The economic dimension of marriage

[Fredomago]

Honestly I will say that financial capacity is very important, but financial mindset is even more better because someone can have alot of money but if such person is hardworking, responsible and knows how to manage resources, that alone can build a stronger future than someone who has money but lacks discipline. When it comes to marriage, you see love and financial understanding is not suppose to compete with one another or each other. Because when both are present, partners or couples can easily handle challenges much better and together they can work towards their shared goals.

Good point if both love and good financial standing are present a couple can easily survive, it's a big factor to have a sustainable financial capability when both partners do have good financial resources, though discipline is crucial as there's no guarantee that you'll be able to keep whatever you have when you can't control your expenses, partners needs to both have that kind of mutual understanding as how they solidify their love with good communication and whateever future plans that they agreed together.

[Agbamoni]

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

Yes. And it should be on both sides instead of favoring one gender. We see more of the women running to men based on financial power. I think the men should be doing the same thing. When a man wants to pick a spouse too, her financial power must be looked out for, whether she qualifies or not. We, the men, are the ones who face this discrimination. Because a woman can also leave a man who has money for the one who has the most money, and at times she can still cheat with the one who has no money at all. Marrying because of money has become the main reason why there are so many broken marriages, since the love doesnt last.

[Ayers]

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

Yes. And it should be on both sides instead of favoring one gender. We see more of the women running to men based on financial power. I think the men should be doing the same thing. When a man wants to pick a spouse too, her financial power must be looked out for, whether she qualifies or not. We, the men, are the ones who face this discrimination. Because a woman can also leave a man who has money for the one who has the most money, and at times she can still cheat with the one who has no money at all. Marrying because of money has become the main reason why there are so many broken marriages, since the love doesnt last.

Yes, men also have the right to choose a financially strong partner, just as women do. But as a man, do not be too calculating about that when it comes to women. Because after marriage, it is usually the woman who step back and sacrifices, raising children, managing the household...things men rarely do

In a family, each person has different roles and responsibilities. Each person face their own challenge, so do not assume that only men are the ones under pressure

When it comes to infidelity and neglecting the family, these issues occur among both men and women, not just women. There are plenty of men who abandon their families to chase wealthy women, even if those women are ugly.

[slapper]

Thousands of years marriage was literally a property contract. Dowries. Bride prices. Land transfers that are disguised as weddings. What people think of as a romantic love marriage is a strange invention of recent times. Maybe 200 years old. Even then, that's a generous description when you consider how arranged marriages still operate throughout most of the world.

Financial irresponsibility kills relationships. Not in an instant, of course, but in this slow, accumulative fashion, resentment grows.  Your wife sustained you and your family. You clearly made it clear. Actually, you can say it without shame, and that's a stronger statement of love and strength for your marriage than anything else ever could be.

[Bitcoin.com97]

To be honest love is not enough in marriage, it's good for both partner to work hand in hand especially now that prices of goods increase daily.

You see the idea of woman solely dependant on husband is what I don't like,even if your husband is rich ,you have to be making your own money , imagine your husband is facing some financial challenges and everything is affected ,even feeding,some small bills,there are times when a man need some support from wife, but immediately things goes wrong  they start going to friends because there wife has nothing to give ,taking care of home and kids is good ,but as a woman is good to have something doing ,before considering marriage ,my partner must have something  doing.

Definitely love Is not Enough because some love are built with money which is clear that it is not the real one and immediately the money goes away the love of fed away. Anytime I think of marriage I believe it is a union and every Union succeed when they put their head, this is exactly what is needed when it comes to marriage between husband and wife, it actually not a very good idea for a woman to fully depend on her husband because just as the Instance you mentioned now.

When a woman is lucky to be with a very rich person meaning her husband, they see that as an opportunity which I agree, but in their own perspective as poverty eradication for their family advantage, not knowing that it is an opportunity for him to elevate his younger one and herself, by finding something for herself to make money and others members of the family.

Exactly,but many woman fails to understand this, infact most girls of this generation keep on saying ,they don't want to suffer ,they don't want to do anything,they just want a wealthy man to spoil them , meaning even if you are given millions,you can spend all in a day ,just by buying hairs and latest phones.

