Gambling Addiction Needs Compassion, Not Judgment

[Agbe]

You will never really understand how serious gambling addiction is unless you experience it yourself. We have all seen some topics and news about people being reported as gambling addicts. Sometimes we just laugh, sometimes we blame them for their stupidity instead of showing compassion.

How can you have a compassion to someone who refused to listen to advise from the team me when he trying to become addicted gambler. There is no way people (other) gamblers would not advised him when he was losing money and still borrowing to gamble instead he followed his mind to do what he wanted. But if the gambler comes to you with a sincere heart, you can give a piece of advice but I can't go again after the multiple attempts to stopped him.

[Pandu Geddon]

So we have to be careful with the words we throw at someone, especially when we know they are already in a delicate situation. It becomes easier to understand them when we try to understand the situation they are really in.

What you’re saying is true, people who are addicted to gambling also need compassion, but sometimes the situation can be really frustrating. Like a friend we’ve already warned to stop, or not to bet too much, but they ignore our advice and keep gambling. Then, when they keep losing, how can we show compassion? 
I know anyone can become addicted to gambling, but everyone who is aware of the risks will take preventive measures.

[Akbarkoe]

You will never really understand how serious gambling addiction is unless you experience it yourself. We have all seen some topics and news about people being reported as gambling addicts. Sometimes we just laugh, sometimes we blame them for their stupidity instead of showing compassion.

I say this because I experienced it myself. It is not easy to be addicted and no one really wishes to be addicted, it just happens. We who experience this are victims of our own weakness in gambling, lack of emotional control and bad decision making.

So we have to be careful with the words we throw at someone, especially when we know they are already in a delicate situation. It becomes easier to understand them when we try to understand the situation they are really in.

yes being a gambling addict is not an easy situation especially when our closest people start to stay away, friends are difficult to contact and so on and we have a full depression with what we have done out of our control, for some people insulted or spoken negative words they are motivated to improve themselves and get out of addiction, but there are some of them who actually get worse when they hear negative words from people around them, and there are also some people who when they are embraced they can recover and their addiction decreases because of the concern of the people around them, this is a little complicated but you have to look at the person first, because it could be that negative words against the addict can motivate him to think and get out of addiction.

[giammangiato]

So we have to be careful with the words we throw at someone, especially when we know they are already in a delicate situation. It becomes easier to understand them when we try to understand the situation they are really in.

What you say strikes me personally, but there is a big difference in having the gambling "disease" and having an incurable disease.
You become addicted to gambling by choice, often falling ill instead due to circumstances unknown to us where your health is inexorably affected and in some cases becomes fatal.
Having an addiction is a behavioral consequence instead, which if you intend is truly treatable.
So I don't judge those who are addicted but I judge those who gamble irresponsibly, because reason and common sense have value under any circumstances and those who don't have common sense cannot be pitied.

[TheUltraElite]

They are sensitive and defensive, which is why they hide their mistakes and their addiction. I was there, and I know the feeling. Once they see they are being blamed, they hide or become defensive to the point that they break relationships.

The person who is addicted will have difficulty initially accepting they are the ones who are making the mistake and not that everyone wants to make them feel bad about their habits. Unless the habits were starting to hurt the person in question and people around them, the latter would not have stepped up is something that does not get into their head at that time.

Professional help and support from friends and family are important here. The person involved will have sessions of isolation, mental breakdowns and anger - people should be there to make sure they dont hurt themselves.

[Frankolala]

You should know that when things isn't going well with us, people put the blame on you and no one else. This is why you see that people always blame an addict because they know that he didn't gamble responsible. I do have pity for gambling addicts because I know what the are passing through. They find it difficult to manage their finances appropriately.

[noorman0]

I don't recall any gambling addicts here actually seeking advice on how to overcome their suffering. Last time, only addicts sought help because the casino wouldn't grant their account exclusion requests.
I'm sure none of the members intended to judge the addicts, but unfortunately, no matter how hard they try to filter out hurtful words, their moods are more sensitive than usual.

[Charcol]

No one is addicted to gambling at first. They start out as entertainment. But time takes them to situations where they have no control. Most people who are addicted to gambling get into an addictive situation by gambling out of control in an attempt to recover their losses. They still think that they can recover their losses. Such a thought will probably not allow them to get out of the gambling addiction. Therefore, gamble with money that does not cause problems in your real life. Although winning in gambling is not guaranteed, losing is almost certain. So there is no need to immerse yourself in a failed attempt to recover losses.

