When I grow up I want to be like my father

[Ojima-ojo]

Is the father a gambling addict, like after hitting the first jackpot did he continue gambling and involving his kid's like someone that run a successful business.


What I see is that, the son may have not really learned a lot from the DAD while he was alive, because the dad was able to diversify his gambling winning into building an empire, so why can't the son fly with success with what the father have build.

[YOSHIE]

common explanation about gambling to the son could have changed things but the father looked away.

If the child you are talking about understands and understands that the world of gambling is not as scary as imagined, maybe he will think that it is enough for his father to win the jackpot.

Sometimes we think that the way gamblers are damaged is the way they think is wrong, I often see people making money illegally just to bet on gambling, the reason is simple they want to bet because they see other people winning million dollar jackpots, for me that's a wrong thought. unstable.

I am of the principle that every human being has a line in their life journey, be it fortune, soul mate and so on, everything has been written, maybe the child's father has written down his age, day, hour and so on, he will win the jackpot, but not necessarily to other people, it could be that until death the child will never be lucky in gambling, let alone win the jackpot, in this life we ​​ourselves control it, relying on other people's luck is a path to destruction.

[JunaidAzizi]

A father should not only show his children the money he has made but also the techniques through which he earned that money. For a child, the first role model is often his father; he observes his father's activities and wants to become like him. However, he may not understand how his father achieves success due to a lack of interaction regarding these activities. If a father can advise his child about his work, just as he educates him in other fields, then the child will gain the knowledge and experience of 20 or 30 years through his father. This means that while the father learned these lessons over many years, his child can acquire them at a much younger age. Therefore, always be close to your child and educate him about everything you are doing.

[rachael9385]

He said when they were young this friend have always vow to grow up becoming like his father so much that he is dreaming of hitting a big jackpot one day through gambling just like his father, his father never talked him out of it.

This is where unrealistic expectations starts from, trying to achieve what someone else got through luck is not right if you are actually being logical about it. The reason why a lot of people end up becoming addicted to gambling is because they chase the same wins another gambler were able to get but chasing luck doesn't make it happen, it comes when you least expect it.

Now the son who is a friend to my brother have not hit any jackpot and he is so miserable that he haven't done anything for himself, the fulfilled dream of his father turned him into a hopeless person.

This is actually what's expected and the reason why I'm saying that is because of the desperation he has to get rich through gambling, this leads to chronic addiction and also causes terrible losses. Such gamblers end up becoming penniless and this also affects different aspects of their life as well.

Honestly, I see nothing bad if the childs wants to repeat success of his father and achieve it through gambling. That is this childs dream right now, so instead of talking him from following it, it is best to aim him.

No that's absolutely wrong, I think that if his father was present he wouldn't have let him follow that path, this is obsession and as gamblers we all know the damage this can cause. Gambling causes more harm than good and getting rich from it is almost impossible, trying to repeat the success of this father is like chasing his shadows.

[Orpichukwu]

I learnt from this that we should be careful how we make our money because our kids might be watching and want to be like us, common explanation about gambling to the son could have changed things but the father looked away.

A grown-up man is no longer a child; they should be able to differentiate between right and wrong. If time as a father made money from gambling and used the money very well, that does not give my children the right to want to be like me, because gambling is a game of probability, and the father never chased that jackpot; it happened by luck. If the guy was still under the young age, we should have understood, but since he’s an adult, that’s stupidity, and the guy is just lazy in life.

[moneystery]

That's why, as a parent, you need to teach your children the right values ​​and help them understand what's right and wrong, so they don't lose their way when they grow up.
Gambling isn't a reliable way to get rich because it all comes down to luck. You can't keep relying on the hope that you'll get lucky and become rich overnight. You need to develop a better mindset and understand that building a successful life takes time and can't be done instantly. Developing useful skills, learning, and utilizing privileges is what should be done.
But it seems his father failed in educating him, perhaps because he was too focused on developing his business that he forgot to educate his son to become a successful person in the future.

[CryptSafe]

There is nothing bad in inspiring to be and better than your father  but before you do that, you must be able to do the things your father did and better than the results your father achieved. What an I see there is that his father did not really give him orientation on how it t works,  if he had done that the boy would have utilised his time for other meaningful activities that could have been able to sustain him rather than taking his father's path when he never heard or had an indepth conversation with his father how he was able to achieve his jackpot victory after so many trial's and wins.

