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  Hi guys and ladies, here comes a very sad and heart-breaking story (true life confession) of a young lady who was contributing money (saving money) together with her husband-to-be (fiancée) in preparation for their wedding. The story in quote ..



Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

I also feel sorry for the lady but life goes on. If she called off the wedding, life goes on.

But I want to ask a question. The lady only called off the wedding and continue with the man or she also broke up with the man? The finance may not be a gambler but just want to try his luck, but that is stupidity.

I have seen something like this before but I did not know who contributed the money. Men like some risky. Some of them were luck but some were not lucky.

This is the more reason why addiction to gambling is very bad, gamble as you can be able to endure and don't gamble because you want to meet up a target as you might end up running into more loses and may go broke. Gamble with your what belongs to you and don't gamble with other people's funds just because you feel you can double the money as gambling is an uncertainty. You may win or you may not win therefore focusing all energy is gambling is a bad habit. Now look at the shame this man has brought to himself all because of reckless decision.

Gambling, though we gamble in other to make positive results (win) but more also we shouldn't take it as a habit like our life is dependent on it. It should be for fun even while we seek to win.

I want to only talk about the comic part although for many people there is nothing comic in here,yet the lady didn't she knew that her fiance was a gambler and out of a gambler what can you expect when the hardest form of addiction hits you,you will find any remote possibility to get money to bet and to feed your burning desire to gamble.

The fact that he wanted to double his money is a clear indication that this guy is definitely addicted as only addicted people do not think much about consequences as they are only focused on doubling their money whatever the amount they bet for them is irrelevant.

This is one of the most horrible story I have ever read, Imagine the excitement and effort of the bride to save money for their wedding, she even contributed 60% of the total savings wherein it should be 50-50 or majority of the expenses  supposed to be shouldered by the groom (I know, many of you will disagree on this part but this is my thoughts when it comes to wedding expenses). It's better not to tell it to other family member until she had a serious conversation with her fiancé. I highly suggest her to hold off the wedding until they get these issues sorted out because This is a huge red flag.

I believe the relationship may continue and what they mean by calling off the wedding may be to postpone the wedding till further notice until they can save up another money,  but to me, the ladies were not wise to have held such cash,  in a country that the currency is so weak and inflation is rising steadily,  if anyone in her condition is wise is to always use any money that comes into the hand to buy the wedding materials pay for event centres ahead and do a whole lot that will make the money not to be physically available before any temptation like this will even happen.

The guy really messed up,  he lack value for money and had a wrong mentality about gambling,  but then he did the wrong and at that, we have to move on regardless,  but I feel for that lady she should be very disappointed right now.

I honestly do not know; she anonymously posted this confession through an account on X (formally twitter) which specializes in giving people the opportunity to confess whatever they are going through and needs advice from other people on what to do. so, the lady shared this because she needed people to advise her on what to do, Majority in the comments did advise her to leave the man, that such a man is not worthy to be married to and called a husband, so whatever be her final decision, I do not know, like I mentioned on the op, I do not know the lady personally.

Should have shared the link to this tweet on X, but unfortunately, i have lost the tweet, i was kind of high on alcohol last night while going through the tweet  ;D, didn't even know I saved the screenshot i shared here; on my phone, i was going through my gallery this morning, saw the shot, then remembered and decided to share the story here.

Yes, this is another sad story with regards to gambling and it's consequences especially if you don't have total control of your emotions. So imagine the burden of the lady here, as he put more than half of it for their once in a lifetime wedding that they will not forget as this is a very special day, thus he fiancee just play their money and obviously lost almost everyone.

Hard to give her advise, maybe the man is not meant to be for her. And maybe look for other guy and reset everything. But the emotional damage that has put a toll on her and the guy. I don't want to be in her shoe right now. But I guess she has to make that important decision in her life, whether to stay with that man, or broke the relationship and start all over again.

The girl in the story is really pitiful, and I think she was also quite lucky here to discover through this painful incident the bad behavior of the friend she intended to accompany her on the journey.
Through the story, I focused my attention on the man, what is his intention here? Is it another reason to find a better opportunity for the couple's life, or is it simply to satisfy his behavior. But it's not obvious what he's doing wrong when it's his girlfriend, and moreover this was money saved up for a big event, but he destroyed everything. Anyway, I feel sorry for both of them, one person suffers from the pain caused by another person and the other person turns himself into a person who brings pain.

On the one hand, maybe I feel sorry for the woman because she has a high commitment to marrying a gambling man who is like an addict, but on the other hand, I would also be very happy if she wanted to cancel her marriage because the man doesn't care about her marriage, because if the man cared, he would definitely looking for extra money and working fought for the woman's seriousness but she thought very short-sightedly choosing to spend money on gambling. it will never be good in the end

I would be grateful if the woman had to leave the man because in my opinion it is not appropriate and appropriate to keep a man who likes to gamble and is short-sighted like that because maybe after marriage things will be worse than now, the right decision is to leave him and let the man have fun with what he wants when gambling. the man is not a real man  ;)

Very thoughtful, and i also did think about this as well, but in all honestly, we can't really blame the lady, we all as human beings think differently, there are people who just love starting something all at once after having spent years saving for it, it's just like a friend of mine over here who said he would not start building his own house until he has managed to save up to 10 million naira in his account, and i have on several occasions advised him to start with whatever amount of money he has at hand, but he is still adamant about it.

So, there are people like that, not the lady's fault if you ask me, the man as well should have allowed the lady to keep the money if he knew that he would do such a thing, it's really heart recking and i can't just imagine the kind of trauma this act will through the lady into, for these days, it's kind of hard to find such ladies who trust their boyfriend good enough to save money with him, it's very rare, but all the same, i just hope she gets over it regardless of whether she continue with the man or not.

If she calls off the wedding that's the best thing that she can do, it's better for her to re-assess if this is the right guy to marry, the only good thing that this happens is she discovers what kind of guy he is going to marry, it's very embarrassing but that will save you from the many woes and cheating that's going to happen inside your marriage.
Marriage is not something that you will just get in and get out of, divorce and separation are very costly much more so when you already have children, you will marry an irresponsible guy, she doesn't deserve you, there are more good guys than will come to you that will not cheat you of your money.

If case like this really happens then it is mutual mistake because why the man can take full control of the money that has been collected because when he has committed to saving with his partner with the aim of being means of marriage and continuing to fulfill his family.
But here the person who is most guilty is the man because he is the future head of the family who has full responsibility and should have thought better before using the money as betting capital.

I sure the woman was devastated by this incident and she must have been very disappointed because what had been targeted and planned in such way had to fall apart because of the man mistake.

However, we can learn from things like this and add to our experience that we must always be able to control ourselves and be smarter in using or managing our finances for gambling.

In life, we make decisions based on our needs placed in order of importance. If the man sees marriage as a cardinal need he wouldn't have risked such an amount on gambling. Greed played an important role in this senseless bet. His excuse that wanted to make more money so that the burden of the wedding expenses would not be on the lady is silly. He would have worked harder or taken another job to achieve that. The simple reason for his behavior is he is very greedy or suffering from gambling addiction. The lady should be careful of him because he might sell their belongings to gamble. He should seek help that will enable him to control his gambling drive. The bride-to-be should also check if he is not addicted to something else like hard drugs.

The story is really heartbreaking since imagine that you are really expecting that there's a wedding  will gonna happen but suddenly his supposed to be husband made a wrong decision and use the money for just like that then for sure this creates a lot of stress from the girl side especially with the man if he realize that he made a big mistake of his life.

Since this is already happened maybe its better for girl to decide to end up their relationship since that action is very irresponsible and he might do this again especially if the girl tolerate what the guy did. And he should not supposed to use that money since that is intended for important event in their life, but the guy decide to gamble all so I guess that tells all that he can't handle his self very well and might the girl will suffer from his wrong decisions in life in future.

I conclude that she confronted her partner and their wedding is no longer to happen. If I were her,  I would postpone the wedding and break off the engagement but I also agree with everyone else that this needs to be addressed first before deciding whether to continue the wedding plan or not.. It is very important to know each other's behavior before getting married. There's only one thing that I want to know, Is she aware that her partner is into gambling or not?

What kind of stupid story is this...? There are so many stories about someone whose family had to be destroyed where the child became the victim of a divorce caused by reckless and irresponsible gambling carried out by the head of the family. And now there is a story of someone who failed to continue their marriage and this was again caused by reckless and irresponsible gambling.. STUPID.. how is it possible that in such an urgent situation they still think that by gambling they can double their money.

Heyy, marriage is simple, it's just that our egos are too high, which makes us like those who, when we want to have a wedding, have to have a lot of money so we can hold a luxurious wedding party because we have friends we invite, so if we don't have a party, it becomes embarrassing. What we need to think about is not about the wedding party but about life after marriage where we as men must have a steady income that can be relied upon to meet the needs of the family. It's ridiculous, we struggle to hold a wedding but after getting married we become confused because we run out of money. LOL.

Her life will be in total misery if he marries this guy, this guy is a compulsive gambler, he doesn't care about his bride's feelings, and it's better for the lady to cool off the wedding and only talk about the wedding if he is totally cured.

Compulsive gamblers like the guy in the description should not have a family, they will spend more time in casinos and spend all their money betting, if that lady is a friend I will ask her to just break the guy, and if he wants her back he must show first that he is totally cured from his addiction.

The worst thing that can happen to a woman is getting married to a compulsive gambler, the marriage will eventually end in divorce and he will continue to hurt her feelings, there are many straight and clean guys so it is better to look for a man who take care of her and not spend her money or love gambling more than he loves her.

I feel bad for the lady. If she decides to leave the relationship, I think it would more than just about money.
The man is either a gambler already who knowingly risk their wedding money for gambling or a first time gambler who genuinely hope that he could double the money. If it is the former, it would be unforgivable fir me. He shouldnt have made the decision at all right from the beginning. If it is the former, I think they can try to talk to each other and sort it out. Whatever the lady decides, I think it is valid. She was lied to, regardless of the reason and that something that a partner should refrain from doing :(

Honestly, she might be better off calling off the wedding. They've been scrimping and saving for the big day, so it's clear they're not rolling in money. But then her fiancé goes and gambles it away? Talk about a wild risktaker, but it's not exactly a smart gamble. Wedding funds shouldn't go into a bet as that's just asking for trouble. If he'd won, folks might call him daring, the 'all-in' kind of guy. But since he lost, it's all on him.

Seriously, marrying a guy like that is a recipe for disaster. Making big decisions without consulting the wife? Hey, lady, maybe you should look for a different fella, someone who's not all about the high-stakes gambling. No hate on gamblers, I mean, some of us enjoy a little risk, but this is just too much.

Marriage is off then. There is no good for this man to marry her as it is already a problem from the beginning. Give it a year after the wedding the guy will be spending money he didn't earn. Regardless of what his motive is. Let's say he meant to grow the money to impress this woman that he is a good provider but look at how it turned out.

Not gonna be great if she continues their plan. So people in Nigeria are actually no very traditional where only the men spend money for their girl?