[Promocodeudo]

You should know that when things isn't going well with us, people put the blame on you and no one else. This is why you see that people always blame an addict because they know that he didn't gamble responsible. I do have pity for gambling addicts because I know what the are passing through. They find it difficult to manage their finances appropriately.

At first an addict should be blamed infact we should say it to their face so that they'll understand that they are actually the one that caused their problem, gambling addiction is a habit and who cultivated the habit addicts of course, and who's to be blamed addicts too, even though we are to help any gambling addict, they should be blamed first as I said, if they weren't busy chasing loss, gambling as ifvtueh kept money in the casinos to hold for them, will the become addicted I think the answer is no, even though they need to be shown  compassion as the thread said, they must be reminded that their actions led to what they are going through.

[Slow death]

I once had a relative who was addicted, I know how painful and difficult it is to cure. Even when we treated him very well, sought medical help, he would run away, and this went on for many years, until he was cured for 30 days. That was because he fought so hard not to disappoint us, and in the end, he died. The addiction killed him because it prevented him from eating properly; he only thought about having money to support his addiction. I won't hide that I loved him very much and did everything to help him. It was years of fighting to cure him, and nothing worked. Addiction is the worst thing a person can have.

[ejikeme24]

These is true, every gamblers always wish to be responsible and some even work towards it from the very beginning , while some believe that even though they don't work towards it they will still maintain that lifestyle, But after some time or years of gambling, they start Lossing control and you know when a gambler loss control in gamble there's every possibility for such gambler to become addicted.

Yet, at the same time a gambler  should be blame for being addicted because if they had stick to having fun with it there's no way they would become addicted to gamble, so they should be blamed for neglecting the fact that gambling should be treated as entertainment, because I'm almost sure that those who are treating gambling as entertainment don't get addicted to gamble.

[Oasisman]

Gambling Addiction Needs Compassion, Not Judgment

I may never understand the deep feeling of being addicted in gambling, but if everyone shows compassion, that means we all tolerate this kind of behaviour.
And this one :

I don't recall any gambling addicts here actually seeking advice on how to overcome their suffering. Last time, only addicts sought help because the casino wouldn't grant their account exclusion requests.

It is true.

As much as we want to help them, but it is their action and stubbornness that pushes other people to give up on them.
We only show compassion if they themselves are genuinely seek help to overcome their addiction.
Also, people are not actually judging them, but majority of those who don't condone such behaviour are just spitting facts. Take it as a constructive criticism.

[bubilas]

You will never really understand how serious gambling addiction is unless you experience it yourself. We have all seen some topics and news about people being reported as gambling addicts. Sometimes we just laugh, sometimes we blame them for their stupidity instead of showing compassion.

I say this because I experienced it myself. It is not easy to be addicted and no one really wishes to be addicted, it just happens. We who experience this are victims of our own weakness in gambling, lack of emotional control and bad decision making.

So we have to be careful with the words we throw at someone, especially when we know they are already in a delicate situation. It becomes easier to understand them when we try to understand the situation they are really in.

I want to point out that while those who judge gambling addicts have plenty of money, they won't understand this problem firsthand. Because when you're short on money, your situation changes radically, as does your thinking. After a few months without money, anyone starts looking for ways to make money wherever they can. And believe me, if they've ever won at gambling or betting before, they'll see this as a situation that offers an opportunity to make money.
I think this is the main reason why no one understands people who are addicted to gambling, because they have been in situations that wealthy people cannot judge.

[imthegreat]

You will never really understand how serious gambling addiction is unless you experience it yourself. We have all seen some topics and news about people being reported as gambling addicts. Sometimes we just laugh, sometimes we blame them for their stupidity instead of showing compassion.

I say this because I experienced it myself. It is not easy to be addicted and no one really wishes to be addicted, it just happens. We who experience this are victims of our own weakness in gambling, lack of emotional control and bad decision making.

So we have to be careful with the words we throw at someone, especially when we know they are already in a delicate situation. It becomes easier to understand them when we try to understand the situation they are really in.

Gambling addiction has many predispositions for each person. Experts have long agreed that addicted gamblers combine the following: first, they are genetically predisposed to gambling, and most likely, one of their parents was either an alcoholic or similarly unable to resist gambling. And, of course, we add to this a general weakness of character and an inability to control oneself and one's desires.
Therefore, it is precisely these unpleasant coincidences in circumstances that make a person addicted. Therefore, it is important to listen to interviews with such people.

[ColdLava40]

So we have to be careful with the words we throw at someone, especially when we know they are already in a delicate situation. It becomes easier to understand them when we try to understand the situation they are really in.

