But the other part, I don't get. Can you rephrase it?
Okay - so let's say that the best ticket for the next block should be #12345 and you have #12344 and someone else has #12346.
If #12345 is not transmitted then nodes will accept your ticket or the other ticket instead (remember that each node in the network can't *see* everything at once so both you and the other node after a certain amount of time waiting to see #12345 decide it isn't going to appear and "try your luck").
So your node will send out #12344 and the other node will send out #12346. The network is happy to build on one of those new chains (lets assume that the "lower" ticket closest is always the best) so now #12346 will be "penalised".
It hasn't hurt the network - it is fine to keep on building with your #12344 but it has now hurt #12346 as they can't forge for a day.
Also network latency makes it impossible for you to be sure whether in fact #12345 has been sent or not (due to timing it may well have but your slow internet connection means that you didn't see it on time).
So if #12345 actually had been broadcast but both you and the other forger just didn't see it quickly enough then now you are both penalised.