I had a friend,who has this mentality of been a spoilt wife, she don't like coming out , because she doesn't want sun to touch her skin ,her boyfriend is rich ,but the guy doesn't want such as a wife, he went ahead to improve her so she can make her own money, the guy open a big salon for her with her name and bought every necessary things she needed,they even employed workers,he was hoping since she loves hair,maybe she can start selling hair and learn other things from her worker,but know instead she decided to stay at home doing nothing,how the business is been run is non of her business,all she cared about was the money they submit to her ,and she still demand huge amount from the guy,the guy ask her to focus on the business and make good money,she started going to meet other guys since the boy is pressuring her to work ,within a year it collapse and the guy ended the relationship according to him ,that he has already seem how the future is going to be , a woman earning her own money is a plus to her man.

[Humblevirus]

Almost everyone is wise now; they hardly marry just because of love without considering their partner's financial status. It is always better to get a partner who can provide financial support and not just be independent.Most of those people who married and considered only love as the reason for choosing their partner are regretting it now because they did not choose someone who was financially stable. Currently, what they are earning is not enough to cover bills in this economy.I believe a partner should also be earning because the pressure of settling bills may not be as much when both partners contribute financially. There are certain things a wife may need that are not necessary to discuss with her husband if she is financially stable. However, a lack of income causes her to ask her husband for money, even when she knows that what he earns is not enough.Therefore, it is better for everyone to look carefully and choose a partner who is financially supportive.

[Furious 7]

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

Yes. And it should be on both sides instead of favoring one gender. We see more of the women running to men based on financial power. I think the men should be doing the same thing. When a man wants to pick a spouse too, her financial power must be looked out for, whether she qualifies or not. We, the men, are the ones who face this discrimination. Because a woman can also leave a man who has money for the one who has the most money, and at times she can still cheat with the one who has no money at all. Marrying because of money has become the main reason why there are so many broken marriages, since the love doesnt last.

There are no specific rules regarding this cause if we look at some modern couples today when considering marriage as a means of cooperation and building feedback on each other maybe something like this is not a problem to do.

But for me who still adheres to the conventional system between the roles of men and women in marriage, I will not do this because for me the role of men is a responsibility including when we get married because I have to be responsible for this to my partner parents as proof of my seriousness who are ready to make their children happy in terms of services and facilities.  So as much as possible I will strive for the best, especially in financial matters for my partner.  I don't care if my partner is financially well-off or not before marriage but when they decide to marry me, I will take full responsibility for their finances as my answer to their parents who let their children marry me.

[Jubilee58]

Yes, marrying a wife who can aid you to solve some of your financial needs is important, because it will help to lift some financial burden from you , however having a lasting, and successful marriage is beyond marrying a wealthy women, and some men who married wife because of the money they have never had a lasting, and successful marriage.
It is better for a man to help a woman financially, than a woman taking care of a man's financial needs, this is because, is more of the responsibly of a man to do help their wife financially, but when it turns the opposite side, it can make some women fill too  important, and even look down on a man.

There are good women who can actually carry the financial needs of their family without complaining, but women who posses this kind of quality are very few, therefore, it is necessary to marry a wife you can build your home, and finances together, instead of marrying a woman because of her money that you don't know how she made it, such motive can crash a marriage very easily.

[mirakal]

Even if I were very rich, I would want my wife to work or have a business. I just hate the idea of a woman depending solely on the man for everything. There's a kind of respect a man accords his wife if she brings something to the table.

Love alone cannot sustain a family. If for whatever reason the man loses his job or becomes so ill that he cannot provide for the family, who will take care of the family for the time being until he gets back on his feet? Love is very important; I will not dispute that, but so is finance. It's vital to marry someone who's working or has a business, not a full-time housewife.

That's so true, it's a different feeling of stability also when you know your wife is also working or earning on his own, despite of the income you get to share to your wife or family. Marriage becomes more valuable when you both share the same values and goals in life, and get to share everything to achieve financial stability and prepare the bright future of the kids, and even both of your retirement days.

Love alone cannot protect the family, its the financial security and stability that will make love grow stronger and make the family built tighter.