Maybe or maybe not. What he did is stupidity. Some people can think they can still give such a person second chance. But if it is me that I am the girl, I will not only call off the wedding but also call of the relationship. If the girl did not also call off the relationship, maybe she is stupid. But maybe not, becuase some people can think of second chance, I noticye my friends that were addicted left gambling after they had huge losses that severely affected them just like this, sometimes, there can be second chance.

It can be a blessing in disguise for that lady that the nature of the guy has been exposed because of gambling. If she didn't called off the wedding and continued because of how desperate she is and loves the guy truly, she'll be the one to suffer with both of them living on the same roof. With that attitude and addiction in gambling, the money that they agreed to save for their wedding won't just be like that if they do plan another saving for some of their needs or plans together. It's possible that the guy will spend the money and will just carefree as if nothing has happened.

It's sad to see that a dream wedding has been called off because of such incidents but the woman will eventually realize that it's okay but, the pain is there at the beginning and she had to accept and endure that until it's finally gone. The final decision of leaving the guy and moving on is what she need to do to have a brand new start. Finding the new love of her life might not be easy as it may be but that's what should happen if ever the guy will never change. The guy is also going to be a lucky one if the woman will give him another chance but the question is, is she going to give another shot for that guy that's been the major reason why their wedding has been canceled?

Betting with savings money is wrong I agree with it.

But every story has two different sides we we can't come to any conclusion about whether her choice is right or wrong with her partner but he may have his reasons for such actions too is there any information about the results of the bet or its assumption of complete loss that is why she did this?

I also felt very sorry for the woman because she had struggled to save money for her wedding with her fiancé. Still, her fiancé instead used the money to gamble, hoping that he could double his money quickly so that they no longer had to save for their wedding costs. The man was foolish. He had disappointed his fiancé because he was willing to make sacrifices for his wedding plans and instead thought he wanted to gamble with that money.

We don't know what happened to them. But hopefully, the man will come to his senses and can cancel his plan to bet. For their wedding, they could still have a simple wedding attended by only their close family. That would save him money if he still had it. But if the money is no longer there, the woman must postpone her marriage for certain reasons. And the worst thing was canceling the wedding because he couldn't be with his fiancé anymore. But the woman had to be able to remind her fiancé not to gamble for anything because they were risking his money.

A legend word say.

The man is 1% aways from winning a jackpot ~XD I cannot believe for anyone who are playing using such other fund, I mean (I have gambling addiction) but only using the money until I run out the money (for my worst scenario)

Never using someone money or money are gonna to be used for paying the rent and something like that.

What was more painful was that he did not reimburse the woman and only apologized, which meant that the woman had been greatly harmed financially and mentally.
Feeling sorry for what the woman was going through, the decision to call off the wedding was the right step and I'm sure many are curious about the continuation of their relationship, whether to stay in the relationship or break up.
It is very important to discuss finances before starting a marriage because finances will play a very important role in the future household because without the same view about finances, it will be difficult for a couple to build a family future.
The man was stupid in thinking he could double the money and gambling is uncertain because the chances of winning and losing are equal.

I really feel sorry for the lady with no single sympathy for the man. The only area I don't understand was if she already knew her man was a gambler and the extent to which he can gamble. If such information was revealed to her and she still felt she could cope, then she should deal with it and move on because she should not be surprised. On the other hand, if the man concealed such information from the fiance, then he still have terrible secrets and marrying such a man is not the best for the lady.

Gambling is supposed to be done with spared funds and not money one cannot afford to loose. The guy should first go and treat his greed level before raising a family because it is obvious he hasn't understand the important of priority.

This will also help us learn from his mistakes because many people have poor mindset about gambling. Since it is something of probability, we should always follow it in that manner because it is not certain the outcome you choose will work that way.

Questioning the lady is nonsense. She's just a victim of a man not being responsible, despite the plan for their wedding, he still ends up hurting the woman. Let's say the woman knows the gambling activities of the man, they might already talk about it. However, the man has no other way to contribute more. Being desperate to act like a man and pay most of the expenses, he ends up betting the money for their wedding.

The man should think deeply before he acts and starts betting. Thinking about the possibility of what will happen if the money is lost in gambling, or what his partner would feel if the man acted alone without her consent.

To be honest when I read the title I thought it was a personal experience and seeing your name as the op made me more eager to read through the thread, but unfortunately it’s nothing personal but that still does not make it less tragic.

This is the type of case where the popular quote makes sense “the idle mind is the devil’s workshop”, I really don’t know what made him take that bold step by betting such a large amount he might have been doing it for a lower amount and has had a higher rate of winning and that’s why he was confident enough to have used that amount.

And right now the lady is left in a situation where she has to cope with the man’s decision and save another money or just part ways with the man and move on with her life and it’s not going to be a easy one for her and it’s also something she can do alone with no one’s assistance.

It's wrong in all aspects because the money that's gambled is not just his money but also her money. And there's a reason why they're saving up that money and that's for their most awaited union, their marriage.

On this case, we don't need any other side of the story that will come from the guy. The obvious matter has been said that he has spent their savings for the wedding and it shouldn't be tolerated.

Let us say that he has his reason doing that, and that's to gamble and nothing more or less. Sad on her side but better decision will come for her after this.

The same happened to the person I know when he used the money that had been entrusted to him just because he was full of himself that he gonna win the bet that day. But gambling is not to be trusted when it comes to money needed to buy your essential needs and when he regret his decision, it is too late because he lost the money that supposed to buy supplies for his friend's store and he doesn't have any means to pay it and after that, he just lose a friend and took a loan to pay his debt because it was a huge amount of money that he just wasted. I wonder if their wedding will still be done in the future but if it was me, I would count it as a red flag and quit becoming his bride.

It's good if she not yet married a gambling addict, she need to thankfully to her boyfriend because she can easily break up and search for a better man. If they've married, it's become more harder for the wife to divorce with his husband because become a widower isn't easy.

Never think he will become a better man, human will never change.

On the contrary, he might be new to the system and not really an addict because thinking about doubling his money sounds so foolish to be coming from professional gambler. Sounds like someone who was deceived by some friends to try his luck on gambling and everything goes against him. This the consequences of gambling with other people's money. Even with your own money, you're supposed to gamble with what you can afford to lose and not gambling above your worth. I feel bad for the poor girl because the love she has for the guy will not allow her to take necessary action on the guy.

Both of them will never forget gambling for prolonging their wedding if it will ever take place again. Such a bad experience!

It's obviously very wrong at what angle you look at it and I don't know what is the reason behind this man to take that risk to gamble the money suddenly that they have work hard to save just to have a great wedding. On the other hard, it's good that the girl has experience it before their actual wedding. I mean just imagine if they stay in one roof and suddenly he discovers that his husband is a gambling addict.

So she should just move forward, I know it's very difficult for her, but this is the only way she will have a better life than to live with a man that you cannot trust specially with money matters even though that she loves him very much.

The man is a big fool for thinking that he can double $5000 through gambling, he must be an addict that sees gambling as a means to make profit. If not after gambling with $1000 and lost the bet, he is suppose to stop gambling but instead he went ahead to gambling all his wedding funds.

He is a gambler and that is why he did it, if not his mind wouldn't go into using such important money that he has a little percent in it to gamble without looking back. I believe that the lady in question will quit the relationship, since she said that he hasn't been disgraced like that.

Poor woman that is doing everything possible to be wedded but it all ended up in vain. I have seen a marriage that was broken because of gambling addiction.

Let's focus on the positive in this situation. Although the girl may feel embarrassed, the fact that she is not yet married means she still has the opportunity to make the best decision for herself and find a man who truly deserves her.

To the man, it's important to realize you have lost a woman who loved you. Not all women are willing to fund a wedding unless they genuinely love their partner. Even if a woman loves her partner, she is not obligated to provide for the wedding expenses. You have wasted the opportunity to be with a woman who truly loved you to fuel your gambling addiction. This should be an example that the money allocated for important occasions, such as weddings, should be used wisely and not spent on gambling.

Call the wedding and the relationship off lady! Probably better for you. There's a lot better fish than the sea take your time. Idrk if it was good this happened before marriage or not lol.

I mean honestly, any sane gambler out there would not use funds you've gathered up especially one that was gathered together with someone to gamble.  It's rather confusing really how some people consider gambling as a "guaranteed" way of earning money jesus. Yes, he did the act hoping for the best, but it's the best of both worlds, one of which does not give a fuck about you. Let's not even consider how the money had the wife contributing more than him.

Totally heartbreaking i would say on which spending up your wedding funds or savings for the sake of gambling then this one indicates that your man isnt really that serious on you. Even if we do say that he's aiming on doubling the money for that kind of purpose but we know that its never been that a good decision or ideal one for you to gamble out those funds, not unless you have some permission into the other half or with your fiancee if there's not then its just purely showing  that you disrespect her. She had really the  right since he had contributed 60% of the entire savings on which she has right to know on where those funds been stored or if ever there's plan on some unexpected spending.

This is heartbreaking for the girl and as much as possible as long its still early, then she should leave the guy yet this kind of action does indicate about being addicted with gambling.
This isnt something that couldnt really be good into your future endeavors on your marriage life. Its impossible that you cant really be able to assess these things on point.
Yes, it does hurt but you do make the best decisions which would really be that just right for you. Dont force yourself into a man which arent that worth of your love.

Damn bro, where do you get those stories. I can see "Rant Vault" as the watermark but finding this might be hard. :D

Anyway, about the story, truly it is a sad one. But I do understand the point of the "should be groom" because maybe he is really just trying to help and feeling down that he only has 40 percent on their contribution. This is pride and ego and not a gambling addiction. Maybe he is cornered and trying to find ways to help but he made a mistake in putting it in the gambling way.

But on the "should be bride" side this is of course a bad decision and she will probably just end their relationship because of this mistake. It's the right thing to do because what if they are already husband and wife and they have money saved for their mortgage payment or bills then the guy gambled it again just trying his luck. That will make her regret her decision to wed him and they will just separate, it's better to do it early while they are not yet one.

Yes, I agree with your opinion. Please cancel the wedding as soon as possible. Maybe it's too early, but she'll regret not doing it. He is too addicted to gambling. He may be willing to bet his beloved's entire future on gambling. Although it will be painful for you to make this decision now if you continue to live with such a compulsive gambler, I think her life is worse than living with people who are addicted to cigarettes or alcohol. I don't think he was trying to make money for a good life. In fact, he was satisfying his addiction. Or he is too naive to consider gambling a place to make money.

I didn't want to jump into any conclusion because I can't assume what their terms are about saving that money and if its her money then why she give it to him? As I said they were clear that this money is strictly for their wedding expense or not so can't blame him for using it on other purposes while using savings for betting with the intention of doubling it and also without the consent of your partner is wrong and he has to face the consequences too.

Depending on the girl, it will be her decision if he can forgive the absolute madness that his fiancee did. His fiancee might have a good reason why did he try to use their wedding money to gamble but the way to fullfill the good intention is not the correct way. It will be a absolutely hard decision for the girl to forgive her fiancee but even if the girl forgave him, the trust that is broken will be his forever burden. If this story is a real deal, I wonder what did the girl do after discovering the fiancee mistake.