[nara1892]

Honestly, I feel sorry for that guy yeah, the one who’s always wanted to be like his father by hitting a massive, life-changing jackpot. The reason is simple, and we all know there’s no guarantee and no way to ensure that win will come; gambling is still gambling, and a tradition passed down through generations doesn’t mean the outcome will come any closer to your hopes.

There is indeed a chance of winning including a massive jackpot but the risks are also enormous. I’m sure that man’s father was one of the luckiest gamblers of the past. My advice is not to chase it too hard just gamble as usual (without going overboard) and wait for luck to come your way.

[bakasabo]

Honestly, I see nothing bad if the childs wants to repeat success of his father and achieve it through gambling. That is this childs dream right now, so instead of talking him from following it, it is best to aim him.

No that's absolutely wrong, I think that if his father was present he wouldn't have let him follow that path, this is obsession and as gamblers we all know the damage this can cause. Gambling causes more harm than good and getting rich from it is almost impossible, trying to repeat the success of this father is like chasing his shadows.

Why are you so pessimistic? There are plenty examples when children follow what parents are doing, even dangerous things/dangerous hobbies. Good thing is that father know what his childs dream is or that his child also wants to win jackpot, that he could control that dream. Would be worse if child kept that in secret and gambled. Now father can explain him risk of gambling. Possibly, child might drop idea of repeating fathers success and winning jackpot.  If that is impossible to repeat, father has plenty of time to prove that.

[fredericktaylor]

I think the man should have given his son the right knowledge about gambling so that his son has the right idea about gambling and is not encouraged to gamble with wrong ideas. To be honest, gambling is a game of luck. If luck is not good, then it is never possible for a gambler to win through gambling. If the man had known what a gambler needs to know to win through gambling, then maybe he would not have seen such a day.

Before gambling, it is very important for a person to gain the right knowledge about gambling, so that he can protect himself from the dangers of gambling. If we gamble consciously, then we can maintain self-control over ourselves and protect ourselves from such situations.

[crwth]

Is it even right to let them know that your money comes from gambling? I don't think it's a great idea if it is a problematic discussion and a problem maker if it is a destructive Hobby.

I would rather have an alternative motivational person for my child to see and not base too much on gambling, but I would have a discussion with him about gambling and maybe teach him the things that he should know if he tries it in the future.

I believe it is more important to guide the child instead of outright stopping him, because he might get interested in why he is not supposed to and do it anyway.

[sompitonov]

Is it even right to let them know that your money comes from gambling? I don't think it's a great idea if it is a problematic discussion and a problem maker if it is a destructive Hobby.

I would rather have an alternative motivational person for my child to see and not base too much on gambling, but I would have a discussion with him about gambling and maybe teach him the things that he should know if he tries it in the future.

I believe it is more important to guide the child instead of outright stopping him, because he might get interested in why he is not supposed to and do it anyway.

I’m also not particularly fond of this kind of role model in the context of gambling even if things are going well for the father. If a father has traveled a difficult path and achieved everything on his own, his son might need to exert just as much effort to reach the top and earn money. It’s possible the son simply won’t be able to meet that standard, he might start losing and become angry, which could drive him to "prove" he’s just as capable as his father. That, in turn, would lead to "tilt" a state of mind that could cause him to lose everything he has, including his father’s savings. This is just a hypothetical scenario I’ve imagined, perhaps I’m wrong.

[Lontor]

The dead man failed as a father, and since you said he has many properties I am guessing that he also have many women, men like this don't always have time for their children.

A responsible man will always carry his son or daughter along, whenever he fails or whatever life lessons he gained he needs to always prepare his children for such lessons too.

If he has always told the son to stay away from gambling that he was just lucky to hit the jackpot maybe the son would have grown up fixing his mind on something different, the dead man failed as a father.

[Makus]

This is why it's important for parents that are gamblers to properly explain what gambling is all about to their kids so that they don't end up getting the wrong idea about gambling. Winning from gambling doesn't mean that it is a means to get income or make wealth, it's all about getting lucky. He put himself in a destructive path all because he was focused on the wrong thing. He wasn't properly introduced to gambling and that's where the problem started from.

