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A southern China Mann won 219 millions Yuan which is equivalent to $29,392,922.00 and kept all bybhim himself without telling his wife and child for the fear that it will change their life and will not make them not to work again. And he gave 5 millions yuan to charity home. And contemplating what to do with the remaining amount. He said, "I didn't tell my wife and child, for the fear that they would be too complacent and would not work or hard work in the future".
What do say about this kind of man?

Man Keeps Whopping N13 Billion in Lottery Winnings from His Family: “I Didn’t Tell My Wife and Child”  (https://www.legit.ng/people/family-relationship/1501392-man-whopping-n13-billion-lottery-winnings-family-i-didnt-wife-child/)

I think that is not something new in the gambling. There are bunch of news about the winner refused to publish their identity for the various reason. Im thinking about that guy may not wanna see his wife knows if he was actively doing gambling. That's why even he was winning big reward and his wife may become lazy to did work with him caused by he understood once someone was winning big reward and it can make his family become lazy and they didn't wanna work again. I think that must become most potential reason why he didn't wanna tell his wife and child about his reward from doing gambling.
There were so many old cases that pretty similar with it. From his reason if he wants also educate his family to always working hard and not depends with the reward that already won.
that's such a very wise decision by him to educate his family.

If this is true, I always dislike this kind of people with stupid mentality of poorness. We have discussed this in the past, I think last month, but I could not remember which thread it is. This kind of people should know that some people's children are rich because their parent was rich, I think people that got no money in the past should know that. A wife living with him for long and having children with him, not letting her know when she is worthy to know about it is perfectly not only a wrong decision but also a very stupid decision.

A man knows his family more than anyone...if he says this is what he wants then there is more to this decision than we know, do not judge him unless you know and understand how it feels to be in his shoe.

I've seen wives, daughters and sons that only knows how to squander money on unnecessary things because their husbands can afford it.

If a wife is very productive his man will be willing to bring them up, some don't know how to turn 2+2 to 4, all they know is spending.

Its greediness and inconsiderate, he will not like that if his wife is the one who won that amount and kept it to herself, if they are married its conjugal property and his action proves that he is not the head of the family and cannot trust his own household and since he is not honest, his children will sow resentment.
Charity always begins at home but he choose one outside his home, it's a bad idea to think that you're children will become lazy, as a father you should educate your children on the value of money, your wife could charge him for hiding the winning its betrayal of trust.

He can give money to charity but not to his family then he is a bad man but felt wise, how could he think that his wife and child would become lazy just knowing they earned big money, After all, he is the one most likely to become lazy or use his money for personal pleasure
If he loves his family whatever fear he thinks will happen will not keep him from sharing this happy story with his family and having fun with some of the money he has after using it for something important else.
What if in the short term he suddenly gets sick and dies then no one enjoys the money, him or his family and his actions prove that he doesn't love his family, he's just a selfish guy.

This story seems to be similar to this link https://bitcointalk.org/index.php?topic=5419252.msg61345254#msg61345254

But in fairness, he gave a lot to charity, in fact, 5M yuan is still not a joke amount. But the only difference between this and the link I gave is that he is afraid or worried that he won't be able to work because they already have many families. And it seems that he doesn't want their behavior to change badly just because of money, the kind of person who doesn't want his family to be lazy because of the thought that they have a lot of money, that's how I understand this article.

He do not want his family to be lazy? He wants them to work like a slave or like he has no money. Both of them are not good. About this one he gave money to charity but not his family, if anything like sickness happened to him, people would see who will be available for him, if it will be his family or charity. The man is a bad person.

Sounds fine to me really. I reckon what he thought was worded poorly or something, the idea is he didn't want to indulge the money they got and well, lead to thinking that said money is something normal they can get every now and then. Can't exactly tell what kind of person he is though since we only know he donated a part and hasn't said anything else about the rest but if it was say used as an investment for their children, building a business then I reckon all is good even if he did keep it from his family. If it was used for gambling or well, selfish indulging then that's a different case altogether.

I don't think that's an issue unless his money was stored physically somewhere with no one knowing about it. Banks would probably distribute the money to their family and children, which may vary from the laws of each state but I reckon it's something similar, granted the deceased didn't leave a will ofc.