This is the height of it all, how can any sane person use money that is not his spear money to place a bet, I am sure his partner will get him arrested for that, this guy is ungratefully greedy, how can you use 5 million to gamble in that kind of his condition where the lady already mentioned that she saved almost 60% of that total amount.


This means that the guy in question does not have the financial capacity to marry yet and at that, he should pay the lady back her money and also stay away from her because what he needs right now is a mental evaluation of what he thinks is money and ways to get money.

Yes, on which as a man then you would really be having that kind of ego that you should really be the one to spend up on speaking about wedding preparation or on whatever expenses that your wedding would really be having and never intend to make your wife to be on having that kind of partition or having also that responsibility on taking the slice when it comes to saving up.Yes, it is really that shameful in our part on which considering that we are really that should be the one would do the spending and just let your loved ones would be the one will be waiting and shouldnt really be bothered about wedding expense. This is why we dont really know on whats up on the mind of that man but  as a man itself then we do really know on how he do feels. He did take up the risks just because he do want that the money would really be doubled. It is really just that a mistake that he had really risk out on gambling rather than on other option but i cant really that deny that gambling is the fastest way or instant, it is really just that the risks is really off the charts.

He decided to take up the shot but he didnt think that the risks isnt really just that on losing money but also he would really be losing his soon-to-be wife which i couldnt really take
up such risks and its better to swallow that pride because there are really things which arent really needing or wise to risks on and which causes for your entire life kind of regret.

OMG, does anyone actually do something like this?
It's just sad to think that there are still men who can do this kind of thing, think about what you've worked hard for and saved up, you'll just waste it on gambling, is gambling worth more than being with the girl you love for the rest of your life? The man is too addicted and has no conscience.

For me, the woman should just think that it's okay that she saw the man's behavior early, it's okay for him to go through a disgraceful phase of his life rather than having regrets for the rest of his life.

There's a famous couple in the Philippines who had the same situation, however the difference is that they were already married when it happened. The woman chose to annul their marriage because of the disrespect from the man.

Well it also looks dumb to me that the guy would go gamble with wedding money. Even if he wants to take such risk, it is pardonable that he tries even 5% or 10% of it than pulling the rug.


This is definitely worth a rethink for the lady. Staying with the man will keep her more headache than joy because more egregious surprises are waiting to be unfolded.

What joy is there to stay with someone you are always going to have your heart in your head because of such things that you going to keep witnessing.

If I read the story of these two people, it is really heartbreaking, this man should not have done that, this man did not consider the risks involved in gambling, The intention was indeed good, but the method was wrong, the woman was working hard to collect money for their marriage, but instead the man acted ridiculously, it was a disaster for their marriage, With that money they should have been ready to get married this year, because the money was spent on betting, of course they have to collect the money from zero again, this is annoying. if the man is responsible, he must try to find other money, for the survival of their marriage, if he is irresponsible, of course....finished.

If I judge that the man is not good, he should be the one looking for money for their marriage, not the woman, he is a lazy man, he can spend what he has, most lazy people have high hallucinations, wanting a lot of money but not wanting to work, hoping that gambling can bring him luck, that's a ridiculous thought for a man.

If I were the sister or brother of that woman, I would have to say that she is not a good man to marry, but that is love, love is blind, even if one party is hurt.

Even using that 5% or 10% then it isnt really just still right that he should really be using up the fund without her girlfriends approval and just like been said that its really a show of disrespect because you are really that taking up decisions which arent really that supposed to be done considering that you are risking wedding funds then it is really that not worth on doing such decision or risk.
You can make use of other funds but not on your wedding savings, if you do love your girlfriend and have decided to bring him into the altar or making her as your wife legally then its better to set aside with that kind of urge. Just like been said that it would be better that you shouldn't really be making yourself thinking on other fast solutions because this is where things do usually mess up.

If you could really that prepared on exchanging your wedding or your love one because of such decision then go ahead but if you cant afford on doing so then better avoid
such action and just continue your savings until you would be able to hit up those amounts that both of you are really that trying to save.

This is really heartbreaking most especially for the lady who has contributed a lot to their savings just to make the wedding perfect for both of them. But I really wonder if she’s really aware that his fiancée is a gambler because if ever she is, she must had never trusted him such a huge amount of money because he will surely be tempted to spend it for his gambling habit. And it did happened and lost everything they’ve earned. The lady must have been very frustrated for now wishing that he had not trusted everything to his fiancee.

This brings realization for us that once a gambler, always a gambler. But if he acted as a responsible gambler by that time, most likely he won’t lose everything on their savings. The amount might not be intact anymore but at least only a small amount is lacking, which they can easily find ways to fill in the missing amount and still pursue the wedding.

There’s still a silver lining on what happened to her. Atleast she will not get stuck to his fiancé for a lifetime since she call of the wedding. This story will be much more devastating if she got married and still his husband continues his gambling addiction despite the fact that he contributes less on their finances.

As a man, I personally don’t allow my wife to work since I want to provide 100% financially to her while this man has the audacity to gamble the wedding funds that he has less contribution.m :D

Well, for me, there is absolutely no wedding to pursue anymore. first of all, i personally think that the lady in question doesn't really know that her husband to be is a gambler to that extend that he would risk money as important as their savings for their wedding arrangement, there are several women who sure know that their man gambles, but do not know to what extent the man takes gambling serious, and i personally believe that this may be the situation of this lady, if at all she actually knows that the guy gambles.

And maybe again that the guy doesnt gamble, but for the he was seeing the situation on ground and feeling helpless, he decided to try gambling to see if a miracle would happen, as his way of trying to help, but unfortunately, it turned out a very wrong decision.

For me though, if i was the lady, i sure would end the relation for good, this might just be a sign that i am about to marry the wrong man.

Can't say if he's addicted or not but the truth is he is a gambler. There's nothing bad being a gambler but he wasn't a responsible gambler.
He should have known his limits and his responsibility. If he had been just a little responsible with the amount then he wouldn't have lost the amount and his fiancee.

I think your friend needs to get away from this guy right now. Most likely he is a loser, if he wants to increase the amount of money through gambling As you rightly said, the wedding is very important for girls because it is quite a rare event. If a guy is risking money, which depends on whether they have a wedding or not, then he simply does not value his future wife. Once again, you need to run away from such a guy.

Even if she called off the marriage and refused to marry this man, she would not get her money back. By calling off the marriage, she will lose her husband too to whom she was to marry. The money is gone already. Don't know what decision is beneficial for her  ???

I think if the husband's intention was to double the money, only to get his wife out of trouble of saving more money, then I won't call it wrong but one thing he did wrong was that he gambled with the money, without asking from his wife. If he had consulted his future wife and told him that he wanted to double the money through gambling, the wife could have either refused or maybe asked him to use only 10% or less money to try his luck.

Such amount of money for a wedding is also another point to this story.  $5,000 in a wedding is huge no matter the country's currency.

m thinking if you are planning to spend $5,000 for a wedding then the would be husband should have more than that since he is claiming to support the girlfriend with the money he will win so that the burden will not be on her.

Another point to this is that if you are saving up for a wedding, you don't need such amount of money to be saved up before you do your wedding. If you are saving up it means you don't have and people who don't have don't need such elaborate wedding, I mean the story is twisted and for the guy to use the $5,000 saved for wedding to gamble is really not giving the real light to what it is.

Again maybe this is another social media frick who is looking for followership. Like if you are saving $5,000 for wedding that is too much to be saved for wedding, like people who plan $5,000 wedding ceremony are wealthy and they don't have to save for it because the money is always there and what they would need is to fix their date  ;D

Cases like these show the couple's lack of knowledge of themselves. How do you explain that a person intends to marry another person and does not know that this person is addicted to gambling? people when they are in a relationship should pay a lot of attention to their partners, if she in this case had paid a lot of attention to him, then she would have easily discovered that he has become addicted to gambling. And another very important thing is that considering the amount of money she mentioned, I don't believe he took 100% of the money and made a single bet. he probably made a lot of bets, which means he took a long time to place bets and he must not have realized

I'm actually curious to know how she discovered that he was taking the money to bet and which casino or betting site he used and what portions of money he was using to deposit at the casino or betting house, this could make it easier for us to understand whether he was having some victories or whether he was simply having consecutive defeats, either way it is a fact that he lied to his future wife and since marriage is a very serious matter and yet the guy was wasting the money for the wedding, So my advice would be for this woman not to come back with him again. because in the future of both, he will only destroy

If she had really thought about canceling the wedding because the money was being used for gambling, maybe that would be better for her. What the man did was unreasonable because he had chosen the wrong path by using the money from his wedding to gamble. He should be very sorry for using his money to gamble and apologize to the woman. But I don't know if the woman will forgive the man even though she really loves him.

Perhaps it was a difficult decision for the woman to cancel her marriage, but she could not continue the marriage if she no longer had any money. However, perhaps the man would have returned to gambling again if they had remained married because he had already had the idea of using his money to gamble in the hope that he could double his money so that they could get money quickly. Everything now depends on the woman.

Truly heart breaking. But in my opinion, there in the gambling discussion section, we have found even crazier and more heart breaking situations when compared to this one.
True, it is hard to see that much money you saved being gambled away by someone else, but it is worse to commit a crime, or try to kill someone for the sake of continuing to gamble. Remember the news we shared around here about how man tried to kidnap a younger family member so he could use the ransom to further gamble?  That is more serious, that is running ones life.

In the case, at worst, it is a ruined relationship and wedding.
The lesson here is to always be sure we know our partner and what they are capable of for the sake of money...

Don't anybody see this yet that we are having a gambling addiction pandemic. And it is getting worse by the day.

This lady in the story would forever be scarred and traumatized for life. I wish one of the ways would cope is through a post traumatic growth of being a therapist to help other women whose partners -to-be or partners are addicted to gambling.

This story also brings to light the value of openness and honesty in every relationship. Be opened with your partner about everything and anything.

Stories like this pains me a lot and it is so sad to read.

The lady is not deserving for that reckless Kind of man, he will do more worst in the future, this shows that he's not being transparent enough to his partner, for him to have use that kind of money for gambling is a disappointment to himself and the lady may not find a place in her heart to forgive him or let go, the man should be the one looking for money foe their wedding, but fir the lady doing so means he's an irresponsible man, yet he proved that by using the entire money for gambling.

It is quite sad when I see those who are even determined to use or allocate their marriage savings just to fulfill their temporary desires by gambling, if there are people who do things like this then I can't imagine how their level of addiction is, which is certainly a very severe gambling activity.

Therefore, it is important not to overdo gambling, do not be too serious in this activity because obviously this is only recommended for entertainment only without bringing any seriousness in terms of earning. In case you're in a situation where you're lucky then you'll be able to get the winnings you've always hoped for. And also yes there will definitely be quite a deep trauma that will be in the bride-to-be when she finds out that the budget for her wedding was used for gambling by her partner, I think with the growth rate of gambling getting worse in society, cases like this may not be rare anymore, and with that maybe this incident can be a lesson for them or other people who see this alarming condition so that they can also better control their gambling so as not to be too excessive and still keep their wedding savings. Well it's true that openness is also very important, I hope you don't cover everything to your partner especially about bad habits because of course it will be a big problem.