I would be childish to blame someone or stigmatize them because of addiction. Anyone could find themselves in that shoe.

The funny part about gambling addict is that when you are addicted everyone around you would be able to spot it out so there might be no way of hiding your bad habits.

You cannot be too careful, in gambling and no one is happy be an addict. So when someone is addicted, if you cannot provide them any solution to their problems then you should avoid complicating issues for them.

[qwertyup23]

You will never really understand how serious gambling addiction is unless you experience it yourself. We have all seen some topics and news about people being reported as gambling addicts. Sometimes we just laugh, sometimes we blame them for their stupidity instead of showing compassion.

It is also the same reason that you'll really never know what the person is going through until and unless you experienced it for yourself. That's the problem with most people- they tend to give advice that may sound logical but in reality it's difficult to follow through.

I agree with you- once you're in that position then that is the only time you would fully understand what a person is going through. There's nothing wrong with giving advice but at the same time we must remain realistic and grounded.

So we have to be careful with the words we throw at someone, especially when we know they are already in a delicate situation. It becomes easier to understand them when we try to understand the situation they are really in.

At the same time OP, our intention is catered towards helping one another given that we all understand what everyone's going through. Basically, we are all in the same boat because almost everyone of us have experienced gambling addiction at some point in our lives.

[nara1892]

I'm one of those people who experienced this. I was addicted, but I wasn't really aware of how it started and developed. I felt the effects were getting worse as time went on, but honestly, I never received any criticism from others regarding the severity of my approach to gambling, perhaps because I didn't gamble openly.
Furthermore, we can't completely control other people and whatever they want to do. For me, as long as I'm not harming others, I won't be too affected.

[DrBeer]

I agree with you. Getting rid of gaming addiction is very difficult anyone can easily give advice from outside but only those who have fallen into addiction understand how difficult it is to get out of gaming addiction.

To get out of gaming addiction we mainly have to follow a few steps like not trying to chase the loss by doing more gambling. Blocking all gambling site so that we cannot access it. Temporary block all types of gambling groups that can make us remember about gambling. Try something other than gambling so that our attention changes to other things. Consistency is the key to make out of it.

We’re all discussing the symptoms of the problem rather than its causes. Tell me, which is harder: overcoming a gambling addiction or preventing it in the first place?
It seems to me that if a person starts doing something that could potentially lead to trouble and problems, they need to explain this to themselves, take certain steps, and identify "warning signs" that will tell them, "Hey, buddy, we’re heading straight for trouble-let’s do something about it!"
 And that’s the hardest part-being able to tell yourself that you’re on the wrong path, doing something foolish, and that you need to start controlling yourself and ACKNOWLEDGE the problems. But people often deceive themselves, reassuring themselves that "I’ve got everything under control". A lack of self-control and self-deception are a recipe for trouble, and this applies not only to gaming addiction.

[KiaKia]

You will never really understand how serious gambling addiction is unless you experience it yourself. We have all seen some topics and news about people being reported as gambling addicts. Sometimes we just laugh, sometimes we blame them for their stupidity instead of showing compassion.

I say this because I experienced it myself. It is not easy to be addicted and no one really wishes to be addicted, it just happens. We who experience this are victims of our own weakness in gambling, lack of emotional control and bad decision making.

So we have to be careful with the words we throw at someone, especially when we know they are already in a delicate situation. It becomes easier to understand them when we try to understand the situation they are really in.

Before I started to gamble though I already know what could happen, in my country people shame gamblers for gambling because many who turned addicted gamblers never get themselves back, they lost everything they had.

So it's not something new here that you will one day get addicted and never get yourself again, you can even end up in an asylum if care is not taken, you need to be extremely cautious with yourself.

Sometimes saying the harsh words to people will save them faster, that's if they are not too deep into gambling already, it's only those that are at the brink of collapsing that I will be gentle with, just like you said, compassion.

[ruykeri]

The physical, mental and financial condition of a person addicted to gambling cannot be understood from the outside. It is not even possible to feel it, unless someone is a victim of this gambling addiction themselves. We should all take this matter very seriously. And if someone feels that he is going to the stage of becoming addicted to gambling, then he should explain the matter to that person seriously. He should be told in a way that he gives importance to the matter and understands the real aspects. Because just as it takes time to become addicted, it also takes more time, patience and pain to get out of this addiction. The most important thing is that much of the damage caused by this addiction can never be repaired. Therefore, we should also gamble responsibly. And if someone we know gambles regularly, then he should be given a correct idea of ​​​​what kind of physical, mental and financial damage can be caused by gambling addiction, so that he can stay away from this harmful habit.