Recently I have seen Asian movie (https://www.imdb.com/title/tt9420624/), about a family of four that were barely making both ends meet, but when the head of the family died, the rest found out that husband-father was a millionaire. First they did not understand how to react, but later went on a spending spree and in few years they have spent everything and returned to what they were.

I think that that Chinese man is afraid of similar, that the money will spoil his family. I dont know what I will do if I was on his place. I think I will tell my family about 29 millions, but will continue living same life style, but probably we would travel more.

Unless this man has family members who are consumptive (bad habits) so that even $ 29 million is not sufficient for the rest of his life, keeping secret is a reasonable enough reason as long as he still wants to share the winnings with his family in secret.
But, yeah this is just a man's confession in the media. We never know someone's true plan. It is China, some freedoms may be deprived.

Maybe that was the best path he chose for his family because we would have different ways of thinking, especially when we could earn a lot of money. But it could be better to tell his family because he lives with them and honesty in the family is the best. He can explain that even though they have made a lot of money gambling, that doesn't mean they can be complacent and won't work. It will be a good moment to have more opportunities because they can run several businesses that can make them earn more money.

I say the man is very wise. because he has good thoughts for his wife and children so that in the future he will not depend on the wealth that already exists.
maybe the man has the thought that if he tells his wife and children, of course after that they will go on a spree without thinking about working again because they know that their husband (man) has a lot of money and their children will only keep asking without having any thoughts of moving forward in terms of making money .
but actually it was for the best that the man at least told his wife about the victory. because they are family and whatever happens the family must know about it all and their children do not need to be told


Anyway, I experienced this when I got a lot of money from gambling and I didn't tell my wife and it was just that suddenly I bought a new car and a new house.

How is this possible ? Is not offense that your dad has money that you can be comfortable with. It is the child and wife luck that the head of the family make a profit from his gambling habit so why they won't enjoy from it? This is just the responsibility of the man to control them and if he is having control over on them he should still be in control of them with the money. It is not bad to let his wife know about his winning if they are happy together and not separated. Maybe the wife and child not staying with the man together in one home.

I was just about to look for that, but thanks to this gunhell16 you save me some time.  :D
Very similar. Aren't they the same news? I think they are.

Same agenda. Both are trying to keep it to avoid spoiling their children so that they will still keep on working and not be lazy in their life.
But this kind of jackpot should be shared with the wife and discuss how they will spend or save the money. They are partners in their lives so he would best take the side of his other half about his plan.
I think there's a part of being selfish in the winner's decision.

But that's why he put on this costume, to stay hidden, now his family won't be able to find out anything about this, but if they found out they would probably leave him. I certainly wouldn't hide something like this from my family, but we are not all the same. I would not like to condemn him, in the end, everyone has the right to be free and do what they think it's the best for them, he thinks so and maybe we don't like it, but this man has the right to do what he wants with his winnings.

Not telling about the win ^{(money you receive)} and a father's responsibility is too different thing. You might not say about the win he received to his family because of the valid reasons he mentioned, but still providing the needs of his family is the most important thing. Well, it will improve probably.

This thread bears almost resemblance to another thread, both of which kept his lottery winnings a secret from his wife and children. however, regarding the case from this thread. first of all, if this is true. the money he got from the lottery was not a small amount. he even voluntarily donated 5 million yuan to a charity house. thus, the reason why he refused to tell his wife and children made perfect sense.

here, I do not want to judge someone by what he did. in this particular case, if we refer to the fact that he gave away 5 million yuan to a charity house. this man's reasoning became reasonable, because he was afraid that his wife and children would be too complacent and would not work hard in the future.

I might even add, they will live their lives in a hedonistic style where in the end the money will run out because it is not used properly. So, it's not that he doesn't want to share it with his family. and based on the story above, he contemplates what to do next with the remaining amount of money.
I'm not going to jump to any conclusion, or judge it. actually this goes back to the way a person thinks, if he has a good mindset and intellectual. he will not feel confused and already has plans for the future with the money he has from the lottery draw.