Simple rule; you have no rights to use someone else’s money no matter what reason you are having. Well, indeed if it won both would be somehow happy but the fact that the man took the risk using not only his money, is rude. Even if it won, things would still be not great to see. It is gambling he engaged himself with, meaning, he was ready to lose the money in the first place given that winning will never be certain. In all aspects I wouldn’t agree to the guy. He’s insensitive from doing so and might fall under addiction as well so he better consult and check himself if he really wants to change for the better. Nit because he has a part of that saving means that he has already a right to use the whole thing; just pure commonsense he is lacking.

I have had to laugh out loud seeing the headline but on a second thought, this is not funny. This is nothing but a pure wickedness, a man that doesn't have a lovely heart, a man that doesn't care how others feel about him is the only person capable of this stunt. This is cheating and stealing because if really the lady contributed 60% and the man had the audacity to used the money to bet, common this is bad.

Another thing is that, the woman is having the desire to get married on time because she donateed more than half of the money, where I comes from even if the lady is the one trying to get married on time, the bill and responsibilities of the wedding lies on the man and not on the woman but here reverse is the case.

She better thanks the man foolishness for using the money to bet, because if in the end they get married, the marriage might not last, the man will gamble all the money in their saves and they will drag and drag eachother and later divorce. It's sad but better this way.

It's a shame, and actually I also agree that a man like that is not worth keeping around, and I completely understand his feelings.
The woman must have been very disappointed and angry, but it all happened.
But it all depends on the woman's feelings for the man and if the woman still loves him very much and still wants to keep him, it doesn't matter because the relationship if they love each other will be strong in facing any problems. And in this case the woman must be firm with the man and if the man really loves her then he must immediately return the money as soon as possible. And if the man agrees then there is no harm in giving the man time, and if the man really loves him he will definitely try.
And if both agree, just ignore the failed plan, it wasn't actually a failure. However, God had other plans because actually this story happened a lot, only the story was different and in the end they still got married just because it wasn't the time yet.
And when it comes to gambling, it depends on the woman and whether she wants the man to stop gambling, and if so then the man must agree to it for the good of the relationship.

That would seem very frustrating and sad even if the roles were switched around for the man instead of the woman.

But I agree that the husband-to-be actions in the story were not something that a regular person would even think of doing. A man like that is not worth marrying because it will end very poorly. He obviously has more than just red flags at this point, the guy himself is one giant walking red flag. He obviously has a gambling addiction so severe that he will make life hell for anyone around him.

But it also kind of sounds like the wife knew about his gambling problems and instead of trying to ween him off it, went along and may have even enabled him. So its hard to say who is at fault here.

Well many news flying on social media and everyone wants to hop on the trending news. Right now the news about playing bet, gambling is trending that's the biggest news right now and this is another story wanting to get into the trend, let's assume this is  true but how can your husband he in a financial situation and you people have saved 5 million this is not practical and saving 5 million for a wedding if you have Any financial issue at all is not wise.
Regardless of if it's true or not playing gambling with funds meant for something else is a red flag for me and to me signifies how desperate or addicted the person is. Gambling should not be a do or die affair

People in the gambling world have done some really dumb sh*t and these stories never stop to amuse...and unfortunately in this scenario I know for sure women can do anything for love and am not surprised that this lad used the money for his games, knowing very well that  he gave her a convincing reason to use the funds and will soon be replaced soon and not that he wants to use it for some high risk games and fun... Just hope this couple still made their wedding work with the hurdle at hand.

If people risk their life savings for high risk games then we should prepare for the waste, things like suicides, crime, scammers etc will be on the rise as people will try to survive in the name of gambling addiction pandemic!

With such an arising problem, what have these Casinos and sportsbooks done about this if I may ask because this is a serious issue!!

This is true as a lesson to take from this story. She doesn't know the would be husband because if she does then she wouldn't have allowed him to have access to the money not to talk of using $5,000 for gambling. It is an addict that is likely to take that as a chance because a new player would be scared of losing but an addict will see it as an opportunity that has been presented to him.

She doesn't know what character he could display and probably he has been hiding his gambling addiction away from her.

That’s really crazy to me. How will a man be so dump to do that kind of thing? Why will you gamble with wedding money that the girl struggles to save? That’s really heartbreaking, and I have pity on the girl, but the man is very annoying. How will you gamble with the money that’s meant for a wedding and you think you will win and increase the money? Gambling doesn't work like that because when gambling, you don’t know if you will be winning or losing. Everyone is always hoping for a win, but I notice loss is always higher than win when gambling. That’s why you have to be careful.
 
From my perspective, I think the man is an addicted gambler, and he wanted to take a risk, maybe he will be lucky, but unfortunately luck was not by his side. The girl wanted to cancel the wedding, which is what I think is the best thing to do. If the girl wants to continue with the money, where are they going to get money for the wedding after a man just wasted the money meant for the wedding?
 
Even if the wedding will be cancelled and maybe shifted to another time, the wife should reconsider it if she will be able to stay with the man after marriage or try to change the man from gambling. If the man is not ready to change, it’s better they don’t even get married because things might end up not going well after the wedding.

I see a few users mentioning that calling off the wedding is too much, but to be honest, it wouldn't be. This is purely disrespectful to his wife and to them as a couple in general. How could you possibly gamble on all your wedding preparations? Why would someone with the right mind take such a risk, even if it was an attempt to double them? I don't think the husband wanted to lose the money either, nor that he had bad intentions, but this is a pure example of an addiction going too far and not accepting that you're having trouble controlling yourself, because if he did, he wouldn't have proceeded with such a bet.

Even by EU standards, the lost amount of money is still a significant one that cannot be saved on short notice. He's definitely not worth it if he's willing to take such risks. I can't imagine how his wife would have felt, not only for the lost money but because her soon-to-be husband is an addict with no self-control. Hopefully, she dodged a bullet and kicked him out of her life.

If he wasn't willing to put all the wedding burden on her, he should have found another way to make that money grow, through a method which didn't involve gambling with her funds. Maybe he could just have done some extra jobs to raise money to help with the marriage expenses, but he took the easiest path to "double the money" instantly and I think there isn't an excuse for that bad decision. He didn't think on her and on the effort she had to do to contribute with 60% of the couple's savings.

It gives a real worrying sign of what kind of householder he will be, putting the finances of the family in danger with brainless decisions to reach unrealistic goals. Indeed, for her, it might be a good idea to give up this marriage idea... Unless the man shows he has learned with his mistake and repairs all the harm he did to their relationship.

This is directed to the girl who made the post: I say leave the guy for better or for worse. The thing is that he's either really stupid with money, or he's just addicted to gambling, either way you won't want a partner like that for the rest of your life. Imagine being stupid enough to think that betting on a stupid game all your savings for a very important occasion, I can't and I won't cause I may have been greedy and belligerent in the past, but even I know that there's limits you need to uphold for yourself. These kinds of stuff are non-negotiables for me, you're going to stay with him for a very long time and he's already showing you what kind of person he really is when it comes to money. If you stick with this person you're going to struggle financially even if you make a million a month, trust me. But just imagine spending more than half of the 5 million, what in the actual hell.

This is the most recommendable thing to be done on which if he do really just simply put up his relationship on priority or importance then he wont really be that able to make such foolish decision yet we know that there are really other options on which we could really be able to take and not just only via doing gambling. Yes, it might really be taking up some little bit of time comparing to gambling which offers instant but we know the risks involved is never been that something that could really be denied or ignored. Once you do make out those bets then it would really be considered final and result could neither be just a win or lose and if you do lose up that one then it would really be a loss forever and this is something that wont really be just losing fiat money but also you would be losing your loved ones.

For sure that girl would really be that so unsure after this incident or moment on which its impossible that she wont really be making realizations on the things happening in front of her.
Spending up the money which is supposed to be used into your wedding but ended up on being gambled just for the sake of doubling it into fastest way?
You are really just that crazy if you do really ending up with that kind of option but well regrets do always happen in the end.

The wedding plans are already ruined because using a whole lot of $5000 grand to stake in gambling, it means he's a very competitive gambler that's desperate to make money from the system, she should thoroughly go through his phone, he might turned out to be a addictive gambler. Saving up money with your partner and having no concerns of the activities he engaged in during his free time doesn't pull a big concern? She's at fault because it's her major duty to know the in and out of her fiancé, where he goes, what he does for a living, and most importantly, the places he visits to cool off. All these points given are important, tell me if she knew about that, she wouldn't have entrust the man of making joint-saving together.

How does a person convinces themselves to do something so stupid as this that hearing it or reading it alone makes you sick to your stomach. How does somebody decides to throw away dear future 4 this. You don't need an elaborate wedding. You do not need to impress people. Your wedding doesn't need to be the talk of the town. See the extent to which he has made his addiction to drive him to do. His marriage is called off and relationships destroyed. Seek help.

Not all addicted gambler can stoop so low to behavior like this, I think a 10 years old child cannot be this stupid. This is beyound gambling addict for real, just imagine the pains the lady is passing through and it takes a lot of braveness to come out in the public. I will advice the lady to leave the marriage because he might end up betting his house one day.
But sincerely speaking I don't think the man wants to marry the lady why? Sometimes when taking some certain actions you need to consider the consequences and if you have a wife or fiancée  that should be the more reason you need to be careful, now in this case he deicide to use his marriage money for gambling knowing fully well that betting is very risky 50/50, very risky and he went ahead using his marriage money. I think from the starting of the story he was never interested in that marriage, ladies nowadays will never support a man for wedding plans or savings except the lady loves the guy.

This is one of the sad stories with gambling and being greedy, now he will pay for the price of being greedy. Though I hope that he gets the support that he needs even if he did this stupid decision because for sure he’s already suffering emotionally. Being too greedy in gambling can result into this kind of situation, if you are a gambler please don’t forget to have your limit and always stay within your budget.

That's truly a mad fiancee and I think she shouldn't marry that idiot, imagine you're not yet married and you already did that to your wife to be, that's insane. The reason isn't valid considering how risky gambling is, I think the girl shouldn't be ashamed to call it off when she has the very reason to call it off.

Gambling sometimes ruins someone's life and ambition - like what happened to the lady and their wedding plan, I'd see it was possible to discontinue and even ruin their reputation as well.

I'm going to wonder why there are some people who rely on luck and think about making money in gambling which in fact, we know that we only have fewer chances to win. If he is a smart person and thinking about his wedding, supposed he should not use that money.

The manner at which some people gamble with almost everything is most times unbelievable. I would've probably thought this was a mere falacy but I've also seen people who's gambled with money meanr more important thing like this and still ended up losing the money.
Using a savings that was meant for wedding is just too difficult for anyone to forgive whoever that did that. I think the best thing for the lady in question to do is to call off the wedding because it'll be very dangerous for her to go ahead and marry such chronically addicted gambler.

