just start datin few weeks ago how do I explain her I can't pay for everything?

[BBQcopter]

So I just got out of a relationship a few months ago, and started dating this girl I reconnected with (we used to work together). We have a ton of fun together, and the first few times we hung out weren't "official" dates so I wasn't paying for everything.

The last time we hung out though, she made a comment about how when she hangs out with her other guy friends it's "different" and I'm "treating her like a bro" since these friends usually pay for all her drinks and food and I didn't.

I'm not in an amazing financial situation - I do ok, but with the breakup I'm paying for an entire place myself, plus all my bills, utilities, food, etc. - I can afford to take a girl out to a nice dinner like once a week and some affordable meals here and there, but I can't be dropping money left and right every time we see each other.

She's mentioned in the past that she had a pretty well-off boyfriend who bought her a house, went on a few dates with a billionaire, and has told me her mom berates her for "having champagne taste on a beer budget". She spends a ton of money on clothes, handbags (she works in fashion), the kind of money I'd never spend on stuff like that. I assume she makes better money than me, because she lives with her parents but eats out every night, the clothes, etc.

How do I politely get it across that I like spending time with her, but can't afford to pay her way all the time? Once in a while sure, but I'm getting the impression that she expects to be treated anytime we go out and do anything. It's not that I'm super cheap and don't want to spend money on women, but I'm trying to balance paying my bills as well as set some money aside for the future to buy a house (have a good chunk of retirement started and a savings account.

[rohnearner]

if your relation is good you need to clear her frankly

after clearing to her..! I'll suggest OP to ask waiter for separate checks from next time he go out to eat with his date .

[jinjuro]

You must bang her hard to make up the cost of investment. 

Relation like this can end very quickly if you don't find a way.

[Hazir]

You want to marry her? If yes - keep paying for her. If no ditch her and with saved money hire a fine hooker. There is no point to complicate things in life, coz life fucked up already.

[eXch]

Right, if you dont wanna marry then just leave it. Another girl will appear just in days

[hilariousandco]

Sounds like the type of girl you don't really want to be dating. Just tell her you don't have the money to be paying for everything and it shouldn't be expected, and if it is see the first part of my sentence. Also, the dating a billionaire is likely to be bullshit unless you know otherwise or are just trolling.

[jodybay]

She's mentioned in the past that she had a pretty well-off boyfriend who bought her a house, went on a few dates with a billionaire, and has told me her mom berates her for "having champagne taste on a beer budget". She spends a ton of money on clothes, handbags (she works in fashion), the kind of money I'd never spend on stuff like that. I assume she makes better money than me, because she lives with her parents but eats out every night, the clothes, etc.

seriously bro why date a girl who is obiously bragging about her x boyfriend who brought her a house and telling you how she likes expensive things
there is a lot of way to date a girl without spending a 100$ for her like take her to the park you can stop by to a groceries store to buy a drink and some snacks while you too is having a fun conversation go to a drive thru or stroll at the mall and eat on some not expensive cafeteria a simple girl will not ask you to take her out on a fancy dinner or expensive restaurant

gold digger bitch will only want that crap

[RodeoX]

If she doesn't want you without money then she doesn't want you, and you don't want her.


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[MisterDD]

I think you need to say truth about that. Try with nice and polite conversation. If you love her, and if she loves you, she will understand for sure. At least I hope she will. If not, well at least you will know truth about where your relationship leads.

[Dogtanian]

Jesus this girl sounds terrible. Just tell her and if she loses interest then you've saved yourself a lot of money.

[cosmofly]

If you rule her in bed you won't have to pay for anything, she will worship you and spend money on you

If you can't do that then pay up, play along, fuck her as much as you can then ditch the whore.

IF u're spending cash make sure she's worth it.

Never tell a girl to pay up if she doesn't offer, never. You take action like a man. 3 options, dominate, pay up or ditch the whore.

Don't listen to the virgins here who say open up and tell her the truth. You don't do that shit

[kuroman]

Just try and let her pay on their own, or sometimes, just tell her especially if she is the one taking you somewhere that you don't have your wallet or cash on your if she can pay, and stuff like that, she'll understand on indirect way that you aren't willing to pay for everything all the time, be smart about it, unless she is not very bright then I guess you need to be straight about it, just put it in a way so that you don't look like a stingy person.

Another thing, if she thinks that you are supposed to pay for everything, then just leave her, half of earth population is women so I'm sure you'll find another person in no time

[jinjuro]

If your girlfriend is bragging about his ex boyfriend. Just fuck her hard. And after tell her I don't have money like your ex boy friend. Go back to your rich ex boyfriend if money is all you want.

Don't let your girlfriend control you. Don't show your love to much. She will abuse you.

[jodybay]

If your girlfriend is bragging about his ex boyfriend. Just fuck her hard. And after tell her I don't have money like your ex boy friend. Go back to your rich ex boyfriend if money is all you want.

Don't let your girlfriend control you. Don't show your love to much. She will abuse you.

that was just a bad suggestion bro he just dated a girl and to have sex with her there is a possibility for the girl to demand a lot from him

[Rigon]

Just politely explain to her your situation. If she really likes you it shouldn't matter that you don't have the spending money. If it does then she's not worth wasting your time on.