I would say that this man did the right thing not to tell his wife and child about the win. Most often, such stories with big wins and easy money lead to poverty. These lucky ones spend all the prize money on entertainment and, moreover, go bankrupt, losing even what was acquired before these events. Mann is trying to protect the family from this and not let money ruin his wife and child. Money in the family should be in abundance, not in excess.

The question of how the prize money will be spent and whether it will be invested remains open.

Yes, this story strikes very familiar and I would say that it was the same story as this one. Or if it is different, then obviously, the man has his own reasons as he doesn't want his wife and child to like enjoy the winning and live a life that is easy.

I will admit that in the beginning it doesn't make sense, but upon closer look, maybe the man is right. He might be raised by his parents this way and so he want his children to experience it and not have a life that they are very comfortable because they are more into our lives than money.

We are all in conflict if the man has done the right thing but for me, family is everything, and charity starts at home, you'll be a big failure if you raise a family that you think will be lazy and doesn't value money, even if you are very rich that doesn't mean that you cannot raise a good family, you will have to trust yourself, and your family why are we working to death if we think that our family doesn't deserve the fortune that we all working to have.
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The problem with that thinking is that if it doesn't count for anything, then how the hell is he expected to spend the money? he's not rich, so if he's not rich and says that his wife and children spend a lot, why didn't his wife and children abandon him to look for someone rich and still stay with him even though he's poor? now that he wins the lottery and gets rich and is already complaining about his wife and son? Don't you think that this kind of people are bad people and that they are worthless and have no character? lying is wrong, no matter what kind of justification this guy has, he is lying to his wife and children and that is wrong, not to mention that if he married the woman in community of property then he hides that he won the lottery and then spending all the money without the woman knowing, the day she finds out they can put him in court and he will have to pay compensation to the woman, not to mention that the court will force him to pay the child's bills and they won't give him custody of the child, I don't know how can a person have this kind of cruel thought of hiding things from his wife

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it seems that this type of bad and reprehensible and shameful behavior is becoming frequent by people who earn a lot of money and then hide it from their wife and child and always use the same argument that they cannot tell because the wife and child are going to spend a lot and not they will value life, honestly this is the kind of thinking of a bad person, dictator, liar and disgusting. when he didn't have much this wife of his and children stayed with him, so if they spend a lot or don't value things, how are they still with him when he, with his salary, must not be rich? now that he has made a lot of money he is making his wife and son live with little when he has a lot of money. something bad

Why would he refuse to tell his wifey and family about his progress? I'm seeing these as some kinda greedy excuse. Did he finally tell 'em bout it? If not, then he must be an ass; to keep away this information from his family and decide to publicize it over the air,.... Ahhh, that's awkward.
I believe what anyone is hustling consistently for -- is the cash, and if one person, out of the whole family gets 'em racks in bulk, it should be something to sustain and keep the whole family grounded....what has laziness got to do with that? - atleast that's how I see it. So that means that if he's fortunate to get 'em racks up to like.... a billion dollars, then he'll quit his family, Incessant!!

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I never heard or know something like this where a person won very huge amount of money in gambling but refused to tell the wife/husband and their child about his/her winning in gambling. If that was me then I would do the same not to tell my family about the money I won in gambling especially if the amount is almost $30 million but I won't hesitate to spend some of it for daily needs and if ever my wife ask for some money then I will surely give some, pay for bills, child's tuition + other expenses, buy land/property to start an apartment business and other business that I can think of and most of all which is to keep a decent amount of money for emergencies. The reason of why I will hide it is because in my country and the place where I live is that when someone won in a lottery or in a casino then most of my neighbors (except those who are rich) will ask that person to spare some money or you could say spare some changes (It is called either balato(ba-la-to) or meron(me-ron) - don't know what it is called in different provinces in my country).

I would understand him. Most people who came from a family that is not doing so well financially would certainly take this opportunity to slack off and do nothing for the rest of their lives. They'd surely try to avoid working as much as they could and just rely on the money that they have thinking that is an endless pit with an endless supply of water that they can get resources from. Not judging the man's family in any way, but I heard stories of lottery winners losing their winnings in a short span of time because they refused working and just splurged on the money that they won without regard for their future.