Most people get addicted to gambling because they want to achieve what someone else has got, not everyone can win big, focusing too much on what other gamblers gain from it only leads to losses.

[o48o]

There was this popular rich man in my city,

Rumour has it that he hit a jackpot many years ago in is youthful days and he was able to build a big empire using that money, he has a lot of properties and children, now he is no more.

Now one of his children happened to be a friend with my eldest siblings, this my brother shared how this friend of his gave up on many opportunities simply because he wanted to become like his father.

He said when they were young this friend have always vow to grow up becoming like his father so much that he is dreaming of hitting a big jackpot one day through gambling just like his father, his father never talked him out of it.

Now the son who is a friend to my brother have not hit any jackpot and he is so miserable that he haven't done anything for himself, the fulfilled dream of his father turned him into a hopeless person.

I learnt from this that we should be careful how we make our money because our kids might be watching and want to be like us, common explanation about gambling to the son could have changed things but the father looked away.

I would so like to blame that kid for that, but sounds like his father didn't do very good job at raising him, most likely because he had a lot of kids and no time for them. Because how would anyone's takeaway from that story be that "you should win in a lottery".

Winning a lottery wasn't his fathers choice, but building an empire however was an active choice, which should have clear for anyone if they had some sort of guidance while growing up.

[Tungbulu]

I’m sure that father never stopped gambling or never stopped talking to his children about his tales of hitting a jackpot and establishing an empire with it, probably why his son saw it as something worth emulating and celebrating.

One thing that some people fail to understand is that gambling isn’t something that someone else can/should motivate you to do, especially when it’s centered around making hitting a jackpot and gaining financial freedom from the money you’d win in gambling. This mindset only drives you deeper and deeper into an unrealistic expectation that may likely not even come true.

[Swordsoffreedom]

the fulfilled dream of his father turned him into a hopeless person.

But imo before blaming that father there is more thing to think about.
Winning jackpot and building long term wealth are not same. That boy may have seen success of his father, but he did not understand how much luck was involved in getting that money and whether there is any reliable method of generating regular income from gambling.

Jackpot winner stories are seen but stories of those who lose money year after year are usually not remembered. In my opinion if that father had explained to his son that his jackpot was an exceptional outcome, not any repeatable career plan then his son might not have tied his life to that one event.

Children don't just have to be told to stay away from gambling. Difference between luck and skill should also be taught.

[UpTober]

Your father or the person you mentioned is lucky, he is also a very cold-hearted person, otherwise he would not have built an empire with the money he won from the jackpot.

I have actually seen a person who won the jackpot and suddenly his quality of life changed a lot after winning the jackpot. He bought a big car and paid off all his previous debts. After doing all this, he started gambling again with the remaining money to win a big amount and later he lost all the money he won in the jackpot and continued gambling with his previous money and at one point he sold the bike he had bought. After selling the bike, when he had no money left, he started paying the debts again, that is, within a few months, he was back to where he was before. Basically, all this happened because of his lack of right decision-making and lack of control over himself.

In this case, if you also win the jackpot and use it properly after winning this jackpot, then maybe you can be like your father.

[Bryan jessy]

If the man actually acquired such fortune what stopped him from giving his children a life that they will not even think of using gambling as a means to life changing opportunity like his, I am sure the father must be responsible for the mindset his child grew up with, you know parents always says when they where younger they were so perfect in everything, came out first in school, and the best in literally everything they were involved in, all this is just to make a child be serious in life but in case of gambling it should not even be mentioned to a child until he gets to a certain age and mature enough to understand, because it seems that guy grew up believing that hitting a jackpot is the only way to acquire great wealth, a mindset resulting from his father's stories why not tell him the negative side too.

[HelliumZ]

This is just foolishness because his father may have been lucky a long time ago and because of that luck he won the jackpot and with that jackpot he changed his life situation and became wealthy. But one should not have the idea that a son will be like his father. If a father won the jackpot and therefore the son has the intention to win the jackpot, then this is just a meaningless thought. If I win the jackpot and as such my successors who have the target of winning the jackpot like me will be on the wrong path because they may not have the jackpot like me. Therefore, everyone should go at their own pace and following the pace of others will never be good for gambling.