That could be their savings for their future family as a whole including that grand ceremony in gambling but of course we don’t know the real story behind this. Though we cannot deny the fact that this is really happening we heard a lot of true story about a gambler spending their savings and losing it, being responsible is a must and as a gambler you should have your separate funds to address your gambling activities or at least to fund it if you want to gamble, don’t ever use any funds that is not yours.

Damnnnnnnn......!!!! What a mess....
I've never heard something as disgraceful as this before... You see the reasons why sometimes you don't need to habour an addiction in you, Cus it can actually hunt you tomorrow,.. on a very serious note.
That was actually something he could control but, since he was too obsessed with gambling, he couldn't realize his boundaries - so much that he had to penetrate into a joint wallet that atleast 60% of the cash wasn't his own... So sad!

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though we don't know all the details in the story, in my opinion she should call the wedding off. if that is true, at least, she should be thankful because as early as she can, she already got her warning signals. would be disastrous if they are already a family and having this financial problem owed to gambling. and the fact that changing someone's lifestyle would take forever, i don't think his soon-to-be-husband would change that fast just to make amends with her.

whoosh, i didn't expect that woman to pin her future hopes on a man like that, i'm sure that man actually never had any intention of marrying that woman, he just wanted her money, that man was really stupid, he's not a responsible gambler.  i will never touch my savings for gambling capital, the more i insist on "always using money that you can lose" when gambling if you remain stupid then, of course, you will cut off your relationship with the people you care about.  Don't fall into the trap of thinking that the money you bet in gambling can give you big profits in a short time, it's never that easy.

This isn't a heart breaking story, this dude totally deserved anything negative he got.  There are true things to be sad about, dumb people doing dumb things aren't.  It's real easy weigh what matters most in your life and don't sacrifice something higher on that list for something lower.  Unfortunately people have to find out the hard way but I hardly believe this is the worst things people have done in gambling.

Aren't people evil on theirselves even without having gambling influence in their life, there are many attrocities that people do to only satisfy their own personal desires, no one will ever be interested in this kind of a relationship anymore considering the man kind of behavior.


In his own case, if it had been his own personal money then things would have been more better because he will know that he's suffering the consequences of his stupid act, but now the lady is more in pain because she was disappointed and heartbroken with what happened.

Really sorry for the girl who had got dreams about her marriage as well as the life after her marriage. Now everything collapsed, and even if they marry on the scheduled date I don't know how good the marriage gonna take place. Even if the marriage is over, their life starts on debt and the enjoyable days goes in vain. The guy couldn't have done it, but his statement is kind of escaping and in other way it looks like he had tried to low the burden over her girl. What we can do now is just pray for the couple to get married and start good life. Wealth can be made, and the guy needs to be good with his actions.

I have and heard this part so many times from so many people, so many relationship and lives have been ruined by that thought, what's sad is that the majority of people I heard say that usually use money they really need and would have dire consequences when that money is lost.

I feel bad for the woman but on the bright side she found out that his soon to be husband has a problem and she will be able to dodge that problem if she actually call off the wedding. I hope she can find the right person for her.

This is not the new story in the gambling,from the ancient time the gambling addicted person will use the money of the family savings and family properties to play the gambling.This guy is the commercialised person,So he used his wedding savings to multiple the money.We all know how much money needed for the wedding,So behalf of his side he try to contribute by multiple the saving money in gambling.His motive is good,but if he loss the game and holding money in the gambling.Then the girl will blame the gambling site and not his man.It’s human nature to scold others for our mistake and he should not used the saving in the gambling.

I felt very sad for the woman because it is definitely not easily acceptable for a man to do such a thing while they are saving money together for a dream (wedding). It is a much worse situation to accumulate this savings especially under difficult conditions and then lose all this savings in gambling. On the other hand, it was perhaps a better thing for this woman to have experienced such an event before the marriage took place because in this way she had an idea about the personality of her future husband-to-be. Perhaps, if this situation had not happened this marriage would have taken place and a much more serious situation would have occurred later during the marriage process. Moreover, in this case it is quite possible that the woman will experience a more difficult process as the divorce phase may be long or difficult according to traditions, depending on the region and location.

I am also irritated by the guys action and feel sorry for the young lady.  It is right that the young lady call off the engagement and she should charge the guy and file a case against him so that she can get her money back.

It is not the right reason that the guy wanted to get the burden off the lady by gambling the fund off.  That is pure laziness and very irresponsible of the guy.  If he wanted to help out, he should double his effort on earning money by finding extra sources of income.


As I said it is really the best move to call off the engagement.  This kind of thing won't stop and the guy would possibly end up selling his wife and kids just to fill his urge to gamble. If he is worrying about other people, he can just tell the truth about the guy's gambling habit, the reason why he wanted to call off the engagement.

I had already supported the girl to call off the marriage. Calling off the wedding isn't the issue, the main issue is if the marriage will continue to exist without the wedding. I also will leave a portion of the blames on the girl. Is she totally unaware that her man is a gambler? Has she not be attentive to his pattern of spending? If she had known that her man is into gambling as still allow such amount of money to be with him, I have her to be blamed.

But another aspect I will want to touch is why would couple who are not rich plan to host a wedding of that amount and still counting. According to the narration, they were still contributing. Why should I stress myself to impress others in my own marriage?

Well, I am not sure we can certainly talk about a person addicted to gambling, because in my opinion if he was actually addicted, he would have gambled away that money before and would not have waited for it to reach that amount or even provided up to the 40% of the total wedding savings.
If I had to guess (because I am not an expert and I do not the whole context of the man's situation) it is probable he started to gamble quite recently when they already had that amount saved, and quickly started to chase losses with his own money, when his personal money was gone, he could not help but use those bucks they had saved for their special day.

If he was honest to his girlfriend and handed over those savings to her instead, he could have saved their relationship.

You cant say that he's not addicted. What if he had really just wait up for that pooled money to become big, considering that they are both making up some savings which it would be understandable that the funds that being saved would really be that getting bigger overtime and on the time was right then he had decided to spend it up without his lovers consent on which it is really just that a foolish thing to be done. There's no such thing to be called a safe bet specially in talking about gambling. Its always been risky and anything you do spend whether savings or wedding funds,
there's no way that you could really be able to get out in speaking of risk on losing it all. This is why if you dont value your wife-to-be then you wouldnt really be thinking about it and
definitely be spending the funds without any doubts and just like said by others that regrets do always come at the end.

Yeah actually if a man will have I mind to use there wedding savings for gambling he is not worthy to be married and if I'm to be in the shoe of that women perhaps I will be left with no option but to leave the man because if a man has the mind to gamble using there wedding savings to gamble there is every possibility of using there house someday for gambling.

Irrespective of how sure a bet may seem, using money saved for wedding to gamble is totally unacceptable and a person like that should be referred as a gambling addicts.

It was a very stupid act of recklessness. I don't know what the man was thinking when he used the wedding money he had saved for months to gamble. Gambling is not something easy, even the most favored football team can lose to a dark horse.

In my country $5000 is a lot of money and can be used to throw a pretty extravagant wedding. I don't know, is their relationship okay or did the woman choose to leave him? Maybe it is a real example that gambling can destroy everything, not only money but romantic relationships. There is nothing better in gambling unless we can be responsible when gambling

If I knew the lady, I would say her fiance is a red flag; there are more scenarios like that that could happen to them in the future. What the guy just made is a decision wherein he didn't think before he used the hard-earned money. I get it; he only wants to help, but the method he chose is not a good idea. You see, it shows how reckless he is about money; he didn't hesitate to waste all that $5 million just to gamble. I don't care about his intention to help; if you are in your right mind, you will never ever use the money for your wedding for something that is too risky. I'm not saying to break up with him I know you love him but you should not trust your fiance in terms of money handling, because he did it once and it could hav more. 

Making contributions to get married or even taking loan to get married with are both not a good ways to start a family,  and one of the cardinal points of marriage is the ability to sustain your family as a man,  and in doing that you as a man must have a good income system and on long term base to avoid running into bankruptcy after the wedding and everything and if care is not taken and proper arrangement is not made by the man before marriage,  the pressure from the marriage may force one of the partner to walk out of the marriage.

So for a man that have such issues with gambling even though he is not financially stable is not yet man enough to start a family because there is the possibility that in the future he may start gambling with their children's school fees or be unable to pay the bill due to being exhausted from gambling passively to make an earns means.

Yeah, I get it.  It's a really heart-breaking situation and I can't help but empathize with her. Weddings are a huge deal for a lot of women, and she put in a bunch of her own money too.  So finding out her fiancé blew their savings gambling has gotta be just crushing.  I feel bad for her.  But it's probably better she found out now instead of after they got married, you know? At least this way she can make an informed choice if she really wants to start a family and spend the rest of her life with this dude.  

Oh what was the man thinking when he did that! He has left such a lady heart broken. Definitely its not easy to take the burdens of wedding alone that is why some friends and families contribute to support individuals who wants to get married. But the guy in question was too quick to do that and at least he should have been sincere to the lady by telling her before he decided to use the money. To find such ladies who are willing to save up with a man to plan weddings together is rare these days. This is such a terrible situation for the both of them as now the wedding will no longer hold and also all the hard earned money saved is loss. Except the extend of their love for each other I dont see the both of them getting married.

This is a really sad story that the fiance have to take their whole $5000 meant for upcoming wedding to just gamble it all away without he taking proper measure knowing fully well that gambling is just like a 50/50 chance whereby you are likely to win or lose, and as such he ought to have gambled with the fund he knew he could always afford to lose, and not the entire $5000. Because with is situation now, I doubt if that wedding will ever go on again, as that lady is likely not to ever forgive his fiance any day ever again for making such a huge mistake in such a critical and important time like this in her life. And this should be a lesson to all other men to not gamble with any money that they just can't afford to lose.

This was the right signal for that woman, i would say this was something good because if she got married to a man like that it would be the biggest mistake in her life. So, with this, she lost part of the money for the wedding, but was a cheap price to pay, other way that guy could gamble the house or the cars in the future.

I really feel bad for her, is one of those scenarios where the gambling vice is bigger than love and trust.

It's really unfortunate and really a  sad story that makes big dilemma. Also sad about the woman's condition. And for the man who was her future husband, this was truly outrageous. If there is still a chance, even though this is not easy, even very difficult, it is better not to continue. I think this is not just a plan to make the money multiply by betting. but it could be that this has become a habit or even an addiction. And when someone is addicted to betting without thinking about financial management, this will last a long time. And it won't be easy for that person to change. It may be difficult, but it may be the worst possible outcome.

And this can be a lesson for all of us. Please remember, don't expect to get rich from gambling, don't risk what you have in betting or gambling in the hope that you can multiply what you have. In fact, it is the debt that will probably double because of this. because after all, financial management is very important, when someone dares to use money that is very important to them to gamble, it means that their thinking is very narrow and their financial management is very bad. Whether the story is true or not, regardless of all that, don't make betting your absolute hope of making more money.

These kind of men aren't just risky but also plain stupid, it's your money for the wedding and I don't think that there's anything you can spend it on besides the wedding itself. One thing that's clear here is that the woman has dodged a bullet if she did called off the wedding and broke up with the guy because there's no bigger sin than destroying what the love of your life has been dreaming of which for most women is a grandiose wedding. This is such a disaster for both the couple and the people involved in the wedding, definitely a story worth sharing to other people about the dangers of gambling.