I think the man is wrong for refusing to tell his wife and children about his win, it's crazy for him to keep such good news away from his family but feels good to do some charity work outside too bad. I think this is the time for him to utilize the opportunity to establish his family with the money so that they won't struggle again and he should invest wisely because if he doesn't, he may end up gambling with the remaining money and nothing will be left for him when all the money is gone.


Charity they say begins at home because when the money was not there he was with his family so I think he should consider informing his family (wife and children) so he won't end up referring it when they get to know about it from someone else.

You spotted actually the same story and same article for this thread. I dunno where you get the 5M Yuan but the OP already updated it to 219M Yuan equivalent to 30M USD that exact same to the previous story on the different thread you provided. I also read this thread before and makes me research same as you the moment I read the similarity of the story. No one notice because they are busy on replying in the story instead of doing some research first.

OP should lock this thread because the same topic is already get 6 pager reply while this topic will just cause recycled post without other user knowing it.

This is just a recycled story guys!

I think he's lying the truth is he may be unfaithful to his family and he has another family or concubinage and if the secret comes out he will have to part his winnings with two families, men who kept their money with their family are usually infidels they hid their money to their wife so he can support his other woman or women or he has other vices that he wants to sustain like gambling, a real father will not hide his winning to his family his alibi is a very bad alibi and not acceptable.

Really it is very big money, it's enough for the person to live the peaceful life. He gave the funds to charity home was the impressive one. Because no one had the charitable mind and helping mind for now. All the people living the materialistic life for now. All keep add their money for their future and then they keep add the money again. Such people never change of their mind. And one fun factor is here, the person had said us he never shared his wife and child. But he had said all of us here. And if his wife started to surf in internet. It's enough to find his hidden secrets.

I agree with you, we really don't know the real reason behind that thing so we can't say any thing to it, if that's what he really want then let him do it. I know the he just do it because he has a plan in the future. He just want to let his family work smarter or harder in the future and not depend their own future in the money they already have.

None. Why would i care about others money? They can do whatever he wants with it. Our opinions or comments are nothing for him, and nothing will be change with our lives whatever the answer. It's his money, he won it, even he never tell anyone, it's his money, not yours or ours.

That's his belief in life and if that's for the good of his family, I'm sure that he won't say that he won that much but he'll still provide them with all their needs.

It's like he's going to buy stuff here and there but will never mention that he's got a lot of money for him to provide for them. Well, that's his way of care for them.

But keeping it under the own custody and let the family to suffer is right? When the situation can be avoided!

I would probably share it with the family but as a man its important to teach them the financial management also provide better life style with money and invest the remaining so they no need to work they can live from the returns itself if the person is capable of finding right investments.

Yep this is not new anymore and there was an old thread about the Chinese guy who wore a mascot while receiving his check.

If it were me, I think I would also do the same so that my family will not just get lazier every day but also greedy. If a kid knows his family is pretty rich, he might not go to school anymore. The worst-case scenario is that this is extreme to a point where family members murder a father so they inherit the money.

This is a childish act of someone who is supposed to be the foundation of the family. As a father, your priority should be your family to experience a comfortable life so hiding everything from them will be unfair. They have the right to know since they're all living in the same household. He should sharehis wealth with his family and just tell them the right thing to do with the money. It's understandable if he wants to keep his identity private but hiding it from his wife and kids will be too selfish because his family should be his top priority.

Now this is something that we don't get to hear everyday. Most of the times people either spend their money lavishly or invest some and keep gambling with other.
What I wonder about this man is that if he has such ideology that his wife and children will become lazy if he has so much money then why did he gamble at first place.
Did he had so much money that he could gamble for fun or did he gamble to win.
It doesn't really make much sense to me why would the man do that. He could have simply used some of the money, invested some, took some money aside for his family and put the rest as a will or inheritance for his family.
There are other good things to do besides hiding it from his own family.

Well, he is an idiot for sure. It's not about working or not, just because you got money doesn't mean you would have to stop working, you could still keep working. But that kind of money would give you the chance not to get abused, normally if your boss asks you to stay after the shop is closed and clean the place when it’s not your job, then you could not say no because you need the job but with this you could say no.