[Unknown Op]

Currently living costs rising consistently and its very important for individuals to become a financialy compatible person. Relationship is built due to love but to sustain it good financial roots is much more important. So when both partners well aware about purchasing and savings they works hard and work together to achieve financial stability. Marriage is not all and all depends on financial stability and in societies even financially well satled couoles faces the challenges of trust and loyalt. So a successful marriage life requires both emotional and financial stability. They have complete knowledge about there expnesis even befor marriage and they get success in marriage by managing both emotional and financial sides equally because if an individual remains fail in one side gradually he collapes in marriage and its becomes difficult for him to take marriage for long term.

Living together before marriage or knowing everything about each other finances before getting married is not the best approach because marriage is not only based on finances but it is also a part of values love emotional connection and commitment , there are many cases where people economical conditions have changed over the time because of their growth or unexpected situation , if they have already discussed their finances before getting married it's still cannot guarantee stability later , what matters the most days on how they can stand by each other during the difficult times or how they can adapt themselves according to the changing condition or how they can grow together after getting married. Also focusing too much only finances, economics and independency before getting married sometimes reduces importance of love and compatibility between the couple.

[BABY SHOES]

That needs to be considered because love alone is not enough, maybe with a bad economy that love will continue to fade because you can't provide for your own family.

Financial is very important... those women who are looking for a partner will certainly think economically financially in the future and how the man is about his commitment and hard work, after you are a couple then you will have children, the cost of expenses will increase again so this is what needs to be considered before choosing a partner.

I think everyone who is already in a couple has thought about everything including financial management, savings, emergency funds and others.

[r_victory]

Certainly, no woman wants to marry a 30-year-old man who's broke and lives with his parents...

But I don't think money should be the main requirement for a successful marriage. It's not just financial situation that sustains a couple; it's a combination of other factors, although many marriages end due to financial problems, unfortunately.

I've been married for 20 years, and when we met, my wife was in a better situation than me; and I was going through a difficult time and was unemployed. We went through many financial difficulties, but we remained resilient and overcame them. Today, the situation is much better, and our relationship is stronger.

I tell her that today I'm sure she loves me. I'm not rich, much less handsome... I'm really a very lucky guy...

[abhiseshakana]

I think economic is  important point of consideration in choosing life partner, because a whole life too long, we need to spend it with partner with minimum conflict so we can leave in peace. Trust me financial problems are often a source of conflict. I see considering economic dimension as a form of responsibility and readiness to build a life together. Equals partner also important to eliminate the inequality of differences in thinking, habits and behavior because aligned values, habits, and economic goals are often more important than mere nominal income.

But after all i think the most important thing before marriage is communication, and understand our future economic partners, after that we can make decision whether we can continue or find the other who have same vision and mission with our financial arrangement.

[laspol65]

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

There is a lot of difference between the past and the present time, in the past people used to choose a wife based on her self-respect and character, and therefore did not consider whether she was financially well-off. But now people choose a wife based on financial aspects, the better the financial condition of the girl, the more respect and self-respect she has.
And they used to get married in a well-off family, so in the present situation, people definitely consider their financial condition and complete the marriage. However, this consideration of financial condition will be reflected more in the future, every person will then get married considering this financial condition.

[Minor Miner]

Certainly, no woman wants to marry a 30-year-old man who's broke and lives with his parents...

But I don't think money should be the main requirement for a successful marriage. It's not just financial situation that sustains a couple; it's a combination of other factors, although many marriages end due to financial problems, unfortunately.

I've been married for 20 years, and when we met, my wife was in a better situation than me; and I was going through a difficult time and was unemployed. We went through many financial difficulties, but we remained resilient and overcame them. Today, the situation is much better, and our relationship is stronger.

I tell her that today I'm sure she loves me. I'm not rich, much less handsome... I'm really a very lucky guy...

Money should not be the main requirement or criterion for a successful marriage. But it should be noted that without it, a marriage is unlikely to be sustainable.

As you mentioned, you have been married for 20 year. In your opinion, would your marriage have been able to last that long if your financial situation had not improved over time?
I am also married. In my experience, if the financial situation had not improved, I do not think my marriage would have lasted this long.

So, financial factor should be considered when choosing a life partner. That will help to some extent to minimize the risks to your marriage.