To be fair this depends on the personality and more about like how the relationship would go on. If he is a gambler that will go on to gamble and take these type of risks all the time during the marriage as well then yeah I think calling off the wedding is fine, that woman shouldn't marry this man. But, if this is a rare situation and he couldn't find any other way to help and normally do not gamble all that much at all, then it was a stupid mistake derived from wanting to do something nice, and that is of course a stupid move there is no doubt about that but at least it's a decent act.

I think that is an important thing and should make the difference, in that case some form of argument would be more than enough for them to go on. The difference is that, once in a year is fine, but doing it constantly means rest of your life would be like that, and no person should marry another person that would be making mistakes like this at all times constantly.

He most likely believed that trying to double the wedding's budget was a good idea. But boy, was he in error. It's a quintessential example of well-meaning endeavors gone horribly awry. The woman is in a difficult situation. She put her trust in him and gave 60% of the savings - yes, more than half, people. She is now left with nothing. Calling off the wedding is a difficult decision, but it can be the correct one. It's a difficult choice, but sometimes, such difficult choices are unavoidable.

You are absolutely correct. If he could use money saved for marriage to gamble then he can do more stupid acts. I have read the news of someone selling his child without the wife's consent because of money. The girl should rethink if she can really spend the rest of her life with him because he might cause more trouble in the future.

It could also be that it is just a mistake and he has never acted in such a stupid manner in the past. I have never invested in a Ponzi scheme but there are times when family members or friends will keep convincing and persuading you to put in your money. If you are not careful, you might consider putting in a big amount. Maybe this man was convinced that he would win if he staked the money. I hope he has learned his lesson and will consider gambling responsibly in the future. Nevertheless, it is up to her to take the decision.

Surely he has broken any trust that was suppose to be built in that relationship and no matter what happens incase she goes on with the marriage, it will need a greater conviction to believe in him anymore. I can imagine she having such huge money and the thought of giving it to him for keep, that will be a big temptation for her.

Anyway, talking about leaving the relationship or having a future together, you will be surprised the man will reconvinced her again, there are some guys good at such convinction where there is existing love, just like they love convers multitude of sin.

it's quite sad to see this woman how she saved her money to get married but in the end the money was spent by her future husband. this case teaches us that sometimes trusting people with our money is not good because they could betray our trust and never gamble with other people's money, savings for education, health, or other important things.

and also if someone thinks that they can double their savings or money that is very important to them through gambling, that is a very stupid thing because they will not be able to double it, on the contrary, they will lose all the money they have and this has been experienced by many people. gambling is not a way out, people should understand that doubling their savings is not by gambling but by increasing their income or borrowing other people's money if they have to. thats the only way.

I think the lady already knew that this man is a gambler? That's the first red flag, as this man is a desperate gambler who thinks only for himself, if they can both gather money together and he went behind her back to make this stupid decision then he can't be trusted, assuming this man is the only one planning the wedding on his own with his money and this happened its better, but your woman also saved part of the money for the wedding? That's pure wickedness.

Why can't he just gamble with a certain amount or why not just risk his own part of the money that he saved? Why use all the entire money? Forget love for a second, this is a reckless man who don't care about others, I am also a risk taker and I don't like putting people in a bad condition or shape, I prefer risking my all for myself, and be ready to face the result but bringing someone down with me? Never!

If I can meet this man I have two things to say to him, I will describe how selfish he his to him and also tell him that he is better off without the lady because he doesn't deserve her, how can you use such money to gamble when you know it's possible you lose it? Such man can do anything, she deserves someone better.

This case has happened a lot in real life and I feel sorry for people who experience bad luck like that, gambling is actually not bad, it depends on someone using it responsibly or not, sometimes someone thinks that gambling can multiply money but in reality the more we bet the more We waste a lot of money in vain and honestly what this man did was a stupid thing to spend so much money just to bet on gambling especially when he used the proceeds from his shared savings before doing that he couldn't think about the impact that would happen?? I really feel sorry for the woman, she trusted her partner to hold onto her savings, but it turns out the man used it for gambling. It's really heartbreaking. It would be better if the woman not only canceled her marriage but also broke off the relationship with the man because if the woman continues the relationship that This will have a bad impact in the future, someone who is addicted to gambling will find difficult to stop.

Now I consider this a grave betrayal of trust, a wedding is essential for a woman, and for a guy to spend the money for their wedding is very difficult for a woman to accept, the lady should choose to cool off the wedding, it seems the man love the casino more than he loved the woman that he is going to marry.

The lady did not deserve the man there are many men that are better than this guy I'm sure he will find a better guy, and her life will be in a big misery if she decides to continue with the wedding.
You cannot build a relationship if one is betraying one's trust.

Are you married? This scenario is a perfect example of what a man would get when he gets married :D Did you read the first post or whole story? If not, here is what you should pay attention to: they were saving money together, he has used part of it and she is now disappointed. Did you get it? What was her is her, what was his now is their :D In fact, either this is not a full story, but so far it wasnt mentioned that he has lost those money. The chick just cant handle the fact that her future husband used their money without permission or saying. Imagine the guy uses the money  and doubles them. Would she also start to complain, if he makes their wedding double times better?

To everyone - either we find a full story, or stop fantasizing how the story ends. The guy just used money to gamble. It wasnt mentioned if he won or lose. Be more optimistic than pessimistic. 

The action made of groom is so immature and shouldn't be tolerated so that it cannot harm more. Since if She easily forgive what his groom done for sure that there would be a worst thing to happen since guilt feeling will be taken out since the man knows that he's fiancee would just forgive him even if he commit a sin on their relationship. So I guess its better for the girl to go away and decide to cool off to see if his soon to be husband is really worth for his trust and also if there's a changes will happen after that incident and also she decide to cancel everything about him.

Yeah we can expect the man will ask for forgiveness and win her heart again but he need to learn a valuable lesson since what he does is really a big mistake and he need to fix his attitude upon dealing with critical things.

It's really a heartbreaking incident because if a person spends long time saving money  and that earned money is wasted within minutes by gambling then it will be a sad story for everyone. It was no fault of the woman that she didn't even know that her husband was a gambler. I will not blame the gambling platform but the gambler should have known that this money was not meant for gambling. There is a picture in many places where a husband sells a lot of his personal life to manage his gambling money. A gambler needs to know what kind of money to use. If the awareness of gamblers is not increased, such incidents will continue to happen.

Some people really need to understand that gambling is not a guaranteed way to double their money, gambling is accessible to every single person in the world, and if it was that easy to double your money through gambling, everyone would have been doing that again and again until they get ultra rich but that isn't how it works. Casinos are businesses and businesses don't make their customers earn money but they earn from their customers, that is how a business works and that is how they earn revenue.

So people need to stop using money that they have for something important in gambling only with the thought that they can double the money or at least earn something extra on top of it because that depends on your luck and you can't always be lucky and when there is extreme risk in it, why even make the attempt and risk losing the money that you actually need in your life?

I feel sorry for the lady, if the story is true. I know that people do make mistakes, but she needs to evaluate the guy a bit more before they go ahead in their lives just to make sure that he can actually provide for her in the future. I also believe that the financial status of the guy isn't good because he is a gambler and he probably uses most of his money it just like what he did with their savings.

The current global economic crises is financially affecting more than 80% of the world population and it's made a lot of people to become financially sensitive and wise in other to survive the harsh economic situation. For two spouses to live together and fend for themselves and children as well, they'll have to be very wise in taking financial decisions and that's why I think any man that used money that was saved to finance wedding to gamble isn't mentally ready for marriage and should be avoided by at this time.
It's one thing to be a gambler but totally a different thing to gamble with almost everything and whoever that gambles with money that's not a disposal income isn't a matured enough for marriage.

Such an incident is heartbreaking, and it harms the woman. It appears that the male additionally demonstrated that he does not truly love the woman. I realize it's difficult for the girl, but she needs to go on and accept what happened to her.

That's exactly what it means: you gamble when you can't manage yourself in situations you can't handle. You should only risk with money that is excessively large, not with money that has been assigned. I feel terrible for the girl.

This is the reality for many addicts every single day and it's hard to have sympathy. If he had spent his half, that would have been acceptable - although his fiancee would likely have broken up with him if he did. However to spend the full sum is basically theft when somebody else has contributed towards the total. In this situation, depending on the country they reside in, then she could theoretically take him to court and they would be able to make a claim for the amount she contributed. There is no point in trying to decipher his actions any further, because there is nothing to be gained from it and it was never a reasonable position for him to enter. Sadly he has hurt not only himself but at least one other person by his selfish actions.

So you mean we shouldn't trust our parents, family, wife/husband because they can betray our trust? not really sure if you've married or not, but I can't imagine when you've married, you still treat your wife as a stranger and not completely trust her.

It's already a risk if you want to have a relationship with other people, unless you're not want to marry anyone, you will 100% free and not disappointed with your spouse.

one of the very stupid behaviors that this man did and I can not think how much it hurts the woman heart. as a woman, she has given the man the opportunity to save together for the future of his marriage because the woman is a pity if her partner has to be burdened with huge costs for events the wedding, but after the woman felt sorry for her partner, the man actually spent his money on betting, which is really ridiculous.

from my personal experience, I was once a gambler who was very crazy about gambling, even like an addiction, but when I was thinking about marriage, I would not mix my future life with gambling, that was not very good, whereas that man easily believed in gambling if he could double his money and as someone who read this story, I became emotional because it was behavior beyond reason.

with this story we must really understand that there are no guarantees whatsoever in gambling. keep away from the thought of gambling where doubling your money is just a nightmare.

The lady may still have decided to stay with the man, as she may have already spent months or years together with him, and to break up with him may not seem like a wise decision to her. However, if they have wise or elderly people around them, I don’t think they will break up but will take the marriage until another time when the man is able to generate another set of funds for them to settle down and marry her. The fact that she loves the man to the extent that she decides to marry him is why she won’t leave him because of this incident that happens.

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However, the guy may think betting with the money is a wise idea, as he believes if he wins the ticket, he will get more money to add to the wedding. Just that he made the mistake of putting almost complete or complete if the money, which happens due to a lack of control over his emotions, I believe he has learned his lesson now and will never do something like this again because this is an unforgettable story for both the man and the gal.

Some how, I agree with you, I might actually not trust my parents, siblings like brothers, sisters, cousins and so on, and I might also not trust friends.
But when it comes to married, it's important to marry someone we trust, for a married where there is no trust, such a marriage may likely end up in divorce with both partners going their separate ways.

But then again, I still reason with what moneystery said, it is no doubt possible that sometimes, people we trust might betray us, for in this case, we can see that the young lady trusted her to-be-husband, who eventually failed her, it's really a pity though, for in the end, this lady may end up not ever trusting any man she meets in life again, this is if she ends her relationship with this man because of this incident.