I work on a freelance job, but if I make 30+ million dollars in a single day, I will probably give a bit of break first and go to vacation but then I will come back and still work, because what am I suppose to do with my life? I would be bored if I stopped working all together, hence why I will keep working to keep my sanity.

Only he knows the truth, and I think the reason he doesn't want to share and also doesn't want his wife and kids to know about big wins is, because in the end the winning money will still be used.
And maybe they are afraid of wasting money on unimportant things or spending it in the wrong way because they know the bad nature of their children and wives, so keeping it a secret is the best option. Dan will continue to use them when needed and for the long haul because he knows he has a long way to go in life and that is what he is worried about.
and he does a deed that I think no one else does, and I judge this in my opinion he is a good person and has good intentions for his family.

At first his reasoning is somehow reasonable but in deeper thought, an idea of the man having deeper reason behind what he is stating is very possible.  I can say his reasoning is somehow full of loop holes and crap.

As a father, his responsibility is to secure his family of their needs.  Aside from commodities, the family needs reassurance, meaning father is responsible of securing his family's mental stability towards what will happen in the next few days.  And hiding his new-found wealth doesn't solve that.

What comes in my mind is that, the father has some issues that he is hiding.  It is possible that he has another woman, vices or something that needs huge amount of money to maintain and he wanted to not let his wife to learn of his financial capabilities to avoid confrontation about where the money goes.


True the man only knows why he said that but we are here to discuss if it's fair or not.  And I say it is not fair for the family to not know their wealth.  His reasons is full of fault, because we all know richer people work way more hours than ordinary employee to ensure that their wealth will not diminish.

Aren't these news manufactured? Some weeks ago we have seen an exactly story like this one, but it was about a japanese man. Now they come with a story about a chinese man, displaying a picture of the probable man that looks more a model from google images.

Anyway, the justification has a noble purpose and in case it's real, I can understand why the winner chose acting like this. Money changes people's minds or reveal their natural instincts. The man is simply trying to preserve his family from turning greedy and lazy.

I can’t say he’s selfish but definitely his mindset is not good. If he is really a good father and husband, he should be honest to his wife and child about the money he won, and not hide them about it. But I guess some people have really different mindset and mentality that made them unique, which also made them look bad from the eyes of the majority.

Not letting his family know he won big doesn't mean he won't spend or meet their needs with the money. He has got his reason which is handwork, if his family finds out, the money may not stay for long or get invested the right way. No money is too big not to vanish. Moreover, some athletes that got compensated with $100m still go bankrupt. I think his opinion shouldn't be justified as unjust he is doing it for his family safety and a way of securing a long lasting wealth.  

Someone have posted this same story on this forum before, maybe I wil try to look for it for reference purposes.

My opinion is, that man is very stupid, forgive me yeah for my using that word, but if I was the wife and kids, I would never forgive him, he's so selfish and self centered, so does it mean his wish is for his family to die of hard work, God blessed him to enable him take care of himself and as well give his family a good and better life, he's decision is completely unwise...

Though I still believe there is more to this, like I said, this story have been posted on this forum before,  I can make it a guarantee to you all that this Chinese man is some where right now enjoying this money with his wife and kids.

I think it was a wise move from him, as the article says, the fear of seeing how his children don't want to study or to work is a good reason to avoid letting them know.

Is a known fact that people who win big amount doesn't have a happy end. And having that money as backup and moving on with normal life was really smart from his side.

I understand the he is only concern whatever negative effects that the money will cause to his family, but if I were to win that huge amount, I’ll chose to be more honest to my wife and child. It could give us more opportunities to improve our lives by building business of our own and helping each other to make it grow. Or it could also be a good educational insurance for the child so that his future will be more secured. But the money is gone now, so better not to tell his wife and child forever.

The man seems not a good father and a good husband considering that he choses to make his family struggle more and work hard more to earn a living, than to live a good life with the amount he won. He’s very inconsiderate thinking he’s now already a family man. And if ever his wife will be in his position and also do the same, it might be this type of man will decide to leave his wife just because of her stupid decision. Well, it’s good to donate but always make the family a top priority first.

Most time people become very lazy when their close relative suddenly becomes rich. They would resign from their jobs and start depending on such relative totally. This man knows the behavior of his wife and children more than us, it might be possible that they might become lazy because of his win. But he should also ensure that his family enjoys the money he won even if they are not aware of the source or his current worth. It would be very bad if he secretly spend the money on friends while his immediate family members are not partakers of this big win.

