it now is that your friend sees gambling as an Escape root , like all the money he is looking for in the world only gambling can give it to him , and greed has crawl in , I just pity his family, dealing with such person comes with a lot to do , one his mindset need to  be change , he need to face his reality, he need to be disciplined if possible stay away from anything related to gambling, I know it’s going to be hard but alot of work need to be done , gambling addictions  is the worst that can happen to anyone talk more of a family man .

[ejikeme24]

It seems that the rate of addicted gamblers is increasing day by day because I also came across similar issue over here never knew its also happening over there. However your friend in question is deeply addicted to gamble, when someone is deeply addicted to gamble all his thought would be center on gambling they don't think about family they barely take care of themselves talk more of their family, this set of gamblers always look unkept. Seriously this is getting out of hand you really need to talk some Senses into him or better still you could take him to any of the therapist because it's obvious he needs help.

[Powerjumboo]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

You alone cannot get your friend out of the slavery of gambling, moreover, your friend also has to understand and accept it. If your friend understands and accepts what you say, then you can get your friend out of the slavery of gambling. However, I have one suggestion: do more religious work with your friend because sometimes people can find a solution if they follow their religion. Actually, gambling is not bad, but if it becomes an addiction, it becomes a path of complete destruction for a gambler and the gambler's family, from which it is not easy to get rid of. You should use gambling only as entertainment.

[Judith87403]

I think the worst part of it now is that your friend sees gambling as an Escape root , like all the money he is looking for in the world only gambling can give it to him , and greed has crawl in , I just pity his family, dealing with such person comes with a lot to do , one his mindset need to  be change , he need to face his reality, he need to be disciplined if possible stay away from anything related to gambling, I know it’s going to be hard but alot of work need to be done , gambling addictions  is the worst that can happen to anyone talk more of a family man .

The truth is that, gambling addiction doesn’t only affect the the individual involved, the effects goes beyond just the addict but also extends to their immediate family and friends. The moment that one begins to view gambling as the only alternative escape route from financial lack and insufficiency, it switches from just being a mere bad habit to a psychological crisis, and the only way to win such battle would be to completely change that mindset.