"A thousand good things that have been done can be lost just because of one mistake" which proves that it is so easy to destroy a trust that has been built and maintained for many years. While this is not a small problem, it is quite a big problem because the man behaved carelessly by losing quite a large amount of money just in one bet. Meanwhile, to be able to collect that much money, the woman has to save for months and maybe years to be able to have that amount of savings.

And I think the woman will leave the man, because it is clear that the man is not capable of responsibility and does not want to try more to get money so he can get married. This man deserves to be left behind and this woman deserves to get a better man who is someone who can be invited to fight together.

Actually, I had edited my post because I misunderstood the number earlier. I guess $5000 is a nominal amount for a wedding.
In my country, we can only do a basic wedding with $5000. We normally have around 300 guests at the wedding and food for them itself costs around $2000.
Besides that, I consider it good that they were saving money for their wedding instead of taking a loan. I am strictly against taking a loan for wedding.
There are many people in my country who take a loan and do a grand wedding and then keep paying up for the loan taken for months/years.
At least this couple wasn't going to that debt trap but eventually lost money. Fate.

She said that in the text. He thought he could double it. I understand him and you will to if you think about it.

Imagine you're poor and you don't have a lot of savings. Then as a couple you open a savings account to get some money for the wedding. Your partner has more savings than you and contributes more to the account. On top of that some members of your both families chip in.
Suddenly you have access to an account that has 10 times more money in it than you ever had.
You think that if you could win a 50% bet you'd double it and the whole family would think you contributed as much as all of them together.
Your partner would be happy, your family would be happy, you'd be happy and they'd all be proud of you.
Dreaming like that you bet the money and lose it all.
Suddenly your dream turns into a nightmare.

Before we get married, we have to make sure our current partner is someone we have been waiting for and can be our life partner. No one is perfect, but at least we can see what people are like so we don't make the wrong choice. However, when we are married, we must trust our partner, and with clear communication, we can understand and support each other to achieve our goals together. Hopefully, there will be no cases like what happened to this woman and her fiancé. And whether he still wants to continue the marriage or whether he finally cancels the marriage.

Sometimes it is very hard to make better decisions, especially when it has to do with money. Some people find it so terrible for their wife's or their fiancee to always bring money for them to take care of things like family needs and so on. There are some men that don't like either their wife or girlfriend to always bring money for them to use. They think that it is their responsibility to always provide the money for them.

So the guy doesn't have much money for the wedding and, as the wife is bringing money, the husband was just looking for a way to double the money and not knowing that he's winning is not guaranteed in gambling.
Gambling doesn't give us money when we need it the most, it gives us winnings when we don't even have plans for the money and not even put in mind to win, it is just for the wife to make her own decisions. That's all because, as it has happened like this now, even when they get married, the husband might try this same thing.

How stupid he was to double his savings for his wedding by gambling. I don't understand what he was thinking at that time that he could take such action. I know how the woman feels, she is definitely very disappointed, embarrassed and very angry, especially since the wedding invitations have been distributed to people.
This is the reason why you have to think rationally before acting and only gamble with money that you can afford to lose, because we don't know when a bad day will strike us.

I had not noticed the part where they mentioned the invitations or the plans of the wedding had already been done. That only makes things worse for that woman.
Some women (not all of them) can show a very bold sense of pride towards life changing events, like the graduation of their children, their first job promotion and of course, their wedding. Assuming indeed the invitations had already been distributed, then only adds to the sense of embarrassment and disappointment she must be going through, for being directly ridiculed in front of their family and friends, specially since most of them will know what happen to the money (because of gossip).

Her ex-fiance was not thinking, he acted on impulse and let greed to take over his reasoning. That is why I assume he became a gambling addicted person in the course of months, without she knowing about it

What a sad situation. This is very disappointing that he could do such a thing with the wedding savings they both have been keeping for their wedding. Possibly he is an addicted gambler and has been keeping it secretly from his wife to be and he could not control himself from using the money. If he had opened up to his wife to be, the both of them could have had a plan B to the wedding savings so as not to do the unthinkable but the situation now has gone beyond damage control and it is obviously clear that he is an addicted gambler who can not control himself and this however means that in the future if they both get joined together he might do worst than this.

I believe she has no idea he is a gambler possibly she could have kicked against him holding the savings. Since he kept it a secret from her and eventually he has exposed himself and the truth have been revealed.

He is either the most foolish person in the entire world or he is missing a brain. Like who does that? It's their wedding money and he just spent in a bet? So sorry for you dear. But he is not the right person for you. This kind of man doesn't have any sense of responsibility. Good think for you that you got to know how a man he actually is. I was thinking if your marriage is still on or not. If it's no, then congratulations dear. He may have lost the bet but you have won in life. I'm sure you'll get someone who is actually right for you. You may describe this as a disguised blessing.

This isn't just a gambling addiction. This is serious level of gambling addiction and total disregard for her husband. I would leave in a heartbeat. Not respecting my limits is a no-no, no matter if she managed to win, or i found out that he has used that much our/my money without asking at all.

Trying to explain that she meant only the best just shows that she doesn't understand where the error was.

This reminds me of some youtube crypto influencer that invested his girlfriend's money to crypto and made profit for her, without her knowledge.
When people confronted him in twitter, he seemed visibly confused, as from his point of view he didn't do anything wrong. Only if he lost he would be guilty of something.
He was ignoring the fact that this was total violation of trust and outcome didn't even matter. The fact he wanted to risk it with someone else's money was the point.

You are right because trust in the people around us such as family or partners is necessity that can be prioritized.
Maybe what @moneystery said is true that when it comes to money we can't just trust it because many problems happen just because of certain amount of money but he is not quite right in conveying it here.

And in this case it is not matter of trust but rather responsibility which the man does not have.
He should have been able to add more savings but instead used it for gambling, this is the kind of thing that actually makes the perspective of most people out there think that gambling is bad.

I feel sorry for her and if she calls off the wedding I don't think anyone would blame her. Ladies do many things in the name of love, sometimes the handwriting could be on the wall but they would choose not to see it. What the man did is cruel, it's actually a sign of one of many things to come in the marriage and if the lady is wise, she should break up with him. Most ladies don't contribute a dime for their wedding, so for her to bring about 60% of the funds needed for the wedding and the fiancee to use it to gamble is really bad.

A gambler believe that every steps in gambling is an opportunity and it believe that with the little money in the pocket it can turn to millions and billions so that will be one of the reasons that pushed the young man to use their weeding money to for gambling, actually the man is looking for a way to multiple the money through gambling, which is in a wrong way if I'm not mistaken and secondly if you are addicted in gambling you will not hesitate to use all you have to gamble having the mindset you will win the gamble.

Perception about being bad or something not good to deal with, then its already been ages that community and people around would really be having that kind of bad perception or views towards it and its not really new anymore or something that shocking because its always been that way. Getting back into the situation on which the man had made out such action on which he didnt think of about into those consequences on which he might really be losing his wife to be on this manner on which we know that once trust is broken or something that you have done which is really that on extreme manner then you might be ending up on getting leave out by someone because of that irresponsible kind of decision.

Yes, you do have the plans on doubling the money or adding it up because you are really that desperate on making it big and since your girl is the ones does have that higher contribution then its true that ego
would really be that mainly affected or on whats the reason on why its been triggered out on why you do gamble those funds or simply you are really just that addicted?
We dont know about into those things that circles around on that mind of that guy but much sure that he would really be regretting this one.

You are right,but what I see here is the mistake from the woman in question.If the woman had known that the husband is an addicted gambler,she wouldn't have allowed him be in possession of the money they will use for their wedding,she should have held the money her self,because one thing I know about gamblers is that they don't always bare in mind that they will lose,they always have a positive mindset that whatever they play will be the best,but that is always a wrong mindset.If you ask him,he will tell you he wasn't intending to use all of the money,but the moment you've used little of your money to gamble,and you lost,there is that urge that wants you to still continue gambling till you gain back your money,and this is the point where you lose all your money.

Yes, for sure. Is not that I am addicted to gambling, but I do gamble some times, most especially when I am broke. This case is in two forms in the sense that for the husband to win the game, the money will increase or even double, but as he loses, everyone will blame him. Actually, being addicted to gambling is a very bad idea because you will continue playing even though you are losing, hoping to get more gain, and some end up borrowing money just to gamble.
For me, I can say the only mistake the fiancée made was using almost all the money, hoping to win and bring back more money home. If the fiancée had budgeted what he would spend on gambling and kept on to it, the case might have been simple and amicable, but now he has messed up big time.

What if the woman didnt know that his boyfriend does have that kind of vice that kept hidden when they are still in a relationship? We know that there are really that secrets that didnt need to be untold
even if you are having some relationship with someone. There's no way that  you could really be able to tell up everything from the last detail which we know that we cant really be that so sure that the ones we do love on present time would be the one that you would really be ending up on marrying in the end. Therefore, telling all the secrets wont really be that recommendable on doing so.

I dont see on womens mistake on this one since she just trusted up his fiancee and did make out some deal or agreement about saving up together for the expense of their marriage.
We know on how special day it is considering uniting yourself with your loved ones and ends up like this? It is really that truly heartbreaking i should say.

Well, I don't think the mistake of his fiancee is enough to make her decide not to pursue the wedding anymore.  I would agree if the wedding will be postponed for now but leaving his fiancee totally because of his mistake, I think that's also quite unfair for him.  He should not be judged just because he is an addicted gambler, but he should learn to discipline himself instead so he can save the relationship with his future wife.

I can feel the pain with this young lady. But what happened has already happened and she should move on from that. What they should focus more is how to help his fiancee solve his gambling addiction so there will be no problems like this that will occur in the future.

There is one rule in gambling, if we don't want to be blame of our gambling action, don't use the money that is committed to else where.  Stating the possible opposite outcome as a way to excuse oneself is not convincing especially the money involve is not ours alone.


That is the main problem.  The use of the money that is allocated to their future wedding.  This is also the reason why we are discussing this topic here.  It is not "only" (that sounds it is negligible) but it is the major problem of the situation.  The guy should have use his own money not others money when he decides to gamble thinking he can double the amount.

In fact, there are many stories out there that we don't even know about that are related to gambling for everyone. like one of the threads you posted here, to be honest I'm surprised there are stories like this out there. although in truth, I know very well that there are many strange things that some gamblers do. The woman's fate was truly unfortunate, but it was clear that the man could not be completely blamed.
The problem is, the prospective bride and groom have voluntarily contributed around 60% of all the funds they managed to collect previously. we can assume, that it looks like these two people or even this woman. not have a much smarter intellect. Just imagine, with the seduction of her future husband, this woman voluntarily gave 60% and hoped to get many times the results if she bet on gambling. at this point, I can't jump to conclusions. because, we don't know the details of how this drama happened.

I  have many questions, but the fact is that this cannot be done. So the simplest assumption or speculation is that there are two possibilities. if this man is indeed an addict, or he has no other way to fulfill the conditions for marriage. because the money collected did not reach the target. Well, regarding the contents of this woman's story, I have no right to comment. because, this woman knows her potential partner better. There are two conclusions, if what the man did was a habit. So, there's no need to hesitate to leave it. which means, canceling and breaking off the relationship. if not, then he will be tormented by habit if in the end the two couples insist on carrying out the marriage.