The Chinese man should not ignore the fact things will be more complicated if the wife and Child finds out. News like this cannot be hidden for so long and will be even more difficult if it leaks outside his home. Instead hiding the win from his family he should invest in his family, give them a comfortable life that way they will still have more motivation to work.

Sudden riches can bring about laziness that is well understood that is where the father figure comes in. A father with such a win and refuse to spend on the family fir fear of them becoming lazy needs to be cross examined.

If its a true intent or honest view in life then it is something thats understandable but it would be good that he should really be honest at least into his wife which means that everything is conjugal where he also have
the rights on the money that you had able to win.If you do have that kind of reasoning for them not to be lazy then its valid but not all would really be turn into that even if they do hit up jackpots.
There's no way that you could make out conclusions on how they would really be acting or behaving if they do know that they do have lots of money.
Well, there are indeed tendencies but to mind off that they are your family which they do really have the right to know.

Good for the guy and his family, yes we can't blame him for not telling his wife and kids because as he said, maybe his kids will be complacent because now they have money and will not work.

Here is a good article on how it is to win a lottery, it's not from Asia though,

https://nypost.com/2022/11/06/powerball-winner-reveals-what-wont-change-after-you-win-the-1-6-billion-in-lottery/

Worst part is that winning the lottery can put pressures on some, and worst death.

The man is not good enough for his family because of his wrong mindset and his wrong decision in life. While most of the jackpot prize winners bring home their rewards to celebrate with their family, this man is different. He prefer to think first the negativity that money could bring to his family, when in fact it could be a great blessing that will make their lives more comfortable and secured to live with.

There’s a lot of shocking stories of a lottery winner and most of them their lives turned into a miserable one, so I think that winner is just protecting his family from any possibilities of becoming more greedy and lazy. If I were on that position I will also do the same because who knows, your family might influence you more to do things out of budget even if you already have that millions, he knows his family very well and we have respect that.

If he wants to stay poor forever, then I just hope that he should also think about his wife and his child if they want to live poor the whole time. Because if he is good and responsible enough, he should consult his wife first and both plan on what to do with the money. But what he did is really stupid, donating is good but we should also take consideration if the money will be mostly needed by the family or not.

That's a good article but it's on a case-to-case basis you should not bet a lottery if you are not thinking of winning and you are not ready to have a lot of money, the article says you become a larger version of yourself when you have a lot of money there is no way you can hide that money from your family because in the first place they are the one who deserves it and your family will lose trust on you if keep it to yourself, and this will ruin your family more than they ruin because of lots of money.

I think this is the same with that news and it's like reposted by OP. Because I also saw this news being posted by someone but I just can't recall if it's on the forum or on the other social media.

It's truly understandable why he's done this. It's because that the amount won by him will discourage them to work hard. They will be dependent on it until the money is all gone through their spending habits.

Because whenever someone is aware that he's got money to spend, he'll spend it by not thinking twice.

This is not the first thread about this topic, I can’t see the old one as well but I’ve seen it before.
Anyway, that guy knows his own family and he did it on purpose so there should be no issue here and instead congratulate him for his winnings and for him being wise with his money. That money will last as long as he knows how to handle it, slowly he can tell it to his own family and I believe that time will come.

Yes, theres similar situation but that guy had wore a costume for him not to reveal himself but i dont know if this recent one on how it had been done.In overall in speaking about winning big then it would
really be normal that your family should know because you are their father or husband which it is really just right that they would know everything specially on financial part.
Come to think that they've been on your side on those hard time or before you do hit up the lottery and now that you do able to win millions then you dont tend to share it out
and keep it a secret to them? You are just too selfish imho.

Yes, its selfishness and greediness the guy want it all to himself, it's the conjugal property your wife and your children have the right to what you own, and it's based on existing laws of many countries and I'm sure the guy's country is also included, even if you control all the money your children has the right to know, if you keep it a secret they will lose trust and faith on you and no alibi can justify that, fathers should show charity and trust to his family or you are a big failure as a father.