The young lady should understand the feeling of the future husband,her fiancee had made a mistake.So the young lady will stop the because of the small mistake will not be the correct decision.So the young lady should make her future husband to quit the gambling addiction and the she can marry her fiancee.But quit of gambling addiction is very hard one,but the gambler can do the reduction from the gambling addiction.The gambler itself understand the mistake made by him and ask apology from her lady. Asking apology to her lady is not the wrong one,he should agreed the mistake of miss use of the funds at the marriage time.If the lady not forgive her fiancee, then the gambler may commit suicide because of this loss.

Well, I guess that will depend on how good his "apology" is. And as for his addiction, I'm not judging, but how good can such a marriage be unless he makes some changes.


I agree. The issue here isn't so much about money but, above all, about the lost trust. I think both partners should be honest with each other when entering into marriage, as a thriving partnership can't be built on a foundation of lies.

The woman is not to be blame because man is head of the family and the reason why the woman entrust the funds to Man is because she don't want the money to lost under her care, so what the woman did is the right thing to do but I don't know for other people opinion over the woman given  husband money for their weeding and the husband used the money for gambling, so it's the husband that is supposed to be blame not the wife, because the husband is selfish enough by using their money for gambling knowing the implications of gambling, before the man played this gambling with their weeding money he has being playing before.

People can be heartless. The most shocking story that I will be hoping to read is someone using their pops or moms money for funeral for gambling..this story will break the internet.

The guy in the story is going to live with regret for the rest of his life..He cost the girl the marriage, her mental health, her money.

They arent still legally married, therefore its not really that right to call that he's the head of family but even before or talking about pre-wedding plans or similar then it would really be just that right that men should really be the one to handle but its not really that something simple considering that you dont have the money so you dont have the rights to make those kind of lead or controlling the situation.It is true on what other people been saying that we would really be that hesitating since you dont have the money on handling anything and even lets say that you are the man but dont have the capability on closing out or funding the wedding then you dont have the choice.

The biggest mistake of that man is that he decided to gamble that money which is supposed to be used into his wedding with his loved one.Now he had considered out
on gambling it out then its does signifies that he dont care about their wedding, he's putting out the risks.

The woman's fiancé really doesn't have any sense, he shouldn't have used their marriage savings to gamble, after all, using their joint savings to gamble is the stupidest thing I've ever heard, the woman's dream of being able to get married smoothly, seems to be over completely extinct. My partner and I have emergency savings but I never use the money to gamble, I only use a little capital that I get from my small business to gamble, emergency money and savings should not be used for anything related to gambling.

This is very bad and I feel so sorry for the lady, I think the man did very bad how would he be so sure that if he bet with such huge amount he will be to get it back.  Gambling is very risky and no game is certain that it can end up with a win, since the money does not belong to him it should have be a good reason for him not to play gambling . From what the man has done I think if the marriage should continue the lady should expect more of this because such person can use all the savings for which is meant for his family to play gambling. Their is no sense in such act.

Good to learn how severe the gambling problem that a partner has before you commit to them in marriage, because marriage is more serious. She has dodged a missile and should be grateful for that. A man who cannot control his gambling and does not have restrictions on the money to use in gambling is not yet fit for marriage and should remain single for as long as possible until they are able to put that irresponsible habit under control. If she already cannot deal with the gambling habit of her partner before marriage, she cannot get used to it in marriage.

This is a grave mistake, a truly significant one that no one should commit. While we are all entitled to gamble or bet on anything, it should never involve money that doesn't belong to us, not even 100%. In this scenario, it's clear that all the risks should rest on the shoulders of the individual who used that money for gambling. The responsibility to reimburse the losses incurred through gambling should lie with that individual. The woman should receive her rightful share, which is 60% of the funds they've accumulated.

Pointing fingers won't resolve the issue because it's evident that the fault lies with the man. Like any responsible man, I hope he takes it upon himself to promptly mend the wounds of the woman. His reckless actions need to be addressed with fairness.

As for the woman, I advise against marrying someone like that man. It would only introduce long-term risks, and he might take even more irrational steps than the ones he's already taken.

There is more worse than that, selling/gambling wife and kids to meet the father's gambling activity is the worst, IMO. Here are some of the article that were published in the internet:

Man loses wife as stake in IPL gambling (https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/kanpur/man-loses-wife-as-stake-in-ipl-gambling/articleshow/52480224.cms)

This was published in 2016 where a husband bet his wife on an IPL and lost her.  The wife does not know the she was used as a stake when the guy who won started to harrass her.

Gambler sold his wife, minor daughter; family rescued by officials (https://www.indiatoday.in/india/story/gambler-sold-his-wife-minor-daughter-family-rescued-by-officials-1272893-2018-06-29)

That is the kind of stuff I meant some posts ago when I said there are worse ways and outcomes when comes to letting gambling and betting addiction to take over oneself. I knew there were stories of people literally using others as collateral (I assumed it was something in developing countries of Asia, for example), but this may be the first reference I have read in Bitcointalk.
At least, the final outcome of those victims was not as bad as one would have expected, since they got rescued by authorities, however, let us reflex on other cases which did not get resolved by police and people had to live in conditions of slavery because someone who was supposed to take care of them used them as poker chips instead.

True deranged and disgusting. How knows, perhaps the woman who lost that wedding money actually dodged a bullet in the long term, she could have ended up being used as a chip someday...

That's why it's important money management for young people who plan the wedding. Also, I don't know why the girlfriend didn't stop him for gambling if knew the risk she faced later. So if he wants to invest, and double the money, gambling is not the only way to face the risk. He can trade it in an exchange or save it on gold if they plan a wedding on over the years. This accident happened also in my city where his boy friend tried to double his wedding money by play the slot. but unfortunately it failed, all the money is at stake and gone.

Addictions to gambling and betting include more than simply financial loss; they also involve losing one's identity, morals, and occasionally, as you said, other people. I have heard about it and seen it, but it's just different.

People being used as collateral now? That's just... it's beyond comprehension. It surpasses our capacity for imagination. Furthermore, even while it's fantastic that some people were saved, there are innumerable others who weren't. who, as a result of the most unbelievable betrayal by someone they trusted, are still suffering today. It's incredibly painful, genuinely painful.

And that gal who misplaced the nuptial funds? Perhaps, just perhaps, she avoided a more serious problem. Perhaps she saved herself from being mistreated, exploited, and considered as a commodity in the future. Though that's a frightening idea, many people actually live with it. Such horrible deeds require us to be alert, watchful, and willing to confront them. It is our obligation and our liability.

I disagree with trying to give another chance, marriage is something for life in my mind and marrying with someone with divorce at the back of your head is not a good idea. You shouldn't marry with someone who you can easily divorce, if that is the case then that is not what marrying someone means, back in the day you stood together thick and thin, and yes you can definitely divorce someone if you think you shouldn't stay with them, but you do not marry someone thinking "if this doesn't work out then I would simply divorce them", that's not a good way to start a marriage.

I think it would be smarter to just not marry this person and forget about the money and think to yourself this was a close call and you got off cheaper than you would otherwise. It's worse to spend time on them and realize it was a mistake.

Whether he knew it or not, there is nothing much he can do about it. All she can do for now is to moved on. Some time's people are good at hiding things. So I won't blame someone else if they can marry a wrong person. If we already know that our partner is a gambler but is responsible at first, we can allow them but as they say, people change. So, maybe that is also the case that happens to them.

I think it's better to just not be confident and secure our valuables if we think we are the ones who is much responsible and don't have a habit such as playing a gambling. Yes, these types of posts are helpful to give us awareness or can act as a reminder, so thanks to the sharer of it.

The matter is too much sad for the lady. But trying luck in gambling is a big stupidity. If you try to test your luck in gamble you are the most stupid person in the world. Because luck doesn't fever every time favour on you. In gambling it's rare to favor luck on you. Game is fully depend on your mentality and your experience.

The man try to see he is luck but he had done too much stupid in his life. He spend 60% of his wedding savings. who we are Gambler here. We always gamble that amount of money which we can recover after loss. If we faces loss in gambling then we invest that amount of money that we can maintain and that will not create problem in our life. Gambling is a game there is a win or loss experience increase the win rate of game.

I feel so sad for the lady but the man made a big stupid for trying his  luck in gamble.

I think this is will be a good decision for the lady, going into marriage with a man so addictive to gambling can also be a serious problem to her which will also affect her. Situation like this will keep on happening,  this particular one of gambling with money that was supposed to for the marriage ceremony didn't just happen by mistake, what gets me so surprised about this story is the audacity. I think this man sees gambling as the most important thing in his life , other things can came second.  People who play gambling like this can be a problem to other people,  which they can use the money of people to settle their gambling urge first.

Totally hard for the girl or woman for this situation or something that do talks about being heartbreaking on which it would really be that normal considering that wedding funds had been used up for the sake of gambling
which your man didnt really that been thinking about the things that should really be that to be prioritize first. I dont know if the girl would really be still that liking to hear off on whatever reasons that would really be telling which we do consider out that its never been that a wise decision or showing up some respect into your wife to be on such act even if you do say that you did such thing for trying out to double the money.
You dont really have the full rights on spending it all since you dont have that contribution or even lets say you do have the bigger percentage but it is really just that right that you should really be
asking first on whatever decisions you would really be taking because you would really be making things mess up if you do take actions without letting the other side knows.

For me as a woman then i would definitely be leaving out this man although it is painful but its better not to take any decisions on marrying him considering that he had made out some
gambling addicted kind of act and also he didnt respect nor choose that marriage but instead he do risks out those funds without hesitaiton.

She may have dogged a bullet there. A life threatening one and she should be extremely grateful the man fucked up and revealed his bad habits that has probably cost him a lot before. It’s not entirely surprising the lady pooled in more money in the contributions for the wedding.
The action taken by the man suggests to me the marriage won’t be a happy one mostly for the woman as there is bound to be financial problems later on as she’s likely going to be the one to run the family as well as other things with her own funds and that’s not going to be fun for long.

Well, it is certainly horrible and very difficult to digest but people being used as colateral is not necessarily something new in the history of mandkind. It used to be more common, you know, when slavery was a normal thing around the world and when women were considered to be of a lesser importance than the men, to the point of being treated as merchandise.

The disturbing feeling comes when we realize that those disgusting practices have actually not been left in the past, they have mostly just hid themselves in an underground market in hopes to stay away from public scrunity.
I believe that what that woman is going through could be actually a good thing, a miracle in disguise, because there could have been a minimal but real possibilty she could have ended up being mistreated, abused or even sexual exploited to keep her husband's gambling going...

This was the sad part for the lady,it was the bad luck for her fiancé.If her fiancé had win the game in the gambling,he will book the biggest honey moon trip for her after the expenses of their marriage.But we don’t know how was the lady fiancé was experienced in the gambling.If her fiancé was the experienced gambler,he may not loss the game.So he should learn the game and play the game with the important money like this wedding money into the gambling.Gambling is the game for the people with huge luck or to the people with enough tactics for the game till the big win to the game.